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30 Stories Of The Nastiest Things Exes Have Told Their Partners After They Got Dumped, As Shared By Our Community
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Most everyone has had a "good riddance to bad rubbish" moment when it came to ending a toxic relationship. The feeling of finally cutting ties with someone who has brought nothing but negativity and drama into your life can be incredibly liberating. But more often than not, the "dump-ee" has some final words to say on the matter.
It's a common occurrence for an ex to lash out with hurtful and insulting remarks after being dumped. They may try to hurt you with words in an attempt to make themselves feel better about the situation. It's important to remember that these words are not a reflection of your worth as a person and to not let them affect you.
Have any more "nasty" things that an ex has said to you after you had dumped them? Share your stories in the comments below. Let's hear the worst of the worst and give each other some virtual support during this difficult time.
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#1
One thing I don't understand is, HE wanted out, HE was sleeping with my best friend (and got her pregnant while we were in marriage counseling) so when I said okay, lets end it, he was enraged. He told me the world would be a better place if my mother had scraped me out with a rusty coat hanger than if I had been born. He also said, "You'll never find someone to treat you the way I did." THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT.
Final score:
287points
April Dancer 3 years ago
You bruised his poor ego by finishing with him. Those are truly vile words. You're well rid then, hon.
Java Addict 3 years ago
He wanted you to fight for him, to cry and beg and promise to be better. When you didn't play his game you crushed his fragile ego.
Pharmtechgurl 3 years ago
Yeah, my ex told me the same thing, that I'd never find someone to treat me like he did. Thank you, Jesus!
QuokkaVibes 3 years ago
You know what's funny? He married you so..... every time someone says something nasty after a break up I'm always like "why did you date me then?"
*Displayname*=idk 3 years ago
I'm grateful you got out of the relationship. Also sorry about your Best friend, but I do ask if they are still together (please don't be made at me for asking)? And don't let the things he said get to you.
Kim Shannon (Submission author) 3 years ago
They're STILL together! Thank goodness he's not my problem anymore!
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Robyn Ward 2 years ago (edited)
How dare you take away his extra slice of cake..tut tut....(sarcasm) You did the best thing and got out.
In an interview with psychologist and family therapist Shannon Benson, Bored Panda asked her to explain the role of gender roles and cultural backgrounds in how exes communicate after a breakup. "Gender roles can influence the way that men and women express their emotions and communicate with their exes," said Benson.
"For example, traditional gender roles may suggest that men are supposed to be less expressive of their emotions and more likely to suppress them, while women are expected to be more open and expressive. This may result in men being less likely to initiate communication with their exes, or less likely to express vulnerability and sadness, while women may be more likely to reach out and express their feelings."
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#2
He asked everyone he knew to call me and say what a loser I am, etc., but I got no calls. Turns out they all sided with me and now a have another huge group of friends.
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Final score:
189points
Stephanie Barr 2 years ago
Been there, including calling my workplace and distance and estranged family. No one was impressed. Estranged family was thrilled since he was the reason we were estranged.
MimSorensson 2 years ago
And that, friends and neighbours, is what’s known as “reaping what you sow”. The backstabbing bastard got what he had coming.
Hakitosama 2 years ago
It's in those cases that you see your true friends... Sometimes you have more than you thought 😁
#3
Not mine but was given permission to share it.
My sister dated this guy for like 2 years. Super manipulative and toxic a**hole. He flipped his lid when she finally had enough and broke it off.
Told her she was "f*cking worthless anyways" and "___ was a better f*ck anyhow" then he told her he had been planning to "drop [her] a** anyhow because [she was] starting to really pack on the pounds and it was getting gross."
She had an eating disorder for years. And she was really only starting to get back to a healthy weight, so calling her fat was possibly the cruelest thing he could've done.
Luckily, shed been going to therapy by that point and was really happy with the added weight so the words didn't do what he wanted.
Final score:
152points
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Those type of people really are so weak they feel they have to prey on other's weaknesses and insecurities to make themselves feel better. She is well rid of them.
ThatHuskyStorm 2 years ago (edited)
I mean she technically lost the weight then (so people don’t comment or downvote. It’s a joke about her dumping the ex and he’a the weight)
Hannah (Submission author) 2 years ago
I shared this one with her, we both thought it was hilarious! 😂
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Hannah (Submission author) 2 years ago
So I just wanted to throw in a couple of extremely satisfying updates. 1. Sister has been a good healthy weight for close to 5 years! Doesn't even think about starving herself anymore, from what she's told me. 2. She got a Facebook message from him last week. Apparently he's on the run and facing some serious jail time for some seriously shady s**t and thought she'd feel bad for him and offer him a place to hide out. Her response? "Stay right there" before promptly calling a tip line about his location. I've never been so proud lol
Niels Boehm 2 years ago
Or you may want to go back and read it again more carefully this time. What I get from the text is that she had an eating disorder causing her to be underweight, but she's doing therapy and going back to a more healthy weight and her ex insulted her for that.
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"For example, some cultures may place more emphasis on preserving relationships and maintaining harmony, while others may be more individualistic and focus on personal growth and self-expression. This may result in exes from different cultural backgrounds communicating differently after a breakup. For example, in some cultures, direct confrontation might be seen as impolite and be avoided, while other cultures may view direct confrontation as an important aspect of communication."
#4
My ex (mother to my son) said I'm a sad a loser and no one else would want me. She abused me for the two years we were together. I've been in a happy relationship for 7 years now and have the best relationship with my son from my ex. I also have a son with my current partner. :)
Final score:
151points
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
My husband is in a similar situation with his ex (mother to his oldest daughter, 6). We've been together 4 years, married, have twin daughters (20 months old), his oldest is with us 2-3 weekends a month plus vacations, she loves being the big sister, and we love her. Unfortunately, her mother, a controlling, heartless and very bitter person, has a little too much control over our lives (so far), because she decides which weekends we get (she works shifts caring for old people, we've got regular office jobs) and often makes things more difficult than they should be. For example, she insists on getting the clothes my SD wears Friday back on Monday, but when we let SD take something of "ours" to her other home, we don't see it for months, so we have to wash her Friday clothes immediately so she can wear them on Monday. Also, apparently she's told SD that she (birthmom) has no interest in seeing her sisters, and that my nieces weren't her "real" cousins, like that is helpful in ANY way...
Mary Long 2 years ago
Introduction Monica was a librarian who loved her job and had a good reputation among her peers. She was a well-respected member of the library community. One day, she met a man named Gary who she thought was attractive and charming. Despite the fact that Gary was in another romantic relationship, Monica and Gary had a brief affair. Little did Monica know, Gary had given her an incurable fungus during their encounter. For years, Monica kept the fungus a secret, not wanting to admit that she had cheated on her colleague's girlfriend. Now, Monica is menopausal and desperately wants a baby, realizing that she must find a way to cure the fungus before it's too late. She has decided to reach out to her librarian colleagues in hopes of finding help with research on curing sexually transmitted fungus. Abstract This essay tells the story of Monica, a librarian who is facing the consequences of her actions after having a brief affair with a man named Gary. During their encounter, Gary had ST
#5
"You're nothing but a lazy user who nobody wants and nobody loves!!! I also reported your dog stolen and sent both your pictures to every vet in the state so you'll be arrested when you bring him in for his shots!!!"
Not finished with all the legal nonsense, but a no-contact order works wonders.
Final score:
135points
Lena Z 3 years ago
How can anyone stoop so low as to stop someone to take their pet to the vet??
I Am LoKitty Of Meowsgard 2 years ago
You would think. And if the dog is chipped the owners info will be tied to that too.
Load More Replies... Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
How can a person be so utterly low :( Good you got a no contact order for that sore loser.
