Brutally Honest Post Explains How Girls Are Abusing Their Boyfriends, Check If You’re Not Doing It Too
We usually think of abusive relationships as black eyes and broken noses, but bad relationships aren’t limited to physical traumas. Psychological scars can be just as – if not more – painful and, sadly, any relationship can inflict them, even if your jealous girlfriend is just a teen.
Signs of an abusive relationship, however, is sometimes hard to spot even for the victims. Especially if they’re madly in love and held firmly under control by the subject. That’s why someone posted a brutally honest message on Tumblr, which should help identify if a teen girl is abusing her partner. The post quickly gained attention, and so far, it has amassed almost 290k notes. People are even reblogging it in spite of losing followers. Scroll down to read the brilliant text covering abusively strict rules and behavior some girls inflict on their boyfriends and let’s hope more people will openly discuss this uncomfortable yet very important topic.
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That whole post is a massive thumbs up. Thank you kindly for the support, ladies!
If abuse isn't right for girls - it isn't right for boys. Abuse isn't right for ANYONE! Those cops need SERIOUS training!! Those boys may have fear issues from toddler stage which is impactful for life ... Maybe the abused boys were brought up to respect girls. Maybe those girls have anger issues from dad? And ALL else!! (way too much to get into!) - all abusers have self esteem issues & subsequently unacceptable behaviour toward the abused. We cannot 'double-standard' this one ... sorry. Gender has no place here - the issue is ABUSE! Period.
Like they said : "If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abouse but since it's the other way around it's considered normal". Of course abuse is the issue, but in that cas it's the fact that the abuse is someone perceived as normal because it comes from the girls, so it IS a gender issue in that aspect...
Load More Replies...This is kind of a rare thing too see. A post about fighting for mens right on boredpanda haha. But I applaud. I hope to see more of this to get a more neutral Boredpanda.
May I add to all that has been said that the role models shown to young girls aren't exactly helping with issues? Countless music videos show being a perfect b*tch and diva as being so cool and even feminist! How many times do we have to hear that girls are princesses and boys have to fulfill the least of their desire to be "real men" ? I'm just so sick of f*cked up stereotypes right now, how many do we still have to fight?
I'm not up on recent pop music and I can't say I watched the whole video, but I recall an image of Taylor Swift and Beyonce trashing a guy's car with a baseball bat on their videos. I couldn't believe it. Two wrongs don't make a right. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
Load More Replies...The point is - Do not be an a*****e to people,treat them the same as you want to be treated,no matter if the person is woman or man.Respect and love m/^_^m/. The person who does not respect you,she or he does not love you,so there is no reason to love back..move on find better person,no one deserves abuse.
It's not that simple. American culture considers accountability oppressive to women.
Load More Replies...Of course abusive is NOT gender specific, but it seems it is assumed more that abuse is mainly perpetrated by males. It seems makes are more typically physically abusive and females are more psychologically abusive. Both are HORRIBLE.
Have you tried looking up statistics about this. Plenty of studies show almost as many men are victims of domestic violence as women. One study done showed that almost no men who sought help from shelters were given any help at all and many were refered to a hotline for abusers!
Load More Replies...When I was in high school I dated a girl that threatened to say I raped her if I broke up with her. It still sticks with me to this day, and I have trust issues.
this IS the big elephant in the room, isn't it. This whole list, and not one mention of false accusation that could land a man in jail for years, and destroy his life prospects. THIS is a big reason why a guy might "put up with" this.
Load More Replies...That whole post is a massive thumbs up. Thank you kindly for the support, ladies!
If abuse isn't right for girls - it isn't right for boys. Abuse isn't right for ANYONE! Those cops need SERIOUS training!! Those boys may have fear issues from toddler stage which is impactful for life ... Maybe the abused boys were brought up to respect girls. Maybe those girls have anger issues from dad? And ALL else!! (way too much to get into!) - all abusers have self esteem issues & subsequently unacceptable behaviour toward the abused. We cannot 'double-standard' this one ... sorry. Gender has no place here - the issue is ABUSE! Period.
Like they said : "If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abouse but since it's the other way around it's considered normal". Of course abuse is the issue, but in that cas it's the fact that the abuse is someone perceived as normal because it comes from the girls, so it IS a gender issue in that aspect...
Load More Replies...This is kind of a rare thing too see. A post about fighting for mens right on boredpanda haha. But I applaud. I hope to see more of this to get a more neutral Boredpanda.
May I add to all that has been said that the role models shown to young girls aren't exactly helping with issues? Countless music videos show being a perfect b*tch and diva as being so cool and even feminist! How many times do we have to hear that girls are princesses and boys have to fulfill the least of their desire to be "real men" ? I'm just so sick of f*cked up stereotypes right now, how many do we still have to fight?
I'm not up on recent pop music and I can't say I watched the whole video, but I recall an image of Taylor Swift and Beyonce trashing a guy's car with a baseball bat on their videos. I couldn't believe it. Two wrongs don't make a right. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
Load More Replies...The point is - Do not be an a*****e to people,treat them the same as you want to be treated,no matter if the person is woman or man.Respect and love m/^_^m/. The person who does not respect you,she or he does not love you,so there is no reason to love back..move on find better person,no one deserves abuse.
It's not that simple. American culture considers accountability oppressive to women.
Load More Replies...Of course abusive is NOT gender specific, but it seems it is assumed more that abuse is mainly perpetrated by males. It seems makes are more typically physically abusive and females are more psychologically abusive. Both are HORRIBLE.
Have you tried looking up statistics about this. Plenty of studies show almost as many men are victims of domestic violence as women. One study done showed that almost no men who sought help from shelters were given any help at all and many were refered to a hotline for abusers!
Load More Replies...When I was in high school I dated a girl that threatened to say I raped her if I broke up with her. It still sticks with me to this day, and I have trust issues.
this IS the big elephant in the room, isn't it. This whole list, and not one mention of false accusation that could land a man in jail for years, and destroy his life prospects. THIS is a big reason why a guy might "put up with" this.
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