Woman Forces Husband To Make A Post Online To Show She’s Right, Gets A Reality Check Herself
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Insecurity can wreck relationships because of how much power it has over a person. Someone lacking in self-confidence will find it tough to look past their doubts and see the bigger picture. This can create massive problems in relationships, especially if the reason for insecurity is unfounded.
A man on Reddit shared how his wife confronted him after he had a conversation with a woman wearing a bikini. Interestingly enough, his wife shared her side of the story, and her version was quite different.
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Jealousy and insecurity can wreck even the best relationships and create problems that weren’t even there in the first place
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Man shared that during a vacation in Miami with his wife, when he was playing with his 3YO son, a woman wearing a tiny bikini approached him, and they had a 10-minute conversation
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Later, his wife told him it was inappropriate to talk to her, the wife also added in another post that the lady kept meeting them during their trip and only spoke to her husband
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The guy said his wife could not let the situation go and that she said, “it’s different to talk to a girl in a social setting vs when she is in a bikini on a beach”
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In the update post, the wife said her husband constantly got approached by women and didn’t realize if they were flirting, also adding that she was insecure about her “mom-bod”
The poster is a 37-year-old man, and his wife is a 35-year-old woman. He mentioned that they had been married for 7 years and had a 3-year-old child. He started off by sharing that his wife thought his behavior on their vacation to Miami was “inappropriate,” but he did not agree with her. She wanted him to lay out the information in front of netizens to see who was the jerk in the situation.
The man said that while they were on the beach during their vacation, his son wanted to make a sand castle, so he took him to an area where there was wet sand and that’s when a woman in her mid-thirties approached him and said that his son was very cute. They engaged in small talk and the whole conversation lasted around 10 minutes. After the woman left, he realized that his wife was not happy with his behavior.
She felt that the woman was wearing a very over-the-top bikini and that it was wrong of her husband to keep talking to her. She also felt that the woman was flirting with her husband, but he did not agree at all. To the wife’s credit, studies on flirting have shown that only 36% of men are able to judge if someone is flirting with them. Shockingly enough, only 18% of women are able to point out flirtatious behavior.
The husband also mentioned that women do approach him in parks and other places because of his son and that his wife doesn’t usually have a problem with it. In this case, the wife felt that it was different to talk to a woman wearing a very revealing bikini as opposed to in a normal social setting. The wife added that the lady from the beach kept meeting them and talking to her husband during the week of their vacation and ignored her completely.
Bored Panda reached out to u/ta-beach-hubby-1324 to ask the posters whether they discussed the incident, and they shared, “we were not really fighting, but we both stood our grounds on what we thought was right. She thought it would be funny to post it on Reddit and see what people would do in this situation. I was playing with my son when the woman was talking to me, so I was not really paying attention to her and was just trying to enjoy my time with my son. But I see my wife’s side on why I should have politely ended the conversation sooner.”
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The wife then shared her side of the story in an update post. She mentioned that she was “used to women flirting with him all the time” and not just when his son was with him. Apparently, women have approached her husband at work, bars, weddings, and even when she was delivering their son. Her fears may not be unfounded because a study showed that 90% of single women were interested in a man who they believed was taken, while a mere 59% showed interest when told he was single.
The woman also mentioned that she felt insecure about her “mom-bod” after seeing the woman on the beach, who she felt was extremely attractive. It’s unfortunate that many women suffer from dissatisfaction with their body after giving birth, and they also struggle with many mental health problems.
According to PsychCentral, “low self-esteem or feelings of inadequacy can contribute to a fear of being unworthy of love or acceptance. This insecurity may drive individuals to push their partner away as a form of self-protection or to test their partner’s commitment. As the woman shared, she kept noticing other women approaching her husband. This might have made her feel insecure and caused her to pick an unfounded argument with her husband.
SimplyPsychology states that “insecure individuals can feel threatened by their partner’s interactions with friends, family members, or acquaintances. They may become jealous or anxious when their partner interacts with others at social gatherings, parties, or events, interpreting these interactions as a threat to the relationship.” That’s why even though her husband reassured her that the situation was completely innocent, she did not believe him.
When asked how they felt about the judgment of people online, they shared, “we both found it very funny and had a great laugh reading the comments. Note that my wife is very sweet and not insecure as the comments made her to be. She also has a great sense of humor. For all the people fixated on my looks, my wife was way out of my league when we started dating in terms of looks, but what made me fall in love with her was how much we made each other laugh.”
