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Hey Pandas, What Is Something Someone In Your Life Said Or Did That Compelled You To Finally Drop Them? (Closed)
We've all had those toxic people taking up space in our mind and life. Unfortunately, some of put up with way too much. What finally compelled you to let go of these people?
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#1
"If I can't have you as my girlfriend I am at least going to f**k you!" - the man whom I thought of as my best friend, before he put one hand around my throat and the other between my legs.
Final score:
50points
Caro Caro 3 years ago (edited)
Oh no, what a terrible thing to happen to you. I'm sending you a hug. Are you ok??
GoodWolf (Submission author) 3 years ago
Thank you. I am physically ok now. Mentally... Not so much.
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Susanne Bækvig 3 years ago
To be betrayed that way. Hope you can forget it, and not start thinking, that men in general are like that.
Spikey boi 3 years ago
Did he at least get arrested? People like that don't deserve to exist in this world. They deserve to rot in prison. I hope you get better.
HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
Rape is traumatic enough, but for it to be your best friend makes it even more tragic. Just know that there are people here who care for you. I am one of them.
Lovin' Life 3 years ago
I am so sorry! That is assault, bot physically and sexually. I am glad you removed this POS from your life. Hope you are okay. Prayers and hugs to you.
GoodWolf (Submission author) 3 years ago
Well, since it didn't end there, it was straight up rape. Thank you for your kind words
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Marie Wolffgang 3 years ago
My heart breaks for you, I am so sorry for what you had the experience and are still experiencing. I'm not a violent person, but hearing stories like these make me wish I could hurt these kind of animals in return. Although I know rage is not the answer, it just makes me so, so angry for all the people in the world who are traumatised like this.
Tamra Stiffler 3 years ago
What a terrible, terrible violation. Sending you my hopes for healing, peace and strength.
RELATED:
#2
Not vaccinating.
Final score:
43points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Yeah, glad I don't have these unvaxxed as family or friends. I do know some but they're not in my close circle so....
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
Agreed. I have a branch of my extended family who are virulent antivaxxers, and trumpanzees. Two of them are dead now. The rest are still refusing vaccine, even as they sicken and die.
Load More Replies... BusLady 3 years ago
I'm fully vaccinated, including the booster. I had a "breakthrough" infection last month. It's rare, but can happen. I'm 64 and have risk factors like COPD. I recovered at home and it was miserable for about 3 weeks. But I'm living proof that the vaccines work. I could be in the hospital right now fighting for my life. It's reported that many of the patients in the hospitals right now were not vaccinated. It breaks my heart.
Piet Puk (Submission author) 3 years ago
Patricia, I don't want selfish people in my life. Why can you not respect MY choice?
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#3
I was telling my then Boyfriend about a wild mountain bike ride I took with my friends the day before, and he went on saying "I won't tolerate that kind of reckless behaviour anymore. Think about the future, when we're married with kids, how could I rise them alone if you die in a pointless accident?". We we've been dating for like 2 weeks, so naturally I burst off laughing, thinking he was joking. No, he wasn't. He mean it. And then went on on other things I did he didn't believe were an acceptable behaviour for his "future wife and mother of his kids". I dumped him out on the spot.
Final score:
41points
Sharon Morris 3 years ago
Hope you laughed like a hyena right in his face when you dumped him. I had a short relationship with a control freak. When he went off on me for "not acting my age" when I had to dance to something on the radio. I was early 30s at the time. I laughed like a crazy woman and told him to beat the bricks. 30 years later, I still dance spontaneously, always will!
Paola Martz (Submission author) 3 years ago
That's definitely the right mindset!! 😁😁
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Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
Definitely a don't walk, run fast moment! What a control freak!
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I think you should thank him... he did you a HUGE favor by showing his true colors early on, before you'd invested much in the relationship. Imagine if he'd held his tongue until after you were married!
mercy mercy 3 years ago
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#4
July 2019 - Dad underwent an outpatient procedure. Surgeon said all went fine; he would be discharged in 30 min. I had brought him by myself, so I began gathering his things, prepping leave. Last set of vitals, dad tells Nurse something is wrong and goes into cardiac arrest. A code blue ensues. I was off-the-hook horrified, having prepped to take him home. Code Team doc steps out, asks if I'd like to tell Dad goodbye so I held held his hand until he died. So a few days later I receive an email from a family member known to have zero filter. She asks what happened; I give her the nutshell version; told her I was with him until the end. Her response: "Oh for Heaven's sakes, why would you actually CHOOSE to go sit with him while he died?? You're an RN and know how codes work. You knew it would be ugly give you nightmares."
Final score:
38points
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
It takes a lot of love to overcome the instinct to run from that situation, and a lot of guts to be there. I salute you.
Susanne Bækvig 3 years ago
It was fine, that your were with him to the end. I am sure it was easier for him, because you were there. Dont mind that silly woman, who just haven't the guts to do so herself
Tamra Stiffler 3 years ago
You did a kind, brave, painful thing. It does not matter what anyone else says or thinks.
Angelar 3 years ago
Maybe she meant well, but that is very callous. She truly objectified your own father there.
HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
No. People like her are vicious. If she treats a family member this way, just imagine how she treats others.
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My uncle said he was going pay to take my 2001 GMC Yukon to a garage and have it fixed for my mom and I. After a month, he said the price to fix was high so he would be paying in payments a few months until paid off then they would do the work and we have a reliable vehicle well after another month or 2, I just had this feelin something wasn't right with how distant my uncle became and barley answer any calls or text so I decided to stop by the garage he took it too and ask for myself. I was so shocked by finding out that it was no longer there, the guy said it was fixed within cpl days and my uncle had it sold to someone the next day.
Final score:
34points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Holy sh!t! Ashley, did you report this to the police? It's theft. What a rotten thing to happen and he's family which is double rotten.
Ashley Mccullough (Submission author) 3 years ago
I wanted too but my mom didn't want to hurt her baby brother and asked me to leave it me. I still never got a explanation from him or even a sorry at all, not even after my mom passed away!!
Load More Replies... Lindy Mac 3 years ago
How could he sell it ( LEGALLY) without the owner signing off on the pink slip??? Your mom didn't keep the pink slip in the car did she?. If so he may have forged her signature to sell it. He is a real scum bag...please go to the DMV or police . Not sure which one can help you.
MyCatsTheRealPanda 3 years ago
If he was willing to do something like this to his family members, I'd bet he didn't care if it was sold legally or not. You'd be surprised how many people will drive cars illegally without titles, with fictitious plates, etc.
Load More Replies... HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
And since it was sold illegally, you may never find your car. Prosecute him!
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
Is this uncle your mom's brother? That makes this crime even more heinous. I hope you involved the police, because unless the car was titled in his name, he had no right to sell it.
