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In-Laws Keep Addressing Their DIL By The Wrong Name, Later Get Humbled At A Birthday Celebration
Even if everything goes absolutely perfect and cloudless in your marriage, there are always people who are ready to spoil the idyll. And, as it often happens, our relatives become such people – for example, our in-laws. And what is most offensive, the reason for this behavior of your spouse’s parents can be literally anything. It’s just that at some point it turns out that they take you personally – and that’s it, the utopia is over.
The result may be a complete disregard of the spouse by the in-laws, for example, not being invited to family gatherings. There may be a ban on breastfeeding a newborn in their presence when you come over to visit them. Or maybe just an open confrontation with direct insults literally out of the blue. From this point of view, the heroine of our next story is still relatively lucky. They “just” refused to call her by her own name…
Yes exactly. Appearing a few days ago on the AITA Reddit community, a post by user u/Illustrious_Bit_178 skyrocketed to nearly 20K upvotes and around 2.5K different comments. And all the ones we’ve looked at are exceptionally supportive of the author of the post. Just agree, such unanimity makes it worth it to read this story together.
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The author of the post is happily married yet has a problem with her husband’s parents
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So, the initial post author’s name is Rynn. Yes, that’s right, not Katherine, but Rynn. And she had not experienced almost any problems associated with her name – until she got married and met her husband’s parents. They seem to be wonderful people, except that from their first meeting they had an obsession, the belief that the original poster’s full name was Katherine and Rynn was just a nickname.
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The in-laws kept calling the author “Katherine” though her real name is Rynn and she asked them not to do so numerous times
We don’t know for sure whether the author of the post showed them her ID card, but the fact remains that despite numerous requests not to do so, her in-laws kept on calling her Katherine almost every time they met. Moreover, just guess how they introduced the daughter-in-law to some of their distant relatives and friends? That’s right – “Katherine”, “Katherine” and nothing but Katherine.
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Even the intervention of her husband, who had a serious talk with his parents, did not help at all. As a result, the couple even decided to take a small break from them when it continued – and it worked. The in-laws even brought their sincere apologies, assuring the couple that they did not mean to offend anyone. The OP thought that everything seemed to be doing better. Well, as the dwarf Thorin Oakenshield aptly remarked in The Hobbit, “I’ve never been so wrong in all my life!…”
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At the MIL’s birthday party, it turned out that the author’s in-laws gave literally all of their friends her wrong name
The MIL’s birthday arrived, and of course she and her husband were invited, along with other relatives and friends of the older generation. How surprised the OP was when some of those friends approached her and called her “Katherine”! The woman, of course, asked where they got the name from, and they honestly admitted that her MIL told them so.
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The author played a small joke on her MIL for being “forgetful” but the lady got extremely offended
The OP had had enough of this and decided to teach her mother-in-law a lesson. “Actually, my name is Rynn,” she said jokingly. “But my MIL is so forgetful so she told you the wrong name. I’ll probably need to write my name on everything she owns so she doesn’t forget.” The joke was appreciated and they laughed together, although some guests admitted that it was a bit weird of her to give them the wrong name.
However, when the party was over and the guests left, it turned out that the OP’s in-laws held a grudge against her – allegedly for being rude and awful for ‘trying to embarrass them in front of their friends’. We must pay tribute to the OP’s husband – he fully supported his wife, but the parents still remained unconvinced…
Most of the commenters sided with the author, stating that it’s her in-laws who exposed themselves as rude and insulting
However, people in the comments were also very supportive of the original poster, stating that it’s actually the most basic of manners to get people’s names right, to the best of one’s abilities, whenever possible. Commenters also did not forget to praise Rynn for her wonderful sense of humor. And, of course, for having a cool name.
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Some people in the comments just told the OP to follow their in-laws and if they don’t stop calling her the wrong way, start giving them the wrong names too. And besides, commenters advise Rynn to stand her ground. “Way to be firm, and this will stop a lot of foolishness from them in the future,” one of the people in the comments wrote.
We, in turn, are almost sure that you also have something to say about the characters in this story and their behavior as well, so please feel free to write down your own opinions below this post. Comments are, as usual, highly appreciated.
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LH25 3 years ago
And even if Rynn is a nickname, it's what the OP wants to be called, so respect that!
Rahul Pawa 3 years ago (edited)
Yes, this! The ILs are just plain rude to not call their family member by her name. Doesn't really matter if it's a birth name or preferred name. And the comments about teachers is really crazy. What point are they trying to make by insisting on calling a child by a different name? Again, even if it was simply that the kid prefers a variation of their name, I don't see a point in going against what the kid wants.
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deanna woods 3 years ago
First off, I would not think of Rynn as a nickname for Katherine. Most Katherines are called Kate or Kathy. Secondly, I think Rynn is an awesome name. Thirdly, my full name is Deanna, but I do prefer to be called by my nickname Dee, so I understand that nicknames are fairly common. Finally, you didn't embarrass your in laws, they did that to themselves by refusing to learn your actual name.
Vira 3 years ago
I agree with you! I had a friend named, "Deadre," who went by,"DeeDee," there was never an issue with that, from me. I would never presume to know what someone is comfortable being called. It's absolutely disrespectful, and snobbish, that people get hung up on that.
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Kate Haslam 3 years ago
Good grief. I mean, my name IS Katherine, but only my mother calls me that. And even then, only when she's mad. I would have turned it into a joke, too.
Katy Cordeth 3 years ago
Samesies. My mum is the only person on Earth who calls me Katherine. As a diminutive of Katherine, which I know the OP's name isn't, Rynn is actually pretty good. Wish I'd thought of it years ago before I started going by Katy. Although when coupled with my surname it would sound like someone was asking the question "Rink or death?"
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ThisIsMe 3 years ago
It's not just a mistake - there is something deeper going on here. Seems like they have some deep-rooted disapproval of their DIL, something they dislike about her or wish were different (more than just her name).
Bunzilla 3 years ago (edited)
Gotta love the whole, "you embarrassed us!" Shtick, when they're the ones who embarrassed themselves in the first place. Almost always due to their own ego / stubbornness. I mean, what was she supposed to do when asked a direct question like that? Lie? They'd better keep those in-laws at arm's reach, they sound very Set In Their Ways, and My Way Or The Highway types.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
They also embarrassed OP numerous times previously by not getting her name right. Payback’s a b***h, you know.
