
Woman Shares How Moms Finish Eating Last Due To The Additional Work They Have To Do After Seeing This Husband Get Fed Up Interview With Author
Christine Koh, a Singaporean woman who works at the Ministry of Education, has recently penned an illuminating Facebook post which resonated with many people on social media. She was prompted to write the text after witnessing an unpleasant incident in a food court on March 6.
“Today I saw a hubby questioning his wife angrily (in front of everyone in the food court) because he couldn’t understand why his wife was always so slow in eating,” Christine started her post, which has now gone viral with 3.7k reactions. The author further stated that the reason for the man’s anger and frustration was “because he no longer could handle both a baby in a carrier and a wailing toddler.”
After the husband stormed off with the kids, leaving her to eat alone out in public, Christine shared a heartfelt explanation to why the woman was eating so slowly and it seriously kicked people in the feels.
In her second post, Christine also made it clear that she had no intention to cause a burst of negativity towards the father, since she “didn’t paint the full picture.” On the contrary, her illuminating explanation stands as a tribute to all the mothers who “are often overlooked in the grand scheme.”
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The Singaporean woman penned this illuminating explanation which resonated with many people on social media and went viral
Bored Panda reached out to Christine Koh, the author of the viral post who said that she penned her reflection post to share in her circle of friends, and hoped that everyone would understand that “in the modern context, a lot of wonderful men have stepped up as a role as a father and are a great partner to support their wives in caregiving and chores,” regardless of this singular incident we don’t know that much about.
Christine believes that the post resonated with her fellow mothers because “we probably encounter this scenario very often, but we didn’t think much of it.”
“I don’t think they were trying to share the post in order to ‘spite their hubbies’ or to make guys look bad (since the reverse in the gender role can also happen too, can’t it) but they are hoping to use the post to perhaps gain some understanding from our family (not just our partners, but even from our kids).”
Later, she also released an update asking everyone not to spread negativity towards the husband and think of the role of women instead
At this point, it dawned on her that the answer that seemed so obvious to both her and her husband wasn’t so obvious at all to everyone, “at least not for both my children and the frustrated hubby who posed this question.”
“This was when I decided to write this reflection post to share with my own circle of friends in the bid to help us give more appreciation and patience to mothers (or even fathers) who are always seen gasping for time to rush out of the house after everyone.”
Christine believes that for some of us, “we probably didn’t even realize why we were so slow ourselves and the post probably caught them by surprise. To be able to recognize this beautiful driving power at work behind the reason why is something we love to share with our fellow mothers too, so that we can learn to appreciate ourselves better instead of self-reproaching.”
The post struck a chord with many people and this is what they had to comment
When Christine saw the father storming off with the kids, leaving the mother behind, she started wondering why the mother did not just simply explain this to him. “It made me ponder if she was reproaching herself when she sat there in silence eating her food and staring into the empty space in front of her.”
Moreover, the author of the reflection post said that she thought “it was a good learning moment as both my kids were present and decided to pose a similar question to them—why is their mummy always the slowest to go out of the house whenever we are heading out? Just when I was confident that they could relate to it and know the reason why… to my surprise, my 9-year-old son asked if it was because I was busy dressing up.”
If the husband shouts at his wife in public like that, then it's likely that he does is at home as well.
can confirm from personal experience. In my case the person was also a huge narcissist. Might be a connection. 🤔
Stephanie - his outburst was ridiculous and emotionally immature regardless of the scenario. So while we shouldn’t necessarily judge based on this one moment, his response was absolutely not ok. I’m glad you haven’t been in a situation from personal experience, like Falcon, to make that absolutely clear to you, and I really hope you never are in a situation in which you have to experience how people often take advantage of the partner that takes on the mental load of the household/relationship and all that responsibility entails. It’s a pretty awful experience when the person who’s likely benefitting the most from all the unnoticed work gets annoyed when things don’t run like they think they should and respond like this man did, without even thinking of how they could have helped the situation long before the outburst occurred.
Erin, again you are doing and saying exactly what the lady said not to. You can keep on spewing but the point is, people go out their way to vilify others. Yet they never stop to think we are all human and we need to be understanding and help. Instead you choose to degrade and act like he's the most horrible person in the world. It's ridiculous. Especially when we all have behaved this way at some point. Hypocrites and peoplejust love tearing down others even though they're the same damn way.
🤦♀️ Oh my. If the guy wasn’t being a jerk, she wouldn’t have had anything to post.