#6
According to my mother, my brother was the golden child. He was physically abusive to me as a child, but he never got punished, I did. The straw that broke the camel's back happened the night my mother died. Her best friend called to tell him that she was in the hospital, and he needed to come. He hung up on her. I lived 2 hours away, and was on my way. I called him and he said he was sick of false alarms, and he would see her in the morning. I called to tell him she had died, but he turned his phone off. He called the hospital to get her room number and was told she wasn't there. Rather than calling me, he called the funeral home and found out that she was indeed dead. There is much more to this story, but my mother took out a mortgage to loan him money. The minute she died he stopped paying. My sister inherited the house but could not afford the mortgage. He didn't care that she was about to be homeless. I ended up going into debt to keep her from losing the house. I had to put my father in a nursing home, and my stepmother in asst. living. I was in the process of moving them, and I came back to find out that he paid a neighbor to get the locks changed. I called the police who talked to him on the phone as he lived in Rhode Island. They told him that he had to let me back in the house to get more, but not all of their things. I was screaming so loud that the entire neighborhood came out. I got as much as I could, then he changed the locks again, and would not even let us in the house to get a suit for his funeral. I could write a book about him. Funny thing. He is a well known Sci-Fi writer and has lots of money. No he did not come to the funeral. I warned the police that if he did come, arrest me before I killed him. They believed me. I haven't seen or talked to him since 1999. Good riddance to bad trash.
Final score:
33points
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
If my sis hadn't died? That'd be us. this hit me deep, HarriMissesScotland, and I'm so da*n sorry you have that brother. Write that book!
HarriMissesScotland (Submission author) 3 years ago
He is a narcissistic sociopath and cares for no one but himself. I am sorry you had an equally bad experience. It broke my heart when my father realized how evil he is.
Load More Replies... BusLady 3 years ago
I wish you had told us his name so we could spread the word to boycott all his books. What a selfish jerk.
HarriMissesScotland (Submission author) 3 years ago
I posted the wikipedia link above.
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Tee Witt 3 years ago
This sounds just like my brother, he did exactly what he wanted, lied about me stealing things from him so my parents would give him money to buy new, but they always thought he was the best and I was nothing but a lying little thief. The did find out some before they died but never apologised to me, never accepted that he was trash.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Sorry Tee Witt. That must have made you feel horrible. We here on BP know you are a lovely person and I really do like you. Hugs.
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albernistuff 4sale 3 years ago
AT LAST, someone naming names...I am a hard core SF fan, but feel happy that I have never contributed to this author. Family can be great and family can suck. Blood IS NOT thicker than water.
BluEyedSeoulite 3 years ago
My uncle is like your brother. His two siblings died before his parents died, my sister took care of our grandmother. Uncle Cuckface did a lot to purposefully hurt his parents. The worst and most honest thing my sister said to his face, I live in a different country, was that the wrong brother had died. I often think of how different things would have gone if he had died instead of his brother.
l simon 3 years ago
Please release, even a title of one of his books so we know who to boycott.
HarriMissesScotland (Submission author) 3 years ago
His pen name is James Axler, but he wrote the Outlander series. Not the wonderful Diana Gabaldon books. There many others. Over 90 total. He even manipulated Anne Rice to let his comic company, Millennium, to print some of her books as comics. I am not sure how that worked out for her.
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 3 years ago
What an ordeal! Bless you, for being the caretaker of the family, and for dealing with the a*****e brother. Now I am intrigued by his identity... I want to write poison pen letters to him!
#7
"You're dating a XYZ?! I would never date a XYZ, that's like dating a n-word." I didn't even know where to begin to address the racism; it made my head hurt. BTW, me and that XYZ will soon celebrate our 38th anniversary.
Final score:
32points
Robin Roper (Submission author) 3 years ago
We are very happy. This person came to my wedding and saw all my new XYZ (Japanese) family including my mother-in-law dressed in one of her formal kimono - it was lovely.
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 3 years ago
My friend married an Iranian back in the 70s, when that kind of thing just wasn't done. Her father disowned them both. Later, he wanted back in their lives, and only after they'd had their first child did they agree to let him in. They've been married forever, and have two kids, five grand kids, and they've made peace with 'grandpa' so I guess it all ended well.
#8
Abusive ex stated that his son and I were not worth him continuing to seek treatment for anger issues and bipolar disorder (and later diagnosed with schizophrenia). I found out I was pregnant 6 weeks later and am glad to say that my daughter has never had to deal with what I'm ashamed to say my son saw.
Final score:
28points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Terilee, I'm sorry. I remember some things you told me (us on BP). You've been through terrible times but are a strong woman doing what is right for your children. Don't feel guilty or ashamed, it was never your fault. Hugs for you Terilee.
Terilee Bruyere (Submission author) 3 years ago
Now you done made me tear up. Hugs back to you Caro!
Load More Replies... Tamra Stiffler 3 years ago
You bear no shame for the actions of another. Being in that sort of situation is impossibly terrifying and painful, I'm sure. I hope you and your children are safe now, and can have some happiness. God knows you deserve it.
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
It is a blessing he's out of your life... mental illness is a horrible burden to bear, and schizophrenic disorders are the hardest to deal with IMO. I have great empathy for those suffering with the disorder, and also with their families. My ex's younger brother was a paranoid schizophrenic, and absolutely terrifying to be around. I can't imagine how difficult it would be to try to protect a young child from that. I am sending you a hug.
#9
A friend who was a state beauty pageant winner. She was beautiful but incredibly self conscious to the point where everything was a comparison. If we went out for drinks she'd asks the bartender, "Who's prettier? Me or her?" Which is just awkward and pointless so I'd excuse myself to use the restroom so the poor bartender could say her without offending me. She lied about having hair and lash extensions, which no one even asked about or cared about, she'd just blurt it out. Lied about desserts she made for parties we had, clearly desserts purchased from a bakery. Not big issues at all but just constant little lies that were so silly the friendship just felt like a big sham and too much work. Always wanted me to hang out with her & her husband but they would always end up fighting and screaming at each other over some small thing. Too much drama. I just couldn't do it anymore.
Final score:
26points
GoddessOdd 3 years ago (edited)
After I made the mistake of marrying a narcissistic sociopath, I believe that these kinds of people don't register the rest of us as people or friends. To them, we're stage props or accessories, and they will eventually cause you much trouble. I applaud your decision to spare yourself the drama.
Oopsydaisy 3 years ago
Does she ask her mirror who the fairest in the land is? People like this are seriously hard work. It was good of you to stick with her as long as you did. It's an interesting thing, but people who have borderline personality disorders are often very good looking.
#10
When my mother gave me a crappy present more suited to a 5 year old and cheap card for my birthday,and complains about the cost of posting it to me, yet boasts about going on another interstate holiday. Or talks more about herself and what the neighbours are doing (she’s a notorious gossip, step dad is no better) when I call her because I was feeling depressed. Needless to say I no longer speak to either of them.
Final score:
23points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Sometimes the only thing you can do is cut them loose and get on with your life. If every time you talk to your mum becomes a "thing" and makes you feel rotten then yes, you did a wise thing KombatBunni.
BusLady 3 years ago
It sounds like mom might be the source of the depression. I wish them luck in avoiding the parents.
Load More Replies... Tamra Stiffler 3 years ago
I wish more people understood that it's not only okay, but sometimes imperative to cut toxic family members from your life. Good for you for deciding that you are worthy of better treatment!
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
When communication feels like that? You do yourself a favor by walking away. Good for you, KombatBunni!
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I can relate to this...I have a difficult family member too, and although it's difficult, I think it really is best to just make a clean break, and everyone will be happier. I don't think we should feel bad about not indulging toxic people, whether they're family or not.