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Brian P 3 years ago
Fine, don't joke next time. "No, my name is Rynn, but my in-laws don't respect me enough to use my actual name"
Tishia partchey 2 years ago
This! I'm not kind enough to joke when I'm deliberately disrespected over and over again
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Otto Katz 3 years ago
My name is Kim. That's it, just Kim. Not Kimberly, just Kim. And I've been dealing with that s**t for 65 years. When I married, I did not change my last name. I'm still kim ....... and I can't tell you how much mail I get addressed to me by family by kim husband's last name. I tell them Please, that's not my name. Doesn't matter. And I don't live in a conservative area. This is 2023, for gosh sake. People are weird.
Gwen Sandau 3 years ago
My name is Gwen... just Gwen. When people ask if it's short for Gwendolyn, I say that my mother was cheap and saving on consonants when I was born.
Lyone Fein 3 years ago
Just stop responding to anything other than your own name. If anyone calls you Katherine, it's all "I'm sorry I don't know who you're referring to"
Teresa Best 3 years ago
I have had the opposite problem and it is disrespectful to not call someone the name they use. I am Teresa and hate being called Terry
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Trillian 3 years ago
What is it with people who think they know other people's business (like their gd NAMES) better than the people themselves??
Bekah 3 years ago (edited)
I have had this issue but a bit different. I have a biblical spelled name. It's also a very common female name but has multiple other spellings that are not biblical. When I tell people the spelling they will often tell me I'm spelling it wrong....like I think I know how to spell my own name. It's not even that hard of a spelling. Rebekah is not that hard people!
Terry Butler 3 years ago
You have a beautiful name, and the spelling is part of the beauty.
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Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
I would’ve thought they’d think her name is Wren, which not only makes sense as a soundalike, but has been used as an actual first name in the past. To expand it to Katherine, which already has more than enough diminutives and nicknames (I should know), is a real stretch.
Chrissyfox 3 years ago
I've always gone by Chris, the shortened version of Christine. My first husband was Anthony, but everyone called him Tony. We had so much fun because we'd introduce ourselves as Chris and Tony and didn't elaborate as to who was which.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
In Hollywood, the press would call the two of you “Christony”.
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Lisa H 3 years ago (edited)
"I don't know who Katherine is, but my name is Rynn." And then do NOT respond to anyone calling you "Katherine" because not many people respond to the wrong name. ETA: The only exception is if someone has some sort of disability and/or speech impediment that physically prevents them from saying someone's name right. One example is an old neighbor's daughter has severe autism and can't pronounce her L's so she called me Risa (which is admittedly a pretty cool name). That's the ONLY exception I can think of.
Jennifer Phillips 3 years ago
Agreed. I had a cousin that called my mom ant Leeze cuz he couldn't say Louise And why is it so hard call people what they want be called. Unless it's strictly official (IRS, SS, pay checks, etc) what diff does it make as long as that is what person wants and likes. My dad hates his first name only his mama called him by it. Everyone else used his middle name.
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Jay TheSaltLord 3 years ago
My real name is "Rayne". So many people apparently thought I was mispronouncing "James" and kept calling me that instead. Nowadays I go by "Jay" as a nickname and don't even bother mentioning my actual name.
ARCH-201 3 years ago
How does someone think that Rayne is a mispronunciation of James? Especially when it's the name your family calls you. That just doesn't make sense to me
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Noname 3 years ago (edited)
My parents didn't want me to date after my divorce. I always put my children first and foremost and it was 10 years after my divorce that I met someone who loved me and my kids, but my parents hated him as they had hoped I'd get back with my ex, and they embarrassed me to no end by acting like arseholes. I've never been so embarrassed by my parents ever, and I never forgave them for being arseholes. My parents refused to call him by his name and instead made up all kinds of names based on the syllables of his name. At one dinner, my bf got tired of their insults and made a joke about how when I was born, the Dr slapped my mother. I did a spit-take because it floored my parents and he delivered it so well! We parted ways about a year later, which broke my heart because he loved and my kids but he couldn't stand my parents.
Cassandra Reese 3 years ago
I'm not sure why you didn't just stop seeing your parents if they were treating him badly?
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Michael Largey 3 years ago
At the beginning of each school year, I had to learn all my students' names. I told them, "If I keep mispronouncing your name or getting it wrong, don't say to yourself "My name doesn't matter to him because I'm just nothing to him.' Instead, say to yourself 'He's old and stupid' and keep on correcting me!" And they did.
Jennifer Phillips 3 years ago
Sometimes I have to hear a name pronounced a couple times to get it right too.
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Manning Sutherland 3 years ago
My name is Manning. So many people try to call me Manny or Amanda. I even say" just like Peyton Manning". Then they call me Peyton. You're NTA.
Marcus Lynch 3 years ago
Casually screwing up someone's name is a HUGE insult. It toyo 5 years of increasingly frustrating reminders for my father to get my wife's name right. Not to mention he shortens mine to a point where it doesn't make sense and is spelled wrong. Doesn't get it. Sounds like posters MIL is the same way.
lauralett50 3 years ago
I'm Laura . Get called Loara ,Larra Lora. My friend Lora, gets called Laura. I've also been called Debbie , Maggie, and Jesus. DKW.
Yeah, okay. 3 years ago
Wait. They couldn't be bothered to learn the name of their son's WIFE, and you embarrassed them?? What on earth is wrong with these two? I don't care if your name is Apple or Twist or Lemony Snickett - it's your name. Denying someone that is plain bullying behavior. What going to happen when they have kids - are those two going to arbitrarily pick names for them, too??
Ivana Bašić 3 years ago
Had a teacher that kept changing my name, Ms X. Until I started calling her Ms Y.
V 3 years ago
My GMIL gets my name wrong. But she's very hard of hearing and is no longer all there, so I cut her a lot of slack and just respond to whatever name she calls. And I am not the only one, she calls grandkids and great grandkids by her kids names a lot.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
I have four siblings, and m the baby of the family, to boot. When my parents wanted to call me, they usually went through the list of all the other kids’ names—-and even threw in the dog’s and cat’s names for good measure—-until they finally got to mine. (“Uhhh John, uhhh Gary, uhhh Jeff, uhhh Steve, uhhh Fido, uhhh Fluffy, wait, wait, I know it, uhhhhh, KATHY! Yeah, Kathy!”)
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Candy Berg 3 years ago
Hi my name is Candy…yes that’s my real name…no it’s not a nickname…no it’s not short for another name. Yes it really is my real name. Yes it’s my legal name.
Thatkamloopsguy 3 years ago
A very simple solution to the problem is to just ignore people who call you by other then your real name. Especially if they have already been corrected.
