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Woman Returns Home From Gym To Take Her Headphones, Flabbergasted When Hubby Calls Her Disgusting
Woman Returns Home From Gym To Take Her Headphones, Flabbergasted When Hubby Calls Her Disgusting
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Woman Returns Home From Gym To Take Her Headphones, Flabbergasted When Hubby Calls Her Disgusting

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All relationships, whether romantic, platonic, or any other kind, sometimes go through hard times. And for every relationship, these hard times can look different — some people fight relentlessly, others give each other the silent treatment, and so on. 

As you could’ve guessed, a couple in today’s story were also going through a rough patch. Only their stress manifested in the husband being nitpicky and mean for basically no reason. In fact, he was so out of line that netizens didn’t shy away from calling him ridiculous.

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    All relationships, no matter their kind, are similar in that from time to time, they go through hard times; what differs is the form these times take

    Woman wearing headphones lifting weights in the gym, using headgear while working out.

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    In today’s story, the form a rough patch in a couple’s marriage took was one of them being nitpicky and annoyed for no reason

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    Text describing a wife's feelings after being called self-indulgent for using headphones at the gym.

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    One day, this woman went to a gym and realized her headphone case was empty — her husband took them for his walk

    Text discussing relationship stress and communication challenges between a husband and wife.

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    She came back home and waited until he came back, so she could take the headphones, as she likes playing her own music while working out

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    Yet, being waited for annoyed the husband and he exploded, calling his wife pathetic for doing so, which confused her, as she didn’t see any flaw in her actions

    One day, the OP, on her way to the gym, grabbed her headphone case and drove off. Yet, when she arrived, she realized the case was empty. Turns out, her husband took them for his walk.

    Apparently, listening to music while going on a walk is a very beneficial thing to do. Enjoyable music can improve a person’s gait and keep them moving longer and farther than they would without it. This is particularly advantageous when an individual goes on a walk for exercise purposes.

    So, there’s no question why the husband wanted to listen to music while on his walk. The question is why he took his wife’s headphones. Well, it so happens that they have only one pair for both of them, which is rather weird, but not the weirdest thing to happen in this story. 

    That was his reaction after he realized his wife had come back from the gym to wait for him to get back from his walk and take the headphones. He was disgusted by the woman doing such a thing and even called her “self-indulgent” and “pathetic”.

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    Let’s be honest, that was kind of an overreaction, wasn’t it? What was so disgusting about his wife’s actions? That’s what netizens thought too. His reaction was disproportionate to the event, to say the least. The woman just wanted to use her headphones in the gym.

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    Besides letting folks choose what plays in their ears instead of what’s played out loud in gyms, music also enhances workouts, no less than it does for the walking that we previously discussed. 

    For instance, when a person finds a song or a playlist that fits with their workout’s intensity and tempo, this increases their chances of completing the exercise. It can also improve a person’s mentality before exercise, boosting their motivation and confidence and decreasing vulnerability to fatigue, as it provides mental fortitude to complete the training.

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    The OP isn’t an exception here; she admitted that her sounds help her to feel more focused and determined. So, she was flabbergasted when her husband lost his cool when she wanted to use the headphones.

    Granted, later she revealed that this outburst didn’t come from nowhere – they had been going through a rough patch in their relationship. Of course, there’s nothing to be ashamed about there – even the best of relationships go through hard times. And there’s no exact answer on how to resolve these issues. For some, all it takes is talking it out, while others need a break from each other, and so on; it all depends on the case itself. 

    The OP herself noted that in their case, couples’ therapy might be a way. She talked with her husband and he realized his wrongdoing, but she knew that they needed something more to make sure it didn’t happen again. Well, let’s just hope that they’ll be able to find a solution.

    Netizens didn’t see anything wrong with it either and deemed the man to be disrespectful, to which the woman later revealed that couples’ therapy was on the table for them

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    Ugnė Bulotaitė

    Ugnė Bulotaitė

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    I am a writer at Bored Panda. I have loved creating and writing down stories about people and things since I was little and I think this passion led me to get degrees in sociology, communication, and journalism. These degrees opened various paths for me, and I got a chance to be a volunteer in the human rights field, and also try myself out in social research and journalism areas. Besides writing, my passions include pop culture: music, movies, TV shows; literature, and board games. In fact, I have been dubbed a board games devotee by some people in my life.

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    Ugnė Bulotaitė

    Ugnė Bulotaitė

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    I am a writer at Bored Panda. I have loved creating and writing down stories about people and things since I was little and I think this passion led me to get degrees in sociology, communication, and journalism. These degrees opened various paths for me, and I got a chance to be a volunteer in the human rights field, and also try myself out in social research and journalism areas. Besides writing, my passions include pop culture: music, movies, TV shows; literature, and board games. In fact, I have been dubbed a board games devotee by some people in my life.

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    lenka
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG. He is being "**extra** mean" at the moment? You do not share value, he think you are 'pathetic' and treats you like you like a dog s**t he accidentally stood in. Run girl. Run far. Run fast. Do not look back. This is not how people who love you treat you.

    Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, he’s using her headphones and goes towards personal abuse and disproportionate response. Just yikes on so many fronts. Extra mean is synonymous with escalating abuse. Yikes, just more yikes.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't bother with couples therapy. If that's emblematic of how he speaks to OP, there's nothing to save. Rough patch or not, if you aren't kind to your partner, if you make them feel bad on purpose, you aren't worth sticking around for.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Couples therapy isn't just for keeping couples together. A good therapist might recommend individual therapy if the individuals need it. If the couples therapy doesn't work, they can also help reduce conflicts in a breakup.

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    Sarah
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very strange reaction. I think there is another story here. Was he expecting you to be out of the house when he arrived home? Did you spook him by being home unexpectedly? Does he use those earphones for phone calls in another room? All odd. Sounds like he had other plans…. A private phone call? Could be anything.. his bank/ doctor/ mortgage provider/ his boss . He overreacted and I’d wonder why? Anger is a secondary emotion.. have a think what the first could be.. .

    PeakyBlinder
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesnt he have his own headphones? He has no business taking yours and much less judging what xou do or dont do in the gym

    Sue Ellen Bowen
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So it's ok for him to use earphones during his walk but not for his wife at the gym? Hypocrite.

    Monica G
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Using someone elses intra auricullar heatphones il like sharing a toothbrush. 😷

    Nils Skirnir
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He’s up to something that op interrupted

    Tams21
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't understand this at all, her wearing headphones doesn't affect him even in the slightest bit and I'd be worried about what other things he'd throw a tantrum about. The only possible explanation I can think of is that he wants control and that always a sign to run, even more so when it's about something as mind blowingly trivial like wearing headphones during a workout.

    Tyranamar Seuss
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His girlfriend was on her way over. He had to cancel bc she came back home. So he called her disgusting and attacker her values. He’s a nasty piece of work.

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    Janissary35680
    Community Member
    Premium
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Classic DARVO reaction here: Deny Attack Reverse Victim & Offender.

    Romy Rösli
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol, I wouldn’t consider wearing headphones while working out a value. This is so unhinged.

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
    Premium
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Buy him his *own* headphones + hide yours. Whatever BS is going on with him, OP needs to decide if he's worth the effort of marriage counseling, trying to appease him or if it's better to let go.

    Denise B.
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's cheating, as another suggested.

    Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Egads. He’s using her headphones which why in the world they don’t each have their own, I can only speculate. But he berated her and demeaned her as a person for wanting to use her own possession. Girl, leave. Just leave. If he meant it, that’s how he views you and if he didn’t, he’s over the top personally abusive for no reason. That’s going to be an escalating pattern to make you chase his approval going forward and it’s part of known abuse tactics. This isn’t a rough patch. It is a revelation of his true colors.

    Susie Elle
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What do values even have to do with any of this?

    painttheyellowsubgreen
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing. It's a psychological tool. I'm calling you mean horrible things but I have a right to because I'm morally superior to you.

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    Jan Kovář
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gym without headphones? Seriously? Lady, I am not going to the grocery store without my big ANC Headphones. And I am 51. :-D

    Tom De Paul
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, you need therapy to find out why you are unsure about whether it is okay to have your own wants and needs. You're not ready for couple's therapy. BTW, I'm a retired LCSW child, adolescent, and family therapist.

    Lover Boy Horny
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How many fake husbands you have? Lol

    Alexia
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. This reminds me of my abusive father's anger issues - but he has borderline disorder and an old depression, so for him there is an explanation. There seems to be none (that we know of) for this guy.

    Mary Muir
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    music at the gym? 100% normal. it gives you a bit of a mood lift, it helps you tune out distractions. Husband using your headphones instead of getting a pair of his own, and getting nasty when you take them back? completely unjustified! Ban husband from ever using your headphones again, and please clean them first!! And stop doing stuff for your husband. Laundry? No, I'm too pathetic to wash your clothes. Cooking dinner? Nah, I'm too pathetic to cook for you. just throw it in his face until he loses that word from his vocabulary.

    War Goddess
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    RUUUUUUUN! I'm not kidding. This guy is a psycho. controlling monster. Get rid of him while you still can.

    ADDchallengedINFP-T
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You believe this won't happen again. Well, It's a good belief. 1. what part was disgusting? Going to gym, coming back, getting pods, that he uses, too, wanting to listen to your own music, he doesn't? Therapy will be good, if it sticks.

    Password
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guy’s cheating. Also, wearing someone else’s headphones is disgusting.

    smithyjones
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, if he uses headphones, it's ok, but if she uses headphones, it's disgusting. I don't get it. What kind of psychopath is she married to?

    Cyndielouwhoo
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's a controlling abusive pr!ck, she should cut and run... NOW!

    ANGEL M
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm more disgusted at him "stealing" her headphones as clearly they are in ear headphones. You should not be sharing these sort of headphones!

    lenka
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG. He is being "**extra** mean" at the moment? You do not share value, he think you are 'pathetic' and treats you like you like a dog s**t he accidentally stood in. Run girl. Run far. Run fast. Do not look back. This is not how people who love you treat you.

    Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, he’s using her headphones and goes towards personal abuse and disproportionate response. Just yikes on so many fronts. Extra mean is synonymous with escalating abuse. Yikes, just more yikes.

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't bother with couples therapy. If that's emblematic of how he speaks to OP, there's nothing to save. Rough patch or not, if you aren't kind to your partner, if you make them feel bad on purpose, you aren't worth sticking around for.

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Couples therapy isn't just for keeping couples together. A good therapist might recommend individual therapy if the individuals need it. If the couples therapy doesn't work, they can also help reduce conflicts in a breakup.

    Load More Replies...
    Sarah
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very strange reaction. I think there is another story here. Was he expecting you to be out of the house when he arrived home? Did you spook him by being home unexpectedly? Does he use those earphones for phone calls in another room? All odd. Sounds like he had other plans…. A private phone call? Could be anything.. his bank/ doctor/ mortgage provider/ his boss . He overreacted and I’d wonder why? Anger is a secondary emotion.. have a think what the first could be.. .

    PeakyBlinder
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesnt he have his own headphones? He has no business taking yours and much less judging what xou do or dont do in the gym

    Sue Ellen Bowen
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So it's ok for him to use earphones during his walk but not for his wife at the gym? Hypocrite.

    Monica G
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Using someone elses intra auricullar heatphones il like sharing a toothbrush. 😷

    Nils Skirnir
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He’s up to something that op interrupted

    Tams21
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't understand this at all, her wearing headphones doesn't affect him even in the slightest bit and I'd be worried about what other things he'd throw a tantrum about. The only possible explanation I can think of is that he wants control and that always a sign to run, even more so when it's about something as mind blowingly trivial like wearing headphones during a workout.

    Tyranamar Seuss
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His girlfriend was on her way over. He had to cancel bc she came back home. So he called her disgusting and attacker her values. He’s a nasty piece of work.

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    Janissary35680
    Community Member
    Premium
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Classic DARVO reaction here: Deny Attack Reverse Victim & Offender.

    Romy Rösli
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol, I wouldn’t consider wearing headphones while working out a value. This is so unhinged.

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
    Premium
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Buy him his *own* headphones + hide yours. Whatever BS is going on with him, OP needs to decide if he's worth the effort of marriage counseling, trying to appease him or if it's better to let go.

    Denise B.
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's cheating, as another suggested.

    Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Egads. He’s using her headphones which why in the world they don’t each have their own, I can only speculate. But he berated her and demeaned her as a person for wanting to use her own possession. Girl, leave. Just leave. If he meant it, that’s how he views you and if he didn’t, he’s over the top personally abusive for no reason. That’s going to be an escalating pattern to make you chase his approval going forward and it’s part of known abuse tactics. This isn’t a rough patch. It is a revelation of his true colors.

    Susie Elle
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What do values even have to do with any of this?

    painttheyellowsubgreen
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing. It's a psychological tool. I'm calling you mean horrible things but I have a right to because I'm morally superior to you.

    Load More Replies...
    Jan Kovář
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gym without headphones? Seriously? Lady, I am not going to the grocery store without my big ANC Headphones. And I am 51. :-D

    Tom De Paul
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, you need therapy to find out why you are unsure about whether it is okay to have your own wants and needs. You're not ready for couple's therapy. BTW, I'm a retired LCSW child, adolescent, and family therapist.

    Lover Boy Horny
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How many fake husbands you have? Lol

    Alexia
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. This reminds me of my abusive father's anger issues - but he has borderline disorder and an old depression, so for him there is an explanation. There seems to be none (that we know of) for this guy.

    Mary Muir
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    music at the gym? 100% normal. it gives you a bit of a mood lift, it helps you tune out distractions. Husband using your headphones instead of getting a pair of his own, and getting nasty when you take them back? completely unjustified! Ban husband from ever using your headphones again, and please clean them first!! And stop doing stuff for your husband. Laundry? No, I'm too pathetic to wash your clothes. Cooking dinner? Nah, I'm too pathetic to cook for you. just throw it in his face until he loses that word from his vocabulary.

    War Goddess
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    RUUUUUUUN! I'm not kidding. This guy is a psycho. controlling monster. Get rid of him while you still can.

    ADDchallengedINFP-T
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You believe this won't happen again. Well, It's a good belief. 1. what part was disgusting? Going to gym, coming back, getting pods, that he uses, too, wanting to listen to your own music, he doesn't? Therapy will be good, if it sticks.

    Password
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Guy’s cheating. Also, wearing someone else’s headphones is disgusting.

    smithyjones
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, if he uses headphones, it's ok, but if she uses headphones, it's disgusting. I don't get it. What kind of psychopath is she married to?

    Cyndielouwhoo
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's a controlling abusive pr!ck, she should cut and run... NOW!

    ANGEL M
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm more disgusted at him "stealing" her headphones as clearly they are in ear headphones. You should not be sharing these sort of headphones!

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