KombatBunni (Submission author) 3 years ago
Thankyou everyone. It was a hugely difficult thing to do but when you feel the way I did after trying to fix things, there’s only one option. My daughter even offered to call my mum and tell her to stop being a b***h but I was worried my mum would just upset her. Such a lovely thought though. Hugs to you all xx
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"You're fat, and ugly. Why would anyone want you in the front of the stage? Go join the circus, pig." -- My previous ballet instructor, before forcing me to do pirouettes until my feet were bleeding profusely.
Final score:
20points
Lindy Mac 3 years ago
People can be so cruel... hope that instructor got some instant Karma shortly after that.
Emma Jolivet (Submission author) 3 years ago
I don't know where she is now, but I'm staying away from her
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 3 years ago
How did your parents react to that? I hope someone saw to it that the instructor lost her job, as she was obviously entirely unsuited to it. Are you OK now? I hope so... here's a hug.
Emma Jolivet (Submission author) 3 years ago
My parents didn't really care....? And I too hope she lost her job! Thanks for the hug
Load More Replies... BusLady 3 years ago
Someone like that should not be working with children. It can scar them for life.
Emma Jolivet (Submission author) 3 years ago
I am sad to admit that this kind of behaviour is normal.
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thatdisasterpanda 3 years ago
✨maybe a good idea to call the police, i'm pretty sure you can be arrested for that✨
Emma Jolivet (Submission author) 3 years ago
I'm a trained ballerina, and our feet do bleed. And some ballet instructors are quite harsh towards their students. In retrospect, I should have called the police.
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Emma Jolivet (Submission author) 3 years ago
Ballet is a very hard career. I dance 21 hours a week.
Load More Replies... Oopsydaisy 3 years ago
When I started a youth theatre we got quite a few young girls who joined who were refugees from ballet classes. They had been treated so badly. We encountered all body types and capabilities to dance, and they were fabulous. And happy. And it showed.
Emma Jolivet (Submission author) 3 years ago
Refugee is a good word for it.
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My grandmother - I'll try not to make this too long. My grandma has always been toxic, I've seen it, I've heard stories from my mom and other family members. She's been resentful towards my mom all her life and just emotionally and verbally abusive. She also loves shoving religion down others' throats. She always forced me to pray when I was little, even called me a certain R-word when I said something different in my prayer. One time when my mom got home from her job at a daycare, my grandma refused to open the door and threatened to call the police (who knows why she did that). She instead called all her family members in Dominican Republic to drag my mom's name to the ground. She did that in front of me, I was 6 or 7 at the time. In other words, in my grandma's eyes, my mom is irresponsible, a bad mom, etc. She even thought my mom got back together with her abusive ex (which she did not, we were perfectly safe away from him.), that just shows how little faith she had in us. A few years ago we finally decided to cut contact after the years of hurt and pain she put us through. The last text I remember getting from her was wishing me a happy birthday when I turned 16 last year. I never responded. She's controlling, narcissistic, and likes to put other people down. We (my mom, sister, and I) are much happier now, although I do wonder what would have happened if we continued to keep in contact.
Final score:
19points
HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
She is never going to change. Even though she made your family miserable, I know it hurts. I am happy to know that you are happier. That's what counts.
BusLady 3 years ago
Think of it this way: You are all free from that misery. But she will never be able to escape her own misery.
Katie (Submission author) 3 years ago
Very true - she's very hardheaded and she'll probably never change her ways. Thanks for reading :)
Load More Replies... Katie (Submission author) 3 years ago
Looks like my answer did end up being a little long lol - but I just wanted to share my story :)
Caro Caro 3 years ago
That's ok. It's one helluva story! I'm glad she's out of your life. Is your mum ok? Must hurt like hell. Hugs for all 3 of you.
Load More Replies... GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I am so glad the whole family escaped this abusive woman. It was a brave thing to do, and it will get better as time passes. I can guess what would have happened if you'd decided to keep in contact... more of the same. I've never had someone like this suddenly have an epiphany and turn their lives around... I've only seen that in movies.
Katie (Submission author) 3 years ago
Yup. I highly doubt she'll ever change. Thank you for reading :)
Load More Replies... Lindy Mac 3 years ago
More of the same , if you had kept in contact ,maybe worse. We need to start catching toxic relationships early and get away. That is extremely hard if the person is a relative. So glad you, your mom and sister are free from the tyranny. I believe there are people who get thrill out of making others unhappy. It shows they have power and control on another's life. Why they don't prefer to make people happy instead is beyond me.
Katie (Submission author) 3 years ago
She definitely loves having power over other people, makes me glad we're not around her anymore. Thank you :)
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I was six years divorced and had lost custody of my children because my ex's lawyers used my deploying to Iraq for 2 years against me. Anyway I'm back from Iraq and two of my children's birthdays are coming up and I have the opportunity to meet up with them and celebrate them. I do so and it was great. They were still minors at the time,min their teens. My best friend who's birthday falls about the same time as my children's has a complete and bizarre meltdown that I spent hundreds of dollars to go see my children and celebrate their birthdays but hadn't gotten her anything but a card and didn't attend her birthday party, because I was with my children instead who I don't get to see. I was floored. I said you can't be serious!? She was. I told her off, said no one is more important than my children, NO ONE! That was the end of that friendship.
Final score:
17points
Gabby 3 years ago
:( If only my adoptive mother saw me that way... I was adopted at 12 after coming from a abusive, drug addicted, and single mother (she had me at 18). So my mum now had EVERY opportunity to not get me and treat me like sh*t. Yes, I had more opportunities, got away from the physical abuse and inappropriate environment for a child, but I ended up in a place where the emotional abuse was ten fold. But it's whatever. I'm almost 18, so I can move in with my bestie for the rest of senior year, get a job during the summer, and then head off to a State college.
Load More Replies... #14
This little girl was recording her conversations with people, so if they talked bad or revealed a secret, she could "eXpOsE" them.
Final score:
16points
allison c (Submission author) 3 years ago
She also brags how "her and her mom only talk 3 times a week"
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I was dating a pediatric neurosurgeon who was a narcissist. No surprise there. We were supposed to go out to dinner, but I had just found out my mom had lung cancer and she didn't know if she was going to let it kill her or seek treatment. I called him crying and his response was, "Oh, yeah. Let me tell you about MY day..." That was it for me.
Final score:
16points
#16
She cheated on her husband and then told her husband that "I couldn't wait to get with him" after she leaves. Ugh.... He took her back. It's been 12 years and never heard back from either of them after I cut them both off. Side note: I did not find her husband attractive in anyway and even if I did, you just don't do that regardless of the situation.
Final score:
15points
Zoe's Mom (Submission author) 3 years ago
No, he was so distraught about his wife's infidelity that he lost 16 pounds in 3 days.
Load More Replies... #17
When I came home after a shift and an hour's drive each way... "Why did you put the dish washer on this morning?" Said in the nastiest way possible. I knew then my marriage was over.
Final score:
15points
GoddessOdd 3 years ago (edited)
I was friends with a guy, a very lovely, soft spoken pharmacist, just the kindest, sweetest man. He was married to a woman that was like that. Eventually, he left her and moved away, because when he walked in the door from work, half an hour late because of an accident blocking the road, she didn't say a word, but just threw a big pot of spaghetti on him and burned him severely. I was sorry he was hurt, but so glad that he finally realized he had to leave her. I am so sorry your marriage turned out this way, and I am hoping things get better every day for you.