See there you go assuming and painting a picture of a horrible man. Good God can you people not read? Every single one of us has got mad and behaved in this way. This post literally went right over your heads. Y'all are doing exactly what she stated not to. Just stop! His one outbursts does not paint the whole picture of who he is. Yet here you are acting like it does. Just awful ignorant people. Even when you're told to stop and think, you don't.
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The reason the husband is yelling is that he is simply and most likely an a**hole. Why does everything have to turn into a sociological analysis of the human condition. We need to stop making excuses for the poorest examples of our species.
Yeah I completely agree. That's just asshole behavior. We don't need the extra explanations, one kid, two kids, no kids, that's just not a normal or respectful way to behave towards your partner.
And if he wasn’t an asshole, the OP wouldn’t be the last one out of the house. It isn’t because she is a mom. It’s because her partner is garbage.
Yes!! I was going through the comments disappointed that nobody mentioned the obvious! This man is abusing his wife! It's so simple and so obvious that it doesn't need explanation for the wife's slow eating! Abusive people won't get any of these!
Nope. That husband was having an tantrum because he had to deal with his two kids himself for a WHOLE 10 minutes. He was also an abusive asshole, because only an abusive asshole would berate and humiliate his wife in public like that while she's trying to eat. So, regarding the author's insipid calls for "kindness" to the husband, she can shove it. The man is not deep. He is not having a crisis. He's an entitled d*ckwad who feels it is well within his rights to yell at his wife for eating her lunch too slowly, when she's probably damned exhausted from chasing after his two kids all day. And this is hwy we don't date men who act entitled or don't appreciate us, ladies. This is what they turn into once you've married them. Call it as you see it, ladies--don't make excuses for abusive behaviour in ANY context. It never gets better, it only gets worse.
If the husband shouts at his wife in public like that, then it's likely that he does is at home as well.
can confirm from personal experience. In my case the person was also a huge narcissist. Might be a connection. 🤔
Stephanie - his outburst was ridiculous and emotionally immature regardless of the scenario. So while we shouldn’t necessarily judge based on this one moment, his response was absolutely not ok. I’m glad you haven’t been in a situation from personal experience, like Falcon, to make that absolutely clear to you, and I really hope you never are in a situation in which you have to experience how people often take advantage of the partner that takes on the mental load of the household/relationship and all that responsibility entails. It’s a pretty awful experience when the person who’s likely benefitting the most from all the unnoticed work gets annoyed when things don’t run like they think they should and respond like this man did, without even thinking of how they could have helped the situation long before the outburst occurred.
Erin, again you are doing and saying exactly what the lady said not to. You can keep on spewing but the point is, people go out their way to vilify others. Yet they never stop to think we are all human and we need to be understanding and help. Instead you choose to degrade and act like he's the most horrible person in the world. It's ridiculous. Especially when we all have behaved this way at some point. Hypocrites and peoplejust love tearing down others even though they're the same damn way.
🤦♀️ Oh my. If the guy wasn’t being a jerk, she wouldn’t have had anything to post.
See there you go assuming and painting a picture of a horrible man. Good God can you people not read? Every single one of us has got mad and behaved in this way. This post literally went right over your heads. Y'all are doing exactly what she stated not to. Just stop! His one outbursts does not paint the whole picture of who he is. Yet here you are acting like it does. Just awful ignorant people. Even when you're told to stop and think, you don't.
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The reason the husband is yelling is that he is simply and most likely an a**hole. Why does everything have to turn into a sociological analysis of the human condition. We need to stop making excuses for the poorest examples of our species.
Yeah I completely agree. That's just asshole behavior. We don't need the extra explanations, one kid, two kids, no kids, that's just not a normal or respectful way to behave towards your partner.
And if he wasn’t an asshole, the OP wouldn’t be the last one out of the house. It isn’t because she is a mom. It’s because her partner is garbage.
Yes!! I was going through the comments disappointed that nobody mentioned the obvious! This man is abusing his wife! It's so simple and so obvious that it doesn't need explanation for the wife's slow eating! Abusive people won't get any of these!
Nope. That husband was having an tantrum because he had to deal with his two kids himself for a WHOLE 10 minutes. He was also an abusive asshole, because only an abusive asshole would berate and humiliate his wife in public like that while she's trying to eat. So, regarding the author's insipid calls for "kindness" to the husband, she can shove it. The man is not deep. He is not having a crisis. He's an entitled d*ckwad who feels it is well within his rights to yell at his wife for eating her lunch too slowly, when she's probably damned exhausted from chasing after his two kids all day. And this is hwy we don't date men who act entitled or don't appreciate us, ladies. This is what they turn into once you've married them. Call it as you see it, ladies--don't make excuses for abusive behaviour in ANY context. It never gets better, it only gets worse.