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Mom Wants To Be Included In This Father-Daughter Camping Trip, Ruins It By Making It About Her
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Mom Wants To Be Included In This Father-Daughter Camping Trip, Ruins It By Making It About Her

This incident comes from a 16-year-old teen who prepared the sweetest gift for her dad for Father’s Day—a camping trip for which she saved for months. And when her mom heard about their plans, she couldn’t miss a chance to participate, although normally, when she hears about “camping, her immediate reaction is ‘ew, no way.'”

But sooner than the author of this post knew it, her mother was already doing the trip her own way, from foods only she liked to activities she would shut down because “it would inconvenience her.”

As you can imagine, the vibe at the campsite was not the best, and the family drama escalated up to a boiling point when the mom just told the author to go and play with kids nearby. That’s when the daughter had enough and laid all that she thought out on the table.

Now she’s asking the dear people of the internet if it was an overreaction, so let us know what you think in the comments!

Image credits: Karoly Lorentey (not the actual photo)

The author added that even though the mom isn’t her biological mother, she has been treating her like she was

And this is what people had to comment in response to the story

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iblowsheep
Community Member
1 year ago

I think mom is a narcissist, and dad should have stepped in on his daughter's behalf. He probably didn't because he has to suffer the consequences of his wife's narcissism too. likely his calling out his daughter's comments was more about self preservation than really thinking she was TA. But then again, maybe the girl has the situation distorted a bit being young and having a still developing brain it might not be too far fetched.

Bettie-Jean Neal
Community Member
1 year ago

You hit it right on the nose. This is my own family dynamic, except bio-mom and step-dad. She too turns on the tears when you tell her about herself and point out her wrongdoing. Totally turns it back around.

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kurisutofu
Community Member
1 year ago

I would feel so betrayed by the dad. He's not even capable of understanding that she did that for him... That would be my last present for him, ever.

Casey B
Community Member
1 year ago

@John C you speak of "leveling" as if it's a positive parenting technique, it's not. Children are meant to be lifted up higher than ourselves. The dad's attempt at leveling would have brought his daughter down to the same selfish, immature level as his wife.

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Jennifer Hanks
Community Member
1 year ago

First, what a thoughtful and loving daughter you are! A gift like that from one of my sons would make my YEAR! Secondly, if my husband said, "I want to go too" on my special Mother's Day trip, I would have gently suggested that we plan another trip for the whole family as I would understand my child's intention. In my view, your dad should have seen your desire to have this special trip with him, giving him what HE liked at great cost to you, and protected and cherished that time. You were generous to include her, even though it messed up your plans and your budget. I'm so sorry they didn't see that - parents mess up all the time, just like everybody else! You are a special young lady - keep being the lovely, giving young person you obviously are!

Paddling Panda
Community Member
1 year ago

Jennifer Hanks: YES!! To everything you've written here. <3

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iblowsheep
Community Member
1 year ago

I think mom is a narcissist, and dad should have stepped in on his daughter's behalf. He probably didn't because he has to suffer the consequences of his wife's narcissism too. likely his calling out his daughter's comments was more about self preservation than really thinking she was TA. But then again, maybe the girl has the situation distorted a bit being young and having a still developing brain it might not be too far fetched.

Bettie-Jean Neal
Community Member
1 year ago

You hit it right on the nose. This is my own family dynamic, except bio-mom and step-dad. She too turns on the tears when you tell her about herself and point out her wrongdoing. Totally turns it back around.

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kurisutofu
Community Member
1 year ago

I would feel so betrayed by the dad. He's not even capable of understanding that she did that for him... That would be my last present for him, ever.

Casey B
Community Member
1 year ago

@John C you speak of "leveling" as if it's a positive parenting technique, it's not. Children are meant to be lifted up higher than ourselves. The dad's attempt at leveling would have brought his daughter down to the same selfish, immature level as his wife.

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Jennifer Hanks
Community Member
1 year ago

First, what a thoughtful and loving daughter you are! A gift like that from one of my sons would make my YEAR! Secondly, if my husband said, "I want to go too" on my special Mother's Day trip, I would have gently suggested that we plan another trip for the whole family as I would understand my child's intention. In my view, your dad should have seen your desire to have this special trip with him, giving him what HE liked at great cost to you, and protected and cherished that time. You were generous to include her, even though it messed up your plans and your budget. I'm so sorry they didn't see that - parents mess up all the time, just like everybody else! You are a special young lady - keep being the lovely, giving young person you obviously are!

Paddling Panda
Community Member
1 year ago

Jennifer Hanks: YES!! To everything you've written here. <3

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