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“Are You 6?”: Woman Ruins Her BF’s Proposal Because She Was Hangry, Splits The Internet
Many couples want their proposals to be perfect. And what’s the best place for that? According to the majority of American couples, it’s some sort of ‘scenic’ spot. 14% of U.S. couples, for example, have gotten engaged during an outdoor activity. But there are some practical things to consider when proposing outdoors.
Snacks can be one, as this couple found out the hard way. The boyfriend planned a seemingly perfect proposal, but failed to consider that his GF might get a serious case of the munchies. His romantic evening thus turned into a disaster when her stomach started growling and her mood turned sour.
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The woman started wondering whether she was too mean or if her BF picked the wrong time and place
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A good proposal needs to resonate with both partners and be unique to their love story
It’s natural to want the day of your engagement to be special. It’s about celebrating love, commitment, and your relationship. Sadly, some couples don’t experience the much-wanted engagement bliss.
A recent survey by Talker Research found that only 39% of American couples would give their proposal an A+. What’s more, only half of the respondents said they wouldn’t change a thing about their proposal.
A proposal doesn’t have to be perfect, but many couples will still want to come as close as possible. For that to happen, the proposal should reflect the relationship itself and the couple’s love story.
In a previous article for Bored Panda, date planners and proposal experts at The Heart Bandits emphasized how important it is to make the day meaningful and relatable for both partners.
“Brainstorm things about your relationship that may be unique to your love story,” Michele Velazquez of The Heart Bandits told us then. “Think about how you first met, how you fell in love, shared hobbies that brought you together, moments in your relationship that made you stronger, etc. Then circle those ideas that you think could be used as the central theme in your marriage proposal.”
Her husband and partner, Marvin, also told us how one can recover after an unsuccessful proposal. “Make the proposal something that the partner truly wants,” he said. “For example, if the partner loves nature, the proposal can happen on a scenic hike with some romantic setup ready.”
“The proposer would really need to learn if their person wants certain things like being the center of attention, a private or public proposal, something elaborate or intimate, romantic or adventurous, etc.”
“The proposer would then need to take the time to truly plan out something amazing that their partner would love to ensure their partner feels special and makes the moment more meaningful.”
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An outdoor proposal is not a bad idea, but there are some details to consider
There are many different places that people choose for proposals. Depending on what their partners like, some choose to propose at restaurants; others do it during concerts or sporting events. Nature lovers often opt for a picnic or even a hike.
When planning a proposal outdoors, there are more things that can go wrong, since nature’s ways are sometimes unpredictable. Seattle-based elopement and wedding photographer Joe Tobiason notes that for hiking proposals, you need to consider things like:
- Choosing the right trail. Depending on fitness level, scenery preferences, and time constraints, different hiking routes may interest you. If you’re looking to propose in a protected area, you might even need permits!
- Prepare clothing. Even if the forecast says it’s going to be sunny, it’s always best to come prepared.
- Other provisions. This includes things like food (especially relevant for the couple in this story), a camera (or even hiring a photographer), or even a pet.
However, the most important thing to consider might be coming up with a Plan B. Wedding photographer Clarissa Wylde agrees: “Even with the best-laid plans, things can sometimes go sideways.”
“Weather, crowds, or unexpected obstacles can pop up, especially in outdoor locations. Always have a Plan B so that you’re not stressed if something doesn’t go as expected.”
“How was I supposed to magically know I was walking into a surprise proposal while running on fumes and one granola bar?” the woman defended herself
Some people thought this was just a big misunderstanding caused by a lack of communication from both of them
Other sided with the woman: “He shoulda brought snacks”
Some, however, thought that being hungry did not warrant ruining a special moment
Similar proposals have happened to other women, and they shared their stories
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DrBronxx 5 months ago
ESH here. *Really* poor planning on the BF's part, and didn't listen to her. On the other hand, being hangry is never an excuse. Also, she said she complained a lot - she lowkey complained about him at the start of the d**n post with the "if you like everything covered in hot sauce" and Taco Bell comments. Also, "cute-sassy grumpy"? That sounds like such a chore. Lastly, if you know that you get hangry, eat more than half a d**n granola bar for lunch.