#18
On 11 Sept 2001 (or Sept 11, 2001, as you prefer)... Someone e-mailed me (and yes, this is what they wrote): "Now everyone knows how I feel! Ha ha they're scared!"... Deleted from my life that day, no regrets but not doing it sooner!
Final score:
15points
Melissa Powell 3 years ago
I had a friend loved her very much! 40 years of friendship. Then Obama was elected. I voted for him I was ecstatic. One day we talked about the election. She called him a “f*****g n****r”. I asked her not to say that. This was a phone call. Did not speak to her again for about 8 months. She was I really poor health. We had a conversation again and again comments about Obama. Repeating all the republican talking points. I finally said that’s enough you have to stop. I said I have to go. I wrote her letter telling her how much I loved her and how much I hated the fact that she was racist. Told her it was better the friendship ended. I never heard from her and I never tried contacting her. I miss her but just better it is done
BusLady 3 years ago
OMG. Many years ago, my fil had a friend in a little hick town in Arkansas who was black. I overheard him call him the N word, and I asked him to stop. He replied that his friend didn't mind, that he liked being called that. So I explained to my fil, a man with a first grade education who never learned to read and write, that no, his friend did not like to be called that. He was just tolerating it for the sake of the friendship. What I thought, but didn't say out loud, was that the friend was overlooking my fil's ignorance.
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Wayne Gossman 3 years ago
Not sure I fully understand. I read, live and work in a reality that is very aware of the many horrible things that happen all over the world every year and even every day and on 9/11 I felt so disconnected from the people around me. My feeling was “What is the surprise? This is the way the world is! This is not new!”
Oopsydaisy 3 years ago
I'd just read a book by Chalmers Johnson called Blowback. I wasn't surprised at all. He pretty much predicted it. One of my friends from a South American country list quite a few of his American friends when he wrote what he thought about it, but it was totally understandable given what he'd seen America do to his country.
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix (Submission author) 3 years ago
Oh, it was legal on 9/11. By 9/13, not so much.
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My dad has always been abusive. When I moved out my father laughed and said I'd be dead in week. Once I called my dad because my sister broke her neck. He said not to call him until "I've suffered enough." Years later, after a car accident with the same sister, she was put into a medically induced coma. I let my dad know about it because we didn't know the extent of the damage (she's fine) and turns out he knew about it, was in the actual city we lived in, but only to marry his new wife who is my age and sign documents to cut me out of the will. He then blocked me. I don't know if I am still blocked. I haven't spoken to him in 6 years.
Final score:
15points
#20
My friend once asked me to sneak into mini golf without paying with her after spending twenty pounds of my pocket money on herself I don't even like mini golf
Final score:
13points
#21
All my ex family lives in Texas. Step niece/best friend/roommate used my family to fund her hidden gambling addiction. Luckily she paid back my mom. She made amends to most people, me she avoided and eventually moved to Texas. Then there's bio-dad who ghosted us after the divorce (me 7, bro 4). 26yrs later he couldn't take the guilt anymore and had his step daughters reached out to us. I tried, but he's a bit of an idiot and only seemed interested in alleviating his guilt. We even flew to Texas to visited him in the ICU. I gave up on even half assing it when it took them 6months to tell us they didn't pull the plug and he made a full recovery. Texas can keep the lot.
Final score:
13points
BusLady 3 years ago
🎶 All your ex's live in Texas. 🎶 Sorry, I couldn't resist. I'm in Texas, along with my family, but thankfully we all get along. Some years ago, when my dad was dying, I visited him in the nursing home (he passed away 3 weeks later). We were never that close, but he completely ignored me. He wouldn't speak to me or acknowledge that I was there. My mom kept telling him that I was there to see him. Later, she assured me that he knew it was me. He was pretty sick but he spoke to mom and my sister. I never did figure it out. I'm sorry you were never able to have a relationship with your dad, but it certainly wasn't your fault.
#22
You are going to hate me for this, but here we are. My coworker and best friend at the time got into a toxic relationship. He was the jealous kind and I had the feeling he wasn't really happy with me(a guy) and her being friends. So of course we started seeing less of each other. However, since we still worked together we still talked after work. Me and our other coworkers would isten to her and support her, but we ere of the opinion that for things to change, she had to want them to change. First, she told us he iked to go camping and wanted to buy an RV so they could go camping in the summer weekends. She wasn't a fan, and preferred to hold off on the investment. Fast forward a month or so, and she was happily telling us about the third weekend of ging camping. Months later she told us he wanted her to move in with her, but she thought it was til a bit soon. So we all felt really bad for her and as her friend I daresay it affected my happiness as well,. You know, worrying about her. Anyway, she moved in with him. Next, he proposed to rent out her apartment for some extra income. She was against it, but he went ahead anyway - a few months after that even sold the apartment against her wishes. That was the last straw. She told us she was going to break up with him. - but didn't. I went to study abroad and when i returned a year later they were still together. She was by now very unhappy and finally she was going to break up with him. We all told her good for her. Then I moved to another part of the country for a new job and lost sight of her for almost two years. She then phoned me out of the blue, sounding very happy and wanting to reconnect. By the way, she was nine months pregnant by him. I am ashamed to say I made an excuse, and when she sent me the birth card for the child (to my parents place) I didn't respond - despite the fact that she had written for me "don't be a stranger..."
Final score:
13points
Samantha Lomb 3 years ago
Yeah learning you can't make people make the correct choices and some of them just enjoy the drama is a hard lesson
Oopsydaisy 3 years ago
How could he sell her apartment against her wishes? She has to sign the transfer papers. With all due respect she sounds a bit like a professional victim.
Not Proud British 3 years ago
Sadly it can be very difficult to watch someone go through this and can negatively impact your own mental health. You are ultimately not responsible for the choices people make in life and whilst you can give advice, you can't force them to take it. It would have broken you to see her go through an abusive relationship with a baby in tow. You gave all the support you could, but she has chosen this path. I do not blame you for not wanting to stand as witness to what happens next.
Alexej Dvorak 3 years ago
I think it's the right choice to cut that person out of your life, there's nothing to gain from that friendship in the future. But since none of you betrayed each other in any way, give your friend an honest reason for it. Don't just ghost her. But take my advice and do it face to face or over the phone, never in written words.
Nota Robot (Submission author) 3 years ago (edited)
That's sound advice. Unfortunately this happened like twenty years ago. But if ever I find myself in such a situation again I 'll take your suggestion. It may help with the guilt. But thanks for the support everyone.
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My aunt told me " why do you have to paint your dinosaur gay colors?" I was painting a dinosaur toy with my baby cousin =-=
Final score:
13points
Lindy Mac 3 years ago
Pathetic people who think kids can't have rainbows anymore. There was a story on BP a while back: a woman who made a rainbow blanket ( I think it was knitted) for a friend at work for her baby. THE B***CH returned it saying it wasn't appropriate for her new born child.
thatdisasterpanda 3 years ago
bit ch! jfc people. "why do lgbt+ people have to put labels on everything" well, karen, it might be because of bull sh it like this
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Hope Cows&Chickens 3 years ago
I would have asked her which colours are 'gay' and press her to explain why they are 'gay' and how does she know those colours aren't straight, etc. And if it was rainbow colours I would remind her that God created rainbows so are you saying God is gay? Thay oughtta shut her up!
