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“Sickening And Evil”: 38 Horrible Things People Have Heard Parents Telling Their Kids
Kids are known for saying the wildest things, but every now and then, it’s the parents who really leave people speechless. Whether it’s something brutally honest, wildly inappropriate, or just plain unsettling, some comments are so shocking they stick with you long after you’ve heard them.
If you’ve ever accidentally overheard a tense moment in public, you know how quickly things can go from awkward to unforgettable. Naturally, the internet couldn’t resist sharing these jaw-dropping moments, and let’s just say, some of these will make you cringe, laugh nervously, and maybe even call your own parents afterward.
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#1
James Dobson (from Focus on the Family) advised parents to tell their sons who exhibited signs of homosexuality that “Mommy and Daddy don’t love you when you act like a girl. We only love you if you act like a boy.”
I think that’s one of the worst things a parent could say to their child.
Michael Largey 1 hour ago
James Dobson makes a fine living from saying the worst thing possible.
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#2
“You’re the reason they made birth control”. I was young when I heard this. Today me would have clapped back, “for their sake I wish you had known how to use it”.
#3
A neighbor's kid was trying to build something and said, "This is hard."
His mom yelled loud enough for us to hear, "If it's hard, then just throw it away!"
He sounded sad but insisted, "No, I can do it. Just give me 5 minutes."
She yelled, "No, you can't. Just throw it away if it's hard." The kid was crying but insisted he could get it right.
She was raising a quitter.
Moments like these don’t just come out of nowhere. As explained by Positive Psychology, parents often say hurtful things not because they intend to cause harm, but because they’re overwhelmed in the moment.
Stress, burnout, and difficulty managing emotions can lead to impulsive reactions, especially when combined with unresolved experiences from their own upbringing. Instead of pausing to respond calmly, some parents react instantly, and those split-second comments can end up being the ones strangers overhear, and never forget.
#4
Recently found out my sister is telling my niece not to cry if she’s upset. This is a kid who has always struggled to display emotions. Now we know why.
#5
“It doesn’t matter what you feel. How you look is what really matters.”.
#6
Whenever she got angry she’d mutter to herself (with her kid in earshot standing there) “I could have just gone to school and moved to Paris. I could be there right now. I’d have no kids…).
There’s also an important distinction between discipline and harm. Healthy Children explains that while discipline is meant to teach and guide through structure and trust, verbal maltreatment does the opposite.
Harsh words like insults or shaming language don’t correct behavior, they create emotional pain. Over time, this kind of language can damage a child’s self-esteem and even affect how they process emotions and handle challenges, which is why some of these overheard moments feel so unsettling to witness.
#7
“Stop crying and be a man”… to a 2 year old.
#8
"If you don't shut up, I won't ever love you ever again!" - awful excuse for a mother to her exhausted looking, upset toddler.
#9
At Walmart…kid wanted a toy. Mom said, “Put that back, we ain’t done paying for your brain tumor yet”.
But if these situations are so uncomfortable, why don’t more people step in? According to Verywell Mind, bystanders often hesitate due to uncertainty and social pressure. In public, people may question whether they’re interpreting the situation correctly or worry about making things worse.
When no one else reacts, it reinforces the idea that staying silent is the safer choice. This is especially true in subtle situations, like overhearing a harsh comment, where stepping in can feel awkward or intrusive, even if it doesn’t feel right to ignore it.
#10
I dated a girl who used to moan about her finances and being broke to her daughter who was about 7 at the time..
A 7 year old does NOT need to be worrying about their parents finances. .
Of course, not all parent-child interactions look like this. Guidance from Nurturing Parenting shows that healthy communication is rooted in patience, empathy, and clear guidance. Instead of reacting harshly, parents can use positive discipline, acknowledge their child’s emotions, and offer constructive feedback that focuses on improvement rather than blame.
By listening actively and responding calmly, they create a space where children feel safe and understood, something that stands in stark contrast to the kinds of moments people tend to remember for all the wrong reasons.
#13
When I was probably 12-14, i was a little picky. Better than some kids, worse than others. I liked McDonald’s quite a bit, my stepmom did not. One summer while I was staying with my dad, she told me I’d be gone before I was 21 if I didn’t change my diet. It’s a miracle I didn’t end up with an eating disorder from her, although sometimes I wonder if I did anyway. I struggle to do much healthy eating even as an adult. I’m not, nor have I ever been overweight, but I struggle to not associate healthy diet with her constant belittling of me.
#15
I decided to move in with my dad. I lived with my Bio mom and stepdad in basically poverty and squalor. And I finally had the guts to tell my mom I didn’t wanna live there anymore. My stepdad told me I was abandoning the family, and the two sons he put up for adoption before he met my mom he did it for me (I was 2 btw). And then he sat me down in front of my mom and sisters and said take a good look at everyone, once you leave we’re moving away and you’ll never see your mom or sisters again. So I bawled hysterically and when my dad picked me up i genuinely believed I would never see any of them again.
At the end of the day, it’s clear that words can leave a lasting impact, especially when they come from the people who are supposed to guide and support us. Whether it’s a moment of frustration taken too far or something said without thinking, these overheard comments are a reminder of just how powerful, and sometimes damaging, a few words can be.
Of course, not every parent-child interaction looks like this. Some are filled with patience and understanding, while others clearly miss the mark. Curious to see just how far things can go? Keep scrolling to read through the most shocking, uncomfortable, and unforgettable things people have overheard, and decide for yourself which ones cross the line!
#16
Years ago, I was in the supermarket. I heard this mother berating her teenage daughter beside her. The mom was like super traditional, and this girl was all gothed out. I run into the girl a few minutes later at a different aisle, and I went up to her and said “don’t worry… in a couple years you won’t ever have to see or talk to that b***h again”.
