Something we all have in common is that we've all been single at one or many points in our lives. And yes, views are evolving, but being single is still stigmatized. Just think about it, how many times have you heard "When are you going to settle down and get married?" or "When are you going to make me a grandmother?" However, if someone ends up single, it might not be the end of the world for them. Shocking, I know.
Singlehood has its ups and downs. For example, there's the sweet, sweet freedom, but you also have to suffer through the perils of online dating. It's not perfect. But then again, is anything? In an attempt to stop their relationship-flaunting friends from asking "How are you?" in a condescending tone, single people have been describing their everyday life in memes. Maybe if they make enough of these, their relatives will also get the message?
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Single man here but same. I'm so tired of being asked, "so when are you getting married?" "Can't wait too long you know". Like...chill...why don't you ask Linda and Tom why they had a fourth kid even though they fight everyday and clearly regret getting married.
Totally agree. Had a single male friend and my brother in law was single and both were constantly asked about 'when are you going to meet the one' - like that s**t is predictable 🙄
Load More Replies...I feel the same way about when people say “Cheer up, it could be worse” in reply to your bad news. I should then have the right to say “Don’t be so happy, it could be better” if they tell me their good news.
Or "Others have it worse" Well, many others have it better. Someone's broken arm doesn't make my finger less broken
Load More Replies...I actually did ask this once! My married sister asked when I was going to get married and have kids and tbh she knows that I don't want kids so I know that she asked me this as mostly a joke. We're sisters so, we know eatchother well. So, when she asked me this, I responded exactly what it says here: "When are you getting divoced?". My sister sighed and told me that I had an attitude problem and then she walked away. AITA here...?
I keep trying to plan my divorce date but the wife won't let me! LOL
I told them ,"Maybe after I stop my method of birth control, which I do not plan to do."
Load More Replies...My boyfriend knew when we were on our 3rd date at McDonald's. Hungry as hell, I stuffed almost the entire burger in my face. He was staring at me in awe and said "that's hot!!!" that was 4 years ago :'D
I hope he finds you soon. He'll be a lucky guy, you've got a great sense of humor.
Bella DePaulo, Ph.D., is a project scientist and social psychologist at the University of California, Santa Barbara. While speaking to the American Psychological Association, she pointed out an interesting fact: with all of the celebration of marriage and coupling and weddings, you'd think that married people would be happier. But if you were to follow the same people over the course of their lives and ask them over and over again, "Are you happy? Are you happy? Are you happy? How happy are you?", you'd see that when people get married, they end up no happier than they were when they were single.
So if someone is a really happy single person, they'll probably be a happily married person and if they were not so happy as a single person, they probably will not be so happy as a married person.
Same. It's gotten so bad that I literally had to give myself a pep talk to make three phone calls this morning. Let's just say that the pandemic self-isolation hasn't upset me for a second.
Load More Replies...Hell yeah! I also don't want to deal with real clothes anymore. Pyjama rulez!
yup then you find some one you can't live without even if they drive you crazy!
Accurate. I wouldn't mind another person in the house from time to time, but I've been single for so long (20 years) that I've figured out how to be a content hermit.
Hey! Les is my grandpa! Sure, he's old and shamelessly flirts with Siri.....Why was I trying to talk anyone into dating my grandpa?
Be even better if she went with making them put a $1 in.
Load More Replies...Oh, BTW, in English, if you ' don't need no man', that's a double negative, so you are actually saying, you DO need a man ......
"Sometimes, people get a little bump in happiness [at the time when they tie the knot], but then they go back to being as happy or as unhappy as they were when they were single," DePaulo said.
"And here's something else about that newlywed effect – that little increase in happiness around the wedding – it only happens for the married people who get married and stay married. If you're one of those married couples who's going to end up divorced, as your wedding is approaching you're already getting a tiny bit less happy."
So there you have it: happiness starts from within. And getting a partner isn't going to change that. Consciously or not, people are probably realizing that. The number of single-person households in the United States has been growing steadily since 1960.
My one bestie called so I could be with her (well, sorta) as her "baby" died. Yes, it was her pet.
So much better than what? That's like assuming a person needs to get married, divorced or have a pet or a human . Can't you just love something or someone without it being justified?
Load More Replies...Someone needs to tweet that to Costco! It could be part of the membership!!
DePaulo has been studying people who she calls "single at heart." They're the ones who live their best, most authentic, most meaningful lives by staying single. "When you ask [these people] ... what they think when they know they're going to have some time alone coming up, overwhelmingly, more than 95 percent say they look forward to it, they really savor their solitude. And they don't worry – or they very rarely worry that if they have time to themselves, they're going to feel lonely."