ALEXIS CISNEROS (Submission author) 3 years ago
i did ask her how it was gay, and that she knew i liked rainbows, she just told me to shut up and that i should be happy to have somone like her taking me under her wing
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I've had covid cause the break of a few friendships. Basically covid deniers, conspiracy theorists, q-anon supporters, republican supporters (yes, even in africa, people who think the republicans in usa are right), people who think BLM and Antifa were criminals, etc. I didn't know that I had racist conspiracist friends. I discovered this. Frankly my life is better without them.
Final score:
13points
#25
Just this week I dropped a toxic former neighbor. I've lost 5 out of our original 7 family members very recently. She's a home health aide. Her response to me was "Yes, I see that all the time in my business." Guess she takes death fairly lightly. B***h.
Final score:
12points
#26
It's more what other people said that got me to drop someone. They said, independently, "I don't like who you're becoming around (her)." I looked back at things and decided I'd rather have them than her.
Final score:
12points
#27
Being told to stop acting like a martyr when I refused to take all the blame in an argument. I can’t even remember what the argument even was, but it had been a building issue. This person was pretty abusive as a friend, overall, but I spent years making allowances because they acted like they had the worst life. I really just got sick of being hit, and generally made to feel guilty for not “being there” for them (spoiler, I was, but I couldn’t cater to every moment of their life). Honestly, it was such a relief when they were gone, and I didn’t miss them or the friends they took with them. They really needed to grow up and stop blaming other people for their choices. Was I perfect? Heck no, but I tried to at least own up to my short comings.
Final score:
11points
HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
After the first hit, I would have been gone. BUT, I also understand the desire to help someone. I am so sorry that you endured this abuse, and hope that you have a better life, now.
Pheebs (Submission author) 3 years ago
If it was someone I was dating, yeah the first hit would have been the last. As this person was supposed to be a friend, and most hits were out of carelessness instead of anger, I let it wash off me for far too long. Thankfully it wasn’t a frequent occurrence, but they did almost give me a concussion once near the end.
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When I realized that my friend had never tried any of my suggestions, even in fields where I am a recognized expert, I got wary, and when they ignored some huge news, I decided to write a diary instead.
Final score:
11points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Bob, people are so selfish sometimes. All they care about is themselves. It's disappointing and frustrating to see them act like idiots. Do you want to talk about the huge news? If you want to tell I'm here to listen.
Bob Stuart (Submission author) 3 years ago
That's very nice of you to offer, but that was so long ago that my good news had time to turn out bad. I've moved on now.
Load More Replies... Sarah Bell 3 years ago
I'm confused. Did the advice turn out to be bad in the long run or did they ignore it and you cut them off because it turned out bad for them not to listen?
Sarah Bell 3 years ago
I mean absolutely no judgement either way, just curious
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#29
Friend, for years I was her IT fixer....used to explain as I fixed. Then she got a job in a electricity/internet co...Told me a lady asked her to fix her PC after hours so she "cleaned out the startup". Lady got mad, asked for compensation for town repair place to undelete her lost documents, friend nearly came to blows with this lady....friend laughing and telling me hos stupid she was. I said how did you clean out startup? Oh by deleting all icons on the desktop friend says. I said you did delete her documents, that's not the startup and explained further. She hung up on me.
Final score:
11points
#30
As I refused to move out (living with my mom) my older brother said he wished mom was dead.
Final score:
11points
Laura Mende (Human) (Submission author) 3 years ago
As BP didn't let me write more, here full story: The relationship between my mom and my brother isn't the best. He cannot understand why I not move out. He is many years older and has a flat in town. Some weeks after my 18th birthday, he said that I now could make my own decisions and to move out of my mothers flat. 2 things are against it: 1. I like my mom and she likes me so there is no reason to move out any time soon. 2. I live in a very expensive town. I can't afford a home of my own. As I told him this, my brother said "I wish mom was dead, so you would be forced to be an adult and mature" It's been 6 years, I live with my mom. I never again spoke one word with him. F**k you Thomas!
Lindy Mac 3 years ago
Glad you added some backstory. I thought your Mom wanted you to move out and .... well, ok... I think he wants to sell your Mom's home and keep the money... Goodness knows what he plans to do with mom if you do move out...hmmmmm.... Throw her in a government-owned care facility? Hope Mom writes him out of her will. And adds to the will, if he contests the will, he only gets $1!
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#31
Having a narcissist for a mother. Not spoken for two years and not enough space to write what's she's done to myself and others.
Final score:
11points
Sarah White (Submission author) 3 years ago (edited)
Maybe one day I'll write a biography, I could easily fill a book. Thank you and nice to know I'd be listened too 🤗
Load More Replies... Not Proud British 3 years ago
Me too. Not seen mine in over 11 years and get truly mad when people have a go at me for cutting her off: "You only have one mother", so we're supposed to let them abuse and destroy us then? Cut off your father and society is more forgiving, cut off your mother and society can't get their head around it.
Sarah White (Submission author) 3 years ago
Omg, I totally relate. I hate nothing more than people saying ' you only have one mother '. Exactly this ❤️
Load More Replies... Caro Caro 3 years ago
Sarah, I hope you can breath and feel air and space around you. Having a narcissist parent is so suffocating. Hugs and I'm glad you cut her loose.
Sarah White (Submission author) 3 years ago (edited)
Thank you, means alot. She is still trying to ruin my life , but I won't let her.Life has been alot better since cutting her out 🤗.
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#32
I was friends with this woman from middle school until we were middle aged; at some points we were best friends, at other times we became involved in other things, but we remained pretty close friends for at least 35 years. I knew she had some conservative leanings, and I also knew that her family had some racist issues, but this was in the 70s in the south... a lot of my neighbors were racists, overtly or not. My friend and I avoided any sort of talk about race, but she knew my feelings and I knew hers. This was so ridiculous... one day I won a tiny ninja toy at her office. He was black. She tried to take it from me and give me a white ninja. I refused. She said "I know the way you think, the black one is just as good as this one, right? ... and thrust the white ninja into my hand. Ridiculous, I know. Then, President Obama was elected. I was jubilant... so excited that Bush had been defeated, and I ran into my friend. She said "Oh, I guess you're happy that the god damned n word was elected" and I turned and walked out, and have never spoken to her again.
Final score:
11points
BusLady 3 years ago
It's crazy how many people got upset that Obama was elected, based on nothing other than his race.
GoddessOdd (Submission author) 3 years ago
I remember reading an article in Washington Post, I think it was... when the Obama Care Act was read to republicans, they LOVED it. Until you said it was the OCA... then, despite the fact that nothing had changed, they HATED it.
Load More Replies... Caro Caro 3 years ago (edited)
WOW. You did the right thing. Good for you and you're brave bc it's tough to lose a friend of so many years.
GoddessOdd (Submission author) 3 years ago
That's a very nice thing to say, but it wasn't really brave... some things just can't be tolerated. I had really hoped that over the years she had changed, but I was wrong.
Load More Replies... Alexej Dvorak 3 years ago
to be fair, Obama was elected after Bush's second term. If anyone, McCain had been defeated.
GoddessOdd (Submission author) 3 years ago
Yes, I misspoke... meant to say Bush was gone, not defeated.
