“Three Females Clinging To Me”: Entitled Parents And Neighbor Ruin Halloween Hayride
Sometimes the circumstances require that we step up and take responsibility, even when it’s not technically ours to take. But there’s a difference between doing the right thing and being forced to accommodate others.
Reddit user u/MiraculousFoxyLady shared a story on r/IDontWorkHereLady that perfectly illustrates this distinction. It’s about a Halloween hayride the woman joined for a bit of lighthearted fun, but which unexpectedly turned into a daycare she was pretty much made to run — all because some parents were too ignorant to care for their children.
Not every scary ride is suitable for children
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But if parents do bring their kids, they should at least be ready to comfort them
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This story shows why so many parents today are judged by outsiders
A few years ago, Ipsos found that a majority of parents in each of the 28 surveyed countries said they feel judged by others at least sometimes, with the United States showing the largest proportion—92%—in a tie with Singapore.
At the same time, 89% of Americans who are not parents of a child under 18 admit to judging parents at least sometimes (including 11% very often and 19% fairly often).
Being raised by an entitled parent means seeing your caregivers feel as if the world owes them. According to experts, kids with this experience may emulate their parents and develop a bad attitude themselves.
“Children often learn by what they see. In this case, a child could lean toward entitlement,” says Craig Knippenberg, a therapist and author of Wired and Connected: Brain-Based Solutions to Ensure Your Child’s Social and Emotional Success.
Also, if children realize what’s happening, they might choose to distance themselves from their parents. “Some more empathic children may be embarrassed or ashamed of their parents’ entitlement,” Knippenberg adds. “As they reach adulthood, they make a conscientious effort to avoid entitlement.”
Of course, that doesn’t mean we need to vilify moms and dads who are not on their A game. Last year, the former U.S. Surgeon General issued an advisory on the well-being of parents, saying, “Addressing parental mental health conditions, and importantly the underlying stressors and causes, is critical for the well-being of children and society.”
In his piece for The New York Times, Murthy cited a recent study by the American Psychological Association, which said that 48% of parents reported that “most days their stress is completely overwhelming.”
The study also noted that 62% of parents say “no one understands how stressed out they are.”
But I think we can agree that leaving your kids with a stranger isn’t the answer to parental burnout, either.
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People were appalled by the parents’ indifference
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I hate those parents. We have a farm nearby that did a great Halloween bash every year. There is not so much else here because Halloween isn't a big thing in Germany. They had fire pits for stickbread and enchanted creatures and magicians and a haunted corn maze. The maze was awesome, it was huge, pitch dark and they had actors as ghosts, zombies and - the favorite) a guy in a butcher's apron with a chain saw (running, but no blade of course). The older kids loved it. But then parents started taking their 4-5 year olds there. This obviously did not go well so the farm toned down on the scaryness. Which again meant the older kids were bored and didn't want to come any more. Two years ago they stopped altogether.
Parents keeping the local teenagers from getting good babysitting money. You want to go to a really scary haunted house or some other type of venue at Halloween? Hire a babysitter, ffs. You have to know there’s a 15 or 16 year old out there who’s saving money for a car, and is willing to watch your spawn for a couple hours for a decent rate of pay. Keep them, and their recommended friends if they’re not available, on speed dial. Then go to your Haunted House/Hayride/Corn Maze. Or out to dinner. Or to the company Christmas Party to suck up to the boss. Whatever. That’s why babysitting was invented.
Load More Replies...Terrible night for OP but that's probably the most kindness and affection those kids will have for months if not longer
I really feel for those kids when they feel safer with a complete stranger than they do with their parent.
Load More Replies...Seems like so many people who have children aren't up to it and do a terrible job as parents.
OP needs to just stop using the word "whom" since clearly they can't be bothered to use it correctly. (If you're going to go out of your way to use "fancy" speech, at least do it correctly.)
Marnie, you can ignore the Crystalwitch who is off her flaming nut.
Load More Replies...Sometimes I think when the kids come along, the parents lose what little brains they ever had. How can such stupid people think they can raise a child, I'll never know.
As a mother two kids lol ok I’m an older mum my kids are now 21-24 ,I’m 60 , I whole heartedly agree with you , just cos we have kids does not mean the world n its mother have to look after them , all this it take a village c r a p is pure nonsense 🙄🤬no one looked after mine while they were little ,bar my husband (now ex 14 yrs this mth) untill they went to school ,my kids my responsibility totally , like what the fresh hell is with USA n this mentality 🤷♀️
Load More Replies...What's a hayride? What's a ''scarier''? I have very little grasp of the situation, but those little ferals sounded like a giant PITA.
