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Guy Snaps After Wife Leaves Baby In His Care For 2.5 Hours, She Stops Doing Anything For Him
Interview With ExpertEveryone knows that having a baby is no joke, so the father is expected to step up after the mother goes through the whole painful process. Unfortunately, not all men understand that taking responsibility in such a time is the bare minimum that they have to do.
Just look at this couple where the husband disregarded the fact that his wife was suffering from post-partum depression. She dealt with it solo, while managing the baby and the house most of the time. However, she lost all love for him when he crossed a line. Read on to find out what he said!
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When her son was born, the poster was diagnosed with post-partum depression, but her husband barely cared about her, so she dealt with it on her own
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One day, when she left the baby alone with him, he snapped as it kept “disturbing his gaming with the boys,” which sparked a conflict between them
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Despite the poster having her small side business, he insulted her for being a stay-at-home mom, when he was on the microphone with his friends
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However, that was the final straw for her, as she stopped doing anything for him, and he complained that the whole house was a mess
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Even though he apologized for what he had said, the poster claimed that the ship had already sailed, and she even considered divorce
Today, we dive into the original poster’s (OP) world as she narrates how she fell out of love with her husband. They were together for nine years, but trouble started brewing in the relationship when they had a baby. Just 2.5 weeks after delivery, OP was diagnosed with post-partum depression, and things started escalating as her husband couldn’t deal with it.
He found her “anger” so intolerable that he would often leave her and the baby alone in their new house to hang out with his buddies. The poor woman dealt with it on her own, healed a little, and only then did he start getting involved. She felt like things were finally good between them, but it quickly disappeared when she had to leave their son with him for just 2.5 hours to get groceries.
He was totally irked as the sick baby kept crying, which “distracted” him from his video games. When OP returned, she calmed the baby and told him that’s how her life is like every day, jokingly. Well, the man just snapped saying she got breaks when the baby napped, and went on a rant about how she should get a job and contribute financially apart from her small side business.
This was the last straw for OP, after which she removed her ring, and just checked out of the relationship. She simply refused to do anything for him, whether it be his dishes, his laundry, plating his food, or even cleaning up after him. Well, looking at the mess, he apologized to her for what he had said, but OP claimed that the damage was already done, and she wanted a divorce.
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Whew, that must have been truly harrowing for the poster! To understand more about such a broken marriage, Bored Panda interviewed Eden Lobo, a counselor and psychology professor. She explained that when postpartum depression is combined with sudden isolation and lack of partner support, it often turns into survival mode rather than a temporary low mood.
“Even if things improve later, the experience can leave lasting resentment and loss of trust. Needing support and not getting it during such a vulnerable time often changes how safe the relationship feels unless it’s truly acknowledged and repaired,” she added. However, looking at the story, it doesn’t seem that the guy even tried to repair anything in the first place.
Also, the fact that he dismissed and even insulted her in front of his friends must have felt like a punch in the face. Our expert also stressed that “Minimizing stay-at-home parenting as ‘not real work’ invalidates the effort and exhaustion involved, often leading to shame, burnout, and resentment. It sends the message that one partner’s contribution doesn’t count.”
On top of that, Prof. Lobo claimed that when a partner humiliates a person in front of others, it deeply undermines emotional safety in a marriage. She believes that it’s only natural that a person will withdraw from their partner in such a situation. A lot of netizens suggested that divorce is the only solution for such an unsupportive and cruel partner.
Do you agree with their verdict? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!
Folks online wasted no time in calling the guy a huge jerk, and many suggested that getting a divorce was the only solution
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Jenna Kay 2 months ago
My ex-husband wanted a child, as did I. But I guess reality set in and he disappeared while I was pregnant. A private investigator found him and he was served with divorce papers. At first he did not want a divorce, but the judge told him he couldn't make that choice after he literally up and walked off. Then he said he wanted joint custody, which also did not go over well given his behaviour in court. He had also filed a police report saying I had stolen things from him, things that I had the receipts for, things that I owned before we got married. He and his lawyer were told they were going to go to jail for insurance fraud and filing a fraudulent police report. In the end, my ex-husband signed away his parental rights, was banned from ever seeing the baby, and he and his lawyer had to take pleas. I have never been angry with him, I was hurt, I was alone, I was scared, but I had to be a mother to my beautiful child. I regret nothing.
Earonn - 2 months ago
So many men want the title of "having fathered a child" way more than the actual child. Like spoilt children who want a dog.
Vinnie 2 months ago
I have serious douts when a man pushes for a child if he has no idea what's involved. I have far more esteem for the man who minded his toddler niece for 24 hours, was exhausted and absolutely ecstatic about that kind of tiredness. Years later, he was changing diapers on his daughter and then preparing to take her outside. He told me he really liked carrying her in the Snugli.
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RomanceRadish 2 months ago
Among other points, if she'd start working full time they'd need at least $15,000 a year just to cover daycare.
Kate Johnson 2 months ago
He's an entirely worthless POS as a husband and a father. I bet the very best you can hope for from him is a child support check.
Trashy Panda 2 months ago
I don't HAVE to look after my son, I GET to look after my son. It's a privilege not a chore.