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I had this best friend for years. She had a lot of annoying personality traits, and it was difficult for her to maintain any kind of friendship or a relationship with men. She was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, so I understood that she couldn't help some of her behavior, but over time , I realized that she was using her disability as a crutch. She manipulated people and took advantage of them, using them to get what she wanted, but never giving anything in return. She was a good actress who could get people to feel sorry for her and she was very self centered. I always stood up for her because she was my friend. But now I look back and wonder why I put up with her abuse and toxic behavior. She did weird things, like stalking her mental health therapist. He got a restraining order and she kept violating it and eventually got arrested. Later on, I was horrified to realize that I was with her one time when she was stalking his home. She stole money from her family. She kept losing her jobs because she was doing stupid things and not doing her job. Really, I could write a book. The last straw was when she got caught shoplifting at a store where a mutual friend worked. 2 months earlier, she had been caught stealing at a different store. I soon realized that she had been shoplifting for years, and using me when we went shopping, as her "accomplice" to distract salespeople. (There had been some times when I asked her why she didn't have a bag for her purchase, for instance, or she left a store without me, as if in a hurry). I was furious, and told her that she could have gotten me arrested. She still insisted she was innocent and all these people were being mean and lying about her. I haven't seen her or talked to her for years, and good riddance.
Final score:
11points
#34
My imbecile ex-husband told me after our daughter was born: "If you don't give birth to a boy next, can I have a boy with somebody else?" ...The nerve of that idiot!
Final score:
10points
albernistuff 4sale 3 years ago
Apparently incredibly stupid as well. Its the MALE contribution that determines baby gender.
BusLady 3 years ago
I wonder what he would have thought if she had said the same thing to him?
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I was studying meteorology at the University of Oklahoma. (Yes, one of those crazy tornado chasers) My gal and I had an apartment there. She was invited to Durango for a 2 week vacation with some friends. I couldn't go (Air Force ROTC) but was glad she was able too. A sometime after she got back she told me that she was pregnant. I was delighted. I asked her when the doctor said she was likely to deliver; I do like to think ahead. I did the math and it turned out that this had happened in the Rockies. Broke my heart.
Final score:
9points
BusLady 3 years ago
So sorry, but I hope you moved on and perhaps found someone new who would not cheat on you.
Mistralok (Submission author) 3 years ago
Took quite some time to get over this, but eventually I did.
Load More Replies... Not Proud British 3 years ago
Due dates aren't always an accurate indicator of conception date. I am assuming you have other proof she cheated too?
BluEyedSeoulite 3 years ago
Like others have said, due date goes by last period. It is up to 3 weeks from actual conception. Sperm can also live for 5 days in the right environment. I'm sure there is more to this story but I just wanted to add to what others have said about the due date accuracy
Sarah Bell 3 years ago
I'm hoping that you were able to get a DNA test to confirm. I've seen plenty of episodes of those TV talk shows where women and men have claimed paternity because the dates either lined up or didn't. Some of them were proven very wrong. Also this is Not the same situation but similar. Had a friend who's step mom ended up pregnant, her dad had a vasectomy years and years prior. Divorced her even though she said she didn't cheat. I can understand there being a question but he didn't wait to nuke the marriage and it Turns out to be his after a DNA test.
Oopsydaisy 3 years ago
Only two weeks? I don't see how you could tell. Delivery dates aren't that precise.
Mistralok (Submission author) 3 years ago
I was in northern Kansas and southern Nebraska chasing severe storms for almost 2 weeks before she left. I didn't even get to kiss her goodbye. This and the fact that she admitted and apologized to me immediately sealed the deal. There is quite a bit more to this story; perhaps at some later date I can tell a bit more.
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I would occasionally have heated conversations with my mom. Often because I was stressed out and feeling bad and needed someone to talk to. I also got mildly irritated with her about minor things occasionally, like you do with someone you know really really well. On day she told me she wished that i would treat her like a stranger. Because I, “was always polite to strangers.” I sat for a second with my mouth open, stunned. Finally I asked, “you want me to treat you like a stranger? Not tell you about any of my problems or share any difficulties with you? Do I understand that right?” My mom said yes, that’s what she wanted. A few months later I was feeling really depressed and she asked me what was wrong. I said, “Frankly mom, you don’t really want to know how feel.” She agreed! From that day on I mostly never mention any personal problems, stresses or any important decisions or changes happening in my life. That was 3 years ago. Occasionally I forget that she isn’t interested and say something about my problems. Usually she shuts me down, ignores what I said or makes me feel ashamed. She isn’t a bad person, just spoiled with her charmed boomer life and hasn’t ever had to deal with real problems (death, illness, financial, social). i dread being with my parents now because there’s so many subjects I won’t talk to them about that after I self-edit out all the interesting stuff, I have a hard time coming up with anything to say. The worst thing is, it’s been 3 years and they apparently haven’t noticed I stopped talking to them. They seem much happier with me though.
Final score:
9points
BusLady 3 years ago
That's really sad. These are the people you should be able to depend on for support. Perhaps some counseling could help. If you have a Church membership, a Pastor could offer some counseling.
anarkzie 3 years ago (edited)
Erm, you sound kind of toxic. If you're lashing out at your mum over minor things then of course she is not going to be ok with it. She's asked you to talk to her politely, or in other words with respect. From reading this, it looks like you twisted this reasonable request to mean that she does not want to be there for you or to share any problem you may have, despite her asking what was wrong a few mouths later when you were feeling down, to which you replied with a passive aggressive "Frankly mum, etc", and I guess having been on the receiving end of your heated conversations and irritations she noped out of there. Your first paragraph describes the thinking of an abusive person. You can communicate that you're having a bad day or going through problems without it being a heated conversation, if you're feeling irritated go for a walk, you cannot help how you feel but you can control your behavior, you can call it self-editing or taking responsibility over your actions.
Nota Robot 3 years ago
I disagree. I didn't necessarily read it that the convo got heated bc the OP was disrespectful, but bc mom didn't want to hear it. To me, a parent saying to their child that they should"treat them like a stranger because they are polite to strangers" is a huge red flag. Keeping this in mind, the "frankly mom" is a perfectly valid response. Especially when mom agreed. And that last sentence of the OP really cinches it.
Load More Replies... #37
An immediate family member kept making comments that she thought were smart and funny but were actually offensive. When I confronted her, as politely as I could muster, that her comments were racist and therefore not cute or funny, she told me that 1) none of those people were around to get offended, 2) she didn't use the n-word so technically its not racist, and 3) that I needed to lighten up and enjoy a decent joke. I have enough problems without having to deal with racist family members. I am so done with the attitude and closed-mindedness and idiocy!
Final score:
9points
Lindy Mac 3 years ago
Good for you. If you don't say something to call the bigot/racist out they will assume you agree and are like-minded. They will probably continue when you are not around but at least you will have less stress not having to listen to that garbage. Speaking of hypocrites...which we weren't but I am now... some of these idiots think they are good Christians in spite of the hateful things they say. I have been shocked by some pastors who are intolerant and bigoted. They, of all people, should know better.
#38
He showed me a bullet with my initials engraved on it.
Final score:
9points
Lindy Mac 3 years ago
BusLady... I get it, but unfortunately it's just a piece of paper to a mentally deficient person like this guy.
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#39
"What part of leave me alone don't you understand?" Said to me by my EX big brother
Final score:
8points
GoddessOdd 3 years ago
I don't know the context, there must be more to this story, but I've always been of the opinion that if someone says they want you to leave, it's best to take them at their word. Good for you!
