40 Of The Funniest Dads In 2021

According to relationship expert Dan, the founder of The Modern Man, at its core, being a father means being responsible for others that want you to take care of them first, "before you even think of taking care of yourself." Getting this right will mean that everyone's happy and everyone will "get along beautifully." However, failing to do your dad duties can result in some nasty consequences. "If you don’t, you will have a strained relationship with your children and potentially with your wife/girlfriend as well," he said.

"Understandably, that might sound like too much responsibility for some guys. Yet, when you become a dad, you are happy to do it. It doesn’t feel like a chore. It feels natural to be that selfless and to take care of them."

In Dan's opinion, we should trust our gut instinct when considering whether or not we're ready to have kids. At the same time, we ought to remember that our gut instinct may change over time.

"I personally went from not wanting kids at all, to gradually opening up to it. At some point, my gut instinct about having children changed and I decided that I'd like to have a family. So, I just went ahead with it. After a few years of trying, my wife and I eventually had twin girls when she was 26 and I was 41," Dan shared the story of how he started his family.

"Yet, prior to that, I never wanted to have children. Trust your gut instinct, while knowing that what you feel about the idea of having children now, may be completely different 2, 5, or 10 years from now and that is okay. You are allowed to change what you want as you go through life. You don't have to have everything decided right now and never change your mind about anything."

The relationship expert said that a lot depends on how each man perceives the idea of becoming a dad. "Some men see it as a truly amazing thing to become a dad, some see it as just a normal part of life, and others hate it. It really is different for every man and depends on who he is, what he wants from life, the importance he places on family, and what he truly wants to focus on," he explained to Bored Panda.

"For example: If a man was truly focused on achieving his biggest goals and ambitions in life prior to having children, he will usually continue to focus on that as being the most important thing to him, while also giving time to his children and wife, or girlfriend. If a man didn’t have big goals outside of the relationship prior to having children, his children will often become a huge part or the main part of what he sees as his purpose in life," he detailed.

"In other cases, a man will suddenly become ambitious and want to achieve a lot more to ensure that he can provide for his children and give them a better life."