Woman’s New Policy For Her Perpetually Late Friend Is To Leave Without Her, And The Friend Is Livid
Everyone has that one friend who operates on their own, personal time zone. You learn to lie about start times, you bring a book, you accept that waiting is simply the price of admission for their friendship.
But there are some events, some once-in-a-lifetime opportunities, where that price is just too high. For one woman, that line in the sand was drawn by a ticket to Hamilton, and she was not going to miss her shot.
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A chronically late friend can test the limits of even the strongest patience
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A woman’s friend scored coveted Hamilton tickets, but her notorious lateness posed a serious threat
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Instead of getting ready, the friend was casually painting her nails and adding new errands to the list
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Fed up and fearing she would miss the show, the narrator grabbed her ticket from the fridge and left
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She texted her friend that she had left, but even this message went unread in between all the tardiness
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The friend arrived over an hour late, missing the entire first act, and was furious at being ‘abandoned’
A woman was “over the moon” when her notoriously, chronically late friend, “Lisa,” scored tickets to the sold-out production of Hamilton. Knowing her friend’s complete disregard for the concept of time, she smartly arrived at Lisa’s house an hour before their absolute latest departure time, only to find her napping on the couch.
Lisa slowly made and ate a meal while scrolling on her phone, then disappeared into her room. The OP, her anxiety mounting, went to check on her, only to find her casually painting her nails. Lisa’s justification was a one-two punch of infuriating logic: “plays NEVER start on time,” and also, she needed to stop for gas and drop something off at her mom’s.
Faced with the certainty that she was about to miss the show of a lifetime, the narrator spotted the tickets on the fridge, made a split-second decision, and grabbed hers. She texted Lisa that she was leaving (a text that went unread) and made it to the theater with 20 minutes to spare, enjoying a glorious, Lisa-free first act.
Lisa finally arrived just before the second half began, over an hour late, and was furious at being “left.” She argued that since they were “her tickets,” the narrator should have waited, a complaint that fell on deaf ears. The narrator, having enjoyed the first act and seeing her friend had missed it entirely due to her own actions, was left wondering if her desperate move to save the evening had made her a jerk.
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Lisa’s chronic tardiness is a pattern that, according to psychological resources, is often rooted in more than just poor time management. The psychology behind chronic lateness can involve an “optimism bias,” leading someone to consistently underestimate how long tasks will take.
This mindset, while not necessarily malicious, shows a fundamental lack of respect for other people’s time and the structure of a shared plan. The solution to this problem is a conscious shift in perspective, something Lisa was clearly unwilling to do. As explained in The Cut, a key strategy for being on time is to work backward from the arrival deadline, planning every step needed to get there.
Lisa did the exact opposite; instead of focusing on the 7 p.m. start time, she kept adding new, non-essential tasks like painting her nails and making extra stops, a clear sign that she was not prioritizing the event or her friend’s anxiety.
Ultimately, the narrator’s decision to leave was simply boundary setting. As recommended by experts in SELF magazine for dealing with a chronically late friend, when verbal reminders and pleas are ignored, the next step is to enforce a consequence. Leaving without Lisa was a direct and powerful way to communicate that her own time is valuable.
Would you have left Lisa behind or do you think the OP needed more patience? Share your thoughts in the comments section!
The internet overwhelmingly declared that the friend got what she deserved for her blatant disrespect
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Her friend is inconsiderate and seemingly lives in LaLa land where being on time is optional. I don't know if I would have been so bold as to just take the ticket and go, but I wouldn't have wanted to go anywhere with her again. To top it off she called your child the "R" word!! She would be in my s**t list forever!
Even if none of the rest of it had happened, anyone calls my kid the "R" word, and that's the last they'll ever see of me or my family. I don't tolerate bigots.
Load More Replies...So....that's the trash taking itself out and no more having to deal with a chronically late person. Done and done.
Wow, that update. Actually really glad that this went this way. OP gets to cut out someone who doesn't value her time AND slurred her kid. And saw Hamilton for free as a bonus!!! We all have that one friend but it's only as mature adults that you realise you don't have to put up with that s**t. You can in fact leave tickets at the door.
Just s***s that the worst friend is always the one who manages to score all the goodies, isn’t it? OP had a golden opportunity to see a show that was a Broadway hit that none could score tickets for, for years. Yet, her now ex-friend was blasé about it and took her sweet time getting ready, as if the theater was going to hold the show for her arrival. Who TF does she thinks she is? TBH, I would’ve taken my ticket—-ex-friend offered it, so it’s mine, and she won the tickets anyway, so wasn’t out any cash—-told her I’d save her seat, and gotten to the theatre on time. Too bad ex-friend couldn’t be seated u til the second act. That was her own fault. I am glad OP got to see the show before the “friendship” ended. Ex-friend sure showed her true colors, and OP is well rid of her. Also, if I won such coveted tickets, I would spend the night at the hotel next door to the theatre if I knew I could run late. Lastly, if I had won tickets like that, and for some reason could not attend, or was running late, the person I invited to accommodate would be welcome to be seated on time, and I would have to make the sacrifice of not seeing the first act, or the entire show if I couldn’t attend. That ticket belongs to the person you invited, ffs. You don’t just take it back because you can’t get off your a*s and be on time for once.