BeesEelsAndPups 5 months ago
The complaint about his cooking right at the start was it for me. Why throw that in? This is a relationship where nothing this guy does will ever be good enough. It's best to just move on.
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Ace 5 months ago
The whole idea of the "surprise" proposal is ridiculous, but these days it sees to be taken to even worse extremes. This guy's clearly felt pressured to do something special and doesn't have the life experience to make a proper job of it. Food timing is more or less important to different people and I assume he just didn't think about it. But then to leave it hanging is stupid of both of them. He was going to propose, they both know that, and presumably if she was not going to accept she would have told him by now, so can't they just agree that they are by now de-facto engaged? Just give her the ring already.
Binky Melnik 5 months ago
The thing is he had an event planned at dinner time, so my first thought would be it’s a dinner! But since the plans went wonky because she didn’t feel well from hunger, ALL he had to do was to take her for something to eat. He didn’t hafta tell her that bed planned to propose and she ruined it. (Because she didn’t; he let her think she was gonna be fed when she wasn’t.) Had he kept his stupid mouth shut, he coulda done it a different day,and *that* time he coulda brought a picnic basket with him. There was no need to tell her about the missed half-assed surprise. Since he opened his pie hole, though, now there’s finger-pointing, blaming, and whatever else they came up with. All he had to do was to STAY QUIET, and then try again, but this ti e with adjustments! That’s all! She didn’t ruin anything; he did! (And by proposing when she has a good, normal blood sugar level, it means she’ll be able to REMEMBER he proposal!)
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KatSaidWhat 5 months ago
I'm Team Girlfriend here - 6 hours is a long time without food. Hangry is a real thing. It can also lead to a drop in blood sugar...
Sarah 5 months ago
Agreed. I cannot function. Everyone’s body is different . I have friends who can go out after work not having eaten since 1 pm. Unless we are having dinner . Not a snack.. I can’t sit in pub . Crisps/ peanuts do not cut the mustard
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Deborah B 5 months ago
If they're a couple, doesn't he know she gets hangry? If you want something to be perfect, you have to plan for the reality of the moment, not the insta post. That means knowing your partner might get hangry around dinner time, and feeding them before attempting romance. And when things don't go as you plan, you adapt. Guy could have said "I wanted to show you the sunset view - but yeah, I can see you're hangry, let's go eat instead, and we'll plan to come back another evening with a picnic." Then not mentioned the proposal until the redo. Or wait till she's eaten, then go down on one knee with "I don't need the perfect setting, I love you. I want the watching the sunsets, and I want the eating fast food in the car because you're hangry. Will you marry me?" He didn't have to make it a "you ruined my proposal." moment. It was a chance to be genuine and present with her, and instead he made up a script in his head, and then got petty when she didn't follow it.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 months ago
So grown adults of 26 years old are absolved of taking care of themselves? The responsibility of feeding themselves and keeping track of their hunger levels is removed from them and placed onto their partners? It's the partner who should have provided snacks or food, not OP? Oookay. It's also worth pointing out that OP's boyfriend was PROPOSING to her - a situation where he may have been, you know, the totally normal human emotions of anxious and nervous. I don't think he had her past history of hangriness on his mind.
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DrBronxx 5 months ago (edited)
She didn't say she was jittery and weak. Also, unless you have some sort of medical condition, skipping a meal is certainly not the end of the world. As much as her boyfriend messed up, she comes across as very childish. That said, he does too, with his whole "you ruined the moment" thing.
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tori Ohno 5 months ago
The people who are smack talking Her about this obviously don't understand hypoglycemia very well. Some people are predisposed to it. Not diabetic, just not able to handle low blood sugar. It's completely uncontrollable because it's simply their metabolism. He should know this about her if he's wanting to marry her. But he either doesn't, or doesn't care. Also, telling her about it afterwards was nasty and immature. She did "ruin" anything. This couple isn't ready to get married.
