“Delulu” Stepmom Is So Convinced Stepdaughter Will Give Her Baby To Her, She Has The Nursery Ready
Entitlement comes in all shapes and sizes, from rude behavior to ridiculous demands. Annoying to those on the receiving end, at a distance, it can be comical to see and hear the bizarre leaps in logic people will make to justify their beliefs. But sometimes it goes too far.
A woman shared her experience with an unhinged, infertile stepmother that demanded her step-daughter hand over her newborn. Citing a variety of fake concerns, “helpful” advice, and weird demands, she attempted to talk OP into just giving her the child, backed up by OP’s rather unhelpful father.
There does not seem to be a limit to what an entitled person thinks should be theirs
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One new mother shared her experience with her stepmom that really wanted to take her child
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The mechanics of a step-family can lead to many misunderstandings
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Perhaps one reason so many people turn to the internet for advice or at least to vent is the uncertainty of how to assess and understand the behavior of a step-parent in general. In the past, these sorts of family structures were less common and often not explored in popular media or general discourse. Now, for example, around half of all US households are families that are remarried or recoupled. Because the precise “layout” of these families will all differ and the remarriage can happen at a variety of different times, this can create a lot of uncertainty about how to go about navigating difficulties, boundaries, and obligations. In short, family drama is hard enough, but once “family” gets obfuscated, even more challenges arise.
The other challenge comes from the fact that in a “remarried” or “recoupled” family, there might be conflicting opinions about responsibilities. Biological siblings tend to have a mutual understanding towards each other, while parent-child relationships also follow a set of norms. In OP’s case, the stepmother might be overestimating her place and her stepdaughter’s responsibilities. Of course, there is basically nothing about her demands that make sense, but even if she was more reasonable, it’s easy enough to see where difficulties might arise.
Bad boundaries are a recipe for disaster
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Of course, this is assuming a normal familial misunderstanding, as what OP’s stepmother is demanding is beyond ludicrous. This might be a rare case of inter-familial “Karen” behavior, as this level of entitlement doesn’t normally happen inside a family. We see all the “normal” Karen tricks on display, the nagging, explaining to OP how her, preposterous, plan is actually better. Her delusional behavior is visible further in the post where, for some reason, she is building a nursery. Here there are two possibilities, either that she sincerely believes that OP will just hand over a child, or that this act, which no doubt took time and effort, would “guilt” OP into sharing custody. It’s somewhat hard to decide which option is “better,” as both delusion and manipulation are pretty concerning.
In general, it seems that the boundaries between OP and her step-mother are deeply unclear and her biological father is not taking good steps to enforce them. Fortunately, where her father is slacking, her partner is doing his job. This unclarity will probably manifest itself again in the future, so OP is best served by taking preventative measures to make sure her stepmother remains at a distance and has no legal access to her or the child. Fortunately, they live in another country, so they can’t just show up beyond frequently taking flights. Similarly, the stepmother can’t just take the child on a plane, which should be some comfort to OP. But the comments are correct, all in all, she needs to limit contact with her father and his chosen partner.
OP gave some more details in the comments
Other readers shared advice and shock at the step-mother’s behavior
"Tell all the neighboring Nonnas about that, they are the best security cameras". This is GOLD
And from what I've heard, Italian Nonna's take ZERO s**t
Load More Replies...This is eerily similar to my mom's situation that happened years ago. Mom's dad got a new wife. She tries to steal all of mom's kids. Tries to turn us against our own mother. New wife becomes creepy and violent. We don't talk to those people anymore.
This is definitely not the end of this story. I feel sorry for the lady, I've seen the toll having fertility issues can have on a woman, but she needs serious professional care. In the meantime OP should cover all her bases. Tammy cannot take the child out on a plane but there are virtually no security checks if they are desperate enough to drive to Italy. So it is imperative to flag this up with the embassy and local authorities. And do let the neighbors AND the workplace know and provide them with recent pictures of these two magnificent beings.
It sounds like her Dad and Stepmom do drugs, cuz that is WAYYY delusional.
Load More Replies...Don't let them have ANY access to you or your child!! My parents did this to me EXACTLY and when i cut off contact they filed for 3rd party custody and won after the 3rd time. They were allowed to keep filing and filing and the last judge stamped his name on as the permanent judge, gave them custody and gave us ONE HOUR of supervised visitation. Every time my mom spoke to me or saw Me she was "collecting evidence" aka making up hearsay. This was when my son was 2. He's 14 now and has a worse life than i did growing up. We have tried to get him back but ended up losing jobs, houses, everything. People don't believe this but trust me If someone has enough power and money and wants your baby, they can and will take them away from you
Also my mother would become insanely irate whenever I breastfed him. She said I was blocking her from bonding with her grandson and went as far to say I must pump before arriving at their house and not allowed to breastfeed there so she can feed him. That's the last time I went over there and the next contact was getting served by papers a year later
Load More Replies...That’s an insult to the people who had to assemble the Cabbage Patch doll. 🤣
Load More Replies...37-29 is not a significant age gap at that point in life. The Randall Monroe Standard Creepiness Rule is no less than half the older partner's age, plus seven. My Mom didn't love that my partner is ten years older than me, until I pointed out that her husband is ten years younger than her.
that's a new breed of entitlement right there. oh deary me. Block them out of your life.
"Tell all the neighboring Nonnas about that, they are the best security cameras". This is GOLD
And from what I've heard, Italian Nonna's take ZERO s**t
Load More Replies...This is eerily similar to my mom's situation that happened years ago. Mom's dad got a new wife. She tries to steal all of mom's kids. Tries to turn us against our own mother. New wife becomes creepy and violent. We don't talk to those people anymore.
This is definitely not the end of this story. I feel sorry for the lady, I've seen the toll having fertility issues can have on a woman, but she needs serious professional care. In the meantime OP should cover all her bases. Tammy cannot take the child out on a plane but there are virtually no security checks if they are desperate enough to drive to Italy. So it is imperative to flag this up with the embassy and local authorities. And do let the neighbors AND the workplace know and provide them with recent pictures of these two magnificent beings.
It sounds like her Dad and Stepmom do drugs, cuz that is WAYYY delusional.
Load More Replies...Don't let them have ANY access to you or your child!! My parents did this to me EXACTLY and when i cut off contact they filed for 3rd party custody and won after the 3rd time. They were allowed to keep filing and filing and the last judge stamped his name on as the permanent judge, gave them custody and gave us ONE HOUR of supervised visitation. Every time my mom spoke to me or saw Me she was "collecting evidence" aka making up hearsay. This was when my son was 2. He's 14 now and has a worse life than i did growing up. We have tried to get him back but ended up losing jobs, houses, everything. People don't believe this but trust me If someone has enough power and money and wants your baby, they can and will take them away from you
Also my mother would become insanely irate whenever I breastfed him. She said I was blocking her from bonding with her grandson and went as far to say I must pump before arriving at their house and not allowed to breastfeed there so she can feed him. That's the last time I went over there and the next contact was getting served by papers a year later
Load More Replies...That’s an insult to the people who had to assemble the Cabbage Patch doll. 🤣
Load More Replies...37-29 is not a significant age gap at that point in life. The Randall Monroe Standard Creepiness Rule is no less than half the older partner's age, plus seven. My Mom didn't love that my partner is ten years older than me, until I pointed out that her husband is ten years younger than her.
that's a new breed of entitlement right there. oh deary me. Block them out of your life.

































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