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“I Slapped Him”: Woman Gets Humiliated By Husband At Their Wedding, Decides To Leave Him
“I Slapped Him”: Woman Gets Humiliated By Husband At Their Wedding, Decides To Leave Him
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“I Slapped Him”: Woman Gets Humiliated By Husband At Their Wedding, Decides To Leave Him

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When we think about important things to share in a marriage, trust is such an obvious answer that most folks would move right past it. How can you be in a marriage or even a relationship with someone you don’t trust? But, unfortunately, some people end up revealing their true colors too late.

A woman, despite warning him not to, was the victim of a wedding prank by her (spoiler alert) soon-to-be ex-husband. Bored Panda reached out to Constant-Nebula-1982 via Reddit messenger and will update the story when she gets back to us.

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    A wedding seems like one of the least appropriate places for a prank

    Image credits: Kadyn Pierce (not the actual photo)

    But one woman, despite explicitly telling him no, still ended up pranked at her own wedding

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    Image credits: cottonbro studio (not the actual photo)

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    Image credits: Constant-Nebula-1982

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    Pulling a prank at a wedding is a monumentally blockheaded idea

    Wedding pranks are really a match made in hell. Unless everyone involved is interested, it would just be in bad taste. Plus, if everyone involved knows and consents, it’s not much of a prank in the first place. While it is the bride and groom’s wedding, if there are a lot of family and friends present, it could make the entire thing awkward.

    Even worse, a marriage is still a legal procedure with its own rules and regulations. For example, in one notorious case, a bride jokingly said “no” during her vows and was shocked when the priest then called off the whole thing. While it was obviously a joke, the person performing the wedding was legally required to cancel it then and there.

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    In OP’s case, Jake perhaps was “smart” enough not to disrupt the literal ceremony, but he still managed to ruin the wedding photos which are, for many people, a very, very important part of the entire event. Even more importantly, he was explicitly told not to do this. Besides being a violation of consent and trust, it also shows that his prank would not be as surprising as he perhaps might have wished.

    Image credits: Nathan Cowley (not the actual photo)

    There is little evidence that Jake actually understood what he did wrong

    While Jake did apologize, it does appear that, without Frank’s intervention, he would have simply gone about his day like nothing had happened. It’s not hard to imagine that this was hardly a sincere apology, but a method to get his angry brother off his back. Either way, OP deserved a lot better, particularly when she explicitly told him not to do this.

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    This sort of breach in trust, as OP herself notes, is extreme enough to rethink or even call off the entire relationship. While normally, a person might apologize for bad behavior and promise not to do it again, if you no longer trust the person, how can you believe that they are telling you the truth? After all, they might just be saying it in an attempt to limit your anger or fix what they just broke.

    Sometimes, a relationship moves from a normal, trusting relationship to a “low-trust” relationship. This is the result of one of the people in the couple no longer trusting their partner. They will start to notice exclusively the things they dislike and see everything else through the filter of their distrust. Even positive acts will be seen as an attempt to “regain” their trust. As one can imagine, this does not make for a healthy relationship.

    Image credits: Jeremy Wong (not the actual photo)

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    OP is lucky she found out this “early”

    So perhaps it’s for the best that OP leaves this moron behind. Both for herself, if the relationship feels unixable, and perhaps even for Jake. This could be the wake-up call he needs to get his own life together. As far as we can tell, from Frank’s description, Jake has always been like this, a trait that very literally backfired on him.

    Hopefully, OP can get her life together and move on from this failed relationship. In a sense, it’s still for the best that Jake showed his true colors now, when splitting up the marriage is still easy, or at least as splitting any marriage might be. Finding out that your husband can’t be trusted a few years down the road would be a lot worse.

    Image credits: Emma Bauso (not the actual photo)

    Readers gave OP their best wishes and she answered some questions

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    Others shared their shock at Jake’s behavior

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    Diz
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Smashing someone's face into a cake is extremely dangerous!! My grandmother has been making wedding cakes for years and it's one of the biggest things she stressed not to do. Some cakes have support rods, you could literally take someone's eye out.

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed, this was neither harmless nor a prank. It was a dangerous, malicious act meant to humiliate the bride, and a clear case of crossing/disregarding a firmly stated boundary.