Anne Roberts 2 months ago (edited)
My ex and I divorced many years ago. A few years later our son , then 18, was diagnosed with a brain tumor. His dad would call him every couple of months for a 5 minute talk. Meanwhile I was the parent taking our son to oncologists, chemo appointments, infusions, therapy, midnight trips to the ER when I could get him to the car, and calling 911 when he was having seizures. Meanwhile my ex remarried, moved several states away, started a business, went on trips, did sports, etc. I worked two jobs. Our son passed away earlier this year and I will always be heartbroken. My ex missed all those years with our amazing son and I will never forgive him. Yes, I am bitter because our son deserved so much more.
Chrystina Sumpter 2 months ago
My parents were divorced. This was not a bad thing since they were really bad at being married. However, they were both fantastic at being parents. When my brother and I were in are late teens, our Dad shared with us how thrilled he was that we were growing into adults that he not only loved, but liked and with whom he enjoyed spending time. He also talked about other divorced men that he knew who hadn’t bothered to build a relationship with their children when they were young, but were surprised that now, as young adults, their children were uninterested in a relationship with their fathers. I have the feeling that the father here will be one of those regretful fathers.
lfc73 1 month ago
Love, RUN. This man-child (emphasis on CHILD) does NOT deserve you or your beautiful baby. He has shown you EXACTLY who he is, and it is disgraceful and incredibly childish. Based on what you have said He isn’t a proper father At All. Go back to your Mum’s. Strong women deserve better than this nonsense fool of a “man.” He’s pathetic and he will never be worthy of your trust. Get as far away from him as you can as fast as you can. All the best.
Tom 2 months ago
It took the baby to really show how selfish the guy was.
Load More Replies... Vinnie 2 months ago
The offer to go to therapy is likely a delaying tactic to put off separation. On the other hand, I know couples who've benefitted because the marriage counselor didn't take sides and both people were willing to work on themselves.
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Jenna Kay 2 months ago
My ex-husband wanted a child, as did I. But I guess reality set in and he disappeared while I was pregnant. A private investigator found him and he was served with divorce papers. At first he did not want a divorce, but the judge told him he couldn't make that choice after he literally up and walked off. Then he said he wanted joint custody, which also did not go over well given his behaviour in court. He had also filed a police report saying I had stolen things from him, things that I had the receipts for, things that I owned before we got married. He and his lawyer were told they were going to go to jail for insurance fraud and filing a fraudulent police report. In the end, my ex-husband signed away his parental rights, was banned from ever seeing the baby, and he and his lawyer had to take pleas. I have never been angry with him, I was hurt, I was alone, I was scared, but I had to be a mother to my beautiful child. I regret nothing.
Earonn - 2 months ago
So many men want the title of "having fathered a child" way more than the actual child. Like spoilt children who want a dog.
Vinnie 2 months ago
I have serious douts when a man pushes for a child if he has no idea what's involved. I have far more esteem for the man who minded his toddler niece for 24 hours, was exhausted and absolutely ecstatic about that kind of tiredness. Years later, he was changing diapers on his daughter and then preparing to take her outside. He told me he really liked carrying her in the Snugli.
Load More Replies... RomanceRadish 2 months ago
Among other points, if she'd start working full time they'd need at least $15,000 a year just to cover daycare.
Kate Johnson 2 months ago
He's an entirely worthless POS as a husband and a father. I bet the very best you can hope for from him is a child support check.
Trashy Panda 2 months ago
I don't HAVE to look after my son, I GET to look after my son. It's a privilege not a chore.
Anne Roberts 2 months ago (edited)
My ex and I divorced many years ago. A few years later our son , then 18, was diagnosed with a brain tumor. His dad would call him every couple of months for a 5 minute talk. Meanwhile I was the parent taking our son to oncologists, chemo appointments, infusions, therapy, midnight trips to the ER when I could get him to the car, and calling 911 when he was having seizures. Meanwhile my ex remarried, moved several states away, started a business, went on trips, did sports, etc. I worked two jobs. Our son passed away earlier this year and I will always be heartbroken. My ex missed all those years with our amazing son and I will never forgive him. Yes, I am bitter because our son deserved so much more.
Chrystina Sumpter 2 months ago
My parents were divorced. This was not a bad thing since they were really bad at being married. However, they were both fantastic at being parents. When my brother and I were in are late teens, our Dad shared with us how thrilled he was that we were growing into adults that he not only loved, but liked and with whom he enjoyed spending time. He also talked about other divorced men that he knew who hadn’t bothered to build a relationship with their children when they were young, but were surprised that now, as young adults, their children were uninterested in a relationship with their fathers. I have the feeling that the father here will be one of those regretful fathers.
lfc73 1 month ago
Love, RUN. This man-child (emphasis on CHILD) does NOT deserve you or your beautiful baby. He has shown you EXACTLY who he is, and it is disgraceful and incredibly childish. Based on what you have said He isn’t a proper father At All. Go back to your Mum’s. Strong women deserve better than this nonsense fool of a “man.” He’s pathetic and he will never be worthy of your trust. Get as far away from him as you can as fast as you can. All the best.
Tom 2 months ago
It took the baby to really show how selfish the guy was.
Load More Replies... Vinnie 2 months ago
The offer to go to therapy is likely a delaying tactic to put off separation. On the other hand, I know couples who've benefitted because the marriage counselor didn't take sides and both people were willing to work on themselves.
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