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Woman Refuses To Share Any Pregnancy Details With Husband After His Comment, He Misses The Birth
During pregnancy, moms are supposed to experience as little stress and anxiety as possible. If they have any questions or feel uncomfortable, medical professionals and loved ones are there to help them. Yet 45% of pregnant women say they’re afraid of asking questions and sharing concerns.
Talking about pregnancy shouldn’t be taboo, but when you have a husband who thinks the things your pregnant body does are ‘gross,’ you might become embarrassed. When this husband thought his wife was giving his sister pregnancy TMI, he didn’t hesitate to call it “disgusting.” What he didn’t think of was that the wife would retaliate and decide to exclude him from the birth.
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A woman was sharing pregnancy details with her SIL when her husband suddenly called her “disgusting”
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Since he hadn’t apologized, she didn’t tell him when the labor started, prompting him to miss the delivery
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Pregnant women already feel shame about their bodies
Women generally experience a lot of shame related to their bodies. Take menstruation, for example: 42% of women in the U.S. say they have experienced shaming about it from their male friends and family members. Many internalize that shame, as 58% of women admitted they feel ashamed when they menstruate.
When a woman is pregnant, her partner’s reactions to her and her body matter a lot. Research shows that women welcome and want support from their partners during pregnancy. However, if they feel like their partner is coming from a place of judgment or offering unwanted support, they’re less likely to accept it.
Women in general deal with a lot of body issues. But with pregnancy, they may become even more exacerbated. A 2023 study revealed that pregnant women have mostly negative feelings toward their body changes.
- They felt unattractive due to stretch marks and changes in skin color;
- They felt like they were not fit enough and would compare their body shape with other women in the media;
- They felt uncomfortable that their bellies and hips would draw attention in public places;
- Some women were worried they looked obese;
- They felt less attractive to their partners.
So, when your husband tells you that your pregnant body is “disgusting,” all these insecurities and worries are only made worse. At the end of the day, isn’t one of the marriage vows “In sickness and in health?”
There are other things partners should avoid saying to their pregnant wives
Referring to your wife’s body as “disgusting” might be one of the worst things to say. But there are other topics that spouses should refrain from while their partner is pregnant if they do not want to insult or hurt them. These are the main ones, according to obstetrician and gynecologist Robert Stewart, M.D.:
- Don’t complain you aren’t sleeping enough. It’s hard for pregnant women to find a comfortable sleeping position for their growing bellies. All the tossing and turning is nothing compared to what the dad is going through. Making it about yourself during the pregnancy period in general is just jerk behavior.
- Don’t ask what’s for dinner. Pregnancy cravings are a real thing. “My wife ate cheese sticks, boiled eggs, and raspberries for about the first two months of her pregnancy,” Stewart recalls. “That’s what tasted good to her and didn’t make her sick.” Give up certain meals if the aromas are making the pregnant person nauseous – at the end of the day, they’re not making that up.
- Don’t make her feel guilty for not wanting to be intimate. Stewart urges husbands to compliment their wives and make them feel as beautiful as they can, especially since a pregnant woman’s self-esteem can be low because of her body image. But only push intimacy if she’s up for it. “If she’s not into it, be understanding and don’t make her feel bad about it,” Stewart reiterates.
- Don’t undermine her pain. Especially during delivery. It might seem that the pain can’t be that bad. “It is,” Stewart says. “You can’t even imagine. Don’t try to empathize with her pain. Don’t try to minimize it. Just let her experience it, hold her hand, and do what she asks and needs you to do.”
“Why are you even with this l***r?” commenters asked, siding with the wife
One person even shared a similar story
Others, however, thought the mom was being too petty: “You went way too far”
A few days passed, but the husband hadn’t apologized, so, the mom packed her and the baby’s things and went to her brother’s
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“I don’t think counseling will fix whatever’s wrong with him,” the commenters reacted
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Michael MacKinnon 4 months ago
I think there's some details missing here that would explain why this was the straw that broke the camel's back. Either way, missing your child's birth because you were out for a beer with the lads is incredibly insensitive / stupid.
- 4 months ago
I was on the fence until it turned out he ignored (or pretended to ignore) messages that day. Holy cr@p - there are men who absolutely want to be there to welcome their child. After the birth of his first child, one of my favourite bosses left for a job with better hours. He was really excited and said, "My kids are going to know me."
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Asri 4 months ago
What kind of manchild doesn't even notice the health and comfort issues the woman *pregnant with your child* is having?
