30 Idealized Behaviors That Are Actually Toxic Traits, Pointed Out By TikTok Users

There's a balance here, though; you need to feel like your feelings are valid, but you also need perspective. too much either way is bad.

Are there really people who do that?

I realize I am in the minority here - But I actually hate that it is assumed that my wife does all of those things and gets all the glory, when I am the one who does them all.

most of the time, they just want to be brutal. the honesty is just coincidental

'I tell it like it is, and if you don't like it then you can f*ck off' Yeah, I'll happily f*ck off, rude person.

"No, that jacket doesn't suit you" is honest but could end up with a 'that's just his opinion, I'll make my own decisions' situation "That jacket looks like the tailor had an epileptic fit whilst sewing, and the dyer was a blind, crippled leprechaun. I wouldn't let my DOG be caught dead in that" is brutally honest, and leaves no room for miscommunication

Not only that, but what is true for you isn't necessarily true for everyone. Your "brutal honesty" isn't the only opinion.

Well, BP likes to use headlines from this scheme: "[Mom | Guy | Student] brutally honest tells about (Subject), get roasted".

I always give a warning before answering any "be honest" questions, like " you sure you want me to answer that? You won't like it"...turns out people are not used to honesty

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Usually, people who brag about how honest they are, are liars.

Brutality is relative. Some things cannot be softened

Does anybody think this is a positive trait, though? I mean, other than the people bragging about it?

What I mean is I’m going to say it like an asshole but I don’t want you to think I’m an asshole.

Yup, that’s called being rude. They just want to sugarcoat it.

Brutal honesty is just a nice way of saying "I am an insufferable asshole."

This one has been coming up a bit. Surely it has less to do with the 'honesty' and more about the general character of the person in question. Even if they delivered the honestly in a way that was palatable to you, is it likely that you would be seeking out this particular person's company in any other instance? Why is the style of delivery used for 'honesty' being singled out? Either you value this person's opinion, or you don’t. Vote with your feet.

Of course you can. But where's the fun in that?

well, by this I'd go with "If I'm honest" to which my brain always wants to know what they've been before....

definitely.

Yea

Also think about the people on the receiving end who probably don't want to be on some stranger's social media while they are in a bad place in their lives.

people who are upbeat and positive all the time tend to irritate me

Who does that? I'm a Scorpio and I am so annoyed by all the negative prejudices. No, I am not a psychopath because I was born in November and I am certainly not going to make anyone believe that this is a thing.

YES don't just self-diagnose because you daydream. Tell me once a professional diagnoses you bitch

#Facts. Sure you want to spend time with each other but you also have lives outside of it. I don't mean to ignore your partner either btw.

yeah, very dangerous trend...

Yea that sucks

Or exes who hate the current partner of their ex-partner for the same reason

let me tell you, my mother is getting married to her boyfriend and he has met my grandmother and she is NOT abusive nor is my mom's boyfriend's mom abusive to her as far as I know. this needs to stop since it puts a bad name of MIL

Just bc it’s a kid doesn’t mean it’s less important

I generally try to show respect to every person I meet until they give me reason to stop respecting them.

Kids might prefer divorced parents to a home where fights and anger are a daily issue.

Many romantic movies do this and it irritates me. So many creepy or abusive actions or traits are seen as romantic in movies because the love interest is physically attractive. Just stop....

"Hustle" has just become so overused and watered down. What they don't show you is 95% of those "hustlers" have financial support outside of the hustle.

Wat. shes jelly then

This one is weird. The Friend Zone just means that someone you like doesn't like you back, it will happen to every adult at some point in their life, it has nothing to do with being owed something.

this is actually rlly disrespectful and disgusting. m8, if they let you use their phone its bc they trust you. don't exploit that.

I am assuming they mean a partner that wants to know exactly what you're doing every second of the day and want you to be with them 24/7....I'm assuming.

who else thought of "oh she's sweet but a psycho"

Yeah like my ex friends beat me up ( I had bruises) I got horrible anxiety that they would stab me while I was outside bc my mum asked me to go to the store, after the weekend one of them ( didn't even apologise) asked if we could be friends again and I said no bc they beat me caused me pain and anxiety and made me scared to go outside

I feel that this attitude has thankfully changed in the part of the world that I live in, it seems mad to me that someone would think that hitting a child is somehow okay.

love can break down. it doesn't matter how long you have been together it matters if your love is still strong that can build up a relationship

Best way to improve your body image: Throw away any fashion magazines. Go to places where you see real people's bodies, e.g. public pools. (Saunas if you live in a place where this is a thing. Seeing naked strangers will show you that NO ONE has the perfect body.)

spend some time with family, friends, or just alone time for yourself

its been said before but idc because its true.

I've got that trait and I can definitely tell you...it was past trauma.

#stopalchohal

it is nice to ask if they need a friend, but if they say no don't push it like: "oh don't be scared i wont be mean i promise" like just give them some space, you don't know what they might be going through.

This should be higher. Bragging about pettiness is a disgusting trait.

if someone has anger issues and they ask for space don't be like: but whyy? aw are u mad? they want their space to cool off for a bit and are tryina be polite about it.

i drink when im stressed or overwhelmed. i drink T E A.

another one: people glorify depression of all things. like 4 real? depression?

This is, literally, a recurring nightmare. Doors and windows in my dream-room never stay closed, and dream-people never stay out. I grew up an introvert in a family of extroverts.

Some of these people that unwilling to better themselves have underlying mental health issues, depression etc; it's tricky.

Could someone please explain this one to me? I don’t get it

You owe me nothing, I owe you nothing, what I do for you is of my own volition so don't keep tab

what is a POC home ?

question, i make storys in my head. a lot. is this the same thing? i get carried off sometimes but it hasn't hurt me.

Ye! What’s wrong with ppl