According to her, loneliness is a really important thing to study. We need to be more aware of what people can get out of solitude rather than just worrying about people who are going to be lonely.
The older you get, the harder it is to meet people since you never want to leave your house
That's not right, we go out to walk the plants at least twice a day.
Load More Replies......and then wonder why all your boyfriends always turn out be burglars or home invasion robbers or Jehovah's Witnesses
Oh no...not Jehovah's witnesses, single does not mean "ready to join a cult". I'm tired of them, i always clean their crap in the free library boxes while walking my dog. And they keep filling them, and i keep throwing their trash in a recycle bin where it belong, i started a silent war. They even put books for childrens and teenagers (those ones are funny in a very sad way) they are dangerous brainwashed people.
Load More Replies...When you are young, you still believe you have to "put yourself out there", to party every week, to meet tons of people... Then you find out it is a myth and one actually cannot do it.
Plumber? Stalker? Repair man? Cable guy (you have to say it the way Jim Carey did in the movie)?
I've been single for 15 years and do not regret it at all. Although maybe that's because my last relationship was an abusive one and I'm glad I escaped.
Yup. Or at work, or where ever I happen to be. Church preferably. But not on scamthesinglesintogettingmarried.com
Old enough to realize you need to go hunting just for sport when you don't need any game.
Plants are a lot easier to homeschool.
Load More Replies...Ooh monstera adasonii, golden pothos, snake plant, cactus, echeveria?, anthurium, ponytail palm, prayer plant, sad maidenhair fern? spider plant, corn plant, chinese evergreen, satin pothos, flamingo anthurium! .....Do you think anyone can tell I have the same problem...?
I wish my house plants could behave as well as this guy's. I'm still training my newcomers. Isn't going well.
meeee!!!! I have a avocado tree there not even supposed to grow in Maine!
Yeah, but people complain when you skin, gut, and deep fry humans.
Load More Replies...There's plenty of fish in the sea, but I want orca, and they're endangered.
Incels will be like: "why do want an orca when you can have a very nice blobfish!?"
Load More Replies...this fish kinda looks like Shrek as a fish but kinda scarier 2021_04_14...588808.png
It's been 84 years, and I can still smell the fresh paint. The china had never been used. The sheets had never been slept in. Titanic was called the Ship of Dreams, and it was... It really was... THIS I can remember, but NOT what I ate last night...
Load More Replies...Last night when I wore my plastic grocery bag underwear I found floating across the road.
knock, knock....who's there?.....The Grammar Police.....The Grammar Police who?.....It is the Grammar Police whom.
I do that and I already know my future husband is gonna hate that
This is my 3 year old when he climbs into our bed "idgaf you two are sleeping, I sleeps like this"
Seriously!! Learn proper English!! I will never understand why some people think it's cool to speak like they're the fullest crayon in the box! No wonder you're single!!!
Of course I solved it before scrolling on, what kind of psychopath do you think I am?
Happy im not the only one. When I got to the end I thought : this is not normal, why I did this ? And now I saw your comment.
Load More Replies...That's the first condition. Then you can go further with your love life.
Haha, I was thinking the exactly the same xD Giant baby Rock hugging his cuddle toy!
Load More Replies...There is a third...I really really want to have sex, But I don't want to share my fries with anyone
I don't think the first person understands the idea of a person actually choosing to be single.
I'm not single. I'm in a long lasting relationship with Fun, Freedom and Financial stability!!
The post to which they replied is pretty condescending and annoying. It basically says "it's your fault !" Many people are single because they just want to, and some other because they are too ugly to be loved.
you should go down the aisle on your belly flopping your way up to the front
A.K.A. "half price chocolates at the grocery store" day.
Load More Replies...Isn't that Veteran's day in the US?
Load More Replies...the girl with flowers be like "wut single people don't be needin a holiday they should be as miserable as possible" (and before i get downvoted into oblivion, this is a joke)
My mom recently told me that if I started dating a man, she would be happy that I found someone to share my life with and I was like "That's cool, but I'm happy being single and please stop talking."
You do you, von Wolfen, you do you (literally even, if that's what you want)
Load More Replies...my parents always say im not a loud to date, but always ask me abt my love life..like- what?😀
bbc news... there is no news today. how do the news channels ALWAYS find something to report on, even if basically nobody cares
Tip: replace your ex number with yours, drunk text yourself, laugh out of loud the next day and be gratefull you didn't send it to him/her.
