Woman Gives Her Mother In Law A Fake Key Copy To Her House She Was Supposed To Use In Emergency, MIL Gets Busted At Christmas Dinner

When a mother walks in on you being intimate and you (he) don't think it's a big deal then that's already a red flag. He's a mamma's boy and the MIL is controlling and had the tantrum to manipulate the family into taking her side. Him wanting your phone is what his mother would want to do ... it's all about control.

My Mother had some REAL issues with her Mother in law. This was back in the 60s and Granny came from a catholic family in the southern Irish countryside and my mother was an English protestant living in England. In case you don't know that in it's self is not a good mix. The English and the Irish had issues and the Catholic and the Protestant as well. And that's putting it mildly. It's better now, but back then, pretty bad to sat the least. Even when my mother converted to Catholicism nothing changed. Granny treated my mother like dirt. ALL of it behind my dad's back and mum said nothing. One day my dad came home early. Granny was living with at the time and even though mum waited on granny hand foot, granny still treated her like dirt. When Dad heard what granny was saying he LOST it. He told granny that if she wanted to live in this house then she had to treat mum with respect or go back home. He ended by saying "I chose her, I was lumbered with you". I will choose my wife over you every time. EVERY TIME!" Granny went back to Ireland soon after and mum and dad spent the next 43 years happily married until dad passed away. THAT is how a man should be towards his wife when it comes to mother in law issues. You are NTA your husband and mother in law are.

I hate to say divorce but honestly I don't see how this is going to work out for you. Not only does he not support you, he's also insanely controlling. I would get out before it's too late...aka before you have children together. I'm guessing your mil isn't someone you'd want in the delivery room, but who would push her way in anyways and your husband wouldn't do a thing about it. Then you'd have to deal with your mil disregarding your wishes with your own child for the rest of your life. If your husband doesn't put you first NOW he never will.

Give husband an ultimatum. Either he apologises and the mother apologises or you are gone. Warn his next wife/girlfriend as well. Unacceptable. If MIL walked in on intimacy that's immediately a red flag. I'd have ejected her from the house at that point.

He learned to have temper tantrums and to push people boundaries from his whacky mother. She's going to have a lot of problems w him and his family if he's already doing this.