Tabitha 5 months ago (edited)
Seriously. If it didn’t happen that night, there are plenty more nights—-nd days—-coming up for him to pop the question, ffs. Proposals don’t need to be some elaborately orchestrated Instagram-worthy event. Sometimes they are, yes, but sometimes they happen unintentionally, like blurting it out spontaneously while grocery shopping. Hell, my husband proposed over the phone, because he was in the UK at the time. It just came out during one of our normal catchup phone calls. I thought it was sweet and spontaneous. Of course I said yes. Duh. That was 25 years ago and we’re still together and happy. I also don’t have an engagement ring, we got married at the courthouse with a few friends as witnesses, and those friends together took us out for a wedding dinner, and one of them even handed us the keys to her beach house for our honeymoon (we were just going to stay home, lock the door, answer the phone. Neither the proposal, nor the ring, nor the wedding nor the reception nor the honeymoon are as important as the marriage itself.
Load More Replies... Ge Po 5 months ago
To all the YTA, yes, for some people starting a hike at 6:30 with no food to be expected for the next half hour or so will be too long. Some people can go without food for an entire day, some people's bodies can't regulate their blood sugars that well and they'll crash. Especially when they're supposed to go hike. Not a good idea when you're about to propose.
Tabitha 5 months ago (edited)
PLUS, he told her to dress nice. I guarantee I am NOT going to get all dolled up, expecting to have a nice meal at a nice restaurant, only to have my other half take me an hour out of town to end up covered in sweat and dirt from going on a fukcing HIKE!?!? In a nice outfit, and heels? Are you fukcing kidding me? That alone would make me angry, even if I wasn’t already hungry AF.
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Dav Carro-Ripalda 5 months ago
Seriously, you put his moment of romanticism over you being hungry? Do not expect more romantic moments. You are selfish. You do nor deserve this guy.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 5 months ago
I personally think hanger is a stupid excuse to be an a*s to anyone, but OP also isn't psychic
DrBronxx 5 months ago
ESH here. *Really* poor planning on the BF's part, and didn't listen to her. On the other hand, being hangry is never an excuse. Also, she said she complained a lot - she lowkey complained about him at the start of the d**n post with the "if you like everything covered in hot sauce" and Taco Bell comments. Also, "cute-sassy grumpy"? That sounds like such a chore. Lastly, if you know that you get hangry, eat more than half a d**n granola bar for lunch.
BeesEelsAndPups 5 months ago
The complaint about his cooking right at the start was it for me. Why throw that in? This is a relationship where nothing this guy does will ever be good enough. It's best to just move on.
Load More Replies... Ace 5 months ago
The whole idea of the "surprise" proposal is ridiculous, but these days it sees to be taken to even worse extremes. This guy's clearly felt pressured to do something special and doesn't have the life experience to make a proper job of it. Food timing is more or less important to different people and I assume he just didn't think about it. But then to leave it hanging is stupid of both of them. He was going to propose, they both know that, and presumably if she was not going to accept she would have told him by now, so can't they just agree that they are by now de-facto engaged? Just give her the ring already.
Binky Melnik 5 months ago
The thing is he had an event planned at dinner time, so my first thought would be it’s a dinner! But since the plans went wonky because she didn’t feel well from hunger, ALL he had to do was to take her for something to eat. He didn’t hafta tell her that bed planned to propose and she ruined it. (Because she didn’t; he let her think she was gonna be fed when she wasn’t.) Had he kept his stupid mouth shut, he coulda done it a different day,and *that* time he coulda brought a picnic basket with him. There was no need to tell her about the missed half-assed surprise. Since he opened his pie hole, though, now there’s finger-pointing, blaming, and whatever else they came up with. All he had to do was to STAY QUIET, and then try again, but this ti e with adjustments! That’s all! She didn’t ruin anything; he did! (And by proposing when she has a good, normal blood sugar level, it means she’ll be able to REMEMBER he proposal!)
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 5 months ago
I'm Team Girlfriend here - 6 hours is a long time without food. Hangry is a real thing. It can also lead to a drop in blood sugar...