Valkyrie Blade 2 years ago
I hope you are successful in pursuing legal action......the ex sounds like a macadamia that's taking out their issues on you. I would reach out to the local PD and your vet to explain the situation and get proof (should it be needed) that the theft accusations are false in case the ex tries to double-down on the crazy
FuzzyThinker 2 years ago
When we had our first dog our next door neighbor didn't like her so he snatched her and took her to the pound. We found out many years later. He bragged about it to his friend. At the time his son and a friend were playing close by. The friend was my brother-in-law's youngest brother. It was tempting to "return the favor" but I didn't think the dog needed to be punished for his owner's failure as a human.
The family therapist also told us about the distinction between healthy and unhealthy communication from an ex post-breakup. "Healthy communication is characterized by mutual respect, kindness, and a willingness to listen and understand each other's perspective," shared Shannon. "It is focused on resolving conflicts and finding a way to move forward in a positive way. It is respectful and non-threatening. On the other hand, unhealthy communication can be disrespectful and often includes personal attacks, verbal abuse or manipulation, and attempts to control the other person. It can make it hard to find closure and move on, and can escalate conflicts."
#6
When I realized he was a narcissist, I decided to end things. My son had passed away the year before from cardiac arrest brought on by energy drinks. When he started gaslighting me (again) and I said I was done, he got nasty and physical.
He told me that if I’d been a better mother, my son would still be alive. I lost it and tried to leave. He dove into the car as I was leaving, causing me to accidentally run over his leg. I called 911, then he pulled a gun on me while I was on the phone.
The dispatcher overheard the whole conversation and sent the police. He tried to say I mowed him down but he was partially in the passenger, hanging out the door so they didn’t believe him. They arrested him based on what the dispatcher had relayed. A week later he was arrested AGAIN for breaking his son’s jaw. No revenge needed.
Final score:
133points
Elizabeth Basinger 2 years ago
Thank you! It's been 5 years now, and I still cry every day.
Load More Replies... Elizabeth Basinger 2 years ago
Never going to happen. He thinks he does nothing wrong.
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Reese Ascione 2 years ago
How many energy drinks do you have to drink to get a cardiac arrest?
Elizabeth Basinger 2 years ago
He was drinking 2-3 a day. Shortly after his death, a study was published stating that there's a cumulative effect of drinking energy drinks every day. They build up chemicals in your heart that will eventually cause it to have arrhythmias and stop. It's like trying to run a marathon at a sprinting speed. Eventually, you're going to exhaust yourself and collapse.
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
WOW. I'm so sorry for the loss of you son. That must have been really traumatic. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
Maltaros 2 years ago
Don't be so cruel or judgmental. We don't have enough information to be going off like that. When my son was in his late teens he worked evenings at the local Safeway and didn't get home until after I was in bed. I wasn't policing what he bought with his money and brought home. He didn't usually have more than one energy drink and he often left one for me and one for my wife. But do you know that these people were feeding the kid energy drinks?
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#7
He put me in the hospital. Seriously beat me because I had no right, apparently, to make a decision about ‘his life’ without him. This was after a fight where he’d got angry about me using contraception because *he* wanted children.
(25 years ago. I don’t know if he’s even still alive and I’m ok with that.)
Final score:
125points
MimSorensson 2 years ago (edited)
I kind of low key think it may be better if he isn’t, since he’s past “αsshole” territory and into “dangerous abuser”. If he’s alive, someone else is probably subjected to him. Those guys so rarely change. If ever.
Reese Ascione 2 years ago
Geez, I'm so sorry... that kind of stuff doesn't just leave physical wounds, it leaves so many mental wounds as well
Green Eyed Raven 2 years ago
I am glad to hear you are alive, safe, and away from your abuse. Stay safe, stay well.
Dina Anastasakos 2 years ago
Thank God you did use contraception because a monster like that should never have children.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I found out my son's abusive father was murdered in prison. Not in the least bit sorry. I would say RIP, but I actually hope he rots in hell.
Benson emphasized that "everyone heals differently and has different boundaries," and it's important to "listen to oneself and find what works best for you and your individual needs." She also reminded that "no one should tolerate any form of verbal abuse or harassment," and that it's important to "take steps to protect oneself from unhealthy communication."
#8
That without him I'm nothing.
It was just his toxic, narcissistic manipulation to belittle me, as he was doing similar things for 7 years (the time we were together). And this was hilarious, because I was taking care of everything about our relationship - it was me who found and furnished our apartment, I was cooking, cleaning, and paying for most of the stuff as I have a better paid job. I dumped him because he was a narcissist and cared only about himself.
Final score:
111points
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago (edited)
Good for you that you dumped him, those people are such a waist of your time ;)
Katarzyna Drozd (Submission author) 3 years ago
Aw thank You :-) well, i only regret it took me so long to see who he really is. But, there is a happy ending - few months after breakup I met the sweetest, pure-hearted and most caring guy I could imagine, and we are so happy together :-)
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Pheebs 3 years ago (edited)
My one ex was silent on the matter, but multiple people who liked him told me this kind of c**p - that I was nothing without him, that he was the best I’d ever find (we were 19!!). He said this kind of c**p during the relationship x that all my accomplishments were his doing (somehow). He also favored phrases like “you know you like it” when he did something that made me uncomfortable. Bonus, his online friends bombarded all my social media with threats, calling me a whore and telling me I should kill myself. It was a year of hell before he was fully out of my life.
Gitte Scheipers 2 years ago
It sounds like my ex only he made a little more money then me but had a lot of kids..., he thought he was superior to me and belittled me all the time..., I dumped him after 10 years
Vinita Talaulikar 2 years ago
Next time ladies don't wait for 7 years to dump an idiot. 365 days are sufficient. Some show their true colours soon. You dodged a lifetime bullet.
#9
He told me that he wasn’t looking for anything serious…we had been together for 8 years, lived together for 6 and I had raised his children like my own. He could just never stop cheating.
Final score:
111points
Katie Andrews 2 years ago
Sorry but when someone tells you pretty early on that they are x or y, BELIEVE THEM. People will tell you about themselves early on. Take them at their word. I'm sorry OP hoped he would change. He told you.
Valkyrie Blade 2 years ago
It sounds like OP was told after being with him for 8 yrs
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DuchessDegu 2 years ago
That's horrible, he's a really poor excuse for a person and giving the kids a really bad example!
Jonn Thundergun 2 years ago
*7 years in, laying in bed on a Sunday morning. The sun is shining, the birds are chirping. Kids are in the family room watching cartoons.* Woman: Good morning, honey. I hope you slept well. I'm going to make some breakfast. Man: You know I'm not really looking for a serious relationship, right?
Bottomlessbottom 2 years ago
Why continue to bother after the first infidelity? You deserve to love yourself just a little bit more
Bottomlessbottom 2 years ago
Totally get where you're coming from but you don't know the OP preference to make that comment about who to date. Nerdy guys are capable of the same antics.
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That he'd slept with his ex the night before and it had shown him how much he "really cared" for me. You know, because there's no better way to say "I love you" than forking someone else.
Final score:
110points
Laura Jackson 3 years ago
Maybe they thought they were on a break? I know, I'll show myself out.....
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
My best friend's last boyfriend did similar sh*t... They were together 6 years, he left her because she was his first girlfriend and "he wanted to see what else was out there", got together with a co-worker and has been dating that girl ever since, BUT: that a-hole regularly contacts my bff (behind his gf's back), saying how he only really loves my bff, how she's so great and beautiful and everything, up until a year ago usually getting her around to have him spend the night "for comfort". He just won't leave her alone, but also won't commit to her, and she's too broken to cut him off for good. AND he's always so surprised that I don't like him (anymore), as if what he's doing is totally cool - I just don't get what goes on in some people's heads...
Sparkle 2 years ago
This mentality just confuses me, because, from my point-of-view, I see it as a confession set up to be a coercion into automatic forgiveness from the jilted party - "Yea, I slept with [someone else], but it's totally ok because *now* I know how much I love you!" I don't buy into it for a second.
