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Man Makes Life Hell For Only One Of His Kids, Now That Son Refuses To Save His Life
Finding out that a loved one is in need of an organ donation can be terrifying. Your mind might be racing, wondering if they’ll be able to find a suitable match in time and whether or not there’s anything you can do to help. Becoming a donor yourself is certainly honorable, but it’s not an easy process to undergo. So you’ll want to be absolutely certain that you’re on board before prepping for surgery.
That’s why one man, who has been facing immense pressure from his family to donate an organ, recently reached out to Reddit for advice. Below, you’ll find his explanation of exactly why he refuses to help out his father, as well as some of the replies invested readers shared.
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This man is under immense pressure from his family to donate an organ to his father
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But he has no intentions of saving the person who made his childhood a nightmare
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Later, the man responded to several readers and provided more background information
Over 100,000 people are currently waiting for organ donations in the United States
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No one ever wants to be told that they’ll need an organ donation to survive, but this is an experience that thousands of people go through every year. In fact, the Health Resources & Services Administration notes on their site that there are currently 103,223 men, women and children on the national transplant waiting list in the United States. And every 8 minutes, another person is added to the list.
Sadly, not everyone will live to receive their transplant. Every day, 13 people lose their lives while waiting for an organ donation, and on average, those in need of a kidney will be on the waiting list for about 5 years.
Recipients of liver transplants often wait between one month to five years, while those waiting for a heart or lungs typically wait about 4 months. And individuals in need of a pancreas transplant spend two years on the waiting list on average.
Unfortunately, receiving an organ transplant is a complicated process because many factors must be considered when matching donors and recipients. You won’t necessarily be the next person to receive a donation just because you’ve been on the list for the longest amount of time.
Health care professionals also consider how serious the patient’s medical condition is, their proximity to their donor’s hospital and whether or not the patient is available when they get a call that they’ve been matched with a donor. Depending on the organ, the donor and recipient may also need to be the same blood type and a similar body size.
According to the National Kidney Federation, a family member or friend is often the best match for someone in need of a transplant. However, choosing to donate an organ is a decision that should not be made lightly, as it carries risks for the donor as well as the recipient.
It’s important for donors to understand the risks before agreeing to part with an organ
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In the case of donating a kidney, for example, the National Kidney Federation reports that there is a 1 in 20 risk of a major complication. There’s also a 1 in 25 chance of developing long-term pain on the side of the abdomen where the kidney was removed from and a 1 in 200 chance that the donor will later develop kidney failure themself. There’s even a 1 in 3,000 risk that the donor won’t survive the operation.
Before donating an organ, the American Transplant Foundation urges potential donors to consider if they are prepared physically, emotionally, financially and intellectually. It’s important to understand how exactly this operation will impact your life at the moment and in the years to come.
While the physical risks are not usually significant, it’s crucial for donors to know exactly what they’re getting themselves into to avoid ever harboring resentment towards the recipient. If you’re giving a kidney to a relative that you love or your best friend, there’s a good chance that you’ll be thankful for all of the years you’ll get to spend with them.
But in this particular situation, where the man being asked to donate already hates his father, there’s a huge risk that he would have some regrets if he decided to go through with the surgery. And as he has made clear, we don’t even know if he would be a suitable donor for his father, so there’s really no need to put pressure on him.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think the author made the right choice by putting his foot down? Then, if you’d like to check out another Bored Panda article discussing a similar issue, look no further than right here.
The vast majority of readers assured the author that he was under not obligation to donate an organ
However, some thought he was making a choice that he would regret
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Beak Hookage 5 months ago
We all know that if he did donate, the "father" wouldn't even thank him.
Lyoness 5 months ago
I love the nuclear revenge option of waiting until Dad's on his deathbed, then whispering "I was a match". That's exactly what I'd love to do to my incubator. Abus*ve parents deserve nothing from the children.
