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Guy Tells Own Sister She’s Better Off Not Coming To His Wedding After Fat-Shaming The Bride
Woman crying while man comforts her, illustrating family drama involving groom pulling the plug on sister attending wedding.

Guy Tells Own Sister She’s Better Off Not Coming To His Wedding After Fat-Shaming The Bride

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Everyone has insecurities, maybe about their body, their looks, or even their capabilities. Even if the person has done a lot of self-work to deal with those negative feelings about themselves, it might still hurt if other people point out those qualities.  

This is what a woman faced from her sister-in-law, who would always fat-shame her. The in-law kept putting her down for her weight, even at her wedding dress trial. Eventually, the poster’s fiancé found out about his sister’s behavior and uninvited her from their wedding.

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    The poster shared that she had been with her partner for five years, and that his family liked her, but only his sister seemed to have a problem

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    The sister-in-law always insulted the woman for her weight, but the poster never told her partner about that, as she didn’t want to cause problems between them

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    It’s only when the sister-in-law insulted the woman at her wedding dress trial that the poster broke down, and her fiancé got to know everything

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    The man decided to uninvite his sister from the wedding, but his family got angry at his fiancée, claiming that she was tearing them apart

    When the poster met her partner’s family, she got along well with them. They seemed to like her and took to her easily. The only person who kept having any issues with her was her future sister-in-law. The woman kept commenting on her weight and looks, which made the OP feel extremely hurt.

    Sometimes people body-shame others because they might be dealing with their own insecurities and want to deflect attention from themselves. Other times, it might be comments said in a joking manner or as a precaution without realizing the negative effect it may have on the other person.

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    It seems like the sister-in-law was only out to hurt the woman’s feelings and definitely didn’t have her best interests at heart. Instead of telling her partner about his sister’s comments, the OP decided to just ignore the behavior. She felt that by telling him about what was going on, it might cause a rift between him and his sibling.

    Although it might be scary to tell one’s partner about the difficulty you are having with their family, it’s important to have this conversation early. Instead of pointing fingers or insulting anyone, it’s essential to share how their actions are making you feel. The support from one’s spouse can make all the difference in such a situation. 

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    The poster had invited her mother-in-law, sister-in-law, and her mom to her wedding dress trial. What she didn’t realize was that her fiancé’s sister would use that opportunity to bad-mouth her. The rude woman kept ranting about the poster’s low standards, which made her feel bad about her dress and body. 

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    Dealing with mean relatives can be a difficult thing to do. This kind of conflict might pit people against each other, which is why it’s important to handle the matter with tact. It’s important to confront them about their actions and set clear boundaries, while explaining how you have been hurt. Although this might not change their behavior, it will help them face the consequences of their actions.

    Luckily, the poster’s fiancé decided to stand up for her as soon as he got to know about his sister’s behavior. He decided to uninvite his sibling and explained that a wedding was supposed to be a celebration of love between the bridal couple and that nothing should come in the way of their happiness.

    The man’s actions angered his family, because they probably never expected him to take his partner’s side. His mom got mad at his fiancée and even insulted her. Hopefully, the bride- and groom-to-be don’t take this to heart and stay firm in their decision to let the rude woman face her mistakes.

    Do you think the man did the right thing by uninviting his sister? Let us know your thoughts below.

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    Folks were glad that the poster’s husband took her side, and they were angered by the sister-in-law’s behavior

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    Beverly Noronha

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    Alexia
    Community Member
    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The family called to apologize "on her behalf" - wtf? Isn't she an adult, responsible for the consequences of her actions? Why does she need a spokesperson? This family is protecting a bully and as they are trying to guilt trip the bride, they are actually tearing apart themselves.

    Bubblebee
    Community Member
    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think she wouldn't apologize, so they did it, but deep inside they agree with her. I think it's an awful group of people. They sûck.

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    Sparkle
    Community Member
    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Best husband ever! To go against his family and be so hurt that he cries with her. Also this may sound repetitive but you can be the fittest person in the world but acting like that makes you ugly size doesn't matter it's your heart that makes you pretty.b

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    Emilu
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    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd just say "you need to speak to my future husband/your son about this as he was the one that uninvited her. If you don't want to attend either, let me know so I can adjust catering accordingly. *Hang up*"

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    Alexia
    Community Member
    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The family called to apologize "on her behalf" - wtf? Isn't she an adult, responsible for the consequences of her actions? Why does she need a spokesperson? This family is protecting a bully and as they are trying to guilt trip the bride, they are actually tearing apart themselves.

    Bubblebee
    Community Member
    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think she wouldn't apologize, so they did it, but deep inside they agree with her. I think it's an awful group of people. They sûck.

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    Sparkle
    Community Member
    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Best husband ever! To go against his family and be so hurt that he cries with her. Also this may sound repetitive but you can be the fittest person in the world but acting like that makes you ugly size doesn't matter it's your heart that makes you pretty.b

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    Emilu
    Community Member
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    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd just say "you need to speak to my future husband/your son about this as he was the one that uninvited her. If you don't want to attend either, let me know so I can adjust catering accordingly. *Hang up*"

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