Lastly, the husband added, “I can speak for myself, but I think my wife’s happiness is more important to me than talking to strangers. Hence, if it makes her feel insecure, then I would be more mindful of it. I am sure she would do the same for me.”
Although it might be tough to overcome such insecurities, self-confidence and trust in your partner can go a long way. The original post received 10k upvotes and 11k comments and the update got 3.3k upvotes and 1.5k comments. People felt that the woman was a jerk for trying to police the other woman’s clothing choices and not trusting her husband. Who do you think is right in this situation? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.
Netizens sided with the man and told his wife that her anger was unfounded, they also encouraged her to go to therapy to deal with her insecurities
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Let's be honest: the woman was almost certainly flirting with him, so let's not gaslight this woman that it was just normal small-talk. That being said, her husband seems to have handled it well and he can't be expected to not speak with bikini-clad women.
She may have been flirting but the nurse in the delivery room...really? I think she may be reading certain things in to some situations because it sounds like she thinks everyone flirts with her husband all the time.
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Nice to hear both sides of it for a change. The advantage of British, childless and ugly - I never get approached by girls in bikinis, sadly :(
I once showed the girlfriend of a friend a picture of my fiance and she immediately pulled a face and stopped talking in the middle of the sentence. Apparently she really found him ugly. I say she has no taste, he's an adorable sweetheart with a snuggly face.
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100% bikini-mom was flirting, but so what? Husband didn't even notice. He wasn't flirting back. He shut her down after wife pointed out that BM was flirting with him. BM is in the wrong for being rude to wife, and for continuing the chase after finding out he's taken. Wife needs to chill a bit, and trust her husband's faithfulness, if not his powers of observation.
If you don't want your husband to talk to women in bikinis, then just take him to a nude beach.
She’s still not letting this go. This family needs to avoid the beach and vacation with the Amish instead.
Hmmm dunno. When that single strand of wheat blonde hair is snatched from the edge of a lady's bonnet and drifts past her cornflower blue eyes as she smiles politely while handing him back his change for the apple pie... Still too risky.
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Are people ignoring the fact that the wife said the woman was ignoring her and only talking to her husband? Sorry but she's justified being suspicious of her. I'd be pissed too!! When we went to Italy on vacation the girl was only acknowledging my fiancé and it was as if I wasn't there. I kept my mouth shut but it's wrong and rude!
The fact she did that at a later point in time has no relevance to the husband just being polite when she was talking to him on the beach. Her intentions also means nothing and aren't the husband's fault. Was he supposed to tell her to f**k off the moment she spoke to him on the sand?
Load More Replies... Nurses are too damn tired to be flirting in the middle of their work day lol.
The part about the nurse is what told me the wife has some serious issues with insecurity and jealousy.
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"Your wife got jealous and is trying to justify her emotions by saying they are your fault." Says it all right there, everyone else can go home. Seriously, I totally and deeply relate to this defensive, petty wife, but I recognize that my insecurities and tendency to sulk are ME-problems, and something to be worked on. Hopefully Wifey realizes this too now, because I would hate for such a solid marriage to suffer because of it.
“I don’t need everyone on Reddit to chime in” As you post on Reddit asking for an opinion… where the readers are asked to chime in?
She just didnt like the fact no one took her side.
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Who knows whether the woman is flirting?The wife says they kept running into her - well, it's a resort, they're going to see the same people over and over. From the comment about the nurse saying his son was lucky to get the blond hair and blue eyes, I'm inferring the wife has a real problem here. She seems to think everyone is flirting with hubby.
On vacation my wife and I had to rent a car. The car rental lady was very pretty. So pretty that it actually made me nervous like I was asking for a date when all I wanted was the car. After we got the keys and walked off my wife said "that has got to be the most beautiful woman I have ever seen". That's it. No weirdness, no jealousy, no teasing, just acknowledgement that there are beautiful people out there. My wife is awesome.
If he is anything like my husband, she could have walked up to him butt nekkid and propositioned him and he still wouldn't have gotten it. I have watched women flirt with my hubs and laugh because he's completely blinded to it. They get flustered when he doesn't react and toddle off. This guy was blind to if it happened, remained polite and once the woman blew off his wife, blew her off too. She does sound like she has some insecurity issues and talking to a therapist may help her a lot.
