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This Guy Receives A Racist Message, Responds With A Compliment And Gets An Apology
Over the course of years, many conducted studies have shown that social media can be quite harmful to one’s mental health. It’s not so hard to see why – when millions of angry people are suddenly given the platform to express their raw feelings, things can get pretty ugly. Today, no one is immune from receiving hateful and toxic messages and a Twitter user Abdul Dremali, a marketing consultant from Boston, is no exception. “I get pretty rude messages very often. I’m fortunate to have a large social media following and with that large audience comes a lot of haters. It’s just part of the game,” he told Bored Panda.
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However, Abdul found a unique way to deal with people insulting him online. “I came up with the idea to just be overly kind as an experiment. Years of constantly getting defensive when someone insults you get tiring so I made a game out of it. It’s served me well because it eliminates any animosity. It ends up being funny regardless because I dismiss their hostility entirely.” he said. One conversation he had perfectly demonstrates this experiment. After receiving a hateful message Abdul responded with a compliment and changed the tone of the conversation, which ended with wishing each other goodnight like friends. “I’ve never talked to that guy again. I think he changed his username because millions of people saw him being racist. Probably a smart move on his part,” he added.
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Amy Ritter 6 years ago
is no one else impressed that he managed to score the twitter handle Advil?
Night Owl 6 years ago (edited)
It really fits him. Edit: I just checked - Twitter was founded on March 21, 2006 and he joined April 2008. I guess it was still the early days and he had more options for it than someone joining today.
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Amina Hays 6 years ago
I've been doing this in response to racist remarks for years. I, however, do not have a large online following and have been doing it in person, which makes it even more awkward for the person doing the insulting. It's brilliant to see them crumble into apologies. Mwahahaha.
Kristina White 6 years ago
I did tech support in a call center for years and any time someone called and was really angry or rude I always made a game for myself out of it, that by the end of the call they would love me. Worked 99% of the time.
Meowton Mewsk 6 years ago
I don’t ever yell at people on the phone, but I do feel like I get bad customer service at call centers a lot. I wish more call center employees put in as much effort as you did. Then again, I guess the pay isn’t much incentive. As far as I’ve heard anyway.
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Troux 6 years ago
There's something he's not telling us about the guy or the context. It's obviously not just some random stranger who has been shown the error in his ways. Randomly complimenting other guys on their looks, laying "love u" and/or "good night" is just not allowed between male strangers without igniting the angry homophobia reactions that come with toxic masculinity. These guys MUST have known each other pretty well beforehand.
rola 6 years ago
Or they could just not have toxic masculinity. Masculinity isn't inherently toxic
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cashmeremanufacturer.com 6 years ago
Perhaps I can learn something from this handsome guy. Being kind is one thing, to keep polite even someone is attacking you is another thing more difficult to achieve.
Just a Purpler 6 years ago
The amount of patience it would take to respond like that, what a kind heart he has geez. I'd get too angry to ever consider trying to brighten the insulters world like that!
Kriel Kipjes 6 years ago
Once a man on a forum started to bark at me out of the blue. Wanted to make some sarcastic comment back, but then I just didn't and stayed kind. Later he told me he had brain damage and he said sorry.
Felicia Dale 6 years ago
Yep. This works really well for all sorts of trolls. If nothing else it confuses the heck out of them and that's always useful!
Stannous Flouride 6 years ago
I made a decision before the last US selection (sic) to no longer make any negative comments online. With the amount of anger out there it's often hard to keep my fingers off the keyboard but it has made my online life much less stressful.
Daniel (ShadowDrakken) 6 years ago (edited)
BoredPanda with clickbait titles again. There was no racism here. Not all jerks are automatically racist, BP; get your act together and stop being part of the problem.
Von 6 years ago
"Go back to wherever the f**k you come from" IS a racist thing to say to a person of color. Now it's a hypocritical thing to say, since no white person is indigenous or aboriginal to this land, so theoretically the same could be accurately said to any one them, but they think they own this country. And so when it's said by a white person to a person of color, it's based in racism. Period.
Dre Mosley 6 years ago
Nice story, and whether his comment was racist is questionable. That said, this approach would not work with a true racist. Good luck being nice to a Neo-Nazi and having the apologize for calling you a racial slur.
Abby Not Normal 6 years ago
Saying go back to wherever you came from to a person of color is racist..
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Nicklas Linder 6 years ago
DAMN IT PANDA!!! NOW I WILL HAVE TO BE NICE ON THE INTERNET OR FEEL LIKE AN A*****E IF I'M NOT!!! :-D
Meowton Mewsk 6 years ago
That’s... actually kind of a good idea. How do you find a compliment for someone who isn’t showing a picture though?
John Louis 6 years ago
Jesus said to Love your enemies. If it doesn't convert them it will drive them crazy. Abraham Lincoln was once asked if he ever wanted to crush his enemies. He said that if he makes them his friend has he not done that.
Fawn Grier 6 years ago
Good story, the initial comment was ugly and hateful, but not inherently racist. "Go home" doesn't meet the definition of racism. I really hate how that word gets thrown around so easily; it no longer has any meaning when used like that. There's real racism out there, but this isn't it.
Daria B 6 years ago
If followed by "to wherever you came from" and is based merely on looks (without any prior information or knowledge about the person it is directed to), then, yes, it's racist. But you do have a good point. For example in the phrase "Yankee go home", they are usually calling out for (American) soldiers to be sent back home and stop the war. Although "Yankee" might be a bit derogatory. Anyway, it's all about context.
