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Woman Learns Husband Is Sleeping With Her Cousin, Ensures They Both Live To Regret It
Woman Learns Husband Is Sleeping With Her Cousin, Ensures They Both Live To Regret It
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Woman Learns Husband Is Sleeping With Her Cousin, Ensures They Both Live To Regret It

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There are few things that a spouse can do that would be worse than cheating. But infidelity can sting even more when you’re betrayed by your partner and a family member at the same time.

One woman recently shared on Reddit that she caught her husband cheating with her cousin. But instead of calling them out immediately, she waited for the perfect moment to expose them. Below, you’ll find the full story, as well as some of the replies invested readers shared. 

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    This woman was shocked to find out that her husband had been having an affair with her cousin

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    But instead of exposing them immediately, she waited until the perfect moment to call them out

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    Cheating is unfortunately quite common in marriages

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    When we say “I do,” we imagine our marriages to last “until death do us part.” But unfortunately, life isn’t a fairytale, and about half of all first marriages will end because one or both partners decide that they want out. This could be for a variety of reasons, but one common reason for relationships ending is because one partner has been unfaithful

    According to PsychCentral, a 2021 survey found that about 46% of respondents in committed relationships admitted that they had cheated. However, nearly a quarter of marriages where someone has been unfaithful manage to stay together. But many of the partners who strayed didn’t get off without any consequences, as 47.5% of relationships who had been affected by infidelity decided to enforce new rules, such as sharing passwords. 

    PsychCentral reports that men are nearly twice as likely as women to say they’ve cheated, and over a quarter of people who are divorced admit they’ve cheated. Cheating also becomes more common as we get older, as only 11% of 18-40 year olds say they’ve been unfaithful, while 16% of those between 41 and 54 say the same, as well as 18% of those aged 55 to 64.

    Spouses decide to be unfaithful for a variety of reasons

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    As far as why people decide to cheat on their spouses, Verywell Mind notes that the top eight reasons cheaters cite are: anger, low self-esteem, lack of love, low commitment, need for variety, neglect, sexual desire and circumstance. Some factors that might put a marriage at higher risk of someone engaging in infidelity are financial pressures, low compatibility, an emotional or physical disconnect, a lack of respect or lack of communication.

    Men and women also tend to seek out affairs for different reasons. Verywell Mind explains that men are often motivated by a desire for more sex or attention. If they feel unsatisfied sexually, they might look elsewhere. Women, on the other hand, tend to cheat to attempt to fill an emotional void. They might complain about feeling disconnected from their partner, unappreciated or ignored before seeking validation elsewhere. 

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    There are also individual risk factors that might make a person more likely to cheat on their partner. If they struggle with addiction, have attachment avoidance or attachment insecurity, have unresolved childhood trauma, were exposed to infidelity in childhood, have a mental illness, have previously cheated, or have psychological issues, a person may be more likely to have an affair. 

    Cheaters often have affairs with people that their spouses know too

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    While it is sometimes possible to salvage a relationship after one or both partners have cheated, it certainly won’t be easy, and it might not even be worth it. According to a 2017 study, there actually is some truth to the old saying “once a cheater, always a cheater.” And breaking a partner’s trust can do irreparable damage to a relationship. 

    PsychCentral notes that those who have been cheated on might experience symptoms similar to PTSD or go through the 5 stages of grief upon finding out about an affair. At the same time, the rejection that those who have been cheated on feel can cause changes in the brain pathways similar to withdrawal in substance abuse disorder. And unfortunately, cheating with someone that both spouses know, as the man in this story did, is surprisingly common.

    According to Couples Academy, 43.7% of women and 22.2% of men who cheat do so with someone who both partners know. Another study found that over half of cheaters admitted to having affairs with close personal friends, and nearly a third admit having cheated with a neighbor, friend or long-term acquaintance. Unfortunately, the woman in this story certainly isn’t the first to have experienced a situation like this. If you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article discussing infidelity, look no further than right here.

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    Readers applauded the woman for her revenge and assured her that she had done nothing wrong

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    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Adelaide May Ross

    Adelaide May Ross

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about three years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

    What do you think ?
    DrBronxx
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I found out because they are both stupid" - whether this story is real or fake, that is a great line.