Good god that wife has issues, she wanted to post it, cuz she THOUGHT people wouid back her up, then she gets mad when no one does, then tells people to stop commenting, the wife is a jealous, insecure a*****e.. Ge therapy.
This is one of those situations where I wish people had learned how to communicate more open and honestly. I think what's actually going on is that she feels insecure in this situation and needs him to reassure her, so that she feels safe and secure in their relationship. And if she had actually said that, he would have tried to give her what she needs. But because she communicated it as "you are wrong, and that woman is wrong", he will try to defend himself and try to defend that woman, because he sincerely disagrees. So this way of communicating, gives her the opposite of what she really wants. I wish she had communicated differently. And I wish he would not just react to what she's saying, but think about what she could actually feel and need, and respond to THAT instead of responding to her accusation. Because if he had responded by making her feel that he finds her the most beautiful and amazing woman and he has zero interest in anyone else, the problem would just fade away.
Idk, I have some past trauma in relationships and all I gotta do is say “she was so into you” or anything else indicating that I feel someone else is a threat and my fiancé is like “ok? And? I have you and I love you because you’re “________” (fill in the blank with a compliment of your choice) and all is well. lol maybe hubby is as oblivious as she says. Even about his wife. 🤷🏼♀️
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I just find it funny that the wife is complaining about what the woman was wearing, and it caused the husband to actually take a look (apparently for the first time). Apparently with her husband the answer if you don't want him to look is not to point it out in the first place.
People pointing out that the woman was flirting with her husband are missing the point. If that were the issue, then why is she mad at her husband considering she trusts him, acknowledges that he's oblivious to it, etc. Her whole addendum is trying to justtify her actions and feelings towards her husband and, frankly, she sounds annoying AF. "I'll try and work on my insecurities and let him talk to moms in bikinis," She's being sarcastic here but I also doubt she'll really learn anything based on how longwinded and indignant her whole ramble was. There's nothing wrong with being upset that someone is flirting with your partner. If they're not reciprocating then why do you have an issue with it? If your issue is that your husband continues to do so but in a non-problematic way, that's a YOU problem and something to talk about with your spouse. Not getting angry and yelling at them and then posting is on the internet and getting mad when most everyone doesn't take you side. GROW UP.
1. I’m no looker. 2. I’ve only had this happen once. 3. My partner was secure enough to find it amusing rather than a threat. We were on a beach enjoying the sun and surf kayaking when the conditions were favourable. A woman started talking to me as I was bringing my boat in, we chatted, talked about the boat (they are an odd looking shape), and probably spoke for 5 minutes. My partner was sat up on a sandy gruff watching from afar. When I got back her first words were ‘did you enjoy her flirting with you?’, honestly I had no idea, she described her body language and how blatant it was. My genuine look of bemusement clearly indicated I had no idea, from that point onward she deliberately flirted with me in public, just playfully winding me up about my complete lack of awareness when it comes to ‘reading the room’ 😂 a win for me I guess, getting loving attention from her was always nice even when she was taking the mickey. How many other times have I missed the signals? 🤷🏻♂️
Both times I saw my ex get blatantly flirted with it was effing hilarious. One he completely stonewalled REALLY obviously, the other time he was looking like he wanted to jump out of a window and needed me to rescue him from being cornered. It was pretty funny, though I'll allow it kind of sucked on some levels, especially when they both knew he was engaged. Not so much out of jealousy as a huge weariness of that kind of competitiveness? for lack of a better word.
It’s obvious the wife is a very insecure and jealous wife. That is not necessarily a bad thing (as long as the husband knows and understands this, which I think he does now). The husband was not in the wrong, and the wife needs to work on it. My wife used to tell me I was oblivious (when I was younger), so I started avoiding those situations … because I already had the best of everything! Wife … lighten up, husband … be a tad more perceptive. Then, it’ll be cool!
You sound much like my finance. I am sure your wife is very thankful for that, just as I am for my fiancé doing the same.
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I feel like this is Maureen and Joanne from Rent "There will ALWAYS be women in rubber flirting with me!!!!" But yes I agree the fact that he didn't even notice what she was wearing until he got back to his wife and she pointed it out proves it was nothing but small talk to him and that's all that matters. The fact that this woman couldn't see that he clearly wasn't interested in her and kept trying to flirt just makes her look sad and probably after the 2nd encounter I would have just laughed at her as she walked away, been like WOW somebody needs to learn to take a hint. However she did say they were on a resort so you know there's only so many places to go on a resort and everybody has to eat and is going to go to the bar ect. she could have thought it was a hallmark movie where you make friends with people you randomly meet at the resort and then hang out the rest of the vacation
I was with my dude until "I didn't notice what she was wearing". No straight man on earth, when approached by a woman in a skimpy bikini, doesn't notice what she's wearing. Edit: Maybe not the visually impaired.