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Tabitha 5 months ago (edited)
My parents were s****y to myself and my four brothers. Mostly mental and emotional abuse (no visible bruises for anyone to question), and a little physical abuse of my brothers (for some reason he never hit me, but he would hit my brothers). When they died (2001 and 2011), all I felt was huge relief that they’re each finally gone. 2011 was like a light went on in a darkened room. They were both finally dead. I wasn’t at their death beds, I didn’t say goodbye, they never admitted or even questioned if they had done anything wrong to their kids so they died believing they were wonderful parents. I didn’t go to their funerals. I don’t know where they’re interred, and I really don’t care. If I ever found out, I would probably only visit their graves to p**s on them. If anyone had sent me some of their ashes, I would’ve happily flushed them down the toilet and said. “Good riddance, m**********r’, because that’s the only kind of “funeral” abusers—-of anyone, but especially their OWN children—-like them deserve. The world is a much better place without them in it. So OP is entirely right in their decision not to sacrifice an organ to help out someone who would’ve left them to die if the roles were reversed. F**k that old a*****e. Let him die a painful death (liver and kidney diseases are painful), and give OP some peace. They won’t ever regret their decision. Their father was the one who purposely killed (hell, tortured, pissed on, then killed) any of those feelings OP might have for him long ago. Beelzebub has a special place at his a**s for OP’s father, a place he richly deserves. He can keep my parents company down south.
Emilu 5 months ago
OP should do whatever helps him sleep straight at night. And I don’t mean that in a cruel way. If he’s been abùsed, I completely understand why he wouldn’t want to donate an organ to his abùser. If he thinks he’ll regret it, or he values his siblings above himself, he should. Personally, eff that; I’m not that good a person to help someone who’s abùsed me. As many people have suggested in the Reddit comments, get tested, say you’re being coerced and they won’t go further.
Ms.GB 5 months ago
Maybe nobody being a match is Karma. It's the universe saying it doesn't want trash like him around anymore.
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Beak Hookage 5 months ago
We all know that if he did donate, the "father" wouldn't even thank him.
Lyoness 5 months ago
I love the nuclear revenge option of waiting until Dad's on his deathbed, then whispering "I was a match". That's exactly what I'd love to do to my incubator. Abus*ve parents deserve nothing from the children.
Load More Replies... Tabitha 5 months ago (edited)
My parents were s****y to myself and my four brothers. Mostly mental and emotional abuse (no visible bruises for anyone to question), and a little physical abuse of my brothers (for some reason he never hit me, but he would hit my brothers). When they died (2001 and 2011), all I felt was huge relief that they’re each finally gone. 2011 was like a light went on in a darkened room. They were both finally dead. I wasn’t at their death beds, I didn’t say goodbye, they never admitted or even questioned if they had done anything wrong to their kids so they died believing they were wonderful parents. I didn’t go to their funerals. I don’t know where they’re interred, and I really don’t care. If I ever found out, I would probably only visit their graves to p**s on them. If anyone had sent me some of their ashes, I would’ve happily flushed them down the toilet and said. “Good riddance, m**********r’, because that’s the only kind of “funeral” abusers—-of anyone, but especially their OWN children—-like them deserve. The world is a much better place without them in it. So OP is entirely right in their decision not to sacrifice an organ to help out someone who would’ve left them to die if the roles were reversed. F**k that old a*****e. Let him die a painful death (liver and kidney diseases are painful), and give OP some peace. They won’t ever regret their decision. Their father was the one who purposely killed (hell, tortured, pissed on, then killed) any of those feelings OP might have for him long ago. Beelzebub has a special place at his a**s for OP’s father, a place he richly deserves. He can keep my parents company down south.
Emilu 5 months ago
OP should do whatever helps him sleep straight at night. And I don’t mean that in a cruel way. If he’s been abùsed, I completely understand why he wouldn’t want to donate an organ to his abùser. If he thinks he’ll regret it, or he values his siblings above himself, he should. Personally, eff that; I’m not that good a person to help someone who’s abùsed me. As many people have suggested in the Reddit comments, get tested, say you’re being coerced and they won’t go further.
Ms.GB 5 months ago
Maybe nobody being a match is Karma. It's the universe saying it doesn't want trash like him around anymore.
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