Katy Cordeth 3 years ago
Yeah, you're only saying that because it rhymes with your name. Kidding. Gwyn is a lovely name as well. Welsh, yeah?
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Would they call her Susan and get annoyed when she corrected their friends? It is the same thing!
Terry Butler 3 years ago
Yes! I agree. Different name equals entirely different name.
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Tnisha Renae 3 years ago (edited)
That's so dismissive of the ILs. Aa someone with a non traditional spelling I can definitely relate. I had a co worker argue me down about not only the pronunciation but the spelling of MY name as well. The audacity is real.
Kate Jones 3 years ago
I would say they were doing it on purpose but it seems like other than this she has a good relationship with them. I've heard of Monster in Laws calling the wife the name of an old girlfriend to p**s her off. Or calling them the wrong name to anger them on purpose because they don't get along. So it's weird for sure. But at the same time...why play games? Just take her aside and tell her, 'you know, I really hate being called Katherine. It's not my name and I'm asking you to please stop telling people that.' And if she continues after that, then I would flat out cut ties with them or least cut it back to absolutely necessary visits.
Katy Cordeth 3 years ago (edited)
Total power play by the toxic in-laws. And names do have power. Think of the Rumpelstiltskin story. Or d-bags on Fox News and other conservative media outlets referring to AOC's surname as Cortez rather than Ocasio-Cortez, or refusing to pronounce the vice president's first name correctly, enunciating it as "ka-MAH-la" rather than the correct "comma-lah". The intent is to diminish: "You're not even important enough for me to bother learning how to get your name right."
Bonesko 3 years ago
My name is Melissa, but alot of people call me Liss. I had a neighbor who insists on calling me Elizabeth. After a few years I just stopped correcting them.
Claudia Lopez-Muniz 3 years ago
If it ever happens again, you could say, "No, I'm not Katherine. You must be thinking of my husband's other wife." They want embarrassing? No worries, there are many ways to make it REALLY embarrassing.
Chris O'Quinn 3 years ago
My name is actually Christi, but I prefer Chris. I wear my hair short...see where I'm going with this? Immediately the wheels start turning in people's heads: "she must be gay." I don't bother correcting anyone (I'm hetero) because it's no one's business. I even call my guy my partner because at my age "boyfriend" sounds dated and wrong. I prefer "Chris" as my name because I'm more comfortable with it. Screw others opinions.
Jody Whitmarsh 3 years ago
Glad your husband has your back. Too often the spouse caves into their parents. Good on both of you. The ILs are a bit rude
Connie Kiessling 3 years ago
Totally NTA. Nickname of not they are intentionally calling you by the wrong name. I get that sometimes because my name is Connie. It is NOT short for Constance like everyone seems to think.
Yoga Kitty 3 years ago
Your own name is your very first mantra; deliberately calling somebody by a wrong name is an absolute [jerk] move.
Angie Falzarano 3 years ago
When I divorced I changed my first name to Angelina or Angie for short. And I get everything from Angela, angel, ang, Angie dawn(my middle name is dawn), Angelina jolie, almost anything that starts with an a. I friend called me a lot of those names but didn't do it to hurt me he liked having fun. I got tired of correcting people. It's not that I was being introduced or talked about by the wrong name, I went by my middle name till 1995. So depends on how long you've known me. The name Angelina is not common. But I don't correct my old friends when they introduce me as dawn I usually just say I prefer Angie. But deliberately telling people the wrong name is insulating. Maybe wear a name tag around them. Love the name rynn it's pretty. So no nta
Debby Keir 3 years ago
So, for Christmas, my stepmother had polo's embroidered with our names - mine was spelt wrong....
Chris Winchester 2 years ago
My name is Chris. Not Christopher, Christian, Christina, christophe, or and other derivation of chris. 5 simple letters. When I was called anything other then Chris I ignore them. I understand. Not the ahole
A Random Anvil 2 years ago
It's just as bad as deadnaming. How difficult is it to call someone the name they ask you to?
candace mccoy 2 years ago
Never answer to the wrong name. If someone walks up to you and says Katherine say no you must have the wrong person. Keep doing that just to annoy your in laws it will stop. Had to do that to people I worked with.Only my family use the nickname for my name. I quit answering, never returned messages. Even had one person telling me my name was spelled wrong my mother screwed up. Had to get HR involved on that.
Ren Ka 3 years ago
OP is NAH. Furthermore, if someone kept intentionally calling me the wrong name, I'd be calling them by names that they really wouldn't appreciate. (Don't mess with someone that knows a few unflattering names in other languages that they can call you).😈 Innocent mistakes is one thing, intentionally calling someone a name that they know is wrong is inexcusable.
Robert Klonoski 3 years ago
"You must be Katherine." "No, I'm not. I'm Rynn, X's wife." "Oh, your MIL said Katherine." "I don't know where she got that from, I've always been very clear about it." "I guess it's an easy assumption." "Only if that's not how you were introduced, and that you've previously attempted to correct them." Then just let it hang there. No other explanations, no rationalizations, no redirections.Further, for anyone who now formally knows your proper name, assume anyone using Katherine must be talking to or about someone else entirely. No reaction, no commentary. And all done with a hospitable smile.
David 3 years ago
NTA. It's bit petty but with a purpose. Devise a name for each of them that is sort of similar but not their names. Use those names exclusively when talking to / about them. Wait for them to 'see the light'. -- In my life - Ex wife changes first name to something completely different. We do our best to respect it and get used to calling her by the new name. Some years later, daughter changes her first name. (in both cases legally) . My ex taunts her, keeps calling her by the old name because "that is what she was born with" and so on. SMH.
Terry Butler 3 years ago
I love your idea of using a slightly - but noticably - different name for each of the in-laws.
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Elizabeth Whitacre 3 years ago
At work people called me Alyssa, so I shortened to Beth, hoping that would solve the issue. Nope, I started getting called Death. It happens often enough I decided to put a second name tag underneath Elizabeth that says Lady Death..my co workers love it.
R3 3 years ago
I was named after my father because of family tradition but my mom didn't really want to give me that name. So the compromise was that my first name would be my father's (Richard), my middle name was my mother's father's (James) and they would address me by their initials (RJ). I've been called that since I was born. I can only remember one case where someone didn't want to call me that because "they didn't believe in nicknames" or some bs. There hasn't been much drama around my name though, surprisingly. I think because initials are so detached from their respective names, people can't assume what they represent.