    Kathleen McGann
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who are these people whose grandparents give them money for a house when they graduate from college? People who have prenups. It's like a fantasy world. My parents paid for university and helped me with a down payment, but we're talking $10,000. And that's more than all my friends got. My grandparents had no money at all. Do only the super rich post on AITAH? Jeez!

    similarly
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know a wealthy family like this. People like this do exist.

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    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Literal F around and find out. Could she have “handled it better”? Maybe. But they fully got what they deserved.

    Jane Doe
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right? She could have not told her family that she’s divorcing her husband because he was sleeping with her cousin. But why? The only people her son of omission would protect are the guilty. Maybe, don’t do s****y things and you won’t have s****y consequences. Love the aunt and uncle. “How dare you hurt our daughter. Yes, she banged your husband, but she doesn’t DESERVE bad things to happen because of that.

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    Charles McChristy
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just love it when parents blame the victim because they raised a horrible human being. OP didn't screw her out of the money. She screwed herself by screwing OP's ex.

    MR
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just look how is defending the cousin. Oh yes. Her parents. Who raised an entitled princess who has no sense of right and wrong.

    Joe Reaves
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think waiting three months made any difference. It was way too late for the cousin to do anything to change the financial decisions she'd made in expectation of the money and I doubt the grandparents would have given her the money just because they had three months to cool down. And going to the grandparents was a smart move because the soon to be ex had more trouble getting to her. It sounds like they're the ones with money, not necessarily her parents (since her brother had to get student loans) which means their house is probably a lot better protected both through cameras and such and the fact that people with that amount of disposable wealth live in communities where strangers are noticed (and also gossip is wide spread so all their neighbours likely knew she was there because she'd left her husband and would be more likely to then spot said husband and notify her family that he was there. So she didn't really do anything to get revenge, cousin did it all to herself.

    Michelle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wealthy or not, I love these eff around and find out stories where the victim pwns like a boss!

    Michelle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wealthy or no, gotta say I love these eff around and find out stories where the victim pwns like a boss!

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    DrBronxx
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I found out because they are both stupid" - whether this story is real or fake, that is a great line.

    Kathleen McGann
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who are these people whose grandparents give them money for a house when they graduate from college? People who have prenups. It's like a fantasy world. My parents paid for university and helped me with a down payment, but we're talking $10,000. And that's more than all my friends got. My grandparents had no money at all. Do only the super rich post on AITAH? Jeez!

    similarly
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know a wealthy family like this. People like this do exist.

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    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Literal F around and find out. Could she have “handled it better”? Maybe. But they fully got what they deserved.

    Jane Doe
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right? She could have not told her family that she’s divorcing her husband because he was sleeping with her cousin. But why? The only people her son of omission would protect are the guilty. Maybe, don’t do s****y things and you won’t have s****y consequences. Love the aunt and uncle. “How dare you hurt our daughter. Yes, she banged your husband, but she doesn’t DESERVE bad things to happen because of that.

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    Charles McChristy
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just love it when parents blame the victim because they raised a horrible human being. OP didn't screw her out of the money. She screwed herself by screwing OP's ex.

    MR
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just look how is defending the cousin. Oh yes. Her parents. Who raised an entitled princess who has no sense of right and wrong.

    Joe Reaves
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think waiting three months made any difference. It was way too late for the cousin to do anything to change the financial decisions she'd made in expectation of the money and I doubt the grandparents would have given her the money just because they had three months to cool down. And going to the grandparents was a smart move because the soon to be ex had more trouble getting to her. It sounds like they're the ones with money, not necessarily her parents (since her brother had to get student loans) which means their house is probably a lot better protected both through cameras and such and the fact that people with that amount of disposable wealth live in communities where strangers are noticed (and also gossip is wide spread so all their neighbours likely knew she was there because she'd left her husband and would be more likely to then spot said husband and notify her family that he was there. So she didn't really do anything to get revenge, cousin did it all to herself.

    Michelle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wealthy or not, I love these eff around and find out stories where the victim pwns like a boss!

    Michelle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wealthy or no, gotta say I love these eff around and find out stories where the victim pwns like a boss!

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