I agree. His wife overreacted, but who does he think he's fooling with that business about not noticing what she was wearing?
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Bikini mom may have been flirting she may have been just super nice! (Im a friendly chatty person. Doesnt mean im flirting im just chatty xD) The important think is hubby didn't flirt back didnt pick up on the flirting and clearly is loyal to wife. Does sound a but like insecurities but at least it's not a trust issue
If I was him, the FIRST thing I would have done is introduced my wife.
That's hard to do if his wife is distant in the beach and doesn't approach.
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What a lot of nonsense. A storm in a teacup. I'm sure it was all over and done with when you left Miami. Let it go !
How cares if the lady was flirting, he wasn't interested. End of argument. Wife needs a reality check.. when a person flirts with your partner and your partner doesn't respond then you have nothing to worry about, it's when your partner responsible to tgat flirting with their own flirting then you have a concern. Learn to read your partners body language
Yikes. She's definitely not going to want to take a vacation to a clothing-optional beach or resort. Morbidly insecure.
Bikini lady may have been flirting, but the wife definitely needs therapy to deal with her insecurities. She trusts her husband, supposedly, so regardless of whether or not women are flirting with him, she shouldn't be getting all aggressive with him when he's done nothing wrong.
NTA for the husband but the Wife needs therapy for her insecurities. I shudder to think about what she would do if they ever have a vacation in some European countries where it is perfectly fine for women going topless on the beach and one of them has a polite conversation with her man. Or imagine them in a German, Finnish, Swedish sauna where everybody is naked in mixed saunas. Maybe the woman that talked to her husband but that is not his fault. He was polite, nothing else. Was he supposed to jump up and leave with his son who had fun building a sandcastle the moment the woman showed up?
"He wants to frame it and put it on the wall so he can..." Every married man "wait you can do that?" Two seconds later "But she kills you for it later, right?"
To the wife I have to say that you are wrong for chastising your husband because a woman in a skimpy bikini was conversing with him about your own son, you were in Miami on a beach with your husband playing with your son while you were sunbathing. Did you ever consider that she might have been a single mother who has her own child or children and all she really wanted to do was to chat with a man with his son? Maybe she read the situation differently and thought that he was like her a single Dad with his son at the beach… the sad part of the situation is that you could have misinterpreted the situation and you are accusing her of flirting with your husband AND accusing your husband of being disrespectful to you his wife who he has said he loves with all of his heart. Jealousy is the #1 cause of divorce today with infidelity being a close second, I know this because I was married to two different women who both accused me of cheating and flirting with other women and both ended badly.
Never go to the South of France: chances are she won't have a bikini top on at all.
I am a woman and my ex was a chronic cheater. I feel that the husband seems a bit oblivious at times and may need to deal with this but he did cut the next conversation short in deference to his wife's feelings. The wife appears to be "victim" blaming the woman and objectifying what she was wearing as to what her intentions were. This could possibly be due to wounded self esteem, jealousy or a bit of both.
Men age like fine wine, women can be insecure about their aging. Men with small children are chick magnets, but women with small children are mothers. Vacationing at the beach will always expose things you don't want to see.
Moms of toddlers are never relaxed and become just as sleep deprived as when we had newborns. If she didn’t like him talking to a scantily clad woman (which she saw because she wasn’t relaxed but keeping an eye on child in the ocean) it probably says more about her than the other woman. Pay attention to your wife and show her how irresistible you still find her even though she herself feels like a mombie.
The simple fact that hubby did not bite was enough for the event to be buried forever. Wife seriously needs to sort out her insecurities or she's gonna lose her lovely husband. Maybe all these women who keep coming onto him can see that she doesn't deserve him, that's why they swarm.
Aaannd now we see what's wrong with society. Why the F does anyone allow anyone else to dictate what you do or think in a relationship. Spent years being torn inside because I kept thinking I was supposed to do what society said I should do or think. You all think because you have some stupid similarity to somebody else like gender or family situation and think that that put you in a position of expertise of how that person is supposed to live their lives. Also , he definitely knew what she was wearing unless he wanted to claim she was wearing a banana costume, he knew exactly what she would think and lied to try and avoid it. Probably told his son that's the only kind of woman who is beautiful and what he should marry some day, too. Idiots!
