Man Wants To Use His Fiancée For Her Finances, She Walks Out After Seeing Through His Intentions

Imagine you’re dating the love of your life, everything feels perfect, and suddenly your dream proposal comes with a side of financial shock therapy.

If you’ve ever wondered how wealth can complicate even the most romantic of relationships, this story might make you reconsider who you really want by your side. Today’s Original Poster (OP) thought she was in a solid relationship, until money entered the chat.

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Falling in love is supposed to be about butterflies, not bank statements, because then it can start to feel more like a business negotiation

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The author, who inherited millions, kept her lifestyle modest, while her fiancé, who earned a good income, moved into her house and began pushing for a larger home purchase

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When she disclosed her true financial situation, he expected her to cover everything, while she proposed separate finances, proportional contributions, and a prenup

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Tensions escalated when he demanded she buy a house in both their names, even without his contribution, and issued an ultimatum tying it to their engagement

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She refused, ended the engagement, and asked him to move out, believing he valued her money over the relationship

The OP inherited a fortune three years ago, but she didn’t let it define her lifestyle. She works part-time as a teacher, budgets carefully, travels, and even runs a nonprofit. Only her closest family knows the full extent of her wealth. However, she’s disciplined when it comes to her money and lives below her means.

Her fiancé earns a respectable income of about $10,000 per month with $100,000 in savings. However, when he moved into her house, the disparity became glaring. The couple initially agreed on a plan for joint living, but the turning point came when she disclosed her millions in investments and steady monthly income.

Her fiancé was shocked and then insisted she should buy a new house outright and cover everything, while she suggested separate finances, a joint account for shared expenses, and proportional contributions based on income. She also requested a prenup, but that was when things escalated.

Her fiancé argued for equal partnership, meaning she would buy the house in both their names, effectively giving him half of her assets without contributing. Tensions spiraled into days of fights, and eventually, the fiancé issued an ultimatum: either she agreed to his terms or the relationship was over.

She chose to protect her finances, ending the engagement and asking him to move out. He accused her of prioritizing money over love, but she felt he had crossed a boundary by demanding she bankroll their life together.

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Life coach Nancy Levin highlights the importance of establishing financial boundaries in romantic relationships. According to Levin, this includes maintaining privacy and deciding how much financial information to share, setting spending limits, and clearly defining each partner’s roles and responsibilities regarding money.

A form of financial boundaries is a prenup, as the OP suggested. Keystone Law explains that prenuptial agreements are an effective tool for protecting personal and family wealth by clearly defining asset ownership and distribution before marriage.

Prenups ensure that premarital assets especially, such as inheritances, family heirlooms, and business interests, remain with their original owner, while also managing debt responsibilities so one spouse is not burdened by the other’s liabilities. They can outline how assets acquired during the marriage or expected in the future, like trusts or business growth, will be handled.

However, Wealth Counsel highlights certain misconceptions about prenups, including the fact that prenups signal distrust. They explain that they mostly promote open financial planning and transparency between partners. They also provide a structured way to protect assets and prevent contentious disputes over property or finances if the marriage were to end.

Netizens sided with the OP, praising her for protecting her finances and refusing to give in to her fiancé’s ultimatums. They framed his behavior as manipulative and opportunistic, and also pointed out that financial disputes are a major cause of relationship breakdowns and that she avoided long-term regret by setting boundaries.

What do you think about this situation? Do you think the OP overreacted by ending the engagement, or was it justified? We would love to know your thoughts!

Netizens insisted that the author wasn’t wrong and praised her for choosing to protect her finances over her engagement

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