Lora Hardy 3 years ago
A old Irish surname we had neighboring farmers and that was there last name I wanted to spell my son Ryan's name that way but my husband didn't like it spelled that way, I regret not doing it anyway to this day I love the spelling and on girl it's so cute
MongoMarcia 3 years ago
I've been married for 37 years. My MIL still can't spell my first name. It's MARCIA. Not Marscia, or Marschia. SMH FFS!
Melissa Bellis 2 years ago
My dad had my granddaughter's name in his computer as Aleah shortly after she was born. I helped him correct it to ALIYAH. A couple of years later, I noticed in his computer, it was back to ALEAH. I could have started an endless round of correcting him but I think it was a product of a terrible blow to his head that doctors continually insisted caused no damage at all. None of my family are doctors, but we all could see the deficit in his cognitive abilities after that blow.
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Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
My Grandmother (Mom's Mom) was an evil b*tch (hope it's hot enough for ya!). No matter how many times I told her I didn't like it, she insisted on calling me Shelly. NO ONE calls me Shelly. I was giving a presentation at work and one of the new employees had a question. "I was just wondering, Shelly, if you could repeat blah blah blah". There was an audible gasp in the room. I looked at this young man and said, "My name is Michelle, not Shelly. If you have trouble remembering that, you can just call me Boss".
Jemma Dee 2 years ago
My in-laws would constantly add "ie" to my name. I am Jane, not Janie. Their excuse was that their friends daughter was Jane and they always called her Janie. I am not her and my name is Jane. I started to call them by the wrong names and misgender them too. They finally got it.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I was holding a meeting at work to discuss the new benefits package (I was the Director of Administration, making me second in command, something my boss was more than happy to explain to the new hires.) I asked if anyone had any questions. One guy raises his hand and begins with, "I was wondering Shelly ..." Big mistake. HUGE. No one calls me Shelly, especially a presumptuous new employee who I am not in the least bit close to. So I interrupted him and said, "My name is Michelle, not Shelly. And if you have trouble remembering that, you can just call me Boss".
alloutbikes@yahoo.com 2 years ago
Tell them if they can't grasp your actual first name then they can call you Mrs. X. MIL is very rude. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
alithenewmc 2 years ago
Had it been me, and people came up asking if I was Katherine, I probably would have just shaken my head and said no, but not clarify anything. And I certainly wouldn't be answering to anyone calling me that after they'd been corrected- if you're not going to use my name, how do I know you're talking to me?
Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl) 2 years ago
I'm confused. MIL talks about her all the time, but still calls her the wrong name. Does she like the woman or not?
Hollie Marie 2 years ago
NTA my parents constantly spell my boyfriends name wrong, I'm always checking and correcting it (it's one letter)
Gozer LeGozerian 2 years ago
I'd just start calling them different names than the ones they have and then use the argument, that "I thought we choose what other people's names are?"
Danger Foley 2 years ago
I'd respond with, "Sorry, I don't know anyone named Katherine," every single time. When MIL dragged one up to me, insisting that I'm Katherine, I'd say, "I have no idea who this Katherine person is. My name is Rynn."
Cathryn Kulp 2 years ago
I've always been big on names, the correct way to say them and spell them because that's a person's identity and it's very important to say names right because it says that as a person you ARE important and matter very much and that should be respected I want to say to those In Laws that in life it's either about truth or fictitious with anything about a person, so in saying that Rynn is truth and Katherine is fictitious,, what'll it be?
Babs 2 years ago
I had a friend named Carey, but her mother in law kept calling her Cathy. She just put up with it and that's it. So it wasn't her name. She didn't die. My gosh all of you people , get over yourselves! You're not soooo speeeecial, that the world is going to come to an end over you!
Eledore Massis 2 years ago
Buy a cat. Go to IL's. Give cat. "Here is your Cat. And I am Rynn. Together we are CatRynn. Now Rynn will leave, enjoy your new Cat".
𝕜𝕣𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕖𝕟ᴛʜᴇ𝕜𝕚𝕕𝕕 2 years ago
They're only embarrassed because they're in the wrong and their friends told them so.
Sara Carrillo 2 years ago
What the ENTIRE fvck?! That's it, just like before when you took a break from them, you need to do it again and again and again until they can learn to respect you and your birth name. Eventually they will understand that you won't put up with it. Additionally, have your husband tell them that if or when you decide to have children they will not be a part of the children's lives until they can learn to respect their grandchildren's mother. PERIOD!
christie tondu 2 years ago
My name is Christie, not Christine or Chrissy. We have a family friend who, for years, called me Chrissy because she had another friend whose daughter was Chrissy...I put up with it until I was like 14 and then sassy teenage me corrected her...she never did it again...but I still have to correct people that I first meet who don't seem to understand that there is no N in my name...
Lemon Beans 2 years ago
She wasn't even rude about it 😭 I was expecting her to have gone off on the ILs but she literally just made a lighthearted joke ?? Super weird that they won't acknowledge her real name
CaTastrophy427 2 years ago
This is where I'd ask my spouse for any nicknames they hate. Oh, MIL Alexandria, you don't like being called Alex? Well you're Alex to me now. If you complain I might change it to Xander.
Chris DiDomenico 2 years ago
My name is "Chris" not Christine, Christina, or any other form of Christine. Just "Chris". People always think I am either a man or that I'm using a nickname. Had a doctor's office once tell me i'd need to produce my birth certificate before I could be entered into their system. Totally understand your frustrations. Arghhh with you!
Kate Sparks 2 years ago
I probably would have started saying "No, that's his previous wife, I'm Rynn"
Sparkle 2 years ago
I had this happen to me a lot growing up. It's absolutely annoying. I'd start calling the in-laws by random names, too, and when they complain just be like, "Oh, so it's ok for you to make up a name for me, but when I do it back, I'm the AH?" These AHs have absolutely NO respect , and I wouldn't be surprised if they are disrespectful in other areas, too. Also, this is such snobby behaviour....the very idea of "I'm right and you're wrong because I said so." Infuriating.
della99999 2 years ago
Aw so they gave you a nice nickname. If they called you "honey" would you be offended?
Padmavathi Remany 2 years ago
NTA... I just don't understand y should it be tough for someone to accept ur actual name? Or y should a grown up have such low IQ level to understand and call u by ur name properly? They are doing it deliberately. They were told enough number of times what ur name is, so they invited the harsh way of being told ur name. Their problem! They would not have been embarrassed if they behaved!