Alexej Dvorak 3 years ago (edited)
I agree. My GF's brother has held a grudge against her since early adulthood and doesn't want her in his life. Although it's for stupid reasons and he's an idiot, I keep recommending she stops trying to force herself into his life for a fake family harmony's sake and take him by his word. Not once has any contact with him made anyone involved any happier.
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September 3 years ago
Had a similar comment made by a brother. We haven't talked in a decade and I doubt we ever will again. C'est la vie
Lindy Mac 3 years ago
Paula and September.... I may be wrong, but I am of the opinion that is better ( for one's mental health) to go separate ways than to be together: fighting... any of them: friend, sibling, parent or spouse. Hope you are doing well.
Load More Replies... #40
Saw me get treated like shít. I lost about 10 friends in 2 months. I am the loner of my grade know
Final score:
8points
Tamra Stiffler 3 years ago
Being school-age can be very hard sometimes. I hope things get better for you.
Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago
School can be awful. But it will end soon enough, then you've got decades to find real friends xxxx
#41
After speaking to my mom for the first time in yesrs, because my dad was in Hospital with dementcia im the Status and all of US here in germany. wanting help from her, because I coudn't afford the flight. None of US could. She got me mad, calling me a tief! Because I supposed to Stell a watch ober thirty years back when I was teen. I never saw this da... watch in my whole life, she said she found it when she flew over to try to help him. This woman has always been crazy, but I didn't recognize it until then! End of the Story, He died a year later and nobody fro, my Familie was at the Funchal, because we couldn't afford the flight! 8 Years later I finally stood at his grave, the flight paid from my inheritance. I know why I disn't want to talk to her no more. You know what the Best of it is? She's got demetcia now! TG
Final score:
6points
Patricia Fonda (Submission author) 3 years ago
Sorry about my mistakes . I'm instead of im Thief instead of tief steal instead of Stell funeral instead of Funchal
HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
I am glad that you distanced yourself from your mother, but I feel bad that she has dementia. My father died from Alzheimer's and it was pure torture for all of us.
#42
After several years of getting my hair cut but this lady, we became friends. It was ok, but we really didn't do stuff together, just talked on the phone, and had coffee once or twice So late 2019, her common law husband gets Covid, then she gets it. Her work tried to get her to come in and cut hair even tho she was infected. She refused, I supported her. Then her husband gets worse, gets hospitalized, gets released, I'm supporting her, advising her, etc. She's telling me all these horrific things that his family is doing, I'm supporting her, advising her, etc. We do this for about 4 months with her never asking me anything about myself, and I don't say too much because of the s**t show she is dealing with. Last January, she asked me what is going on with me. I tell her I had to euthanize my 20 year old bird due to various age related issues. It had only been about 2 weeks, so I just hadn't had a chance to bring it up yet. She totally went off on me, yelling and screaming about how dare I not tell her, she's my friend, etc. I could not get a word in to explain anything. Finally, I hung up on her. She blew up my phone for a couple weeks, doing passive aggressive stuff like just texting: "hey" repeatedly and calling repeatedly but not leaving messages because I just didn't respond. Finally, I blocked her and deleted her. Sad part is she really cut my hair very well. Now I have to take all kinds of elaborate steps to get my hair cut when she is not there.
Final score:
6points
#43
She planned an elaborate wedding ceremony and reception party including a high priced gift registry, all while secretly already being married.
Final score:
6points
#44
I had just told him where my insecurities of what I was to him came from. It was an open relationship and that was okay, but I just felt like he wasn't as into me as he was into every girl he hadn't done yet. That same night he just completely ignored several of our imposed rules 'because he didn't want the drama I would give'. He said this to his friends who later told me. And then tried to talk it right to me the next day. I gave him one more chance and he blew over the limits I had again within 2 weeks. I tried to save a friendship and he blew over those limits in record time too. So I was just done and went no contact.
Final score:
6points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
He made you feel like a backup plan? Not special? If people make you feel rotten and insecure then it's a sure sign they are not right for you. Glad you're done with him.
Cat&Booklvr (Submission author) 3 years ago
Definitely, if I was feeling insecure he always called it a 'mood'. One time he wanted to have a party and he responded with 'we'll see' when I first jokingly and later seriously asked if I could claim the sleeping spot besides him.
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Bear with me lol.... For almost 10 years this woman I met online and I had been friends. We ran a website together and even though we'd never met I considered her one of my best friends. We often talked about meeting up someday when we could both afford it. We were different people, but liked each other a lot despite that. She was one of the 'crunchy granola' people who liked crystals and organic everything...she was just one of those people. I am not. I'm a walking A-personality, left-brained type. I like reason and rationality. Well at one point, she started getting really strange. She became obsessed with this book called "The Secret" and truly believed in being able to move things with her mind like she was Doctor Strange. She felt like she understood physics and math like she was some supergenius and literally told me she was opening her mind to a new physical 'realm'. I was concerned at first but, after talking to her son he explained she was fine she's just really into this new thing like a child would be-- she was in her 40s. She kept trying to get me to read this book which I flat out refused--because of the aggressive way she was trying to push it on me. From what I'd heard of it, it was a somewhat cult-ish, borderline-religious guide on how to live your life by thinking things into becoming reality... in the same vain as Scientology and other self-help BS. Mostly I didn't want to laugh my ass off and hurt her feelings about how dumb I thought it was since she believed in it so strongly. Then the last straw happened; I used to do webdesign and she once sent me a fake client who wanted some work done but refused to let me do the job unless I read the book and she felt I had the 'same philosophy'... I didn't realize she was never really going to give me the job until consulting with her for over a week about this design. I don't know why my friend suddenly started behaving this way other than she was mixed up with these stupid people. To this day I refuse to read that book because it cost me a friendship. I basically just stopped responding to her emails and tried to let it fade like some friendships do over time. If she'd just talked about it like it was an interesting book or acted normal about it, I might have read it just to make her happy but she kind of went crazy.
Final score:
6points
Suzy McKee Charnas 3 years ago
If you have a friend or relative who falls for one of these mind-f*ck scams -- scientology, "manifesting" what you want by wishful thinking, chasing people around who are uninterested in them on the theory that the one they're stalking is their "Twin Flame", and all the rest of it -- walk away; that's my advice. There are some things that people have to learn the hard way, by their own personal experience; you can't help them. They don't want to be helped. We met a couple while traveling, and their son joined the Moonies. The parents appealed to my husband (a lawyer) to help get their son back. Everything was tried, nothing worked. The son and his Moonie wife have never been in touch since, not in 30 yrs since. So just letting them go is the best way to deal with this kind of madness.
#46
I called my (then) boyfriend after my doctor's appointment to tell him that yes, it was, in fact cancer. He was at a lake with a "friend" from college he'd recently reconnected with. Broke up with him right then and there.
Final score:
6points
Maim (Submission author) 3 years ago
I am A-OK!! Thank you for the kindness. This was many years ago, just glad I realized I didn't need to deal with both my illness and that jerk. LOL!!
Load More Replies... #47
Years ago. Had a good friend who was going through some rough times. Helped him out, found him jobs which he would work at for a short while and quit, found and dragged his drunk ass home when his (now ex) wife called me that he was on a bender, etc. Got to the point where if I answered the phone and heard his voice all I said was "what do you want now?" He would not seek professional help. Finally told him to get his s**t together and not contact me until he did. Just started to feel like I was being dragged down with him plus he started to blame those few left who were trying to help him for his problems and not doing enough.
