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SIL Demands Woman Give Up Her Little Eating Habit As Her Daughter Wants The Same, She Says No
Young woman eating ice cream cone late at night from fridge, highlighting mom tells SIL eating ice cream complicates parenting.

SIL Demands Woman Give Up Her Little Eating Habit As Her Daughter Wants The Same, She Says No

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We are all human, and of course, we all have our little weaknesses. Some people like to get stuck in their smartphones watching silly yet amusing shorts, some love sweets in the evenings, some neglect chores in favor of video games… Little weaknesses that actually make us human. Ordinary, not perfect, real.

The heroine of today’s story, the user u/StudentNaive3292, also has such a small and completely harmless habit. However, as someone wise once said, our freedom ends where the freedom of another person begins – and the author recently had the chance to test this concept on her own experience.

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    The author of the post has a small personal weakness – she loves to eat a small cone of ice cream before going to bed

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    In fact, it’s a long-term habit, so the author won’t give it up under any circumstances

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    Recently, the author’s brother and wife, along with their daughter, came over to stay at her house for a while

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    The niece saw the author eating ice cream several times and wanted the same for herself

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    So the mom asked the author to quit this habit for a few days – but received a flat-out ‘No’

    The story we’re going to tell you today happened at the house of the Original Poster (OP), when her brother, with his wife and daughter, came over to visit her. It so happened that our heroine has one little weakness – almost every evening, she eats a small cone of ice cream. Just as a tiny treat and gratitude to herself for a well-spent day.

    When the guests were in the house, the author usually carried out this ritual in the kitchen, while the brother and his family gathered in the living room around the TV. But it so happened that the niece saw her aunt eating ice cream several times, and surely asked herself a very reasonable question: if one can do it, then why not the other?

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    It was precisely about this that the original poster had an argument with her sister-in-law. She, assuring the author that her habit undermined her parenting, asked her to stop doing it. At least while they were guests in her house. But the habit was already, as they say, second nature for our heroine, so she flatly refused.

    Moreover, the OP rather sarcastically asked her sister-in-law why she can’t refuse, for example, a glass of wine in the evening. She left offended, but later, the brother called out our heroine for being unreasonable. The author simply doesn’t want to deprive herself of this small pleasure – even for the sake of being a decent auntie…

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    On the one hand, it’s true that children’s habits are formed precisely under the influence of what they see others do – in particular, adult relatives. So if the mother has repeatedly told this girl that eating ice cream in the evening is not very good and correct, then the sight of the aunt eagerly devouring the delicacy before bed doesn’t really fit into this behavioral pattern.

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    On the other hand, a person is free to do as they please at their home, and one small cone of ice cream is not something that can be sacrificed. Even since developing healthy eating habits in kids is a rather difficult thing. Especially considering that children have a natural preference for sweet tastes. A preference that decreases (and not in everyone) only in adulthood.

    Experts say that parents and family members should be true role models for a child in developing healthy eating patterns. “You are the most important influence on your child, so lead by example by establishing your own healthy eating habits,” this dedicated article on Nationwide Children’s claims. However, this still doesn’t mean that adults should give in to their little treats either…

    People in the comments massively supported the original poster, arguing that she’s an adult who is at home, so there is absolutely no need to give in to other people’s demands. After all, it’s also part of the parenting process. “A kid needs to learn sometimes people have things they can’t have, especially adults,” someone concluded quite wisely. So do you, our dear readers, share these viewpoints too?

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    Most commenters supported the author in her decision, claiming that teaching the kid about not always having what they want is also part of the parenting process

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    Monika Pašukonytė

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    I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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    JD
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mom is missing the lesson here. This is how you explain to your kid that adults can do what they like. It's Auntie's house, and she eats ice cream every night because she's an adult. See, I learned that at a pretty early age. Adults could do as they please.

    Mel in Georgia
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That child is going to see a lot of things she "shouldn't" do in her lifetime. It's a life skill to learn that sometimes you don't get what you want and other people do. "That's what your aunt does - not what we do."

    Shannon Donnelly
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Slightly off the topic rant, but why does it seem like everyone on social media has gone bipolar? I was diagnosed bipolar II back in 1996 at the age of 19 and realized I had a tendency of jumping to extreme reactions. Years of therapy has (mainly) broken me of this habit. But this seems to have become the norm on social media. OP’s SIL doesn’t want her eating ice cream in front of her niece? The solutions range to making the small ice cream cones giant sized to banning SIL from drinking wine. Is anyone rational these days???

    tori Ohno
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's because they're hiding behind an anonymous keyboard and not saying it to someone's face. I noticed 20 years ago that people are like that when they don't have to face someone. In person they wouldn't be so extreme, they're simply magnifying their outrage because they don't have to answer to someone for the behavior.

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    JD
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mom is missing the lesson here. This is how you explain to your kid that adults can do what they like. It's Auntie's house, and she eats ice cream every night because she's an adult. See, I learned that at a pretty early age. Adults could do as they please.

    Mel in Georgia
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That child is going to see a lot of things she "shouldn't" do in her lifetime. It's a life skill to learn that sometimes you don't get what you want and other people do. "That's what your aunt does - not what we do."

    Shannon Donnelly
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Slightly off the topic rant, but why does it seem like everyone on social media has gone bipolar? I was diagnosed bipolar II back in 1996 at the age of 19 and realized I had a tendency of jumping to extreme reactions. Years of therapy has (mainly) broken me of this habit. But this seems to have become the norm on social media. OP’s SIL doesn’t want her eating ice cream in front of her niece? The solutions range to making the small ice cream cones giant sized to banning SIL from drinking wine. Is anyone rational these days???

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's because they're hiding behind an anonymous keyboard and not saying it to someone's face. I noticed 20 years ago that people are like that when they don't have to face someone. In person they wouldn't be so extreme, they're simply magnifying their outrage because they don't have to answer to someone for the behavior.

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