#11
It's maybe not "nasty" but I still can't wrap my head around it. He said, "It would work if you'd change your attitude". Sure... I really just should be okay with being talked down to the whole time, with being ignored, with being gaslighted... sure thing.
Final score:
99points
Lawrencium 3 years ago
I'm glad it didn't work. You definitely shouldn't change to accept c**p like that!
Nele H (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thank you :) I had to laugh really hard when he said that.
Load More Replies... MimSorensson 2 years ago
“It’d work if you just put up with every level of abuse I feel like throwing at you.” Yeah - that’s kind of the problem here, sunshine. I hope the dude doesn’t procreate.
Steve Robert 2 years ago
She should have said it would work if you change into a bug I can step on
Sjoera Roggeman 2 years ago
My ex cheated and lied repeatedly, and still it was somehow all my fault. He said we would be happy if I would just get over it.
#12
My ex-fiancée, the week that my brother died, sent me an email about how we had to delete our wedding Facebook account and that I was a terrible person. I know that he knew about my brother dying, because we have mutual friends that would have told him. I'm glad that I ended things with someone who waited till it hurt the most to hurt me more.
This was one of the many terrible things he said, but it stands out the most.
Final score:
92points
Jcusack 2 years ago
This story confuses me... He didn't know your brother was dying even tho you were engaged and delete the wedding FB account? Either there was enough separated time that lapsed, where he wouldn't know immediate family issues and there shouldn't be a FB page left or you didn't speak while engaged? I'm lost...
LJ Robinson 2 years ago
I'm confused as well. Why would the OP not tell the fiancee that the brother died in person, or a phone call, or a text? Is this a long distance relationship?
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Maltaros 2 years ago
Seems like a red flag that you hadn't told him your brother died. You weren't even communicating about important things. I am thinking this is on you. He figured out you weren't telling him important stuff and said "Nope" on being with you long term.
Niels Boehm 2 years ago
They were already separated at that point in time, so she had no reason to tell him anything, important or otherwise.
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IamMe 2 years ago
You're getting married to this man, but don't bother to tell him yourself about your brother dying? I'm guessing he probably did find out through mutual friends, not by them giving him the news, but because they brought it up assuming he already knew. There's a good chance that's why he broke it off. It would be hard to share a life with someone who doesn't even tell you about something so important.
Niels Boehm 2 years ago
No, she wasn't obliged to tell him anything, because they were already separated at that point.
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My ex told me that I would never ever get someone of his caliber ever, and that I would wind up with some grease-monkey. Well I did marry a man who worked on cars for a living, and he made 3 times what my ex made, and now my college graduate ex is in his 60s and hasn't worked in his field in decades and now works at a sporting goods store barely above minimum wage.
Final score:
87points
MimSorensson 2 years ago (edited)
As if there was something wrong with grease-monkeys. Your ex was an absolute αsshole.
John Martens 2 years ago
I don’t know what it is about some guys who think their college degree automatically makes them a better person. Sometimes it’s an insecurity thing and they are hiding behind the fact that they are a lazy failure in real life.
Danish Susanne 2 years ago (edited)
Glad to hear, that you didn't find someone of his caliber, because why would you want another?.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
If love how the ex always says, :You'll never find someone like me". Yeah - LIFE GOALS.
#14
My EX taunted me saying, "you have something like a p*nis... only smaller!" I said, "Oh, you look like my new girlfriend... only fatter and less flexible." She didn't take it all that well!
Final score:
83points
David Martin 2 years ago
Both remarks sound just a bit childish to me, so I'm just going to hope this was a younger couple; If either of them was more than about 19 at the time though, then it's time to get a little bit of maturity
Axle McDowal 2 years ago
Also Before I get a lot of hate, Its not that I don´t care for these other ones, but Im glad this person stood up for himself
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#15
“What kind of a mother would a girl like YOU be?”
I had become close friends with an Irish co-worker. He was a fairly naïve country boy who loved my tattoos and ever-changing hair color, and was always fascinated with my unusual upbringing and adventures. Until we drunkenly hooked up after our company’s Xmas party, and I became pregnant.
I was almost 30 and wanted to have it and remain friends. He threatened to go back to Ireland to avoid child support if I did not do what HE and his family back home wanted- which was to have the baby and give it up for adoption. At the same time, he wanted to name it after an ex-girlfriend of his. (WT actual F?) I’m on my own in every sense with no family or support system, and I didn’t want my child to grow up in the same miserable poverty that I did. So I had an abortion. As it turned out, I was never able to get pregnant again. So my “family” dies with me.
Final score:
82points
Joe D 3 years ago
wow. this one really got me (48M) in the feels. i hurt for you. hope you find that life has blessed you overall
KieLeaHar 2 years ago
Middle 30s woman here… my life from 17 to now how has horrific to say the least.. haven’t been able to have my own child, but I’ve got one more bit of hope- my drs words. My life turned to hell on earth 9 years ago and nothing has even remotely been okay or gone right.
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Dave Forster 3 years ago
I'm so sorry and hope you are doing okay now, I know people will say that there are options out there for you if you wanted a family, but Im sure you know all of that and I can imagine its an annoying thing for people to say. What I can say is that if you ever need one, my wife, myself and our kid will be your family! if you ever need one we could be there for you! I know it wouldn't be the same, not by a long shot, but the offer will always be there :) (I really hope this doesn't come off as creepy or anything, I just want to offer a hand of friendship from my family to yours)
Kathleen Suileabháin (Submission author) 2 years ago
I don’t think anyone wants to adopt an old punk rock lady, though. But… Thank you for your kind offer!
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Daffydillz~ 2 years ago
I'm sending you thoughts of strength, courage, and peace. I hope it helps you on your journey. You've had to endure such incredibly difficult moments in your life and it's so disheartening, but I feel like that by sharing your story with us and finding support will hopefully be a comfort to you. I'm so sorry that you've had to experience these situations and am here to listen if you need, gentle hugs.
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
That must hurt so bad... You've got my full sympathy, even if you don't want to have children anyway, not being able to is quite a different matter... Is it because of the abortion or unconnected, if I might ask? Because I've had to have an unsuccessful pregnancy scraped out before (blighted ovum) and the doctor just bulldozed over my worries of that affecting my chances of getting pregnant again, saying "that won't happen, you're still young" (I was 28). I hope you're doing OK after everything...
Kathleen Suileabháin (Submission author) 2 years ago
It was not related to the abortion. I never got pregnant again because of timing.
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Cass Malone 2 years ago
I'm sorry about your situation. I'm sure you would have been an excellent mom.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I am so very sorry. But - life can still be beautiful without (biological) children.
#16
He took all of my biggest insecurities and made fun of them. He told me I should be insecure about them and listed out examples of how true they were.
Final score:
70points
Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
I bet he missed all of his own flaws.... but the biggest one was quite obvious, his lack for brains and great taste... All those things he listed as your "insecurities" he once loved, so listing them to you now to put you down is all a lie... kick those insecurities out the door and love yourself just the way you are, because that's the perfect you ;) Trust me, even the ones that we think are "perfect" will always find things they think less of. Hugs
Rwby Couch 2 years ago (edited)
I have this with some of my family members. I love them so much, yet some of them use my flaws against me. It is taking all of my willpower to not point out their insecurities and use it against THEM for a change. Be the bigger person people, don't let bad people make you seem like the bully and themselves as the victim
#17
One cheated on me & told me I was an alcoholic (after he got a DUI). Another said that I was mentally ill because I was leaving him after he'd cheated on me (then he got into the boxes I'd packed & stole several of my things). Another told me that he hated that I'd cut my hair, that I should skip lunches (apparently I was getting too fat for him), and that it wasn't hard work but simply dumb luck that I'd been able to land a great career (but he had no problem spending the money I made on old cars & other useless c**p, including using MY severance check to buy an old Ford pickup). When I told him I wanted a divorce, he was shocked. Really? He guilt-tripped me into leaving a couch that was purchased with MY bonus check & ended up giving it away after I left.