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    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this was a Hallmark/Lifetime movie, Frank would be the knight in shining armor and marries the OP. Also, yes woman, you rock!! Boundaries communicated, and enforced! So proud of you!!

    Red Reilly
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Girl get with Frank. I'm waiting for the update - 'so me and Frank are getting married...'

    Kraneia The Dancing Dryad
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You told him no, he did it anyway. You warned him, and followed through -good for you. That kind of behavior wouldn't have stopped there, and possibly escalated. Find someone who is better for you and respects you. (Or be single --sometimes that is even better!)

    DarkViolet
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think she's already found someone who is better. F-R-A-N-K.

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    Nike Pancakes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Make sure you know the person you marry before you marry them and especially before you bring children into the world with them. Glad she got out easy and early.

    Two_rolling_black_eyes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If someone will do this in front of everyone you love, what will they do behind closed doors with no witnesses?

    Tim Douglass
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not a prank, it is domestic violence and should be prosecuted as such. Jake is an abuser who has been enabled by family and friends for years. He literally belongs in jail.

    Pamela Blue
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wedding cakes, if they are tiered, have rods set around the center point so the tiers don't collapse with the weight of the tiers above it. Pushing someone's face into a cake like that is very likely to stab someone's eye. I really hope this new "trend" ends quickly, because these so-called jokes (I called it bullying) will end up tragically for someone probably sooner rather than later.

    El Howard
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not a new thing; I remember people smashing cake into their spouse's face 40 years ago. Maybe ruining the entire cake is a new thing; wasting thousands of dollars worth of money for cake, dress, hair, makeup, photographer etc. really bothers me because I'm pretty frugal. Don't do it!

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    Diana
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Several people say OP should marry Frank, but I think it is a bit rash to consider him to be husband material just because he acted like a normal human being should.

    El Howard
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Frank has his own bias against Jake, but that appears to be due to Jake having a long history of abusive behavior. "Pranks" like Jake does simply are not funny; it's just bullying people.

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    Diz
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Smashing someone's face into a cake is extremely dangerous!! My grandmother has been making wedding cakes for years and it's one of the biggest things she stressed not to do. Some cakes have support rods, you could literally take someone's eye out.

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed, this was neither harmless nor a prank. It was a dangerous, malicious act meant to humiliate the bride, and a clear case of crossing/disregarding a firmly stated boundary.

    Load More Replies...
    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this was a Hallmark/Lifetime movie, Frank would be the knight in shining armor and marries the OP. Also, yes woman, you rock!! Boundaries communicated, and enforced! So proud of you!!

    Red Reilly
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Girl get with Frank. I'm waiting for the update - 'so me and Frank are getting married...'

    Kraneia The Dancing Dryad
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You told him no, he did it anyway. You warned him, and followed through -good for you. That kind of behavior wouldn't have stopped there, and possibly escalated. Find someone who is better for you and respects you. (Or be single --sometimes that is even better!)

    DarkViolet
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think she's already found someone who is better. F-R-A-N-K.

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    Nike Pancakes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Make sure you know the person you marry before you marry them and especially before you bring children into the world with them. Glad she got out easy and early.

    Two_rolling_black_eyes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If someone will do this in front of everyone you love, what will they do behind closed doors with no witnesses?

    Tim Douglass
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not a prank, it is domestic violence and should be prosecuted as such. Jake is an abuser who has been enabled by family and friends for years. He literally belongs in jail.

    Pamela Blue
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wedding cakes, if they are tiered, have rods set around the center point so the tiers don't collapse with the weight of the tiers above it. Pushing someone's face into a cake like that is very likely to stab someone's eye. I really hope this new "trend" ends quickly, because these so-called jokes (I called it bullying) will end up tragically for someone probably sooner rather than later.

    El Howard
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not a new thing; I remember people smashing cake into their spouse's face 40 years ago. Maybe ruining the entire cake is a new thing; wasting thousands of dollars worth of money for cake, dress, hair, makeup, photographer etc. really bothers me because I'm pretty frugal. Don't do it!

    Load More Replies...
    Diana
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Several people say OP should marry Frank, but I think it is a bit rash to consider him to be husband material just because he acted like a normal human being should.

    El Howard
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Frank has his own bias against Jake, but that appears to be due to Jake having a long history of abusive behavior. "Pranks" like Jake does simply are not funny; it's just bullying people.

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