Please do it mainly personally and avoid physical appearance.
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Being openly racist, talking bad about people who aren't there, being anti-vaccine, and brazenly imagining yourself to be better or smarter than others. By being against abortion and saying that a woman is a woman only when she has produced offspring. Rigid political position and fundamental religiosity. Constant self-deprecation to gain sympathy from others. Inability to talk about anything other than oneself. Narcissists and manipulative people.
Being rude around children, making fun of people with disabilities, putting down their ex(unless they cheated), being totally two-sided (being nice to me but a jerk to anyone else), not respecting me when I say no, pressuring me to do things with them, just being a duckingdick in general to people in minority groups is a huge no-no if someone wants to be in a relationship with me.
This one is quite specific but someone who doesn't like reading or actively hates on people who read a lot. That's a turn off for me.
They don't have to be reading like 20+ books a year but at least someone who would enjoy a good book or enjoy talking about their favorite book.
For me it's when they act nice but then start acting rude towards other people and their own friends. Pick a side and don't be rude!
If he tries to tell me I just haven't found the right person/"I cAn ChAnGe ThAt" or some stupid s**t like that when I say I'm a sex-repulsed asexual before things get too serious. If I hear anything like that I'm completely done immediately. I can respect someone for not wanting to be in a relationship without sex, but I don't respect people who act like they can just change that about me.
Drug addiction and won’t get help
Literally lost a friend because of this. He didn't die or anything, he just, I don't know I think he lost direction after his first boyfriend died (ironically of a drug overdose). He fell off the map after he started using, too. Despite everything, I really hope he's doing better.
Men /j
For me, it's having a huge ego. Have you seen high school boys? Bleh! They smell like BO with a failed cover-up of axe body spray. But being a (non-binary) lesbian I'm probably not one to speak on men. But yeah, egos bigger than brains really turn me off.
SAME most cishet high school dudes are yucky and that’s not just bc I’m a lesbian lol
Biases
I have a pretty good gut feeling that tells me if someone is okay. Hasn’t failed me yet. There’s been a few people that instantly give me the ick or a gross feeling. Later to find out they’re a horrible person. So mainly if they aren’t openly a horrible but I get a gut feeling- bye.
Rude to animals, pets or other people who we don’t know. Or for me, it’s that guy who’d stuck a finger into my turtle tank and poked my sleeping turtles, who them promptly bit him out of annoyance. He then cursed at me for not training my turtles properly and he was just petting it. Dude, as far as I know, most people don’t go around petting turtles, especially aquatic, large and carnivorous musk turtles.
Who puts any of their extremities within biting, scratching, headbutting or ramming distance of animals who are unfamiliar with them? On that note, I've actually never heard of carnivorous turtles, so I find that pretty cool. Did...did that guy know they were carnivorous? 'Cause if he knew, and still decided that was a smart idea, I know this guy with a pet piranha...
not accepting anyone for who they are, I dont care if you think they are gross or believe something ridiculous or am something you dont like, that's not all of who they are, just because this person believes in this thing or loves this person or looks like this or does this, does not mean they act the same as someone else with the same believe or feeling. and if you dont like it, then just be respectful, you dont need to be friends, but you dont need to be rude either, just be respectful they believe what they want to believe just like you.
For me It would be any girl who drives a large gas guzzling Dodge/Gmc truck. If they were to drive a truck it has to be the tesla truck or a Rivian.
Opinions
Stockings. Only after my foray into web browsing did the internet drive me to the point of madness with hatred for them (tens of thousands of mistags). If you like them, then I wish you infinite enjoyment. No such affection or joy can lay within me.
Stockings...like thigh high socks? Or the nylon ones? Like pantyhose? I don't know about anyone else but I refer to both as stockings, but I SPECIFICALLY HATE THE NYLON. I only wear them on rare, important occasions (and even then I have to just urge myself to just buckle down and do it), but goddamn if they don't drive me up the walls.
Assumptions on first glance. I've personally never seen the point in revolving one's entirety of their personality based on their looks, I think that's kind of cringe.
Trust issues and self-confidence issues that manifest as trust issues. Sometimes these things can be sensed at first meeting. A person unable or unwilling to fully trust someone will most often be that way until the day they die. I'll be your good friend if it goes that way, I'll support you any way I can, but you won't be my love interest. A person who won't trust cannot be trusted. I'm worth more than that and I deserve the whole package.