Not a good idea, i'll wake up with me insulting myself and telling me how a little b**ch i am :(
Load More Replies...Sisters. That's what sisters are for... Well, and to hold your hair back.
No, that guy's girlfriend is taking the pic. And now the lonely one left is you
The way the three guys are holding their partners kind of looks like they're holding them hostage.
I just saw this on another BP post about life hacks that actually work, lol
what kind of feelings?? if the feeling is platonic then were on the same level......
Reading the source, he did, eventually. Although it was just "haha"
Load More Replies...Man... I would use that but that would mean that I love myself... :'(
Ladies do this even if you are single. People will think someone lives with you. Because people target people that are by themselves just saying.
Not sure if that's a main message of Romeo and Juliet. I think you should reread that tragedy. You may find some other things there
Not me. Britney has "I might be locked away if I don't behave" problems. Harry and Meghan have jerk relative problems. We all have that.
Load More Replies...At least she can look down and laugh to herself thinking "I'm Britney, B***h"
Honest. Less cruel than encouraging people into deluding themselves.
Load More Replies...For the past 5 years I though that. I',m single by choice!. Then realize its 1.30 am and still working...
It's a good idea to have added the "Me/Me" caption, as the concept of mirror is something few people know or understand.
Bro I low-key love this painting! Like it’s so pretty
Now if he would just listen to the man in the mirror. Honestly, it is like talking to a wall.
Narcissism. Or, as my mother said, if you want to marry someone just like you, get a tube of (lubricant) and (fornicate) yourself....
The picture isn't sad, it's the judgemental caption that makes it seem like it is.
Sadly I have. It was during the start of the pandemic, I hadn't made human contact for several months. I picked up some acorns and started naming them and making them talk. There were stories. We had acorn how to videos. There was the acorn reality show. Oh, and hat shop. Hat shop was always a treat. This was two years ago. I was thirteen. THIRTEEN.
I wish, but melatonin (at least the pill version) gives me hives
No, it's even better... believe me, I live in a mansion in the woods.
Best valentine's day is single valentine's day. You please yourself, and you know how to. So, feel free to have a Valentine's day date with yourself?
Or you can wait until February 15th and buy yourself as much discount chocolate as you want with the money you saved from not having to buy someone else a gift.
Load More Replies...sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh my manz got that inbox lit up with messages
My dad was 67 and my mom 59 when I graduated high school. I felt lucky because some kids didn't have parents there for them.
Old parents, young parents, all that matters is that they are good parents.
Load More Replies...Dang my dad was 41 when he had me ;-; it’s not bad though... my mom is younger :)
I want this shirt! And this cacatoes! And this mans fabulous vibe!
I'd like to see the whole pic. I'm seeing this paired with pink 1980s basketball short shorts
The message is about the cockatoo. The man is here only to wear the shirt.
Same with people, who have kids, telling me I don't know how to raise them. I'm not dumb, I know screaming into people's ear for ten minutes is out of the line...
Load More Replies...Yess this is so true or giving advice to people older than you when you've never experienced anything
I do this to my sister. but she's already in a relationship and I'm telling her how much I hate them 'cause my gut is telling me to hate them. then, bing bang boom the person she's dating is toxic
According to most societies, this only applies to men. It's messed up.
Load More Replies...I'd take it if I could paint it a different color.
Load More Replies...Ok... what is that dish on the right and what would Gordon Ramsey call it? The bloody awful?
Another one of "you can't be happy if you're single, you're just lying to yourself"...
There's also being able to say "Hey, could you scoop out the litterbox?" on your way out the door even though it's your turn.
No, that's the aisle where the popcorn and chocolate are!
Load More Replies...There's no pink gin, so this aisle is clearly inferior to whichever aisle DOES have pink gin.
"My parents deciding..." Ok, who said your parents can decide anything about your life in the first place ?
Just read that in Elizabeth Bennett's voice. I've never even heard her voice.
I have a massive penguin sleeping bag that has only ever been used for cuddles.
I have never forwarded a chain letter but it took reading your comment to understand I did this to myself. 🤔 😂
Load More Replies...Romeegummy and Juliebear. A beautiful love story.
Load More Replies...Yes, but how do you get *them* to lower their standards enough to even consider dating you?
Load More Replies...Love is when two people are made too miserable by their loneliness, and hate each other slightly less than they hate everyone else.