Wow! You need some professional help. That level of misandry is seriously worrying.
Load More Replies... Let's be honest: the woman was almost certainly flirting with him, so let's not gaslight this woman that it was just normal small-talk. That being said, her husband seems to have handled it well and he can't be expected to not speak with bikini-clad women.
She may have been flirting but the nurse in the delivery room...really? I think she may be reading certain things in to some situations because it sounds like she thinks everyone flirts with her husband all the time.
Load More Replies... Nice to hear both sides of it for a change. The advantage of British, childless and ugly - I never get approached by girls in bikinis, sadly :(
I once showed the girlfriend of a friend a picture of my fiance and she immediately pulled a face and stopped talking in the middle of the sentence. Apparently she really found him ugly. I say she has no taste, he's an adorable sweetheart with a snuggly face.
Load More Replies... 100% bikini-mom was flirting, but so what? Husband didn't even notice. He wasn't flirting back. He shut her down after wife pointed out that BM was flirting with him. BM is in the wrong for being rude to wife, and for continuing the chase after finding out he's taken. Wife needs to chill a bit, and trust her husband's faithfulness, if not his powers of observation.
If you don't want your husband to talk to women in bikinis, then just take him to a nude beach.
She’s still not letting this go. This family needs to avoid the beach and vacation with the Amish instead.
Hmmm dunno. When that single strand of wheat blonde hair is snatched from the edge of a lady's bonnet and drifts past her cornflower blue eyes as she smiles politely while handing him back his change for the apple pie... Still too risky.
Load More Replies... Are people ignoring the fact that the wife said the woman was ignoring her and only talking to her husband? Sorry but she's justified being suspicious of her. I'd be pissed too!! When we went to Italy on vacation the girl was only acknowledging my fiancé and it was as if I wasn't there. I kept my mouth shut but it's wrong and rude!
The fact she did that at a later point in time has no relevance to the husband just being polite when she was talking to him on the beach. Her intentions also means nothing and aren't the husband's fault. Was he supposed to tell her to f**k off the moment she spoke to him on the sand?
Load More Replies... Nurses are too damn tired to be flirting in the middle of their work day lol.
The part about the nurse is what told me the wife has some serious issues with insecurity and jealousy.
Load More Replies... "Your wife got jealous and is trying to justify her emotions by saying they are your fault." Says it all right there, everyone else can go home. Seriously, I totally and deeply relate to this defensive, petty wife, but I recognize that my insecurities and tendency to sulk are ME-problems, and something to be worked on. Hopefully Wifey realizes this too now, because I would hate for such a solid marriage to suffer because of it.
“I don’t need everyone on Reddit to chime in” As you post on Reddit asking for an opinion… where the readers are asked to chime in?
She just didnt like the fact no one took her side.
Load More Replies... Who knows whether the woman is flirting?The wife says they kept running into her - well, it's a resort, they're going to see the same people over and over. From the comment about the nurse saying his son was lucky to get the blond hair and blue eyes, I'm inferring the wife has a real problem here. She seems to think everyone is flirting with hubby.
On vacation my wife and I had to rent a car. The car rental lady was very pretty. So pretty that it actually made me nervous like I was asking for a date when all I wanted was the car. After we got the keys and walked off my wife said "that has got to be the most beautiful woman I have ever seen". That's it. No weirdness, no jealousy, no teasing, just acknowledgement that there are beautiful people out there. My wife is awesome.
If he is anything like my husband, she could have walked up to him butt nekkid and propositioned him and he still wouldn't have gotten it. I have watched women flirt with my hubs and laugh because he's completely blinded to it. They get flustered when he doesn't react and toddle off. This guy was blind to if it happened, remained polite and once the woman blew off his wife, blew her off too. She does sound like she has some insecurity issues and talking to a therapist may help her a lot.
Good god that wife has issues, she wanted to post it, cuz she THOUGHT people wouid back her up, then she gets mad when no one does, then tells people to stop commenting, the wife is a jealous, insecure a*****e.. Ge therapy.
