Woman Shares Boyfriend’s Body Shaming Texts On Twitter Asking What To Do, Dumps Him With Internet’s Help

or people just change. like ya know. humans do. we all age. all get older and saggy. its nature. if people cant come to terms with that then they need a reality check.

Yea, but im sure she told him that she was under weight and that was why she was gaining weight, and he went and said she was "getting a beer gut". Tbh, this makes me pretty sad cause it hits close to home. A couple years ago, i ended up going down to 60lbs and had to gain weight because my hair was starting to come out and stuff from being too small. But when i was gaining back the weight, my own family (including my grandmother) kept saying things like "Arent you getting kinda fat?" and stuff. Its pretty hard coming from someone that's supposed to love you

@BREAK YOUr perceptions I think that is more because of my desire to communicate. There is I slight difference between writing a comment anonymously and posting dozens of pictures in underwear, private conversations and telling the whole internet about their private life. @Misty Evergreen No! No sane person needs to do this. She's acting like she has major psychological problems and she was not in any way "beaten down by her BF".

@Roman, a slight difference yes but ultimately its semantics to say you are looking for attention. and im pretty sure it didnt start off with her posting a bunch of pictures scantily clad. the main point of the entire tirade sent out was because she wanted to know she wasnt alone in thinking her boyfriend was being insensitive and overbearing. to say mental or emotional abuse CANNOT lead to major psychological problems would be a a grand disservice to mental health as a whole. maybe she didnt have problems YET but this kind of hostility and dehumanizing can certainly lead to it.

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And sometimes that's exactly what people need. This girl was so beaten down by her BF that she began to believe all the c**p things he said. She wanted to know that someone out there actually cared.

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Yes, lost muscle mass and gained fat. The number of the scale is the same, but the body completely different - there is even a story on bored panda about this: https://www.boredpanda.com/same-weight-fitness-incredible-transformations/

OK children, go play in another room.

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If you compare the pictures, you can clearly see that she is letting herself go. That's of course absolutely her decision and not his. But it's also not his fault, that he loses sexual attraction, if she keeps gaining weight. There is no body shaming at all in this conversation. She is the one shaming him, by putting a private conversation on the internet. Love has nothing to do with someone losing sexual attraction, because of someone gaining weight. I sound like what...? Do you want to single-shame me? That makes me really sad...

Look at the second picture and then look at the third picture - the second from the left - and then tell me that she isn't building up a beer gut. What exactly does 54 kg say? Kg isn't really a perfect indicator for a beer gut. He did nothing wrong. She is letting herself go and blames him on the internet instead of working on herself. She's pathetic and so are the people applauding her for this bs. There is nothing wrong about her gaining weight and there is nothing wrong about her decision that gaining weight is more important than looking attractive - you go girl! But shaming him on the internet and posting her pictures is just miserable.

I really wish more women (and ofc also men) would think like you.

Never mind the health benefits!

Everyone who knows him probably knows that they were in a relationship and now knows about the private conversation. She is not shaming him publicly, but in front of all of the people who know him and I would suggest - judging by her attention seeking behavior - that there are quite many people who know him. How is he an a*****e? He's just honest, because he fears that he will lose sexual attraction, if she keeps gaining weight. It's not like people can decide what kind of body-type they are attracted to. She's just very sensitive and I know that a lot of people are also very sensitive about this topic, but that doesn't make it reasonable.

5 pounds o fat is a problem and I know cause I gained more than that and it does not really come off. Plus all those comments online about him being toxic are just what is wrong with a lot of people today. Why can't he tell his girlfriend in a private message that she has let herself go a little and that she should start watching her form rather than what the scales are saying. This is not fat shaming this is just saying "hey you are out of shape" and that she used to care more before.

No one even said that. He said that he is fearing that he will lose attraction for her if she keeps gaining weight. You really want to tell me that there is only 5 pounds between some of those pictures? Being pregnant is something completely different than gaining weight out of nothing. This comparison is utterly stupid.

Either you like your body or you don't. I really don't want you or anyone else to feel bad about their body, but that is just not my responsibility. We really have to work on empowering young women like you to not link their self-esteem to their body or to the reaction of other people. 'Forbidding' people like me to have an honest opinion about something, just because it could make someone feel bad, is really not the answer. Beside that, I think that it's not a bad thing in general if someone dislikes some things about himself - as long as it's not pathological and as long as those things can be changed naturally. For example I've been extremely skinny for a men of my height when I was younger, so I worked on that and I changed myself for good. So I don't see a problem with people building up an ideal self that doesn't match their own.

Christ. I’ve always rolled my eyes when baby boomers complained about the younger generation acting like snowflakes, yet here you are. Congrats, Nia!

@anarkzie I agree. I think the main problem is that to many women build their self-esteem on their partners appreciation for their body. I never heard of any guy who left a girl that he loved just because she asked him to stop gaining weight.

Actually if you're consistent, you "make a fuss" about body shaming no matter what the sex of the concerned person is. So yeah I'm a woman and I wouldn't appreciate another woman critizing a man for his body. I also think that being in a relationship is not about appearance, it plays a part, but a minor one. Your comments feel very superficial to me, you play on stereotypes and try to manipulate them to prove your point, that it would be okay to make a person feel bad about her/his body. It's not.

I don't know, even with confident women this area is a mine field, I 100% get the logic in your argument and maybe he did not want to leave her because he loved her but by mentioning this she left him, so the net result is the same, lonely nights and tissue paper. She seems to be heading into the plus size direction, considering her weight gain was intentional, maybe he just needs to accept that he was with her when she looked her best(H.O) and find someone else.

Please define body shaming for me, because I don't see it here. I just see overly sensitive and easily offended people with low self-esteem or self-esteem that is directly linked to their body or to their partner. Telling my partner that I fear to lose sexual attraction for her if she keeps gaining weight has absolutely nothing to do with body shaming and it shouldn't make her feel bad. If I would stop doing sport and start eating unhealthy and my girlfriend would tell me that my body was more attractive in the past, I wouldn't be offended in any way. I basically only care what I think about my body and I think that we should establish this kind of thinking more, instead of building safe spaces or supporting attention seeking morons.

@Renske de Jonge Yes, but I think it's at least worth a try and to talk about it before just ending the relationship.