I have my grandmother's luck when it comes to lousy men!
Final score:
70points
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
Unfortunately, as I learned watching many of my and my sisters' relationships, it's usually not luck, but either a warped self-image or naivety when it comes to those runs of "bad luck" with men... If you learn to recognise your own worth, and that it doesn't depend on other people, you'll be in a position to not let abusive, controlling or otherwise "bad boys" into your life. When you're still too naive to recognise early signs, that's another story. But I've never seen someone who's actually been "unlucky" with men, we all chose poorly. There's a big difference, and it's the fact that you can work on choosing better next time, it's in your hands!
RikakueRoleplay 2 years ago
True! But sometimes, the more dangerous ones especially, the signs won't be there until it may be too late. A particularly manipulative person knows how to use fear after that to keep their victims in line.
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Azure Adams 2 years ago
a real pattern here. look up intergenerational trauma and relational addiction the for alls sake get yourself some good counseling. end these patterns
Sparkle 2 years ago
People just know a sucker when they see one and will exploit to the fullest extent of their abilities. Pro tip: learn the signs early and never ignore the red flags. I know it's easier said than done, but not impossible. And stay firm in your own truth! People start talking down to you, it's time to nope out of the situation, especially if they are benefitting from keeping you around (financially, especially), but you aren't benefitting from keeping them around. I learned a lot from my first marriage and in my current marriage, I meet everything head-on and straightforward.
Dina Anastasakos 2 years ago
You may want to think about therapy to explore why you keep picking these types of men. l did and after a few yrs of therapy l figured out why l kept picking bad guys. I ended up meeting a really great guy and am happily married.
Deborah Barron Brown 2 years ago
It isn't bad luck, it's that you don't value yourself. Get counseling.
#18
I told my ex to choose between his addiction or the kids and myself. He said straight out said his addiction. Good riddance.
Final score:
67points
#19
My ex-wife told me I’m a fraud, broke every picture of me in the house, and told me “F*** your music” (I have a side gig as a musician). She then spent six months begging me to come back, but when I finally told her I’m never coming back, she told people in texts that went to my ten-year-old kid’s iPad that I’m a “laughable parent” and that she is the victim of my abuse. It’s been a constant, complete lunacy ever since.
Final score:
63points
Sherry Ofus (Submission author) 3 years ago
Oh, and she also said, “You’ll hit rock bottom without me.” I haven’t, and it’s two years later.
DuchessDegu 2 years ago
I hope you replied "I've already hit rock bottom when I was with you, but I'm doing much better now, thanks!"
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#20
My husband told me he didn't want to pay alimony because we don't have kids. And therefore I was able to build my career within our marriage. Guess what: we had a son (stillborn) in 2019 AND an elaborate fertility program that led to a miscarriage after in 2021. So yeah, his comment really hurt me.
Final score:
61points
Alma Muminovic 3 years ago
Move on and get him out of your life, that’s the best way to heal. My ex owes me 4 grand but I know Ill never see it and it’s just the price I paid to not have him in my life anymore and it was worth it.
enohPilivE 3 years ago
Then you need to get your lawyer to try and take it out of his ASSets...no I'm serious. Trying for kids was a failure and it turns out you couldn't live your lives together anymore - okay. $4!7 happens. But you gave up how 9+ months of your career to have a family for him...what he basically said is he never loved you because if he loved you he would have found a way to do right by you, even when you had to leave. Get every penny's worth out this miserable d-bag...
Josephine (Submission author) 3 years ago
Yes, that is the part that hurts most. Realizing he was hardly there for me in this proces. He never saw what an impact our dream to start a family has had on my body and my life.
Load More Replies... Jeffrey Blair 2 years ago
You have your own career... so why do you feel as if he's owes you something when you're divorced?
#21
She said, "I only slept with him (my best friend at that time) once!"
Final score:
61points
Garth Bock 2 years ago
"His cheating wife never left town and that's one body that'll never be found.. see his little sister don't miss when she aims her gun.." - The Night the Lights Went Out in Georgia - Vicki Lawrence
#22
That I'm not good enough to be loved but my friend, whom you met through me is good enough. Happened 4 times in a row, by 4 different people that don't know each other. It must be true.
Final score:
58points
Jill Bussey 3 years ago
It's not true. You just need to find your perfect person. Don't settle for anything less.
Rwby Couch 2 years ago (edited)
People are not perfect. Relationships CAN be made stronger through arguments and difficult situations, with the spouses(or friends)working together for the greater good of each other. Find someone you can depend on and also lend support to. Find someone that makes you feel good about yourself, and that you can talk to. Relationships are messy and hard sometimes, but if you are experiencing abuse of some sort, cut ties(abuse can happen from marriages and friendships). I hope the person in this post can find their people and experience long lasting friendships.
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Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
Okay.... I agree with everything people wrote here earlier and then add something... What has happened to you 4 times comes forth from passed experiences... With nobody there when that seed was planted (a long time ago) you actually started to believe you don't deserve more. Something that is definitely not true, you deserve soon much more love then you have experienced before, you deserve the right kind of love and it starts with... loving yourself. Try this: every morning when you wake up and every evening before you go to bed, look in the mirror and tell yourself "I love you"... In the beginning you might not even dare to say the words out loud, you might not believe it yourself, you can get emotional and then some but it's all okay... Keep repeating it until you believe it... People like the a*sholes who treated you like c**p, knew exactly how to use you and brake you... Build yourself up, go find professional help and I know for sure you will meet someone who sees the real you, the one that is worth to be loved and treated with respect. Hugs xx
Lia Salvatore 3 years ago
wow. slow down. this just means those ppl r sh it heads. you'll find someone, and it will work out. sending love!
Tammy Eichelberger 2 years ago
Too good and honestly you need better "friends", believe me, I know from experience
Isolde Leeuwen 2 years ago
Definitely not true but love yourself, so you recognize these people that just take advantage of you.
#23
"You're not pretty enough to dump someone like me. In fact, *I* say it's over between us!"
Final score:
58points
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
But you don't have to be pretty to dump someone like him, you just need to have enough selfrespect to end a relationship, that isn't to your taste.
Rwby Couch 2 years ago
Do not judge someone by their looks, but instead by how they treat other people.
#24
He said he loved me after he slept with my sister and my best friend.
Final score:
57points
LJ Robinson 2 years ago
Get all 3 of them out of your life. Getting your "sister" out of your life may be difficult, but you can do it. They've betrayed your trust, if you let any of them close to you again, the same thing will happen. I mean, it already has. Betrayal doesn't go away.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
You need to cut your sister and "best" friend out of your life. They don't care about you in the least. Find your own tribe - people who actually love and care about you.
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
He may have been speaking the truth, but do YOU want a man who is so fickle?
#25
We weren't exclusive or anything but had been close friends for years before we started hooking up. A few months after things fell apart we talked and he told me he had known for about a year that we shouldn't be in touch.
So I asked him why he had spent time with me although him knowing better. The answer was that he had been single for eight years and therefore was desperate and that I had to understand.
Final score:
56points
LJ Robinson 2 years ago
He knew it was wrong, he knew there would be fallout. He blew up your friendship over needing to get laid. Then told you you had to understand?? What a piece of sh*t.
Con O Cuinn 2 years ago
In what world does it not take two of them to blow s**t up?
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WhoseItWhatNow 2 years ago
Oh yeah, I've witnessed one of these types, and read stories about many others. They're truly despicable human beings. Often they see women as less than unless the woman meets their specific standards, not only physically, but personality wise and ideal wise too. It also goes the reverse with the female in that role looking down on men as not exactly human beings either, my mom was one of them.