Crystalwitch60 4 months ago
Ops husband ,that’s who oh n add inhuman to manchild to
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TruthoftheHeart 4 months ago
He sounds like the type who would ban period Talk around him. Sounds like a horrible guy, I would leave his a*s for sure
Debbie 4 months ago
This marriage is over. She already distanced herself emotionally, and he is fine with it.
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Littlemiss 4 months ago
Wow, just wow. Ignored multiple calls, voicemails, and texts to be with the boys. I'm so glad I have the husband I do, this tosspot doesn't deserve to be called a man. He isn't one.
Spencers slave no more 4 months ago
I strongly suspect that "the boys" may have been someone else entirely.
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Kate Johnson 4 months ago
This man is a worthless AH and she should divorce him. He's not good for anything but a child support check.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 4 months ago
Ladies, stop reproducing with scumbags!! Seriously, save yourselves!
JB 4 months ago
Tell you what, start tattooing your foreheads with, “narcissist”, “rapist”, “physically violent”, “lazy”, “misogynistic”, “gold digger” … and while we’re at it, everyone should also have their worst and best traits tattooed onto their forehead so no one ever gets fooled.
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Earonn - 4 months ago
Yeah, god forbid that a manly masculine alpha male man like him had to apologise for saying horrible shyte and showing how little he knows about and respects the body that brings his child into the world. And even afterwards it's all about his pride, he doesn't care about the child. He managed to hide his horrible se/xism until they had a child, many other men don't - and they are the ones complaining about the "male loneliness epidemic". OP was lucky to have such great in-laws, though!
cholera epidemic 4 months ago
Everyone that commented YTA has clearly never experienced a pregnancy or has enough empathy to care for someone who's gone through pregnancy.
Tyranamar Seuss 4 months ago
This is weird to me. Just giving the silent treatment. Do you want to resolve your issues or do you want to be right? You could have- IDK, explained how he made you feel. So that he would get why you're so upset. And maybe apologize? Both these people seem toxic to me. But men who can't handle talk about women's bodies are scaredy pants little sissies. It's an extremely unattractive quality in a man.
Pittsburgh rare 4 months ago
She did! There was even a fight over the "disgusting" comment. He is simply the type who doesn't apologize
Load More Replies... weatherwitch 4 months ago
If he found talk about low key pregnancy stuff so disgusting no wonder he was unable to face the birth. Having the placenta dumped on his head, now that would be disgusting.... Yer also delightful 😂 This man is a brazen idiot, choosing a beer with mates over the birth of his child Even though his entire family informed him throughout. As others have said, divorce the man, keep the in-laws. And I wonder if her parents might divorce too, that's extremely disturbing her fathers reaction 😔
Melissa Harris 4 months ago
The OP married (figuratively) her father. We often marry people that remind us of the parent we have unresolved issues with. The marriage was over the moment she became pregnant as he's a misogynistic narcissist that wasn't ever going to be a good father.
Crystalwitch60 4 months ago
That man is a vile disgusting inhuman !! yes he made a comment that could have been rectified. What did he do next ignored calls saying op was in labour cos he was out on the lash with mates . HOW OLD IS HE 38 or 18 ffs what a horrid person he is , now he’s doing the DARVO , Op I gotta ask wtf are you even doing with this erm ,how can I say this nicely hmm manchild pos!! and as for your freaking father keep him out your lives and your daughters 🤬 come on husband ignoring your beautiful baby girl cos your so deluded n childish is PATHETIC!! Op divorce this waste of space ! Citing what you, told us , aka MENTAL CRUELTY ! as that’s exactly what it is ! and sole custody of your baby girl ! NO CONTACT END OFF , you you dont want her subjected to him !! keep the in-laws tho they sound awesome! And from the uk have a wonderful inhuman free life lovely x blessed be x
Jp@nda 4 months ago
Comparing pushing air out of your a** to a body changing to grow and feed another human is ridiculous. You are a ridiculous little man
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spacer 4 months ago
she wasnt talking to her husband tho, but his sister who wanted to know what it was like to be pregnant. theres no sugar coating it because its nasty and it will change your body for the worst. he could have moved further away or focused his attention elsewhere
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Michael MacKinnon 4 months ago
I think there's some details missing here that would explain why this was the straw that broke the camel's back. Either way, missing your child's birth because you were out for a beer with the lads is incredibly insensitive / stupid.
- 4 months ago
I was on the fence until it turned out he ignored (or pretended to ignore) messages that day. Holy cr@p - there are men who absolutely want to be there to welcome their child. After the birth of his first child, one of my favourite bosses left for a job with better hours. He was really excited and said, "My kids are going to know me."