#18
In Borders I once heard some guy solemnly lecturing his child on how reading stories is a waste of time: "we should only read things that are true, so we don't read story books because you don't want to fill your head with things that aren't real!".
#19
Both of my parents hurt me, and one day out of the blue, in her sinister tone my mother said "If you tell anyone you'll go into the foster system and it'll be way worse for you there". Then she smirked.
It still chills me. She was so calculated and enjoyed it. Sick woman. I'm so glad I cut off contact decades ago and now she's old, alone and is getting her karma.
Some people don't deserve children.
#20
Basically anything my parents ever said to me or my sisters. My MIL calling my SIL an evil woman.
When I was 10, we went to Seaworld and went to a Shamu show. While leaving, this extremely drunk guy told his daughter who looked around 7/8 years old that she’s gonna have to drive him home because his beers were too good. I was horrified as a child but I’m even more horrified as an adult when I think back to it.
#21
Didn’t overhear but listened to a podcast about this lady who was adopted something like 10+ times and one of the last couples to adopt her the wife started to resent her and the husband was hurting her and the wife ended up telling her there was no one in the entire world who loved her and she knew it was true but had never thought about it before and it changed her whole world view 😭.
#22
Wasn’t a parent, it was a pastor, but the parents totally agreed: “You don’t have to worry about what you want to be when you grow up because Jesus will return soon and we’ll go to heaven while everyone else will be gone in the Apocalypse. They won’t need firefighters then.” The kid was seven.
Michael Largey 1 hour ago
Where this guy is going in the afterlife, he would find firefighters very handy to have around.
#23
“You’re kind of like a pancake, the first one never comes out really well”
“Once you move out, hand back in your key. Don’t expect to come move back in at some point when life gets hard for any reason”
“If you ever decided to have kids, don’t think you can dump them on us, we’re not babysitters”
“I love god first, then you”.
#24
Mall escalator - dad to his son that was maybe 12 - "keep it up and you're getting dry toast for dinner". Shut the kid right up.
#25
My dad said im his property so i left and got engaged and took my birth certificate with me.
Michael Largey 1 hour ago
Don't people usually take their birth certificate with them when they leave home to get married?
#26
Most recent, my stepson came back from his moms. He asked me to read his library book to him, because his mom won't read with him or help with his homework. He's in kindergarten so he doesn't have much. But he said she told him his older sister's homework is more important and his doesn't matter.
#27
Idk if this counts, but my mom once talked extensively about how i was sooo much prettier before i got hurt by a man: the way i dressed, the way i do my hair, my make up, etc.
we’ve been no contact for years now, and im all the better for it.
#28
I was at a party and went inside to use the bathroom. A 6 year old child was being punished by being made to stay in the room for the party. The Mom was in there with him and I over heard, “I wish you were never born!!”.
#30
Mom crashed out about her kid doubling his weight in a very short amount of time while under my care. Like yes, lady, an almost three year old shouldn't double his weight in that amount of time, but he was the weight of a healthy newborn when you lost custody. .
#31
Was at the packed ED with my daughter and a couple with a little kid came in cradling her arm. As soon as the woman sat down next to me I heard her comment to the guy with her that it was really busy and that they can get cast stuff at the chemist. She then tells the little girl that it’s too busy and they can fix her at home. The poor little thing said no because it was really hurting. So the mum does what any caring mother would do- she told her she’d get her some McDonalds, then they up and left.
#33
My dad used to tell me regularly that he was going to end himself and my mum and that we would be orphans. Screamed that in my face a few times as a child. Think I was about 5-6 when he first said it to me.
#34
My dad was very emotionally/psychologically/mentally violent. When the next generation arrived and I saw similar patterns, I not only spoke out against the behavior in the moment, I took the child aside and explained how adults have temper tantrums too and they don’t deserve to be spoken to like that.
I still can’t stick up for myself BUT I can for the kids and it’s healing a part of my broken childhood.
#35
Was sitting next to a dad and a 5ish year old on a plane, and the little girl told the dad her seatbelt wasn't loose and he says 'oh it doesn't matter if we crashed you'd be blasted into a million pieces and a seatbelt wouldn't save you'.
#36
The other day I heard a dad tell his maybe 4 or 5 year old little boy to not cry when he hurt himself. He told him really strongly, with a horrible tone, that “we don’t cry” and to “stop crying”. In that moment all that little boy needed was comfort. It broke my heart to see.
My mum told me that when I was 3 and my mum and dad were divorcing, she picked me up from my dads house and I said to her “daddy said he is going to hurt you”. I didn’t remember it until she told me as an adult but some of the things he said to me over the years have been crazy.
#37
My mom told me I ruined her life on the daily. That getting pregnant with me at 15 was her biggest mistake and no matter what she did as a parent, I was still going to end up a criminal like my father.
She would refuse to buy groceries when she was mad. For weeks. I would hide packs of Crackers in my drawer for the weekends. She found them and screamed at me about what a hog I am. I threatened to call CPS on her. She said they would send me to live with my criminal father and his cockroach infested apartment. I never called.
#38
I once heard a guy say, "Luke I am your father" the kid seemed pretty shaken up by that.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 hour ago
I think BP whooshed a little choosing this one out of the comments list and pairing it with an unironic stock photo XD
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Michael Largey 58 minutes ago
My parent never got angry with me They got angry with my behavior plenty of times, but that just showed me that they cared about me and wanted me to be the best person I could be. Yes, I know, I was quite lucky.
Michael Largey 58 minutes ago
My parent never got angry with me They got angry with my behavior plenty of times, but that just showed me that they cared about me and wanted me to be the best person I could be. Yes, I know, I was quite lucky.
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