Can't blame the parents too much, when OP doesn't even have the nerves to stand up for themself. They could've said no to the volunteering position. They didn't have to coddle that girl or some random kids. Tell them to go to their parents. No wonder entitled parents get away with this.
I used to do Halloween as a zombie, dancing to Thriller. More than once I had to break character to reassure a scared child at end of dance.
That kinda stuff wouldn’t scare me , I mean like I watched the original exorcist ,when it first came on out tele lol I was around ten , 1975 ,I was in hysterics loved it , n I could do the spider walk lmao my daughter 24 ,also could a few yrs back , probs still can , was only the birds horror that’s ever scared me, so these rides I’d love totally HOWEVER little kids say under age 12-15 is SHOULD NOT go on em ffs parents do better !! Like do you really wanna give your kids ptsd from stuff like this , unlike op is not have put up with this from those parents , either words would have been said ,poor kids totally ,op lovely get that spine shined up let’s hope in the last 6 yrs you have done x
I hate those parents. We have a farm nearby that did a great Halloween bash every year. There is not so much else here because Halloween isn't a big thing in Germany. They had fire pits for stickbread and enchanted creatures and magicians and a haunted corn maze. The maze was awesome, it was huge, pitch dark and they had actors as ghosts, zombies and - the favorite) a guy in a butcher's apron with a chain saw (running, but no blade of course). The older kids loved it. But then parents started taking their 4-5 year olds there. This obviously did not go well so the farm toned down on the scaryness. Which again meant the older kids were bored and didn't want to come any more. Two years ago they stopped altogether.
Parents keeping the local teenagers from getting good babysitting money. You want to go to a really scary haunted house or some other type of venue at Halloween? Hire a babysitter, ffs. You have to know there’s a 15 or 16 year old out there who’s saving money for a car, and is willing to watch your spawn for a couple hours for a decent rate of pay. Keep them, and their recommended friends if they’re not available, on speed dial. Then go to your Haunted House/Hayride/Corn Maze. Or out to dinner. Or to the company Christmas Party to suck up to the boss. Whatever. That’s why babysitting was invented.
Load More Replies...Terrible night for OP but that's probably the most kindness and affection those kids will have for months if not longer
I really feel for those kids when they feel safer with a complete stranger than they do with their parent.
Load More Replies...Seems like so many people who have children aren't up to it and do a terrible job as parents.
OP needs to just stop using the word "whom" since clearly they can't be bothered to use it correctly. (If you're going to go out of your way to use "fancy" speech, at least do it correctly.)
Marnie, you can ignore the Crystalwitch who is off her flaming nut.
Load More Replies...Sometimes I think when the kids come along, the parents lose what little brains they ever had. How can such stupid people think they can raise a child, I'll never know.
As a mother two kids lol ok I’m an older mum my kids are now 21-24 ,I’m 60 , I whole heartedly agree with you , just cos we have kids does not mean the world n its mother have to look after them , all this it take a village c r a p is pure nonsense 🙄🤬no one looked after mine while they were little ,bar my husband (now ex 14 yrs this mth) untill they went to school ,my kids my responsibility totally , like what the fresh hell is with USA n this mentality 🤷♀️
Load More Replies...What's a hayride? What's a ''scarier''? I have very little grasp of the situation, but those little ferals sounded like a giant PITA.
Can't blame the parents too much, when OP doesn't even have the nerves to stand up for themself. They could've said no to the volunteering position. They didn't have to coddle that girl or some random kids. Tell them to go to their parents. No wonder entitled parents get away with this.
I used to do Halloween as a zombie, dancing to Thriller. More than once I had to break character to reassure a scared child at end of dance.
That kinda stuff wouldn’t scare me , I mean like I watched the original exorcist ,when it first came on out tele lol I was around ten , 1975 ,I was in hysterics loved it , n I could do the spider walk lmao my daughter 24 ,also could a few yrs back , probs still can , was only the birds horror that’s ever scared me, so these rides I’d love totally HOWEVER little kids say under age 12-15 is SHOULD NOT go on em ffs parents do better !! Like do you really wanna give your kids ptsd from stuff like this , unlike op is not have put up with this from those parents , either words would have been said ,poor kids totally ,op lovely get that spine shined up let’s hope in the last 6 yrs you have done x


































































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