Cat Buchanan 2 years ago
My full name is Cathi ... with an I. My father hated nicknames that were shortened versions of names and the I is in honor of his baby sister whose full legal name is Vicki. I shortened Cathi to Cat. But I have put up with a lifetime of "is that short for Catherine (that was actually my Mom's choice for name)? And a lifetime of mis-spelling as Cathy or.Cathie. I feel for Rynn. I really do. I gave up on correcting my most recent in-laws on how my name is spelled. I was married for 16 1/2 YEARS before my husband died in August. Spelling wasn't worth the fight.
Deidre Westover 3 years ago
I changed pharmacies because a tech kept mangling my name. The final straw was her calling me David. I told her it was Deidre. She asked me if I was sure. WAS I SURE? I'm in my 40s. Of course I'm sure. I was afraid I'd end up with some dude name David's medication so I never went back.
Jen 2 years ago
They embarrassed themsrlves by intentionally using the wrong name. Their embarrassment was welldeserved and long overdue
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marianne eliza 3 years ago
The IL's are being passive-aggressive. I wonder why? Did they object to the marriage?
Chelsea Wicker 3 years ago (edited)
Lol I had a friend for maybe 6 years, she had a daughter named Dani and later got pregnant with her second child and we were discussing names and nicknames. She laughed at one point and said, "you won't believe how many people think Dani's name is short for r Danielle" I laughed along, then got awkwardly quiet before asking, "so, what it IS it short for?" Her answer, nothing. Rynn is a super cute name btw!
Becky Summer 3 years ago
I love the name RYNN ! My name is Becky not Rebecca, I didn't have as much trouble in school, mostly because I lived in a very small community, you know, everyone knew everybody and all their business. But, after I married and moved, I have been questioned about being Rebecca more times than I can count.
Heather Menard 3 years ago
Nta my exes name is Raul but his in laws called him Rudy because they couldn't bother to try to pronounce Raul.
Richard Alston 3 years ago
This is so easy to fix this non sense: get your birth certificate. Show them. The end!
ARCH-201 3 years ago (edited)
It sounds more like instead of them not believing her they just dc and don't think it's right to call her Rynn because it's close to a male name. As stated the parents don't agree with girls getting named with boy names
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LH25 3 years ago
And even if Rynn is a nickname, it's what the OP wants to be called, so respect that!
Rahul Pawa 3 years ago (edited)
Yes, this! The ILs are just plain rude to not call their family member by her name. Doesn't really matter if it's a birth name or preferred name. And the comments about teachers is really crazy. What point are they trying to make by insisting on calling a child by a different name? Again, even if it was simply that the kid prefers a variation of their name, I don't see a point in going against what the kid wants.
Load More Replies... deanna woods 3 years ago
First off, I would not think of Rynn as a nickname for Katherine. Most Katherines are called Kate or Kathy. Secondly, I think Rynn is an awesome name. Thirdly, my full name is Deanna, but I do prefer to be called by my nickname Dee, so I understand that nicknames are fairly common. Finally, you didn't embarrass your in laws, they did that to themselves by refusing to learn your actual name.
Vira 3 years ago
I agree with you! I had a friend named, "Deadre," who went by,"DeeDee," there was never an issue with that, from me. I would never presume to know what someone is comfortable being called. It's absolutely disrespectful, and snobbish, that people get hung up on that.
Load More Replies... Kate Haslam 3 years ago
Good grief. I mean, my name IS Katherine, but only my mother calls me that. And even then, only when she's mad. I would have turned it into a joke, too.
Katy Cordeth 3 years ago
Samesies. My mum is the only person on Earth who calls me Katherine. As a diminutive of Katherine, which I know the OP's name isn't, Rynn is actually pretty good. Wish I'd thought of it years ago before I started going by Katy. Although when coupled with my surname it would sound like someone was asking the question "Rink or death?"
Load More Replies... ThisIsMe 3 years ago
It's not just a mistake - there is something deeper going on here. Seems like they have some deep-rooted disapproval of their DIL, something they dislike about her or wish were different (more than just her name).
Bunzilla 3 years ago (edited)
Gotta love the whole, "you embarrassed us!" Shtick, when they're the ones who embarrassed themselves in the first place. Almost always due to their own ego / stubbornness. I mean, what was she supposed to do when asked a direct question like that? Lie? They'd better keep those in-laws at arm's reach, they sound very Set In Their Ways, and My Way Or The Highway types.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
They also embarrassed OP numerous times previously by not getting her name right. Payback’s a b***h, you know.
Load More Replies... Brian P 3 years ago
Fine, don't joke next time. "No, my name is Rynn, but my in-laws don't respect me enough to use my actual name"
Tishia partchey 2 years ago
This! I'm not kind enough to joke when I'm deliberately disrespected over and over again
Load More Replies... Otto Katz 3 years ago
My name is Kim. That's it, just Kim. Not Kimberly, just Kim. And I've been dealing with that s**t for 65 years. When I married, I did not change my last name. I'm still kim ....... and I can't tell you how much mail I get addressed to me by family by kim husband's last name. I tell them Please, that's not my name. Doesn't matter. And I don't live in a conservative area. This is 2023, for gosh sake. People are weird.
Gwen Sandau 3 years ago
My name is Gwen... just Gwen. When people ask if it's short for Gwendolyn, I say that my mother was cheap and saving on consonants when I was born.
Lyone Fein 3 years ago
Just stop responding to anything other than your own name. If anyone calls you Katherine, it's all "I'm sorry I don't know who you're referring to"
Teresa Best 3 years ago
I have had the opposite problem and it is disrespectful to not call someone the name they use. I am Teresa and hate being called Terry
Load More Replies... Trillian 3 years ago
What is it with people who think they know other people's business (like their gd NAMES) better than the people themselves??
Bekah 3 years ago (edited)
I have had this issue but a bit different. I have a biblical spelled name. It's also a very common female name but has multiple other spellings that are not biblical. When I tell people the spelling they will often tell me I'm spelling it wrong....like I think I know how to spell my own name. It's not even that hard of a spelling. Rebekah is not that hard people!
Terry Butler 3 years ago
You have a beautiful name, and the spelling is part of the beauty.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
I would’ve thought they’d think her name is Wren, which not only makes sense as a soundalike, but has been used as an actual first name in the past. To expand it to Katherine, which already has more than enough diminutives and nicknames (I should know), is a real stretch.
Chrissyfox 3 years ago
I've always gone by Chris, the shortened version of Christine. My first husband was Anthony, but everyone called him Tony. We had so much fun because we'd introduce ourselves as Chris and Tony and didn't elaborate as to who was which.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
In Hollywood, the press would call the two of you “Christony”.