#26
After I broke up with my ex (after a year of his condescending behavior and I finally had enough after he berated me for posing with an advertisement/billboard of one of my fav K-pop stars), he told me for my next relationship I get into, I would most likely be physically abused.
Final score:
55points
MimSorensson 2 years ago (edited)
I don’t even know what a K-pop star is, and I still say that’s none of his damned business! If you like whatever a K-pop star is (unless it’s illegal or harmful to others which I highly doubt), that’s awesome and not for anybody in the world to judge - nobody asked for HIS opinion about YOUR likes, what the hell? I sure hope he’d be fine with people pìssing all over what he enjoys in life, otherwise he’s both an αsshole AND a hypocrite.
Phoenix(or nix)they/them 2 years ago
No one deserves to be berated, especially if they are posing for a picture of a billboard of their favorite celebrity. Btw who was it I'm curious because I like kpop too 😁
Brittany Jewell 2 years ago
I'm so sorry. I hope that you find a man that supports your interests and hobbies. Also, I'm a big fan of Stray Kids and Jackson W**g so I can relate to a degree. 🫰
#27
I don't know if it counts, since I didn't dump them. But the first girl I dated left me for the guy she was cheating on me with, and she told me explicitly. She also told me how much better he was than me.
The second girl I dated admitted to deliberately trying to push me into taking myself out.
Final score:
54points
Full Name 3 years ago
Oof, I hope you find someone better than those two (although I'm sure it's not that hard lol)
Doctor Strange (Submission author) 3 years ago
Thank you, but unfortunately not. I'm still single. Not for lack of trying, but simply because no one is willing to give me a chance.
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
Oh, God - please see a therapist. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you, but you need to understand why you keep letting these types of people into your life. Best of luck!
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
I hope you meen, you didn't dump them because you didn't need to since they were leaving anyhow. Nobody deserves such treatment, so should you have the hard luck to run into such another dump her, as soon as you can.
Felicia Marsin 2 years ago
Way to go with victim blaming. Oh, and generalisations too, FWIW we women are all individuals, with differing wants/needs/likes/etc.
Load More Replies... #28
Dumped him because he could not stop cheating on me. Told him the day I broke up with him, I couldn’t believe I gave him my virginity and he had the gall to tell me he had been a virgin, too. Pure unadulterated a*****e!
Final score:
45points
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Sunny Day 2 years ago
Virginity just means "first time having sex". It doesn't have to refer to a membrane or lack thereof.
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I didn't have a lot of money as I was a single mom and I was doing the best I could. This grown man lived with his mother and had nothing of his own and had the audacity to say to me "At least all my stuff doesn't come from goodwill". Like what stuff do you even have, oh yeah none, it's all your mom's! My stuff might have been second hand but it was MY stuff. I never talked to him again.
Final score:
27points
Alison Marchand 2 years ago
Psshh, who doesn't love Goodwill?! I get board games there particularly, you can find some really cool games, and sometimes even new in the package for $2-$5!
#30
My ex falsely accused me of raping him. This was after I spent a year chasing him to terminate the mobile phone contract he'd taken out in my name without my permission, and kept stringing me along saying he'd deal with it. After I hadn't heard from him for months I contacted some mutual friends to see if they would ask him to contact me. He went off and sent me the most disgusting and abusive email including the false allegations. I blocked him on all media, and the mobile phone company agreed to terminate the contract immediately for me. He'd been emotionally abusive during the relationship and this gaslighting was another way of trying to retain control.
Final score:
25points
Alison Marchand 2 years ago
Ugh, sorry you had to deal with such an abusive, pain-inflicting person 😞 sucks having to have those memories. Glad the phone company understood the situation, and I hope this guy is loooong gone out of your life!
#31
Ahhh, got a little list ;p - I'l kill you when I see you two walking - You think anyone would want to have sex with a fat pig like you? (My SO likes my body, which is actually just a bit over the voluptuous side) -You have to get yourself tested for an STD because you could have given it to me. (I never cheated, she however did and never got tested, I should just shut up.) - If you don't (too many things to specifie) I'll come over with some friends and we'll beat you up. (Never happened, my SO is an ex police-officer and very not impressed by anybody) - If I kill myself it's your fault (Yeah, not) - I'll beat up your son! I'm at your house now and you're not home (Called the cops on her then who were there very quick) and also contacted my neighbours to check my house please. - I order you to break of all contact with my family (with pleasure) - You have to let me in when I come over to visit you, but only if you send "him" away while I'm there (Like what? You're not that important to me that I even want you to come visit me.) - I have those things that I took with me when I moved, I'm in the neighbourhood and can bring them by. My response that I didn't need it anymore was not acceptable, I got an email full of hatred yet again... I'm so happy she's somebody elses problem now, but the most happy I am for the fact that I had the guts to break up and choose for my own happyness finally ;)
Final score:
24points
Bubbles and sparks (Submission author) 3 years ago
That's only after breaking up ;p The time we actually had a relationship was not always a picnic either XD
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Bubbles and sparks (Submission author) 3 years ago
You know, it took me a while to realize that... But you are right, she was that too...
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Notyomama 3 years ago (edited)
I made the mistake of dating a cop when I was young. Never did that again. He stalked me and had other cops watching my every move.
Bubbles and sparks (Submission author) 3 years ago
That really sucks.... I'm sorry this has happened to you...
Load More Replies... QuokkaVibes 3 years ago
Ok, she's absolutely awful. But if I unserstand correctly, OP came out and is dating a man now. And this woman is the mother of OPs child. I do not judge this and I'm happy OP is finally happy, but I can see how this would drive a woman crazy. Not that this in anyway justifies all the nasty stuff she said, I find her truly disgusting. But I can see how someone could loose it after her spouse comes out of the closet after presumably a few years together. If my interpretation is correct, the sense of betrayal, of "nothing was real", "he knew all along he was gay" etc must be exruciating. She surely needs therapy for trust stuff AND anger managment. Hope OP will be himself and happy from now on, and I wish she gets a chance to start over.
Bubbles and sparks (Submission author) 3 years ago
@QuokkaVibes Such a shame, I had written a response to yours but it didn't show, so here I go again ;) . Me, I'm a woman and the mother of said son whom I love dearly ;) I never came out as I never got in (the closet). Some would call me bi-se*ual, me, I call myself a human capable of loving other humans no matter the gender because that means nothing to me ;) My ex, now she was the one that cheated, repeatedly, something I never did and will never do as I just don't see the value of it. I'm even kinda boring compared to my man, I've had 3 serious relationships, he's had many many more and that's okay too, I never expect anybody to live life celibate XD My ex was the kind of person that actually convinced me it was my fault she cheated on me and back then, I even believed it.... the power a narcissistic phsyco can have on a person is never to be underestimated. I see that now, back then, hopeless to a fault. I have always been and will always be myself and since I met my SO, I've never been happier in my life and yes, I even hope the ex is happy, I really hope she won't cheat on him as he is actually a good guy.
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#32
"You'll never be more than a curiosity sh*g." This was 10 years ago.
Final score:
24points
#33
After I split with my child's mother, on Christmas before are custody arrangements, she said she had left the state and that I would never see my child again. She then said I amount to nothing and I should k*ll myself because it would be better for my child to never know me, and she would make sure to tell my child good things about me so they wouldn't know how pathetic I was. I was a stay at home dad, so at the time I didn't have any money or a job. The house was under her name. I was living in my car that Christmas, but I had a trunk full of presents to give after selling a few things I had. She sent that message after I sat in a parking lot 3 hours waiting for them to show up. After some time, I well established myself, have a wonderful relationship with my child. The words she said on that Christmas broke me as a person, but that allowed me to rebuild myself into much more of a father then I would have become without leaving. ...I have a lot of petty things to say 😅 I won't say them, but man I really wanna 😂
Final score:
24points
#34
I was honest. "I just don't feel the butterflies for you anymore. I'm sorry." He responded, "I haven't felt ANYTHING for you but I didn't just end things." Well, I did and he should have sooner if that was the truth.
