Woman Decides To Stay At Hotel During Vacay, BF’s Family Offended She Won’t Abide By Their Rules
Interview With ExpertHarry Potter is trending again, but today we’ll remember the boy wizard for a completely different reason. If you recall, Harry lived for many years in a cramped room under the stairs with his aunt and uncle, but such cruelty was most likely because his relatives were forced to live next to a living Horcrux, which only amplified their negative traits.
Okay, so what kind of Horcrux was influencing the parents of our narrator’s boyfriend, who not only forbade them from sharing a room during visits but also tried to house her in a similarly windowless room? Okay, let’s try to figure it out together.
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Many parents try to influence their children still, even after they come of age, making the separation process incredibly painful for both sides
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The author of the post has a boyfriend, and his parents recently invited them to stay in their beach house during their vacation
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The woman, however, rejected this kind invitation – mostly because of the quite uncomfortable experience of her previous stay there
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The author rented a hotel room 10 minutes away from their house, and her boyfriend stayed at his parents’ place
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However, the boyfriend’s mom got incredibly offended by the author’s “rudeness” and literally made her apologize profusely
So, the original poster (OP) and her boyfriend are both in their mid-twenties, and they recently planned a vacation near his parents’ house. They live literally on the beach and invited the couple to stay with them. However, our heroine decided to decline this hospitable offer – and here’s why.
The thing is, the boyfriend’s parents, since they’re not yet married, always ask them to refrain from sharing a room while at their home. Well, their home, their rules, but since her last visit, the author has been incredibly upset to be housed in a windowless, very stuffy closet with a very narrow bed.
Furthermore, the boyfriend’s father is an early riser. No, that’s not true – he’s a VERY early riser, and this decent gentleman’s usual morning ritual involves getting up at 4:30 a.m., blasting the music at top volume, and singing loudly while making coffee and breakfast. Just agree, that’s not exactly what you expect from a beach vacation, is it?
So, anticipating “all the delights” of staying at this house, the OP politely declined the invitation, renting a hotel room ten minutes’ walk from her partner’s parents’ house. He, in turn, went to their place, but his mom took offense at the author, and during a FaceTime conversation, icily asked why her house wasn’t good enough for the OP.
Our heroine tried to politely explain that she didn’t mean to offend any of her boyfriend’s relatives, and the guy also sided with her. At the very least, because now he had to live in that very same room since his siblings had come over as well. Overall, it was a very unpleasant situation, and the author decided to take this online, seeking netizens’ support.
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“Most likely, the issue here has nothing to do with principles or hospitality, but simply a desire to demonstrate power,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here. “Yes, hosts have the right to set their own rules in their home, but guests also have the right to refuse to spend the night there, don’t they?”
According to the expert, this man’s parents, or perhaps just his mother, are trying to show, probably quite unconsciously, that they are the ones in charge of the family and that their opinions will be respected even after their son and his girlfriend tie the knot.
“Separating adult children from their parents is often a painful process, and not all parents are willing to accept it. Without even realizing it, by trying to influence their adult children in every way, they often end up interfering with their lives. I’m glad that this woman’s boyfriend clearly sided with her. I do hope this situation will remain a minor annoyance for them, nothing more,” Irina Matveeva sums up.
Most people in the comments, while fully supporting the original poster, also couldn’t help but note the humor in this situation. Some even recalled a similar story from an episode of the legendary TV series Seinfeld. By the way, dear readers, has anything like this ever happened to you, too? If yes, please feel free to share your own story in the comments.
Many commenters supported the author, and some of them even recalled a similar case from a legendary sitcom
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Although she says the boyfriend defended her, he should have explained that part of the reason was that they are adults and choose to share a bed, and not be treated like children. That becomes harder when he decides to stay at his parents' house anyway! They should BOTH have stayed in the hotel.
BF didn't put foot down hard enough. "This is the way it will be Mom, and neither I nor GF are going to entertain your argument again."
Load More Replies...My husband didn't even bother. My parents were all "but all we have is single beds" and he shut that one down immediately. Hotels exist for reasons, one of which is refusal to play power games.
I spent almost 20 years trying to get my husband and his family to understand that I was massively uncomfortable sharing a small space with all of them for the summer, and was perfectly happy to shell out for an extra room in walking distance to avoid the inevitable problems. It always caused trouble, and resulted in me being very limited on the amount of time I was prepared to go along with it all to keep them happy. I wish I had put in firmer boundaries when I was OPs age. Over the last few years, they finally got it - and we have communicated well what we all need to make it work for everyone, but it took about 20 years to get there. Just because they all look back and agree the really uncomfortable bed in the same room as my father in law plus no decent access to any privacy - I showered in a bikini because people just came in - was completely unreasonable, (given I was always happy to pay for a room in walking distance). Grrr. I was regularly accused of trying to take my husband
Away from his family. But all I ever wanted was to find a solution for everyone. My husband often misunderstood and tried to book us a room far from his family, but that never worked as it made me the outsider. I just wanted to book an extra room in walking distance, we had the money. Why was it such a huge deal? Why not let people do what they are comfortable with?
Load More Replies...Although she says the boyfriend defended her, he should have explained that part of the reason was that they are adults and choose to share a bed, and not be treated like children. That becomes harder when he decides to stay at his parents' house anyway! They should BOTH have stayed in the hotel.
BF didn't put foot down hard enough. "This is the way it will be Mom, and neither I nor GF are going to entertain your argument again."
Load More Replies...My husband didn't even bother. My parents were all "but all we have is single beds" and he shut that one down immediately. Hotels exist for reasons, one of which is refusal to play power games.
I spent almost 20 years trying to get my husband and his family to understand that I was massively uncomfortable sharing a small space with all of them for the summer, and was perfectly happy to shell out for an extra room in walking distance to avoid the inevitable problems. It always caused trouble, and resulted in me being very limited on the amount of time I was prepared to go along with it all to keep them happy. I wish I had put in firmer boundaries when I was OPs age. Over the last few years, they finally got it - and we have communicated well what we all need to make it work for everyone, but it took about 20 years to get there. Just because they all look back and agree the really uncomfortable bed in the same room as my father in law plus no decent access to any privacy - I showered in a bikini because people just came in - was completely unreasonable, (given I was always happy to pay for a room in walking distance). Grrr. I was regularly accused of trying to take my husband
Away from his family. But all I ever wanted was to find a solution for everyone. My husband often misunderstood and tried to book us a room far from his family, but that never worked as it made me the outsider. I just wanted to book an extra room in walking distance, we had the money. Why was it such a huge deal? Why not let people do what they are comfortable with?
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