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Ex-Fiancé Tries To Ruin Lady’s New Romance, Gets A Call From Cops, Ends Up In Psych Ward
Ex-Fiancé Tries To Ruin Lady’s New Romance, Gets A Call From Cops, Ends Up In Psych Ward

Ex-Fiancé Tries To Ruin Lady’s New Romance, Gets A Call From Cops, Ends Up In Psych Ward

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Exes can be a nightmare. Whether they’re cyberstalking you on your socials, always trying to win you back, or attempting to sabotage your new romance, we can all pretty much agree life would be better off without them.

One woman’s ex-fiancé thought it would be a good idea to hack her email so he could wreck her budding love life. Fortunately, his plan backfired spectacularly when the woman’s boyfriend got the law involved. 

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    After he hacked her email, her ex-fiancé tried to frame her new partner for infidelity

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    At first, the woman was furious with her new boyfriend and demanded answers from him

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    It didn’t take long for the couple to work out that the woman’s ex-fiancé was behind it all

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    The woman’s boyfriend got the chief of police to threaten the ex-fiancé with charges, forcing him to check into a psych ward in an effort to prove temporary insanity

    Twenty years ago, OP tried online dating through eHarmony and matched with a woman who lived about 100 miles away. They hit it off and planned to meet, but just before their big date, she called him in tears, accusing him of cheating. Confused, OP had no idea what she meant.

    She claimed another woman had just phoned her, screaming and calling her a “marriage wrecker.” The mystery caller insisted she was OP’s wife and had seen the emails between the two of them. The new date felt heartbroken and betrayed, but there was one major problem… OP wasn’t married. Not even close.

    After some furious digging and a whole lot of awkward conversation, the truth came out. The woman behind the call was put up to it by OP’s girlfriend’s ex-fiancé, who had secretly kept access to her old email account. He had read their messages, enlisted a woman to impersonate a wife, and done his best to upend the new relationship.

    Luckily, OP had some surprising connections. He worked at a nonprofit where the local police chief sat on the board. That same chief picked up the phone, put it on speaker, and gave the ex-fiancé a very convincing warning: computer hacking is a federal crime, and prison time was on the table.

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    The twist? No actual charges were planned, but the ex freaked out and immediately checked himself into a psychiatric facility for 72 hours, apparently trying for an “insanity” defense – against a crime no one was even prosecuting.

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    Fortunately, OP and his new girlfriend got to the bottom of things without too much fuss, but the ex-fiancé could have caused a lot more damage, considering he had unrestricted access to her email. So, what can you do to protect your digital privacy after a breakup? We went looking for answers.

    In her article for The Cyber Helpline, Nikki Webb writes that, in the turmoil of a breakup, the emotional fallout can lead to unpredictable behavior. The person who once knew everything about you now holds the power to exploit it. The risk is not just emotional; it’s also digital, meaning that there’s a significant threat to privacy, security, and reputation.

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    In his article for LifeHacker, Pranay Parab suggests several steps you can take to protect your digital safety after love has set sail. These include securing your most important accounts like your bank account, other finance accounts, investment accounts, and passcodes to your phone, laptop, tablet, and similar devices.

    Parab goes on to recommend using a password manager, setting up two-factor authentication, hiding your location, locking down your email, and protecting your social media, streaming, gaming, and fitness apps if you have them. Finally, update your password for delivery apps and shared e-commerce sites so your address stays hidden.

    Considering how things turned out in the end, we’d say OP’s revenge fit the crime, even if things didn’t ultimately work out with his new date. The ex-fiancé will definitely think twice about pulling similar shady moves in the future.

    What do you think of OP’s clapback? Do you reckon the ex-fiancé got what was coming to him? Let us know your opinion in the comments! 

    In the comments, some readers applauded the chief of police for getting involved, while others shared their own hacking horror stories

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    Ivan Ayliffe

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    Ivan Ayliffe

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    After twenty years in advertising, I've decided to try my hand at journalism. I'm lucky enough to be based in Cape Town, South Africa and use every opportunity I get to explore everything it has to offer, both indoors and out. When I'm not reading, writing, or listening to podcasts, I spend my time swimming in the ocean, running mountain trails, and skydiving. While I haven't travelled as much as I'd like, I did live in !ndia, which was an incredible experience. Oh, and I love live music. I hope you enjoy my stories!

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    I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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    Monika Pašukonytė

    Monika Pašukonytė

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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    Ace
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One can't help but wonder how the OP could possibly have known what the ex did after the call? No, that's one of those giveaways that this story is at the very least an exaggerated account of what really happened.

    JB
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oddly enough, someone in the comments had the same question. OP states the ex-fiancé’s family called her to yell about it. I actually believe the story, it’s too badly written to be creative fiction. Plus I know firsthand what weird stuff exes can do. While we were getting divorced, mine told all his unattached male friends and work colleagues (including guys I didn’t know!) that he would “destroy” them if they ever dated me. Gave them my number and encouraged them to call/leave messages about what a bıtch I am (i.e. tried to get them to harass me). One, who I’d met a few times, did call to say it was at that moment he realized why I was divorcing and he hoped I was doing ok. D is still one of my closest friends; we go out to lunch every few weeks or so.

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    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm glad people pointed out the pronoun and gender of the ex issue because I thought it was only me who was lost.

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Soooo glad my crazy ex-hubs is dead so he can't do s**t like this to me. When we divorced in the late '70's, all he could do was have me stalked by Private Investigators. (It really f***ed with his head when I moved away.) 😁

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    Ace
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One can't help but wonder how the OP could possibly have known what the ex did after the call? No, that's one of those giveaways that this story is at the very least an exaggerated account of what really happened.

    JB
    Community Member
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oddly enough, someone in the comments had the same question. OP states the ex-fiancé’s family called her to yell about it. I actually believe the story, it’s too badly written to be creative fiction. Plus I know firsthand what weird stuff exes can do. While we were getting divorced, mine told all his unattached male friends and work colleagues (including guys I didn’t know!) that he would “destroy” them if they ever dated me. Gave them my number and encouraged them to call/leave messages about what a bıtch I am (i.e. tried to get them to harass me). One, who I’d met a few times, did call to say it was at that moment he realized why I was divorcing and he hoped I was doing ok. D is still one of my closest friends; we go out to lunch every few weeks or so.

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    JayWantsACat
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    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm glad people pointed out the pronoun and gender of the ex issue because I thought it was only me who was lost.

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
    Premium
    7 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Soooo glad my crazy ex-hubs is dead so he can't do s**t like this to me. When we divorced in the late '70's, all he could do was have me stalked by Private Investigators. (It really f***ed with his head when I moved away.) 😁

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