Final score:
21points
#35
"Come catch a bullet." Was together over 20 years, been divorced about 12 years, separated several years before that. This was a text I received last year along with a lot more (I stopped counting after 65) one night while he was obviously drunk and mad at me. Drunker than usual. We hadn't even recently spoken to each other before the barage of texts. And he wonders why his son (30) and ex-wife won't talk to him. He's now blocked.
Final score:
20points
#36
Technically she dumped me, but what she said still hurt. We were supposed to go out on Valentine's Day, but she came home and said she had other plans. After arguing a bit, she said she had plans with another guy. So I asked her if she was breaking up with me on Valentine's Day, and her response was "It's rude to cancel plans with someone once you've made them". Yeah, that stung.
Final score:
16points
#37
This will get buried, but still ... my ex-husband (father of my son) told me I was being too kind and nice. Was freakingly disturbing.
Final score:
15points
#38
I decided to end things with a guy named Al after he showed some extremely scary red flags. I didn’t think there was a need to have a big discussion about the end of the “relationship” because we’d only been dating for about a month and had only seen each other about 6 times during that month. So I sent him a text saying I didn’t think we were a good match and wishing him a great future. (While it’s usually considered bad form to end things over a text, I was afraid of this guy and didn’t want to ever see him again.) He sent back a text demanding an explanation, so I replied that the last time we were together he had shown himself to be manipulative, condescending, narcissistic, and controlling. I texted that I didn’t see the need for further communication and asked him to please not contact me again. He left a 2-page, typed, single-space letter on my door step threatening to sue me for slander if I didn’t agree to talk to him about the “real reason” I broke up with him. In the letter, he said I’d made “serous accusations about his character” that could affect his future job possibilities. He said there must be someone in my life who had decided we shouldn’t be together, and that person must have run a background check on him and decided to only share “the worst parts” with me. He said the person who must have run a background check on him (whoever it might have been) didn’t love me. He told me he missed me and still wanted to be with me, but that if I didn’t agree to talk to him he would “let the lawyers handle it.” He was the scariest, most unhinged person I’ve ever met, let alone dated. Thank god I saw him for what he was after a short amount of time. He’s the reason I have 3 locks on my door and a home security system.
Final score:
15points
Alison Marchand 2 years ago
Dodged a freakin bullet for sure!!! The fact that he came to your doorstep is sooo creepy and violating 😬 good call on the security system.
#39
I was with a deadbeat drug addict for way too long in my early 20s. I also have severe lupus and my health had just started going seriously downhill. I had a lung collapse out of nowhere and found out that he was sleeping around while I was in the hospital. I broke up with him over the phone while still in the hospital. He proceeded to call my phone repeatedly. I handed it to my sis and told her to take it home with her. My family could call the hospital to speak to me if they needed and my other sister was sleeping beside my bed because I was scared and didn't know any of this was lupus related at the time. The next day, older sister shows up to visit. Me: Can I see my phone? Older sister: Not until I clear *insert jerk's name here* texts. And if I see MF again, I'm catching a felony. (She's a half hippy/half Christian woman that seems to love everyone regardless of anything. So this let me know it was bad. I had never heard her use MF before and I didn't think she knew what catching a felony meant until that day.) Eventually, I got the phone as a new text came in. Actual wording is below with some censoring. "Of course I cheated on you you disease ridden c-word. Who would actually want your pig a-word?! I hope you die in that hospital." That was only one of about thirty texts he had sent. Long story short, they got more threatening. Ended in a permanent restraining order after he kept driving by my dad's house pointing his finger like it was a gun every time he saw someone in my family. Still ended happily for though. He's now in his mid-40s and living with his mommy and I ended up testifying in another restraining order case brought by another woman who found my order and her lawyer called me. That order was granted too and I'm actually still friends with that woman. I'm eleven years married to a man who treats me so respectfully that the first six months I dated him I thought he had to be playing me somehow. Nope. He's just a decent human being and partner. Apparently I wasn't used to that. Health still isn't great but at least I have someone actually willing to be supportive and take care of me when issues arise.
Final score:
12points
#40
He told me I'm nothing without him, he said he was going to commit suicide to try and get me back.
Final score:
11points
Cammy (Submission author) 3 years ago
he always threatened to do it so I wouldn't leave him, it started to become a regular thing that for my own mental health I had to leave
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#41
My ex-wife about a few years after I divorced her and went through an very contentious divorce process stated she was so disappointed/angry that she could have had me arrested. She stated she knew purposely that she was blocking my exit from even leaving the toilet room in our bathroom, or forcing me to use the back door to get to my car, or even taking the remote for the garage door when i would leave for work. She told me she wanted me to just touch her so she could have me arrested, and take everything from me, especially all three of our kids. I never touched her when she would start arguments and did what my lawyer told me to do, just leave the house and stay at my parents' near by second home. My ex even stated this in front of our eldest child's therapist in a parent/counselor check in meeting. Plus she was so narcistic that she tried to make me pay more then the state would allow by knowingly filing a false lease from a friend she rented from (through never paid rent it was later found out) with over stated rent values. Well five years later, our eldest finally grew up and unfortunately sees their mother for the type of person their mother is, and just moved in to my house full time. The other two younger kiddos are also asking to move into my house full time (technically is 50/50) since they are not comfortable with mom. I just made sure the last five years i was the rock the kids needed and always there as a parent should be.
Final score:
11points
Daffydillz~ 2 years ago
I'm so very glad that you were what your children needed and focused on them. Don't forget to take care of yourself too so you can continue to be what they need. It's very sad that she's pushing her children away. Sending thoughts of strength and courage to you.
#42
He tried to spread lies that I was a p*dophile and posted revenge porn of me with a summary of how I liked young boys. This, this from the 30 year old that went on and on abput how he wanted to "deflower" a virgin, forced me to dress up as a schoolgirl as much as possible, previously had *been* with a younger girl and stole underwear from lost and founds so he could do nasty things with them (trust me... nasty). I was young myself (21), had moved out to be with him, had a mental illness and couldn't support myself. Luckily I got away after several years and what I know now was at least one rape, but it took 3 or 4 years.
Final score:
10points
Summer Mason 3 years ago
I hate to even say this ... I'm so glad I'm not the only person who went through this. When i left my ex he told me "no one will love you like I do" I told him I surely hope not.
#43
“You’re not my girlfriend anymore so I can finally beat the s**t out of you.” I was young and dumb, he was an emotional and sexual abuser. That was the last straw and I finally left him for good after that.
Final score:
10points
#44
When I was 17, I dumped my physically / emotionally abusive BF of 2 years (+ added a restraining order)... and he wouldn't quit calling... around 50 times a day... for about 4 or 5 months (obviously, I never picked up). Eventually, it would only happen when he seemed to be really drunk and - of course - there would be some nasty voice message when I didn't answer... many of which were some version of "I'll f*****g kill you b***h." On one such night, I received another one of these voice messages when my new boyfriend happened to be around to hear it. Shortly afterward, my boyfriend and I were on our way to somewhere and had to drive past my ex's house to get there (as he was only 2 miles or so away). My ex happened to be out in his driveway drinking when - unexpectedly - my new boyfriend slammed on the brakes, jumped out of the car, and ran toward my ex shouting "Are you the b***h-a*s m**********r who keeps threatening my girlfriend?" My new boyfriend was much larger and much more confident (he had grown up a bit rough and was a fairly seasoned fighter)... and - as a result - my ex merely ran into his house when confronted. (Funny how abusive men always always seem to shy away from physical altercations with people who aren't smaller than them, isn't it?). Anyhow, we haven't heard from him since. The "new boyfriend" is now my husband and best friend. We have been together for almost 19 years.