This is one of those situations where I wish people had learned how to communicate more open and honestly. I think what's actually going on is that she feels insecure in this situation and needs him to reassure her, so that she feels safe and secure in their relationship. And if she had actually said that, he would have tried to give her what she needs. But because she communicated it as "you are wrong, and that woman is wrong", he will try to defend himself and try to defend that woman, because he sincerely disagrees. So this way of communicating, gives her the opposite of what she really wants. I wish she had communicated differently. And I wish he would not just react to what she's saying, but think about what she could actually feel and need, and respond to THAT instead of responding to her accusation. Because if he had responded by making her feel that he finds her the most beautiful and amazing woman and he has zero interest in anyone else, the problem would just fade away.
Idk, I have some past trauma in relationships and all I gotta do is say “she was so into you” or anything else indicating that I feel someone else is a threat and my fiancé is like “ok? And? I have you and I love you because you’re “________” (fill in the blank with a compliment of your choice) and all is well. lol maybe hubby is as oblivious as she says. Even about his wife. 🤷🏼♀️
Load More Replies... I just find it funny that the wife is complaining about what the woman was wearing, and it caused the husband to actually take a look (apparently for the first time). Apparently with her husband the answer if you don't want him to look is not to point it out in the first place.
People pointing out that the woman was flirting with her husband are missing the point. If that were the issue, then why is she mad at her husband considering she trusts him, acknowledges that he's oblivious to it, etc. Her whole addendum is trying to justtify her actions and feelings towards her husband and, frankly, she sounds annoying AF. "I'll try and work on my insecurities and let him talk to moms in bikinis," She's being sarcastic here but I also doubt she'll really learn anything based on how longwinded and indignant her whole ramble was. There's nothing wrong with being upset that someone is flirting with your partner. If they're not reciprocating then why do you have an issue with it? If your issue is that your husband continues to do so but in a non-problematic way, that's a YOU problem and something to talk about with your spouse. Not getting angry and yelling at them and then posting is on the internet and getting mad when most everyone doesn't take you side. GROW UP.
1. I’m no looker. 2. I’ve only had this happen once. 3. My partner was secure enough to find it amusing rather than a threat. We were on a beach enjoying the sun and surf kayaking when the conditions were favourable. A woman started talking to me as I was bringing my boat in, we chatted, talked about the boat (they are an odd looking shape), and probably spoke for 5 minutes. My partner was sat up on a sandy gruff watching from afar. When I got back her first words were ‘did you enjoy her flirting with you?’, honestly I had no idea, she described her body language and how blatant it was. My genuine look of bemusement clearly indicated I had no idea, from that point onward she deliberately flirted with me in public, just playfully winding me up about my complete lack of awareness when it comes to ‘reading the room’ 😂 a win for me I guess, getting loving attention from her was always nice even when she was taking the mickey. How many other times have I missed the signals? 🤷🏻♂️
Both times I saw my ex get blatantly flirted with it was effing hilarious. One he completely stonewalled REALLY obviously, the other time he was looking like he wanted to jump out of a window and needed me to rescue him from being cornered. It was pretty funny, though I'll allow it kind of sucked on some levels, especially when they both knew he was engaged. Not so much out of jealousy as a huge weariness of that kind of competitiveness? for lack of a better word.
It’s obvious the wife is a very insecure and jealous wife. That is not necessarily a bad thing (as long as the husband knows and understands this, which I think he does now). The husband was not in the wrong, and the wife needs to work on it. My wife used to tell me I was oblivious (when I was younger), so I started avoiding those situations … because I already had the best of everything! Wife … lighten up, husband … be a tad more perceptive. Then, it’ll be cool!
You sound much like my finance. I am sure your wife is very thankful for that, just as I am for my fiancé doing the same.
Load More Replies... I feel like this is Maureen and Joanne from Rent "There will ALWAYS be women in rubber flirting with me!!!!" But yes I agree the fact that he didn't even notice what she was wearing until he got back to his wife and she pointed it out proves it was nothing but small talk to him and that's all that matters. The fact that this woman couldn't see that he clearly wasn't interested in her and kept trying to flirt just makes her look sad and probably after the 2nd encounter I would have just laughed at her as she walked away, been like WOW somebody needs to learn to take a hint. However she did say they were on a resort so you know there's only so many places to go on a resort and everybody has to eat and is going to go to the bar ect. she could have thought it was a hallmark movie where you make friends with people you randomly meet at the resort and then hang out the rest of the vacation
I was with my dude until "I didn't notice what she was wearing". No straight man on earth, when approached by a woman in a skimpy bikini, doesn't notice what she's wearing. Edit: Maybe not the visually impaired.