I did! but then she moved to Washington and her phone number was banned on my phone 'cause my parents don't like that I'm gay-
One of them with anchovies, because they are delicious. (My pizza, my choice)
Why is it that so many people have problems to share their food with their partners? They do know that they can have the double amount of food than one person eats, right?
Why would I order double the amount of food so two people can eat it if I can order double the amount of food and eat it all myself?
Load More Replies...Be yourself: dress weird, act weird, BE weird. Don't waste your time (and theirs).
Definitely! People have to like who you really are. If I show up to a first date in a Starfleet uniform then they will have to deal with it.
Load More Replies...*starts praying to God in Latin, a language I don't even know*
Te, Dómine, sancte Pater, omnípotens aetérne Deus, supplices deprecámur pro anima famuli tui N., quem de hoc sǽculo ad te venire iussísti. *this is the only time Catholic school has paid off*
Load More Replies..."They were just being polite, they pity you, you annoy them, they don't really want you to come." That's what I always tell myself, and I'm almost sure I'm right.
well, that is probably true the first few months, after that they call you coz they are bored alone :D
Load More Replies...If you ask her out, you will be rejected, insulted, humiliated... You will feel terrible, guilty, stupid, embarrassed... So don't do it.
In my opinion you shouldn't have to shave your legs for anyone, except yourself if you feel like it.
I have 1 memory foam pillow, 1 normal pillow, 1 fuzzy pillow, and one body pillow. And a doggo of course.
Load More Replies...i cant handle my own feeling how could i put up with another meat bag's feelings
You talk to them and try to be their friend, but then you get insecure and wonder if they know you like them and think you're weird, so you cut them out of your life to avoid possible embarrassment. ONE DAY THIS WILL BE THE CORRECT DECISION, I SWEAR!
....then you clean it, repair it and then all your friends ask where you have found such a treasure.
.... thats sounds a bit odd when you read it literally... but could be nice recovery story in a AA meeting
Load More Replies...He is right. It hurts less, and people don't blam you for feeling this way.
I saw a trash can with a sign "No Loose Trash" and I wanted to steal it and put it on my bedroom door, but I didn't because my kid would see it and I'd have to explain that it's a joke about her mom.
Jokes on you I have disproportionately long arms. I can reach my entire back with either arm.
I just bought a thing that you put lotion on so you can get it on the middle of your back. I ain't need nobody now.
I can put sunscreen on my own back thanks to scoliosis! It also gives me terrible migraines... like the one right now.
idc if im ever in a relationship, all the cookie dough is still for one: me
Yesssss, single yes, spider building nets inside panties no..
It's funny because if you stop dating completely, you can just leave your trauma out in the middle of the livingroom and nobody will mention it. I'm using mine as a coffeetable.
and if you don't solve it it will come back as soon as you date again. Coffeetable and never date again sounds good anyway.
Load More Replies...Society has been blaming single people so long and so hard, they start blaming themselves.
My advice : when you are in such a situation, just assume they are not into you. It is always the right answer.
Hi there Bambi. Your eyes are really shiny this night (look right ;) )
I didn't see the deer at first, thanks!
Load More Replies...Neither. I don’t have any ex’s (or romantic future) so I can sleep in my warm bed at 3am
I'd actually take the road.... I think..... definitely if I had company lol
Me at blood donation when they ask me when my last same-sex intercourse was "Hmm... Monday... Tuesday... Plus five... Minus seven... Never."
There are no soulmates, only people who use each other to make their loneliness more bearable.
Jesus doesn't complain if I don't shave for three days, so I'm sticking with Him.
If you don't pick up yourself, no one else will. That's also completely true when you are in a relationship, trust me on this.
That's a narrow-minded vision of sleeping alone, to say the least. Having a king size bed just for yourself is actually great.
Unless they regard it as a personal ego boost? Maybe?
Load More Replies...*Peloton. If anyone doesn’t know, Peloton makes exercise bikes and had a rather creepy commercial where someone’s spouse received it as a gift.
I don't think I've laughed so hard at a bp post for a while😂
Load More Replies...What I want in a partner is someone who smiles occasionally, and brings me broken things, which I will then go to unreasonable lengths to fix. Then they thank me. Also, there is a ≠0 chance of sex.
I don't think I've laughed so hard at a bp post for a while😂
Load More Replies...What I want in a partner is someone who smiles occasionally, and brings me broken things, which I will then go to unreasonable lengths to fix. Then they thank me. Also, there is a ≠0 chance of sex.