Load More Replies... Lisa H 3 years ago (edited)
"I don't know who Katherine is, but my name is Rynn." And then do NOT respond to anyone calling you "Katherine" because not many people respond to the wrong name. ETA: The only exception is if someone has some sort of disability and/or speech impediment that physically prevents them from saying someone's name right. One example is an old neighbor's daughter has severe autism and can't pronounce her L's so she called me Risa (which is admittedly a pretty cool name). That's the ONLY exception I can think of.
Jennifer Phillips 3 years ago
Agreed. I had a cousin that called my mom ant Leeze cuz he couldn't say Louise And why is it so hard call people what they want be called. Unless it's strictly official (IRS, SS, pay checks, etc) what diff does it make as long as that is what person wants and likes. My dad hates his first name only his mama called him by it. Everyone else used his middle name.
Load More Replies... Jay TheSaltLord 3 years ago
My real name is "Rayne". So many people apparently thought I was mispronouncing "James" and kept calling me that instead. Nowadays I go by "Jay" as a nickname and don't even bother mentioning my actual name.
ARCH-201 3 years ago
How does someone think that Rayne is a mispronunciation of James? Especially when it's the name your family calls you. That just doesn't make sense to me
Load More Replies... Noname 3 years ago (edited)
My parents didn't want me to date after my divorce. I always put my children first and foremost and it was 10 years after my divorce that I met someone who loved me and my kids, but my parents hated him as they had hoped I'd get back with my ex, and they embarrassed me to no end by acting like arseholes. I've never been so embarrassed by my parents ever, and I never forgave them for being arseholes. My parents refused to call him by his name and instead made up all kinds of names based on the syllables of his name. At one dinner, my bf got tired of their insults and made a joke about how when I was born, the Dr slapped my mother. I did a spit-take because it floored my parents and he delivered it so well! We parted ways about a year later, which broke my heart because he loved and my kids but he couldn't stand my parents.
Cassandra Reese 3 years ago
I'm not sure why you didn't just stop seeing your parents if they were treating him badly?
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 3 years ago
At the beginning of each school year, I had to learn all my students' names. I told them, "If I keep mispronouncing your name or getting it wrong, don't say to yourself "My name doesn't matter to him because I'm just nothing to him.' Instead, say to yourself 'He's old and stupid' and keep on correcting me!" And they did.
Jennifer Phillips 3 years ago
Sometimes I have to hear a name pronounced a couple times to get it right too.
Load More Replies... Manning Sutherland 3 years ago
My name is Manning. So many people try to call me Manny or Amanda. I even say" just like Peyton Manning". Then they call me Peyton. You're NTA.
Marcus Lynch 3 years ago
Casually screwing up someone's name is a HUGE insult. It toyo 5 years of increasingly frustrating reminders for my father to get my wife's name right. Not to mention he shortens mine to a point where it doesn't make sense and is spelled wrong. Doesn't get it. Sounds like posters MIL is the same way.
lauralett50 3 years ago
I'm Laura . Get called Loara ,Larra Lora. My friend Lora, gets called Laura. I've also been called Debbie , Maggie, and Jesus. DKW.
Yeah, okay. 3 years ago
Wait. They couldn't be bothered to learn the name of their son's WIFE, and you embarrassed them?? What on earth is wrong with these two? I don't care if your name is Apple or Twist or Lemony Snickett - it's your name. Denying someone that is plain bullying behavior. What going to happen when they have kids - are those two going to arbitrarily pick names for them, too??
Ivana Bašić 3 years ago
Had a teacher that kept changing my name, Ms X. Until I started calling her Ms Y.
V 3 years ago
My GMIL gets my name wrong. But she's very hard of hearing and is no longer all there, so I cut her a lot of slack and just respond to whatever name she calls. And I am not the only one, she calls grandkids and great grandkids by her kids names a lot.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
I have four siblings, and m the baby of the family, to boot. When my parents wanted to call me, they usually went through the list of all the other kids’ names—-and even threw in the dog’s and cat’s names for good measure—-until they finally got to mine. (“Uhhh John, uhhh Gary, uhhh Jeff, uhhh Steve, uhhh Fido, uhhh Fluffy, wait, wait, I know it, uhhhhh, KATHY! Yeah, Kathy!”)
Load More Replies... Candy Berg 3 years ago
Hi my name is Candy…yes that’s my real name…no it’s not a nickname…no it’s not short for another name. Yes it really is my real name. Yes it’s my legal name.
Thatkamloopsguy 3 years ago
A very simple solution to the problem is to just ignore people who call you by other then your real name. Especially if they have already been corrected.
Katy Cordeth 3 years ago
Yeah, you're only saying that because it rhymes with your name. Kidding. Gwyn is a lovely name as well. Welsh, yeah?
Load More Replies... Tyke 3 years ago
Would they call her Susan and get annoyed when she corrected their friends? It is the same thing!
Terry Butler 3 years ago
Yes! I agree. Different name equals entirely different name.
Load More Replies... Tnisha Renae 3 years ago (edited)
That's so dismissive of the ILs. Aa someone with a non traditional spelling I can definitely relate. I had a co worker argue me down about not only the pronunciation but the spelling of MY name as well. The audacity is real.
Kate Jones 3 years ago
I would say they were doing it on purpose but it seems like other than this she has a good relationship with them. I've heard of Monster in Laws calling the wife the name of an old girlfriend to p**s her off. Or calling them the wrong name to anger them on purpose because they don't get along. So it's weird for sure. But at the same time...why play games? Just take her aside and tell her, 'you know, I really hate being called Katherine. It's not my name and I'm asking you to please stop telling people that.' And if she continues after that, then I would flat out cut ties with them or least cut it back to absolutely necessary visits.
Katy Cordeth 3 years ago (edited)
Total power play by the toxic in-laws. And names do have power. Think of the Rumpelstiltskin story. Or d-bags on Fox News and other conservative media outlets referring to AOC's surname as Cortez rather than Ocasio-Cortez, or refusing to pronounce the vice president's first name correctly, enunciating it as "ka-MAH-la" rather than the correct "comma-lah". The intent is to diminish: "You're not even important enough for me to bother learning how to get your name right."
Bonesko 3 years ago
My name is Melissa, but alot of people call me Liss. I had a neighbor who insists on calling me Elizabeth. After a few years I just stopped correcting them.
Claudia Lopez-Muniz 3 years ago
If it ever happens again, you could say, "No, I'm not Katherine. You must be thinking of my husband's other wife." They want embarrassing? No worries, there are many ways to make it REALLY embarrassing.