Sarah 5 months ago
Agreed. I cannot function. Everyone’s body is different . I have friends who can go out after work not having eaten since 1 pm. Unless we are having dinner . Not a snack.. I can’t sit in pub . Crisps/ peanuts do not cut the mustard
Load More Replies... Deborah B 5 months ago
If they're a couple, doesn't he know she gets hangry? If you want something to be perfect, you have to plan for the reality of the moment, not the insta post. That means knowing your partner might get hangry around dinner time, and feeding them before attempting romance. And when things don't go as you plan, you adapt. Guy could have said "I wanted to show you the sunset view - but yeah, I can see you're hangry, let's go eat instead, and we'll plan to come back another evening with a picnic." Then not mentioned the proposal until the redo. Or wait till she's eaten, then go down on one knee with "I don't need the perfect setting, I love you. I want the watching the sunsets, and I want the eating fast food in the car because you're hangry. Will you marry me?" He didn't have to make it a "you ruined my proposal." moment. It was a chance to be genuine and present with her, and instead he made up a script in his head, and then got petty when she didn't follow it.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 months ago
So grown adults of 26 years old are absolved of taking care of themselves? The responsibility of feeding themselves and keeping track of their hunger levels is removed from them and placed onto their partners? It's the partner who should have provided snacks or food, not OP? Oookay. It's also worth pointing out that OP's boyfriend was PROPOSING to her - a situation where he may have been, you know, the totally normal human emotions of anxious and nervous. I don't think he had her past history of hangriness on his mind.
Load More Replies... DrBronxx 5 months ago (edited)
She didn't say she was jittery and weak. Also, unless you have some sort of medical condition, skipping a meal is certainly not the end of the world. As much as her boyfriend messed up, she comes across as very childish. That said, he does too, with his whole "you ruined the moment" thing.
Load More Replies... tori Ohno 5 months ago
The people who are smack talking Her about this obviously don't understand hypoglycemia very well. Some people are predisposed to it. Not diabetic, just not able to handle low blood sugar. It's completely uncontrollable because it's simply their metabolism. He should know this about her if he's wanting to marry her. But he either doesn't, or doesn't care. Also, telling her about it afterwards was nasty and immature. She did "ruin" anything. This couple isn't ready to get married.
Tabitha 5 months ago (edited)
Seriously. If it didn’t happen that night, there are plenty more nights—-nd days—-coming up for him to pop the question, ffs. Proposals don’t need to be some elaborately orchestrated Instagram-worthy event. Sometimes they are, yes, but sometimes they happen unintentionally, like blurting it out spontaneously while grocery shopping. Hell, my husband proposed over the phone, because he was in the UK at the time. It just came out during one of our normal catchup phone calls. I thought it was sweet and spontaneous. Of course I said yes. Duh. That was 25 years ago and we’re still together and happy. I also don’t have an engagement ring, we got married at the courthouse with a few friends as witnesses, and those friends together took us out for a wedding dinner, and one of them even handed us the keys to her beach house for our honeymoon (we were just going to stay home, lock the door, answer the phone. Neither the proposal, nor the ring, nor the wedding nor the reception nor the honeymoon are as important as the marriage itself.
Load More Replies... Ge Po 5 months ago
To all the YTA, yes, for some people starting a hike at 6:30 with no food to be expected for the next half hour or so will be too long. Some people can go without food for an entire day, some people's bodies can't regulate their blood sugars that well and they'll crash. Especially when they're supposed to go hike. Not a good idea when you're about to propose.
Tabitha 5 months ago (edited)
PLUS, he told her to dress nice. I guarantee I am NOT going to get all dolled up, expecting to have a nice meal at a nice restaurant, only to have my other half take me an hour out of town to end up covered in sweat and dirt from going on a fukcing HIKE!?!? In a nice outfit, and heels? Are you fukcing kidding me? That alone would make me angry, even if I wasn’t already hungry AF.
Load More Replies... Dav Carro-Ripalda 5 months ago
Seriously, you put his moment of romanticism over you being hungry? Do not expect more romantic moments. You are selfish. You do nor deserve this guy.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 5 months ago
I personally think hanger is a stupid excuse to be an a*s to anyone, but OP also isn't psychic
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