Load More Replies...I have ADHD. This means when I'm focused on things, I time can pass, and I have absolutely no idea how much time has slipped by me. Because of this, I don't allow myself to get into things that could steal my focus if I'm going out somewhere. Alarms are set to ensure I am leaving the house when I should be. Extra time is planned into journeys as a 'just in case'. This means I am chronically early. I am never late. As I put so much effort into not being late it really, really annoys me when others are late (exceptional circumstances aside). There is no way I could make time sensitive plans with a person I know to be chronically late. It feels like they are abusing my time, and taking me for granted. They are declaring their time is so much more important than mine, and it doesn't matter if they are late. I can't tolerate this sort of behaviour when I work so hard to ensure I don't do such a thing.
People who do this are inconsiderate aholes. They do not care about anyone but themselves. I'm this person and still believe this.
I used to be friendly with someone like this many years ago. She would go out of her way to find things to distract her from getting ready in a reasonable manner. She even used this tactic when she would date men and said if they weren't willing to wait for her to get ready on her time, she wasn't interested. I don't get it honestly.
If you're an adult who doesn't need a legal guardian, you're capable of learning how to manage your time. Your refusal to do so is not my problem.
I'm a person who is always late but I have forced myself to always be early by telling myself I have to be there way before I really need to, so even if I'm late then I'm actually on time. Just to add I've never been an hour late for anything usually my lateness is 10/15 minutes I'm not that inconsiderate.
NTA. There's nothing more infuriating than someone who is chronically late, and it's even worse when they treat their tardiness as a big joke. I once knew somebody who's timekeeping was so bad that if we wanted him to meet us at 5pm for example we would tell him to meet us at 4pm because he was always around an hour late. And that's when he could be bothered to turn up at all. Personally I would rather be half an hour early than one second late.
Her friend is inconsiderate and seemingly lives in LaLa land where being on time is optional. I don't know if I would have been so bold as to just take the ticket and go, but I wouldn't have wanted to go anywhere with her again. To top it off she called your child the "R" word!! She would be in my s**t list forever!
Even if none of the rest of it had happened, anyone calls my kid the "R" word, and that's the last they'll ever see of me or my family. I don't tolerate bigots.
Load More Replies...So....that's the trash taking itself out and no more having to deal with a chronically late person. Done and done.
Wow, that update. Actually really glad that this went this way. OP gets to cut out someone who doesn't value her time AND slurred her kid. And saw Hamilton for free as a bonus!!! We all have that one friend but it's only as mature adults that you realise you don't have to put up with that s**t. You can in fact leave tickets at the door.
Just s***s that the worst friend is always the one who manages to score all the goodies, isn’t it? OP had a golden opportunity to see a show that was a Broadway hit that none could score tickets for, for years. Yet, her now ex-friend was blasé about it and took her sweet time getting ready, as if the theater was going to hold the show for her arrival. Who TF does she thinks she is? TBH, I would’ve taken my ticket—-ex-friend offered it, so it’s mine, and she won the tickets anyway, so wasn’t out any cash—-told her I’d save her seat, and gotten to the theatre on time. Too bad ex-friend couldn’t be seated u til the second act. That was her own fault. I am glad OP got to see the show before the “friendship” ended. Ex-friend sure showed her true colors, and OP is well rid of her. Also, if I won such coveted tickets, I would spend the night at the hotel next door to the theatre if I knew I could run late. Lastly, if I had won tickets like that, and for some reason could not attend, or was running late, the person I invited to accommodate would be welcome to be seated on time, and I would have to make the sacrifice of not seeing the first act, or the entire show if I couldn’t attend. That ticket belongs to the person you invited, ffs. You don’t just take it back because you can’t get off your a*s and be on time for once.
Load More Replies...I have ADHD. This means when I'm focused on things, I time can pass, and I have absolutely no idea how much time has slipped by me. Because of this, I don't allow myself to get into things that could steal my focus if I'm going out somewhere. Alarms are set to ensure I am leaving the house when I should be. Extra time is planned into journeys as a 'just in case'. This means I am chronically early. I am never late. As I put so much effort into not being late it really, really annoys me when others are late (exceptional circumstances aside). There is no way I could make time sensitive plans with a person I know to be chronically late. It feels like they are abusing my time, and taking me for granted. They are declaring their time is so much more important than mine, and it doesn't matter if they are late. I can't tolerate this sort of behaviour when I work so hard to ensure I don't do such a thing.
People who do this are inconsiderate aholes. They do not care about anyone but themselves. I'm this person and still believe this.
I used to be friendly with someone like this many years ago. She would go out of her way to find things to distract her from getting ready in a reasonable manner. She even used this tactic when she would date men and said if they weren't willing to wait for her to get ready on her time, she wasn't interested. I don't get it honestly.
If you're an adult who doesn't need a legal guardian, you're capable of learning how to manage your time. Your refusal to do so is not my problem.
I'm a person who is always late but I have forced myself to always be early by telling myself I have to be there way before I really need to, so even if I'm late then I'm actually on time. Just to add I've never been an hour late for anything usually my lateness is 10/15 minutes I'm not that inconsiderate.
NTA. There's nothing more infuriating than someone who is chronically late, and it's even worse when they treat their tardiness as a big joke. I once knew somebody who's timekeeping was so bad that if we wanted him to meet us at 5pm for example we would tell him to meet us at 4pm because he was always around an hour late. And that's when he could be bothered to turn up at all. Personally I would rather be half an hour early than one second late.


































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