Final score:
6points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
What a tough thing to do. You only ever help people to that degree when they are good friends and you love them. To see them self destruct is horrible but sometimes cutting them loose is the only thing left to do (and pray they get the message and get their act together).
#48
An old friend of mine. We were in quarantine at the time so I was talking to him through texts an emails. One day I was complaining to him about how much my arm hurt. When I told him it was because I got the covid vaccine he went off. He told me the I was a sheep and practically called me a brainwashed idiot for trying to protect my mother. Needless to say we haven't spoken since and I blocked his number and email.
Final score:
6points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Lawd, those people are nuts. Good for you for protecting not only yourself but your mum too.
Skyfire647 (she/zey) (Submission author) 3 years ago
Thank you, I appreciate that.
Load More Replies... Suzy McKee Charnas 3 years ago
People who call other people "sheep" often end up fleeced themselves, by wolves.
#49
After a car accident my best friend from high school sued my insurance for lost wages from a job she didn't have. Nor was she injured.
Final score:
5points
#50
Sooooo many…my brother calling my wife a family wrecker (he got a broken jaw for that). My sister calling my parents crying when I didn’t want her to visits after working a 12 hr day (she’s 35 & they were on holiday), she got them to abuse me for it. Mother insisted on walking in on me in the shower throughout my teens. Dad just being two faced backstabbing prick. There’s more…
Final score:
5points
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Aw man, that is sad. I hope you have peace of mind now. Do you have a new family? Inlaws? or a lovely group of friends who are nice, fun and supportive? I hope you're ok now, I really do.
Captain Awesome (Submission author) 3 years ago
My in-laws are just as f****d up! We got away from everyone and had kids and got a dog. Life is peachy.
Load More Replies... #51
I had a very strained relationship with my Dad, but he destroyed what was left by calling child protection services. I was admittedly struggling to keep up with all my house cleaning, and our gas had just been shut off because we couldn't afford the ridiculous bill. I had gone nose blind to the smell of my cats, so I wasn't even fully aware how bad it was. If he had just pointed out that things were noticeably out of control, offer to help or get me help, just talked to me, I would have gotten things taken care of. But he called CPS, which was terrifying, embarrassing, made the situation infinitely more stressful, and actually made it more difficult to get things in order because I couldn't live at home or bring my daughter with me while I cleaned. I didn't expect him to pay for our gas bill, but he could have afforded it easily and it would have made cleaning much easier, since I would have water. I was treated like I was stupid and lazy, everything I did and how or why I did it was dissected and questioned. I was in my late 30s, yet questions were often directed to my mom, since that's where I was staying with my baby until I got things cleaned up. It was an absolute nightmare, and I got a first hand account as to why people don't reach out and are resistant to help, why the system fails to protect kids and families, and how the system is designed to supercede your civil and parental rights. My husband and I had decided we would never have contact with him again, it's his loss not getting to watch his granddaughter grow up. But I learned last month that he has early onset Alzheimer's, so now I'm not sure what to do.
Final score:
3points
Not Proud British 3 years ago
You do what you WANT to do and not what you feel you need to do. Just because he is ill, doesn't mean you should leave yourself open to more abuse. He made his choice. If it makes you feel better to see one last time then do that. If it will make you stressed and anxious then don't. Put yourself first in this situation and do what is right for you.
#52
She planned an elaborate wedding ceremony and reception party including a high priced gift registry, all while secretly already being married.
Final score:
2points
#53
After I moved home, my friend was too busy to catch up for coffee anytime in the next 3 months.
Final score:
1point
#54
I had just told him where my insecurities of what I was to him came from. It was an open relationship and that was okay, but I just felt like he wasn't as into me as he was into every girl he hadn't done yet. That same night he just completely ignored several of our imposed rules 'because he didn't want the drama I would give'. He said this to his friends who later told me. And then tried to talk it right to me the next day. I gave him one more chance and he blew over the limits I had again within 2 weeks. I tried to save a friendship and he blew over those limits in record time too. So I was just done and went no contact.
Final score:
0points
What do you think ?
BusLady 3 years ago
You forgot to put "ex" in front of fiance. I had a bf tell me I was fat and needed to lose weight. I weighed 105 pounds at 5"0". Ironically, he had recently put on about 30 pounds.
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Lindy Mac 3 years ago
I seems to me that the prevailing source of distress for people are family members. Instead of having a bond ...they think it entitles them to be snotty or controlling to members of their family. My solution is don't have family members...but that doesn't work for everybody.🤣
22Rincut 3 years ago
The first one: on her first day as a team member, had the audacity to call us all (the one who sacrifice our grades for a whole semester) irresponsible human beings and better come ASAP to the meeting, I walked away, from her and the team, and that was the best decision ever (she is a pathological liar and gaslighting me for years). The second one lied about being robbed and lost all of our monthly rental fees (she was managing it), changing her stories faster than one can blink, go as far as making a false report to the police, her statement was different from the witness's. The third one keeps making comments that implied she was amazed I could think of something like I’m an idiot, well basically she thinks highly of herself and I’m below her.
Goth Nurse 3 years ago
I was sexually assaulted in my home. My (now former) friend from a llocal kink club said it was my own fault since I invited him over. The friendship ended right there and then.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
After a hurricane ripped through our area washing out major roadways, a friend was burning up our phone trying to find a route home. Two days after we helped her find a path home, she is on social media complaining that the local Planet Fitness is not open for her to work out and how it was unacceptable. I reminded her that she just returned home two days earlier and that other people were still trying to find paths home. She said it was no excuse..I said enough an blocked her..cut her off. Entitled brat.
BusLady 3 years ago
You forgot to put "ex" in front of fiance. I had a bf tell me I was fat and needed to lose weight. I weighed 105 pounds at 5"0". Ironically, he had recently put on about 30 pounds.
Load More Replies... Lindy Mac 3 years ago
I seems to me that the prevailing source of distress for people are family members. Instead of having a bond ...they think it entitles them to be snotty or controlling to members of their family. My solution is don't have family members...but that doesn't work for everybody.🤣
22Rincut 3 years ago
The first one: on her first day as a team member, had the audacity to call us all (the one who sacrifice our grades for a whole semester) irresponsible human beings and better come ASAP to the meeting, I walked away, from her and the team, and that was the best decision ever (she is a pathological liar and gaslighting me for years). The second one lied about being robbed and lost all of our monthly rental fees (she was managing it), changing her stories faster than one can blink, go as far as making a false report to the police, her statement was different from the witness's. The third one keeps making comments that implied she was amazed I could think of something like I’m an idiot, well basically she thinks highly of herself and I’m below her.
Goth Nurse 3 years ago
I was sexually assaulted in my home. My (now former) friend from a llocal kink club said it was my own fault since I invited him over. The friendship ended right there and then.
Carol Emory 3 years ago
After a hurricane ripped through our area washing out major roadways, a friend was burning up our phone trying to find a route home. Two days after we helped her find a path home, she is on social media complaining that the local Planet Fitness is not open for her to work out and how it was unacceptable. I reminded her that she just returned home two days earlier and that other people were still trying to find paths home. She said it was no excuse..I said enough an blocked her..cut her off. Entitled brat.
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