I agree. His wife overreacted, but who does he think he's fooling with that business about not noticing what she was wearing?
Load More Replies... Bikini mom may have been flirting she may have been just super nice! (Im a friendly chatty person. Doesnt mean im flirting im just chatty xD) The important think is hubby didn't flirt back didnt pick up on the flirting and clearly is loyal to wife. Does sound a but like insecurities but at least it's not a trust issue
If I was him, the FIRST thing I would have done is introduced my wife.
That's hard to do if his wife is distant in the beach and doesn't approach.
Load More Replies... What a lot of nonsense. A storm in a teacup. I'm sure it was all over and done with when you left Miami. Let it go !
How cares if the lady was flirting, he wasn't interested. End of argument. Wife needs a reality check.. when a person flirts with your partner and your partner doesn't respond then you have nothing to worry about, it's when your partner responsible to tgat flirting with their own flirting then you have a concern. Learn to read your partners body language
Yikes. She's definitely not going to want to take a vacation to a clothing-optional beach or resort. Morbidly insecure.
Bikini lady may have been flirting, but the wife definitely needs therapy to deal with her insecurities. She trusts her husband, supposedly, so regardless of whether or not women are flirting with him, she shouldn't be getting all aggressive with him when he's done nothing wrong.
NTA for the husband but the Wife needs therapy for her insecurities. I shudder to think about what she would do if they ever have a vacation in some European countries where it is perfectly fine for women going topless on the beach and one of them has a polite conversation with her man. Or imagine them in a German, Finnish, Swedish sauna where everybody is naked in mixed saunas. Maybe the woman that talked to her husband but that is not his fault. He was polite, nothing else. Was he supposed to jump up and leave with his son who had fun building a sandcastle the moment the woman showed up?
"He wants to frame it and put it on the wall so he can..." Every married man "wait you can do that?" Two seconds later "But she kills you for it later, right?"
To the wife I have to say that you are wrong for chastising your husband because a woman in a skimpy bikini was conversing with him about your own son, you were in Miami on a beach with your husband playing with your son while you were sunbathing. Did you ever consider that she might have been a single mother who has her own child or children and all she really wanted to do was to chat with a man with his son? Maybe she read the situation differently and thought that he was like her a single Dad with his son at the beach… the sad part of the situation is that you could have misinterpreted the situation and you are accusing her of flirting with your husband AND accusing your husband of being disrespectful to you his wife who he has said he loves with all of his heart. Jealousy is the #1 cause of divorce today with infidelity being a close second, I know this because I was married to two different women who both accused me of cheating and flirting with other women and both ended badly.
Never go to the South of France: chances are she won't have a bikini top on at all.
I am a woman and my ex was a chronic cheater. I feel that the husband seems a bit oblivious at times and may need to deal with this but he did cut the next conversation short in deference to his wife's feelings. The wife appears to be "victim" blaming the woman and objectifying what she was wearing as to what her intentions were. This could possibly be due to wounded self esteem, jealousy or a bit of both.
Men age like fine wine, women can be insecure about their aging. Men with small children are chick magnets, but women with small children are mothers. Vacationing at the beach will always expose things you don't want to see.
Moms of toddlers are never relaxed and become just as sleep deprived as when we had newborns. If she didn’t like him talking to a scantily clad woman (which she saw because she wasn’t relaxed but keeping an eye on child in the ocean) it probably says more about her than the other woman. Pay attention to your wife and show her how irresistible you still find her even though she herself feels like a mombie.
The simple fact that hubby did not bite was enough for the event to be buried forever. Wife seriously needs to sort out her insecurities or she's gonna lose her lovely husband. Maybe all these women who keep coming onto him can see that she doesn't deserve him, that's why they swarm.
Aaannd now we see what's wrong with society. Why the F does anyone allow anyone else to dictate what you do or think in a relationship. Spent years being torn inside because I kept thinking I was supposed to do what society said I should do or think. You all think because you have some stupid similarity to somebody else like gender or family situation and think that that put you in a position of expertise of how that person is supposed to live their lives. Also , he definitely knew what she was wearing unless he wanted to claim she was wearing a banana costume, he knew exactly what she would think and lied to try and avoid it. Probably told his son that's the only kind of woman who is beautiful and what he should marry some day, too. Idiots!
Wow! You need some professional help. That level of misandry is seriously worrying.
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