Chris O'Quinn 3 years ago
My name is actually Christi, but I prefer Chris. I wear my hair short...see where I'm going with this? Immediately the wheels start turning in people's heads: "she must be gay." I don't bother correcting anyone (I'm hetero) because it's no one's business. I even call my guy my partner because at my age "boyfriend" sounds dated and wrong. I prefer "Chris" as my name because I'm more comfortable with it. Screw others opinions.
Jody Whitmarsh 3 years ago
Glad your husband has your back. Too often the spouse caves into their parents. Good on both of you. The ILs are a bit rude
Connie Kiessling 3 years ago
Totally NTA. Nickname of not they are intentionally calling you by the wrong name. I get that sometimes because my name is Connie. It is NOT short for Constance like everyone seems to think.
Yoga Kitty 3 years ago
Your own name is your very first mantra; deliberately calling somebody by a wrong name is an absolute [jerk] move.
Angie Falzarano 3 years ago
When I divorced I changed my first name to Angelina or Angie for short. And I get everything from Angela, angel, ang, Angie dawn(my middle name is dawn), Angelina jolie, almost anything that starts with an a. I friend called me a lot of those names but didn't do it to hurt me he liked having fun. I got tired of correcting people. It's not that I was being introduced or talked about by the wrong name, I went by my middle name till 1995. So depends on how long you've known me. The name Angelina is not common. But I don't correct my old friends when they introduce me as dawn I usually just say I prefer Angie. But deliberately telling people the wrong name is insulating. Maybe wear a name tag around them. Love the name rynn it's pretty. So no nta
Debby Keir 3 years ago
So, for Christmas, my stepmother had polo's embroidered with our names - mine was spelt wrong....
Chris Winchester 2 years ago
My name is Chris. Not Christopher, Christian, Christina, christophe, or and other derivation of chris. 5 simple letters. When I was called anything other then Chris I ignore them. I understand. Not the ahole
A Random Anvil 2 years ago
It's just as bad as deadnaming. How difficult is it to call someone the name they ask you to?
candace mccoy 2 years ago
Never answer to the wrong name. If someone walks up to you and says Katherine say no you must have the wrong person. Keep doing that just to annoy your in laws it will stop. Had to do that to people I worked with.Only my family use the nickname for my name. I quit answering, never returned messages. Even had one person telling me my name was spelled wrong my mother screwed up. Had to get HR involved on that.
Ren Ka 3 years ago
OP is NAH. Furthermore, if someone kept intentionally calling me the wrong name, I'd be calling them by names that they really wouldn't appreciate. (Don't mess with someone that knows a few unflattering names in other languages that they can call you).😈 Innocent mistakes is one thing, intentionally calling someone a name that they know is wrong is inexcusable.
Robert Klonoski 3 years ago
"You must be Katherine." "No, I'm not. I'm Rynn, X's wife." "Oh, your MIL said Katherine." "I don't know where she got that from, I've always been very clear about it." "I guess it's an easy assumption." "Only if that's not how you were introduced, and that you've previously attempted to correct them." Then just let it hang there. No other explanations, no rationalizations, no redirections.Further, for anyone who now formally knows your proper name, assume anyone using Katherine must be talking to or about someone else entirely. No reaction, no commentary. And all done with a hospitable smile.
David 3 years ago
NTA. It's bit petty but with a purpose. Devise a name for each of them that is sort of similar but not their names. Use those names exclusively when talking to / about them. Wait for them to 'see the light'. -- In my life - Ex wife changes first name to something completely different. We do our best to respect it and get used to calling her by the new name. Some years later, daughter changes her first name. (in both cases legally) . My ex taunts her, keeps calling her by the old name because "that is what she was born with" and so on. SMH.
Terry Butler 3 years ago
I love your idea of using a slightly - but noticably - different name for each of the in-laws.
Load More Replies... Elizabeth Whitacre 3 years ago
At work people called me Alyssa, so I shortened to Beth, hoping that would solve the issue. Nope, I started getting called Death. It happens often enough I decided to put a second name tag underneath Elizabeth that says Lady Death..my co workers love it.
R3 3 years ago
I was named after my father because of family tradition but my mom didn't really want to give me that name. So the compromise was that my first name would be my father's (Richard), my middle name was my mother's father's (James) and they would address me by their initials (RJ). I've been called that since I was born. I can only remember one case where someone didn't want to call me that because "they didn't believe in nicknames" or some bs. There hasn't been much drama around my name though, surprisingly. I think because initials are so detached from their respective names, people can't assume what they represent.
Lora Hardy 3 years ago
A old Irish surname we had neighboring farmers and that was there last name I wanted to spell my son Ryan's name that way but my husband didn't like it spelled that way, I regret not doing it anyway to this day I love the spelling and on girl it's so cute
MongoMarcia 3 years ago
I've been married for 37 years. My MIL still can't spell my first name. It's MARCIA. Not Marscia, or Marschia. SMH FFS!
Melissa Bellis 2 years ago
My dad had my granddaughter's name in his computer as Aleah shortly after she was born. I helped him correct it to ALIYAH. A couple of years later, I noticed in his computer, it was back to ALEAH. I could have started an endless round of correcting him but I think it was a product of a terrible blow to his head that doctors continually insisted caused no damage at all. None of my family are doctors, but we all could see the deficit in his cognitive abilities after that blow.
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Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
My Grandmother (Mom's Mom) was an evil b*tch (hope it's hot enough for ya!). No matter how many times I told her I didn't like it, she insisted on calling me Shelly. NO ONE calls me Shelly. I was giving a presentation at work and one of the new employees had a question. "I was just wondering, Shelly, if you could repeat blah blah blah". There was an audible gasp in the room. I looked at this young man and said, "My name is Michelle, not Shelly. If you have trouble remembering that, you can just call me Boss".
Jemma Dee 2 years ago
My in-laws would constantly add "ie" to my name. I am Jane, not Janie. Their excuse was that their friends daughter was Jane and they always called her Janie. I am not her and my name is Jane. I started to call them by the wrong names and misgender them too. They finally got it.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I was holding a meeting at work to discuss the new benefits package (I was the Director of Administration, making me second in command, something my boss was more than happy to explain to the new hires.) I asked if anyone had any questions. One guy raises his hand and begins with, "I was wondering Shelly ..." Big mistake. HUGE. No one calls me Shelly, especially a presumptuous new employee who I am not in the least bit close to. So I interrupted him and said, "My name is Michelle, not Shelly. And if you have trouble remembering that, you can just call me Boss".
alloutbikes@yahoo.com 2 years ago
Tell them if they can't grasp your actual first name then they can call you Mrs. X. MIL is very rude. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
alithenewmc 2 years ago
Had it been me, and people came up asking if I was Katherine, I probably would have just shaken my head and said no, but not clarify anything. And I certainly wouldn't be answering to anyone calling me that after they'd been corrected- if you're not going to use my name, how do I know you're talking to me?
Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl) 2 years ago
I'm confused. MIL talks about her all the time, but still calls her the wrong name. Does she like the woman or not?
Hollie Marie 2 years ago
NTA my parents constantly spell my boyfriends name wrong, I'm always checking and correcting it (it's one letter)
Gozer LeGozerian 2 years ago
I'd just start calling them different names than the ones they have and then use the argument, that "I thought we choose what other people's names are?"
Danger Foley 2 years ago
I'd respond with, "Sorry, I don't know anyone named Katherine," every single time. When MIL dragged one up to me, insisting that I'm Katherine, I'd say, "I have no idea who this Katherine person is. My name is Rynn."
Cathryn Kulp 2 years ago
I've always been big on names, the correct way to say them and spell them because that's a person's identity and it's very important to say names right because it says that as a person you ARE important and matter very much and that should be respected I want to say to those In Laws that in life it's either about truth or fictitious with anything about a person, so in saying that Rynn is truth and Katherine is fictitious,, what'll it be?
Babs 2 years ago
I had a friend named Carey, but her mother in law kept calling her Cathy. She just put up with it and that's it. So it wasn't her name. She didn't die. My gosh all of you people , get over yourselves! You're not soooo speeeecial, that the world is going to come to an end over you!
Eledore Massis 2 years ago
Buy a cat. Go to IL's. Give cat. "Here is your Cat. And I am Rynn. Together we are CatRynn. Now Rynn will leave, enjoy your new Cat".
𝕜𝕣𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕖𝕟ᴛʜᴇ𝕜𝕚𝕕𝕕 2 years ago
They're only embarrassed because they're in the wrong and their friends told them so.
Sara Carrillo 2 years ago
What the ENTIRE fvck?! That's it, just like before when you took a break from them, you need to do it again and again and again until they can learn to respect you and your birth name. Eventually they will understand that you won't put up with it. Additionally, have your husband tell them that if or when you decide to have children they will not be a part of the children's lives until they can learn to respect their grandchildren's mother. PERIOD!
christie tondu 2 years ago
My name is Christie, not Christine or Chrissy. We have a family friend who, for years, called me Chrissy because she had another friend whose daughter was Chrissy...I put up with it until I was like 14 and then sassy teenage me corrected her...she never did it again...but I still have to correct people that I first meet who don't seem to understand that there is no N in my name...
Lemon Beans 2 years ago
She wasn't even rude about it 😭 I was expecting her to have gone off on the ILs but she literally just made a lighthearted joke ?? Super weird that they won't acknowledge her real name
CaTastrophy427 2 years ago
This is where I'd ask my spouse for any nicknames they hate. Oh, MIL Alexandria, you don't like being called Alex? Well you're Alex to me now. If you complain I might change it to Xander.
Chris DiDomenico 2 years ago
My name is "Chris" not Christine, Christina, or any other form of Christine. Just "Chris". People always think I am either a man or that I'm using a nickname. Had a doctor's office once tell me i'd need to produce my birth certificate before I could be entered into their system. Totally understand your frustrations. Arghhh with you!
Kate Sparks 2 years ago
I probably would have started saying "No, that's his previous wife, I'm Rynn"
Sparkle 2 years ago
I had this happen to me a lot growing up. It's absolutely annoying. I'd start calling the in-laws by random names, too, and when they complain just be like, "Oh, so it's ok for you to make up a name for me, but when I do it back, I'm the AH?" These AHs have absolutely NO respect , and I wouldn't be surprised if they are disrespectful in other areas, too. Also, this is such snobby behaviour....the very idea of "I'm right and you're wrong because I said so." Infuriating.
della99999 2 years ago
Aw so they gave you a nice nickname. If they called you "honey" would you be offended?
Padmavathi Remany 2 years ago
NTA... I just don't understand y should it be tough for someone to accept ur actual name? Or y should a grown up have such low IQ level to understand and call u by ur name properly? They are doing it deliberately. They were told enough number of times what ur name is, so they invited the harsh way of being told ur name. Their problem! They would not have been embarrassed if they behaved!
Cat Buchanan 2 years ago
My full name is Cathi ... with an I. My father hated nicknames that were shortened versions of names and the I is in honor of his baby sister whose full legal name is Vicki. I shortened Cathi to Cat. But I have put up with a lifetime of "is that short for Catherine (that was actually my Mom's choice for name)? And a lifetime of mis-spelling as Cathy or.Cathie. I feel for Rynn. I really do. I gave up on correcting my most recent in-laws on how my name is spelled. I was married for 16 1/2 YEARS before my husband died in August. Spelling wasn't worth the fight.
Deidre Westover 3 years ago
I changed pharmacies because a tech kept mangling my name. The final straw was her calling me David. I told her it was Deidre. She asked me if I was sure. WAS I SURE? I'm in my 40s. Of course I'm sure. I was afraid I'd end up with some dude name David's medication so I never went back.
Jen 2 years ago
They embarrassed themsrlves by intentionally using the wrong name. Their embarrassment was welldeserved and long overdue
Load More Replies... marianne eliza 3 years ago
The IL's are being passive-aggressive. I wonder why? Did they object to the marriage?
Chelsea Wicker 3 years ago (edited)
Lol I had a friend for maybe 6 years, she had a daughter named Dani and later got pregnant with her second child and we were discussing names and nicknames. She laughed at one point and said, "you won't believe how many people think Dani's name is short for r Danielle" I laughed along, then got awkwardly quiet before asking, "so, what it IS it short for?" Her answer, nothing. Rynn is a super cute name btw!
Becky Summer 3 years ago
I love the name RYNN ! My name is Becky not Rebecca, I didn't have as much trouble in school, mostly because I lived in a very small community, you know, everyone knew everybody and all their business. But, after I married and moved, I have been questioned about being Rebecca more times than I can count.
Heather Menard 3 years ago
Nta my exes name is Raul but his in laws called him Rudy because they couldn't bother to try to pronounce Raul.
Richard Alston 3 years ago
This is so easy to fix this non sense: get your birth certificate. Show them. The end!
ARCH-201 3 years ago (edited)
It sounds more like instead of them not believing her they just dc and don't think it's right to call her Rynn because it's close to a male name. As stated the parents don't agree with girls getting named with boy names
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