Final score:
9points
Alison Marchand 2 years ago
Awww love the happy ending! So glad you ended up with the partner you deserve 😊
#45
man I'd regret recalling this, but here we go: fyi i have a speech problem, mainly stuttering (improving tho) but it was rlly rlly bad last yr especially after lockdown. Sooo when things kinda broke of he said bullshits like 'your novel is a waste of time' 'we can date again once you learn how to speak English *wink emoji' this s**t lowkey hurt bc its not that i cant speak english properly i just have a speech problem that happens regardless of what language I speak. He harassed me way too f*****g much afterward, using his friend's accounts to send hateful messages and even to the extend of personal and school emails. He was a pathological liar and left me scarred for a long time. I'm all g now tho.
Final score:
8points
John Ambrose-Hemmingway 2 years ago
Good luck with your novel! I've written a few, so feel free to message if you want someone to read and give you feedback.
#46
"Were we even dating?"
Final score:
8points
Anička 2 years ago
I actually almost said that to somebody...we were theoretically exclusive, proper gf/bf (his idea) but then he was so wishy-washy with everything, he'd ghost for days, sometimes a longer...turns out he was living with his ex/non-ex the whole time, i was just his exclusive, shameful secret. If i'd had more self-respect I'd have been gone at the first ghost. But, ya know ... codependency is a hell of a drug. 💩
#47
My ex stole my dog, then he would call me and tell me, "you're a f##king selfish b##ch and I'm going to beat her and then send her to the pound and they'll put her down". Then he would get her to bark and say, "how does it feel to know you're never going to hear that again?"
Final score:
8points
ItsJess (Submission author) 3 years ago
It was a really painful time in my life. Things are much better now (this was about 15 years ago)
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#48
Her last text message: "You're a joke. I'm going to destroy you...ruin your life like you did mine. Be afraid. VERY AFRAID. Your life won't end well for you. Goodbye. lol!" I didn't know it at the time we were dating, but she became an addict, which only made her mental health conditions worse. The night I received this, she told her family she was coming to my place to kill herself in front of me. Woke up at 3am with 4 cops banging on my door trying to find her. They stopped her before she showed up carrying a large chef's knife.
Final score:
7points
Daffydillz~ 2 years ago
Wow, that sounds really scary. I'm glad they stopped her before she got to your house, that could have turned out very badly. I hope she got the help she needed and that you have support as well. That's a lot to go through. Gentle hugs.
#49
Not exactly something she said to me, so if it doesn't qualify, feel free to delete or downvote. I had a relationship with a girl in the USA, but we were both Italian. She returned to italy at some point and I made it clear that our relationship was over. It was never that much "on" for me. In fact, we wouldn’t have had a relationship at all if I had more of a spine at the time, but I was young and foolish and more concerned about her feelings than mine. She was also a bit stalky and she was always popping up at the same places I was. At the time I didn't think it weird as all the Italians congregated at a few specific places, but she always managed to find me regardless of where I was staying at any given time or where I went. Once she was back in Italy, I get a call from my mother, upset that I got engaged and I never told them. She actually went to my parent's house, a good 300Km from her home, barged in and told them she was my fiancée and we had decided to get married as soon as she graduated college. At that time international phone calls were expensive and I didn't have a phone they could call me at because I was moving around quite a bit, so she was able to stay at my parent's house for quite a few days before I could clarify the situation. It was a nightmare. My parents didn't know what to make of it. She was in their house telling them fantastical stories of our romance and our future plans, while all I could contribute to the discussion were intermittent, staticky denials at $5 a minute (I don't remember the actual cost, but it was expensive). She had pretty much our entire lives planned, with a job in her father's company, a house on her parents property and the two of us married with kids. I hate to think what she told her own parents and I probably didn't have a good reputation with them after I finally managed to convince her to go back home and stop harassing my parents. For a while I was afraid to go back to Italy, lest I'd find her at the airport waiting for me.
Final score:
7points
#50
He said a *lot* of things to me after I ended it, even that he wish I died, but the one that hurt the most was after our last big argument when I said I was breaking things off "Finally" As if he was just waiting for me to hate him enough to turn away
Final score:
6points
Alison Marchand 2 years ago
Wow, I'm glad it broke off before he could continue to hurt you, and I hope it's getting easier and easier to detach from the hurt of those words 🙏🏻
#51
After I broke up with him he tried to kill himself and blamed it on me. Said I was a terrible person that doesn't have emotions(I do, just sometimes I don't show them) and then somehow got his little friend group and some of the mutual friend group we shared to believe that I sexually assaulted him when he tried to do that to me. He also said that I'm worthless and that he's right in trying to get with another girl almost as soon as I broke up with him. I really hate him, and I'm so glad I moved away. Sorry that it's a bit long and not as good (bad?) as the others.
Final score:
6points
#52
Ex-broke up with me for a fraternity brother of mine Senior year in college. Probably cheated on me with him but I’ll never know nor do I care. I started dating someone else, who she knew. Ex started asking my fraternity brothers about the new girl. That’s when I lost it. At an internal but formal seniors graduating event, I handed down to my fraternity brother the chair on which me and the ex last had sex on in the locker-room style shower of the fraternity house…which was already a notable event because it took place the day after finals the semester before when we had mistakenly thought the house was empty and we were both quite loud. 2 hours after the fraternity event, I get a call from the fraternity brother which I didn’t answer. 30 minutes later was the ex, which I did. She was barking up a storm about how that I was ruining her image, that I was destroying her good memories…blah blah blah. I didn’t say a word but laughed so hard and hung up the phone. Last I ever heard from her…I married the woman I had started dating and she gets a kick out of the story every time.
Final score:
5points
#53
Years after my divorce, my ex-wife told me I was never a bad husband and was a very caring and attentive father.
Final score:
5points
Kurtz Frausun 3 years ago
I'm so sorry...my ex wife did the same (telling a mutual friend). She cheated on me with my best friend and said I didn't deserve the pain she put me through because I was a good man. I think that hurt me just as much.
Summer Mason 3 years ago
Both mothers of my husband's children (I'm step mom and he has full custody) did this to him. It hurt him more than all the cheating and court room fights for custody of his kids.
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He said that his "professional help" said that it wasn't healthy for me to go no contact, and that is a flaw of mine. I reminded him that #1 I made it clear that I had no desire to get back together, and #2 his IMAGINARY therapist told him the exact opposite of what a therapist would say.
Final score:
5points
Shark Lady 2 years ago
My ex's therapist actually told her that I was no good for her and she should end our relationship. Looking back I wish she had ended it then because I wouldn't have had to deal with her drunken antics nor would I have got into so much debt, because of her drinking. The final straw was being cheated on. I still wonder what she said to that therapist, call it morbid curiosity.
#55
Well, there was the time that I got home after him trying to force himself on me for a “one last time” to have my five year old announce that according to Daddy my name is actually “F**king, lying b***h”.
Final score:
5points
#56
They didn't say it to me, but they tried to convince the entire school that I was racist...
Final score:
4points
Christine Jemison 3 years ago
I can one up this, my ex husband who is French and Polish called me the N-word because I wouldn't take him back. The outcome? Kicked him so hard that I broke three of his ribs. Neeeever spoke to me again happened 20yrs ago.
Thomas Bentley 2 years ago (edited)
Three ribs! I would be shocked if he could speak to anyone for a good few months.
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They broke up with me, but they wouldn’t stop misgendering me and they called my brother a p*do. My brother just dated someone two years younger than them, that was the whole excuse. I was trying to stay friends with them but my brother comes before anyone else. Now I have a wonderful partner. :3
Final score:
4points
Shark Lady 2 years ago
They is a pronoun used by people who are non-binary and by some people who are transgender.
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He called me an ungrateful slvtty b!tch. I haven’t even looked in his direction since
Final score:
3points
Lee Banks 3 years ago
"dumb, slvtty c**t" He was a raging alcoholic, living in a bedbug-filled basement, with a job from me because of previous felonies. (No offense against felons... sometimes things happen.) Said this in front of my mom. to be fair, he reached out years later to apologize, but I very politely declined.