Load More Replies... Asri 4 months ago
What kind of manchild doesn't even notice the health and comfort issues the woman *pregnant with your child* is having?
Crystalwitch60 4 months ago
Ops husband ,that’s who oh n add inhuman to manchild to
Load More Replies... TruthoftheHeart 4 months ago
He sounds like the type who would ban period Talk around him. Sounds like a horrible guy, I would leave his a*s for sure
Debbie 4 months ago
This marriage is over. She already distanced herself emotionally, and he is fine with it.
Load More Replies... Littlemiss 4 months ago
Wow, just wow. Ignored multiple calls, voicemails, and texts to be with the boys. I'm so glad I have the husband I do, this tosspot doesn't deserve to be called a man. He isn't one.
Spencers slave no more 4 months ago
I strongly suspect that "the boys" may have been someone else entirely.
Load More Replies... Kate Johnson 4 months ago
This man is a worthless AH and she should divorce him. He's not good for anything but a child support check.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 4 months ago
Ladies, stop reproducing with scumbags!! Seriously, save yourselves!
JB 4 months ago
Tell you what, start tattooing your foreheads with, “narcissist”, “rapist”, “physically violent”, “lazy”, “misogynistic”, “gold digger” … and while we’re at it, everyone should also have their worst and best traits tattooed onto their forehead so no one ever gets fooled.
Load More Replies... Earonn - 4 months ago
Yeah, god forbid that a manly masculine alpha male man like him had to apologise for saying horrible shyte and showing how little he knows about and respects the body that brings his child into the world. And even afterwards it's all about his pride, he doesn't care about the child. He managed to hide his horrible se/xism until they had a child, many other men don't - and they are the ones complaining about the "male loneliness epidemic". OP was lucky to have such great in-laws, though!
cholera epidemic 4 months ago
Everyone that commented YTA has clearly never experienced a pregnancy or has enough empathy to care for someone who's gone through pregnancy.
Tyranamar Seuss 4 months ago
This is weird to me. Just giving the silent treatment. Do you want to resolve your issues or do you want to be right? You could have- IDK, explained how he made you feel. So that he would get why you're so upset. And maybe apologize? Both these people seem toxic to me. But men who can't handle talk about women's bodies are scaredy pants little sissies. It's an extremely unattractive quality in a man.
Pittsburgh rare 4 months ago
She did! There was even a fight over the "disgusting" comment. He is simply the type who doesn't apologize
Load More Replies... weatherwitch 4 months ago
If he found talk about low key pregnancy stuff so disgusting no wonder he was unable to face the birth. Having the placenta dumped on his head, now that would be disgusting.... Yer also delightful 😂 This man is a brazen idiot, choosing a beer with mates over the birth of his child Even though his entire family informed him throughout. As others have said, divorce the man, keep the in-laws. And I wonder if her parents might divorce too, that's extremely disturbing her fathers reaction 😔
Melissa Harris 4 months ago
The OP married (figuratively) her father. We often marry people that remind us of the parent we have unresolved issues with. The marriage was over the moment she became pregnant as he's a misogynistic narcissist that wasn't ever going to be a good father.
Crystalwitch60 4 months ago
That man is a vile disgusting inhuman !! yes he made a comment that could have been rectified. What did he do next ignored calls saying op was in labour cos he was out on the lash with mates . HOW OLD IS HE 38 or 18 ffs what a horrid person he is , now he’s doing the DARVO , Op I gotta ask wtf are you even doing with this erm ,how can I say this nicely hmm manchild pos!! and as for your freaking father keep him out your lives and your daughters 🤬 come on husband ignoring your beautiful baby girl cos your so deluded n childish is PATHETIC!! Op divorce this waste of space ! Citing what you, told us , aka MENTAL CRUELTY ! as that’s exactly what it is ! and sole custody of your baby girl ! NO CONTACT END OFF , you you dont want her subjected to him !! keep the in-laws tho they sound awesome! And from the uk have a wonderful inhuman free life lovely x blessed be x
Jp@nda 4 months ago
Comparing pushing air out of your a** to a body changing to grow and feed another human is ridiculous. You are a ridiculous little man
Load More Replies... spacer 4 months ago
she wasnt talking to her husband tho, but his sister who wanted to know what it was like to be pregnant. theres no sugar coating it because its nasty and it will change your body for the worst. he could have moved further away or focused his attention elsewhere
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