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William Teach 6 years ago
Again, this looks utterly made up. Unless someone can tell me it is a different app, that sure looks like standard text messaging, not social media. Which means the person was given his phone number. And the person just reaches out with a text which would give his own phone number to send a mean message? Really? Not buying it.
Richard Murray 6 years ago
jeez, pretty pathetic. Own your hate! Don't capitulate like a whiny b***h! FFS... some people have no staying power. Embrace evil people! it's not hard!
Amy Ritter 6 years ago
is no one else impressed that he managed to score the twitter handle Advil?
Night Owl 6 years ago (edited)
It really fits him. Edit: I just checked - Twitter was founded on March 21, 2006 and he joined April 2008. I guess it was still the early days and he had more options for it than someone joining today.
Load More Replies... Amina Hays 6 years ago
I've been doing this in response to racist remarks for years. I, however, do not have a large online following and have been doing it in person, which makes it even more awkward for the person doing the insulting. It's brilliant to see them crumble into apologies. Mwahahaha.
Kristina White 6 years ago
I did tech support in a call center for years and any time someone called and was really angry or rude I always made a game for myself out of it, that by the end of the call they would love me. Worked 99% of the time.
Meowton Mewsk 6 years ago
I don’t ever yell at people on the phone, but I do feel like I get bad customer service at call centers a lot. I wish more call center employees put in as much effort as you did. Then again, I guess the pay isn’t much incentive. As far as I’ve heard anyway.
Load More Replies... Troux 6 years ago
There's something he's not telling us about the guy or the context. It's obviously not just some random stranger who has been shown the error in his ways. Randomly complimenting other guys on their looks, laying "love u" and/or "good night" is just not allowed between male strangers without igniting the angry homophobia reactions that come with toxic masculinity. These guys MUST have known each other pretty well beforehand.
rola 6 years ago
Or they could just not have toxic masculinity. Masculinity isn't inherently toxic
Load More Replies... cashmeremanufacturer.com 6 years ago
Perhaps I can learn something from this handsome guy. Being kind is one thing, to keep polite even someone is attacking you is another thing more difficult to achieve.
Just a Purpler 6 years ago
The amount of patience it would take to respond like that, what a kind heart he has geez. I'd get too angry to ever consider trying to brighten the insulters world like that!
Kriel Kipjes 6 years ago
Once a man on a forum started to bark at me out of the blue. Wanted to make some sarcastic comment back, but then I just didn't and stayed kind. Later he told me he had brain damage and he said sorry.
Felicia Dale 6 years ago
Yep. This works really well for all sorts of trolls. If nothing else it confuses the heck out of them and that's always useful!
Stannous Flouride 6 years ago
I made a decision before the last US selection (sic) to no longer make any negative comments online. With the amount of anger out there it's often hard to keep my fingers off the keyboard but it has made my online life much less stressful.
Daniel (ShadowDrakken) 6 years ago (edited)
BoredPanda with clickbait titles again. There was no racism here. Not all jerks are automatically racist, BP; get your act together and stop being part of the problem.
Von 6 years ago
"Go back to wherever the f**k you come from" IS a racist thing to say to a person of color. Now it's a hypocritical thing to say, since no white person is indigenous or aboriginal to this land, so theoretically the same could be accurately said to any one them, but they think they own this country. And so when it's said by a white person to a person of color, it's based in racism. Period.
Dre Mosley 6 years ago
Nice story, and whether his comment was racist is questionable. That said, this approach would not work with a true racist. Good luck being nice to a Neo-Nazi and having the apologize for calling you a racial slur.
Abby Not Normal 6 years ago
Saying go back to wherever you came from to a person of color is racist..
Load More Replies... Nicklas Linder 6 years ago
DAMN IT PANDA!!! NOW I WILL HAVE TO BE NICE ON THE INTERNET OR FEEL LIKE AN A*****E IF I'M NOT!!! :-D
Meowton Mewsk 6 years ago
That’s... actually kind of a good idea. How do you find a compliment for someone who isn’t showing a picture though?
John Louis 6 years ago
Jesus said to Love your enemies. If it doesn't convert them it will drive them crazy. Abraham Lincoln was once asked if he ever wanted to crush his enemies. He said that if he makes them his friend has he not done that.
Fawn Grier 6 years ago
Good story, the initial comment was ugly and hateful, but not inherently racist. "Go home" doesn't meet the definition of racism. I really hate how that word gets thrown around so easily; it no longer has any meaning when used like that. There's real racism out there, but this isn't it.
Daria B 6 years ago
If followed by "to wherever you came from" and is based merely on looks (without any prior information or knowledge about the person it is directed to), then, yes, it's racist. But you do have a good point. For example in the phrase "Yankee go home", they are usually calling out for (American) soldiers to be sent back home and stop the war. Although "Yankee" might be a bit derogatory. Anyway, it's all about context.
Load More Replies... William Teach 6 years ago
Again, this looks utterly made up. Unless someone can tell me it is a different app, that sure looks like standard text messaging, not social media. Which means the person was given his phone number. And the person just reaches out with a text which would give his own phone number to send a mean message? Really? Not buying it.
Richard Murray 6 years ago
jeez, pretty pathetic. Own your hate! Don't capitulate like a whiny b***h! FFS... some people have no staying power. Embrace evil people! it's not hard!
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