#59
FU, F your Mom and BS cancer. I hope she dies.
Final score:
3points
#60
So, she cheated on me, not only hit on my best friend five minutes later, but also said “You’re a fat f@ggot and I hope you die” She was…not the best.
Final score:
3points
Alison Marchand 2 years ago
WOAH what a foul thing for her to say!! "Not the best" - far from it, sounds like
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Snorky The Pig 2 years ago
And this, my friends, is why I am happily single and intend to stay that way. That one son of a b***h who stole his ex's dog has it coming for him in the next life 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
Patti Vance 3 years ago
actually, my ex has never said anything to my face that was nasty but who know what he could have said. i do know that he changed the story as to why i left several times to different people which annoyed me because the truth would have put him in a bad light. if anything, i am the one that said something nasty to him. prior to my leaving i had been supporting the house and because he wasn't working regularly i also paid his utilities and food after i was gone. we ran into each other at a restaurant at the register. i was with my dad; he was with the girlfriend that he moved in a day after i left. he tossed his bill by mine as i was paying as a joke and my acid tongue let go. i just handed it back with 'sorry-i paid for you long enough. it's her turn."
Mariko Fujita 2 years ago (edited)
I bought a house while with my ex-fiancee. I was head accountant for an electrical company and he was a manager at a fastfood chain so I put down deposit and paid mortgage while he pitched in when he could. He cheated on me, so I said okay I guess let's end this before getting married and he says "yeah.. I guess that's best.. sooo.. do we split the house 50/50?" lol, I told him no and that I'd give him what he put in plus some cash to get an apartment. He was livid and called his family immediately while angrily saying "she's trying to screw me over!". The house was in my name and he only pitched in with cash for groceries for the 2 months we had the house. Sometimes I wonder what happened to him but then remember it doesn't matter lol!
Danielle Ocasio Fast 2 years ago
My most recent ex was a recovering drug addict when we started dating. About a month after he moved in with me he relapsed (he lied, gaslit me, etc). I tried to be supportive and get him into rehab but he just kept lying and manipulating me. The last straw was when he used my money to buy heroin and tried to choke me out when I got rid of it. I broke up with him and kicked him out (though he refused to give my key back, which is a whole nother sh*tstorm story). About an hour later I got a text that he had overdosed and died. His "friends" wanted me to know before they chucked his phone. I was very upset and called his mom, who was going to contact the police and hospital. Well... About an hour after I called her, guess who showed up at her place? My ex. He had faked his own death to see how I would react. Apparently, the fact I got upset was proof that I loved him and should be with him 🤮
Elin Sandman 2 years ago
”You have fat sausage fingers” and I was like, yeah I know. 🤷♀️👋👋👋 They are short, chubby and perfect.
Sprinkles 3 years ago
When I finally left my abusive ex, he told me that I would never find anyone else as good as him. He also told me I would come crawling back in six months and I should be prepared to beg on my hands and knees for him to take me back. Now I'm happily married now to a man who treats me better than I deserve sometimes. From what I hear, my ex isn't doing so well these days. Karma baby.
Patricia Healton 3 years ago
Mine happened the day he moved out. He told me he never loved me and just married me because he felt sorry for me. This after 12 years and two children. I still know no one will love me.
Anička 2 years ago
What an a*****e. I'm sorry. But you can find someone. But first, get thee to therapy! 🙂
Load More Replies... Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
Sometimes sh*t happens before you find your gold ;) I'm so happy for you that you both met, have a lovely life together xx
Dave Hinckley 2 years ago
Had a nasty divorce, trial included. She perjured herself on the stand. Said I took a bunch of stuff when I left, stuff we didn't even own. I also discovered that I used drugs throughout the marriage. She came home one day and I was gone. Planned it for a month. I went through all of our things, separated mine into separate boxes and brought them to storage bin on that last day. I'm willing to bet that she told her friends that she kicked me out and threw my stuff off the balcony. I actually feel sorry for her. Been married now for 21 years to a loving woman. We've been basically inseparable since our first date. Her 3 kids all love me. 1 dog, 2 cats.
Snorky The Pig 2 years ago
And this, my friends, is why I am happily single and intend to stay that way. That one son of a b***h who stole his ex's dog has it coming for him in the next life 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
Patti Vance 3 years ago
actually, my ex has never said anything to my face that was nasty but who know what he could have said. i do know that he changed the story as to why i left several times to different people which annoyed me because the truth would have put him in a bad light. if anything, i am the one that said something nasty to him. prior to my leaving i had been supporting the house and because he wasn't working regularly i also paid his utilities and food after i was gone. we ran into each other at a restaurant at the register. i was with my dad; he was with the girlfriend that he moved in a day after i left. he tossed his bill by mine as i was paying as a joke and my acid tongue let go. i just handed it back with 'sorry-i paid for you long enough. it's her turn."
Mariko Fujita 2 years ago (edited)
I bought a house while with my ex-fiancee. I was head accountant for an electrical company and he was a manager at a fastfood chain so I put down deposit and paid mortgage while he pitched in when he could. He cheated on me, so I said okay I guess let's end this before getting married and he says "yeah.. I guess that's best.. sooo.. do we split the house 50/50?" lol, I told him no and that I'd give him what he put in plus some cash to get an apartment. He was livid and called his family immediately while angrily saying "she's trying to screw me over!". The house was in my name and he only pitched in with cash for groceries for the 2 months we had the house. Sometimes I wonder what happened to him but then remember it doesn't matter lol!
Danielle Ocasio Fast 2 years ago
My most recent ex was a recovering drug addict when we started dating. About a month after he moved in with me he relapsed (he lied, gaslit me, etc). I tried to be supportive and get him into rehab but he just kept lying and manipulating me. The last straw was when he used my money to buy heroin and tried to choke me out when I got rid of it. I broke up with him and kicked him out (though he refused to give my key back, which is a whole nother sh*tstorm story). About an hour later I got a text that he had overdosed and died. His "friends" wanted me to know before they chucked his phone. I was very upset and called his mom, who was going to contact the police and hospital. Well... About an hour after I called her, guess who showed up at her place? My ex. He had faked his own death to see how I would react. Apparently, the fact I got upset was proof that I loved him and should be with him 🤮
Elin Sandman 2 years ago
”You have fat sausage fingers” and I was like, yeah I know. 🤷♀️👋👋👋 They are short, chubby and perfect.
Sprinkles 3 years ago
When I finally left my abusive ex, he told me that I would never find anyone else as good as him. He also told me I would come crawling back in six months and I should be prepared to beg on my hands and knees for him to take me back. Now I'm happily married now to a man who treats me better than I deserve sometimes. From what I hear, my ex isn't doing so well these days. Karma baby.
Patricia Healton 3 years ago
Mine happened the day he moved out. He told me he never loved me and just married me because he felt sorry for me. This after 12 years and two children. I still know no one will love me.
Anička 2 years ago
What an a*****e. I'm sorry. But you can find someone. But first, get thee to therapy! 🙂
Load More Replies... Bubbles and sparks 3 years ago
Sometimes sh*t happens before you find your gold ;) I'm so happy for you that you both met, have a lovely life together xx
Dave Hinckley 2 years ago
Had a nasty divorce, trial included. She perjured herself on the stand. Said I took a bunch of stuff when I left, stuff we didn't even own. I also discovered that I used drugs throughout the marriage. She came home one day and I was gone. Planned it for a month. I went through all of our things, separated mine into separate boxes and brought them to storage bin on that last day. I'm willing to bet that she told her friends that she kicked me out and threw my stuff off the balcony. I actually feel sorry for her. Been married now for 21 years to a loving woman. We've been basically inseparable since our first date. Her 3 kids all love me. 1 dog, 2 cats.
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