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Hey Pandas, so this might be a bit of a tough one, but have you ever had that moment where you suddenly realized… you were actually the problem? Maybe it was in a friendship, a relationship, or even just something small, but it hit you later on. When did that realization happen for you?
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#1
When I worked out that I have ADHD. In my defence it wasn't 100% me, but my neurodivergence definitely made me a target.
Final score:
11points
StrangeOne 1 month ago
I was going to add the same. Undiagnosed ADHD makes you exist in the world feeling like an outcast and that everyone is out to "get you". It can get pretty extreme. Sometimes I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show world, where the simulation theory everyone talks about is about the "dome" I live in, and that everyone is watching me. Every so often, I come across situations where a person I've never met before, or know only recently, speaks to me as if they know me my whole life and not in a good way. For ex. someone on Facebook replied to a random post I made telling me I'm still a loser like I was in HS. He doesn't even live in the same area of the country as me, and I never seen him before, and could only reply that I don't know him. Twice. It creeped me out because I was considered a loser in HS, and if someone who hated me back then saw where I am now, they would say I'm still a "loser". I don't think that but they would. Sorry, I digress. That's just one tiny example.
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#2
After a traumatic childbirth and then 6 straight days of zero sleep, I lost my mind and shook my baby when she wouldn't stop crying in the middle of the night. That was the point when I realised I was not coping. Went to the dr the next morning and he told me to put her on forumla milk immediately and prescribed me with some heavy meds.
After a lot of time and care I got back to feeling myself.
And my daughter is now a happy, healthy, thriving 13 year old who I love to pieces and would do anything to protect.
Final score:
7points
#4
When my boss gave me a verbal warning and explained that next time it would be a written warning and after that I would be fired. Gave me the kick in the pants I needed to pull myself together. Still took years to get diagnosed with autism which helped me understand how much of an a**hole I was and why. I am constantly amazed that people I was friends with then are still friends with me today.
Final score:
4points
StrangeOne 1 week ago
When I found out I have ADHD it answered so many questions why I am the way I am, and how I can do some thought exercises to control my panicking at work. That was a big reason I was also getting written warnings and lectures.
#5
When I was the one bringing consciousness and healing practices to my toxic family members, who ultimately did not want to heal, get unstuck or evolve. I was the one wanting this, doing the shadow work. It was my values and practices and not theirs. So I had to get outta-the-way and leave them be in their narcissism, jealousy, suffering and pains. I was the problem for them. Parents are gone and haven't seen them for close to 20 years. Youngest of four. Very happy as each year passes. We all are not here to be or stay connected to the family we were born into. Many are about teaching what we need to learn for why we are here. I chose to teach conscious relationship practices to those who seek that emotional freedom and depth of love. 36 years and running...
Final score:
4points
#6
When I would notice other people at work got along better with each other, but everyone has a problem with me. I can't quite always pinpoint exactly what it is. I have been told by a friend I have a dry sense of humor. Apparently my tone is a problem, even when I speak to people normally. I can be expressive, as I see other people be. I'm not sure why it's okay for some people to be expressive, joke around, be themselves, but people don't like it when I be myself.
I can be anxious and panicked when given a lot of tasks at once or when being rushed. When I call out other people for being rude, they don't like it and deny they are being rude.
When I started just being more quiet, letting people be impatient while I safely do my job and just not talk unless I'm spoken to is when I started getting told I'm doing better as a person.
Which I find is oppressing. But I just do my job and believe that I'm a problem to everyone. If I lay low and be compliant I'm safe and everyone is happy. Sort of.
Final score:
2points
AuspiciousTree283 1 month ago
This one is a grey area. On one hand, people need to be corrected, but I would not want someone pointing out every nook and cranny of what I do. As long as you're not directing it against anyone, people shouldn't have a reason to take issue with your dry humor. You're there to work, not be social.
#7
Basically any time I have cancelled plans.
Final score:
0points
#8
It's usually because of body dysmorphia or stress.
Final score:
0points
I Dunk My Caramel Milk Chocolate In BBQ Sauce (Submission author) 1 month ago
I reported this one, I'm new to BP. It was a response to my entry above. Please report this if isn't reported already.
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