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Couple Prepared To Ditch 200 Wedding Guests After Both Of Their Parents Sabotage Their Wedding Plans
It sounds like a cliché, but every wedding is different, and what applies to one ceremony might not fit another. As this particular story shows, couples need to be aware of their own situation and ready to adapt when things take an unexpected turn.
As their big day approached, the fiancés discovered that their parents had secretly changed key plans — including the guest list and menu — without their consent. So they made a post on Reddit, asking everyone to weigh in on the drama and help them determine whether their reaction was appropriate.
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But as much as this couple tried to keep their unwanted guests out of the picture, they still made their way in
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After their big night, the couple updated everyone on how it went
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Parents can support without taking over
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According to data collected by financial service firm Northwestern Mutual, on average, parents contribute over half (52 percent) of their child’s wedding budget.
This figure aligns with real-life data collected by wedding planner Tzo Ai Ang of Ang Weddings and Events, who told BRIDES that her clients’ parents usually pay for the bulk—and oftentimes all—of the expenses.
“I do have some weddings that are paid for only by the couple, but that is the minority. In the majority of the couples I work with, the parents are paying,” she explained.
However, experts say that such a gesture should not come with expectations.
Wedding planner Victoria Lartey-Williams believes that listening to their children and respecting their wishes is the best way for parents to provide support when planning a wedding. This simple act shows that they understand and acknowledge their boundaries and trust that they’re capable of making the right decisions—which, in turn, can relieve any wedding planning stress they may have.
“I feel like there’s two different types of parents. There are the parents who are really involved, and there are the parents who take a back seat because they don’t want to overstep,” Lartey-Williams explained. “Landing somewhere in the middle is the best way to be helpful to their children.”
“You want to help them think through things without insisting that they follow your advice That can really overwhelm the couple and take away from their enjoyment of planning one of the best days of their life.”
People who read what happened to this particular couple had a lot to say about their parents’ behavior
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Mel in Georgia 4 months ago
What a shame that the selfish, entitled acts of these parents have completely blown apart the families over something that should be a joyful time for friends and relations to celebrate. What did they would happen???
Binny Tutera 4 months ago
It is a shame. The parent’s opinion of the plans (that they didn’t pay for!) isn’t important. It is beyond reason that they would sabotage the wedding without so much as a heads up. What in the world did they think would happen???
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Tabitha 4 months ago (edited)
This is on the list I started as a young girl of the reason I never wanted a big wedding, and liked the idea of eloping. I didn’t elope when I got married, but we did have a very small courthouse ceremony with handpicked friends as witnesses, and a nice dinner afterward before starting our non-extravagant honeymoon. The MARRIAGE is what’s important, not the wedding. BTW, next May will be 25 years for us. All our friends who had expensive and extravagant weddings and honeymoons were divorced—-some very vitriolicly—-long ago.
greenideas 4 months ago
The venue is so eager to give them a partial refund, because they know they have a potential lawsuit on their hands. Unfortunately, some parents view their children as their posessions or "less than", not as individual people with their own preferences, regardless of age.
Kate Johnson 4 months ago
Well now they've lost them. Hopefully they will write these horrible parents off permanently and make sure they never even meet any children they might have.
Load More Replies... Mel in Georgia 4 months ago
What a shame that the selfish, entitled acts of these parents have completely blown apart the families over something that should be a joyful time for friends and relations to celebrate. What did they would happen???
Binny Tutera 4 months ago
It is a shame. The parent’s opinion of the plans (that they didn’t pay for!) isn’t important. It is beyond reason that they would sabotage the wedding without so much as a heads up. What in the world did they think would happen???
Load More Replies... Tabitha 4 months ago (edited)
This is on the list I started as a young girl of the reason I never wanted a big wedding, and liked the idea of eloping. I didn’t elope when I got married, but we did have a very small courthouse ceremony with handpicked friends as witnesses, and a nice dinner afterward before starting our non-extravagant honeymoon. The MARRIAGE is what’s important, not the wedding. BTW, next May will be 25 years for us. All our friends who had expensive and extravagant weddings and honeymoons were divorced—-some very vitriolicly—-long ago.
greenideas 4 months ago
The venue is so eager to give them a partial refund, because they know they have a potential lawsuit on their hands. Unfortunately, some parents view their children as their posessions or "less than", not as individual people with their own preferences, regardless of age.
Kate Johnson 4 months ago
Well now they've lost them. Hopefully they will write these horrible parents off permanently and make sure they never even meet any children they might have.
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