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Woman Ends Marriage For Affair, Then Loses It When Her Ex Moves On Without Her
Interview With ExpertThere’s nothing quite like the shock of discovering that someone you trusted completely has betrayed you. The discovery doesn’t just shatter relationships, but it upends a sense of security, trust, and stability, leaving you to navigate a confusing, painful aftermath while still sharing responsibilities for your children.
Two months ago, today’s Original Poster (OP) learned that his wife had cheated on him while they were still trying to repair their marriage. In the midst of heartbreak, he met someone new, and the moment he chose to move on, it didn’t sit too well with the soon-to-be ex-wife.
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The author discovered that his wife had been cheating on him while they were still trying to fix their marriage, which ultimately led to their breakup
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Two months later, while still dealing with the separation, he texted a single mom he had met before, someone his wife had once invited over with her child
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As they reconnected, the two developed genuine feelings for each other, despite initially trying to stop it out of respect for the complicated situation
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When the woman confessed her feelings to his soon-to-be ex-wife, she was angry, even though she had already moved on and built a new life with the man she had cheated with
Two months earlier, the OP discovered his wife had been cheating on him with another man she met while they were still trying to fix their marriage. That’s already painful enough, but to make things worse, she didn’t waste time moving on and even started setting up a new home with him.
The OP, now separated but still tangled in the messy logistics of divorce, decided to text a familiar face, a woman he’d once met through his wife. She was single, friendly, and had a kid in the same class as theirs. Initially, it was innocent, but they clicked and developed feelings for each other. According to him, they both tried to stop it, but they were unable to.
The new woman decided to be honest. She texted the OP’s soon-to-be ex-wife, admitting she had feelings for him, and predictably, the ex-wife didn’t take it well. Despite being in a new relationship herself, she accused the OP of betrayal, calling him a jerk for dating someone she knew.
While the OP’s ex-wife was busy living with her new boyfriend, posting pictures of him holding her kids’ hands, she called him out for moving on, and this left him wondering how he was the bad guy in everything.
To gain insight into the dynamics of infidelity and moving on, Bored Panda spoke with licensed marriage and family therapist Christine Lawler, who explained that human needs and impulses don’t always align with intentions when people cheat, even though actively trying to work on a relationship.
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“Often, it’s less about the other person and more about unmet emotional needs, like validation, excitement, or autonomy, that aren’t being fulfilled within the relationship,” Lawler said, adding that impulsive behavior can be rationalized with thoughts like “I deserve this,” and signals gaps in connection, communication, or self-awareness.
We also asked how someone should navigate feelings for a new partner who has a connection to their past, such as a mutual friend or an ex’s acquaintance, as in the case of the OP, and Lawler emphasized the importance of self-reflection and clear boundaries.
“It’s important to ask yourself if you’re actually drawn to the person for who they are, or if you might be doing it to get back at the ex,” she noted. She further highlighted that by pacing the relationship and communicating openly, individuals can prevent past associations from controlling the present, allowing emotions to develop in a healthy, intentional way.
Finally, we asked why someone who has cheated might feel upset when their ex begins dating. Lawler explained that emotions aren’t always logical. “Seeing an ex with someone new can trigger jealousy, regret, or insecurity, even if they were the one who broke trust,” she said. “There’s also something about seeing a person you betrayed finally choose themself and move on.”
Netizens were divided on this one, as some sided with the OP, emphasizing that his wife was hypocritical and had no right to control his dating life after cheating. On the other hand, some criticized his behavior, noting that moving on so quickly with someone connected to the family could be seen as messy, petty, or attention-seeking.
What do you think about this situation? Do you think someone who cheats loses the right to criticize their ex moving on? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens were divided, as some criticized the author’s wife for being hypocritical, while others insisted he was being petty and attention-seeking
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Mel in Georgia 1 month ago
I get the desire to get with someone, but it's a really bad idea to date someone until the divorce is final not only because it's messy, but it can also mess up the proceedings. Rebound relationships rarely work as well. He should just end the relationship and concentrate on his and his kids' mental health until everything's sorted.
Kate Johnson 1 month ago
I hear what you're saying, but giving in to the s k a n k y ex sets a very bad precedent. She'll think she can call the shots from that point forward and it will only embolden her rank manipulation. I'd tell her I'll quit seeing my friend if she quits seeing hers. After all she's the one who has subjected her children to all this instability to follow her lust, seemingly with little thought about their welfare. If I was him, I'd be looking into full custody.. In fact, after her threats, I'd let her know that she's motivated me to file for full custody, since I don't see her as stable presence in the kid's lives.
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K Barnes 1 month ago
The adults involved seem way too immature and unreliable to be parents, and OP made it pretty clear that he's not willing to prioritize what's best for the kids. Poor children.
Load More Replies... Becca not Becky 1 month ago (edited)
Never start a new relationship until the divorce is finalized and settled. 1) Rebounding is a temporary fix that could very well end in disaster 2) it could be spun against you to affect the divorce proceedings 3) If there are kids involved, jumping into a new relationship before they've had a chance to process the split can be insanely hard.
Mel in Georgia 1 month ago
I get the desire to get with someone, but it's a really bad idea to date someone until the divorce is final not only because it's messy, but it can also mess up the proceedings. Rebound relationships rarely work as well. He should just end the relationship and concentrate on his and his kids' mental health until everything's sorted.
Kate Johnson 1 month ago
I hear what you're saying, but giving in to the s k a n k y ex sets a very bad precedent. She'll think she can call the shots from that point forward and it will only embolden her rank manipulation. I'd tell her I'll quit seeing my friend if she quits seeing hers. After all she's the one who has subjected her children to all this instability to follow her lust, seemingly with little thought about their welfare. If I was him, I'd be looking into full custody.. In fact, after her threats, I'd let her know that she's motivated me to file for full custody, since I don't see her as stable presence in the kid's lives.
Load More Replies... K Barnes 1 month ago
The adults involved seem way too immature and unreliable to be parents, and OP made it pretty clear that he's not willing to prioritize what's best for the kids. Poor children.
Load More Replies... Becca not Becky 1 month ago (edited)
Never start a new relationship until the divorce is finalized and settled. 1) Rebounding is a temporary fix that could very well end in disaster 2) it could be spun against you to affect the divorce proceedings 3) If there are kids involved, jumping into a new relationship before they've had a chance to process the split can be insanely hard.
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