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Grandpa Makes Family Apologize To Woman By Threatening To Withdraw Wedding Money
Woman managing health with insulin pen, refusing to risk well-being for sisteru2019s wedding photo aesthetic, upsetting family dynamics.
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Grandpa Makes Family Apologize To Woman By Threatening To Withdraw Wedding Money

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Your health should be your priority. Always! However, your family, friends, and coworkers might not always understand just how serious your condition is. They might need some (not so) gentle reminders from time to time. In a very honest post on the AITA online group, internet user u/DiabeticBridesmaid opened up about how her sister, a bride-to-be, tried to pressure her to take off her medical equipment for the wedding. Why? To look better in the photos.

This was something that the diabetic bridesmaid was completely against, and it sparked a bit of a family drama. Scroll down to read the full story, which had a surprisingly positive twist. Bored Panda has reached out to the author, and we’ll update the article once we hear back from her.

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    A diabetic bridesmaid revealed how her sister, a bride-to-be, tried to convince her to take off her medical equipment for the wedding photos

    Woman refuses to remove medical devices at sister’s wedding, prioritizing health over photo aesthetic and upsetting family.

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    As the Big Day approached, the drama took an unexpectedly positive turn

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    Insulin pumps can provide you with more flexibility and precision in your life if you’re diabetic

    The Cleveland Clinic explains that insulin pumps, which are small wearable medical devices, essentially mimic how a person’s pancreas naturally releases insulin.

    These pumps provide a continuous flow of rapid-acting insulin underneath the person’s skin. “Insulin pumps are an alternative to multiple daily injection (MDI) insulin therapy (syringe or pen injections) for people with diabetes who require insulin to manage the condition.”

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    “The technology for insulin pumps is rapidly evolving. All pumps available in the United States today integrate with CGM (continuous glucose monitoring) technology and offer the ability to automatically adjust your insulin needs based on your current glucose levels,” the clinic shares.

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    Insulin pumps can be used by people with Type 1 diabetes, some individuals with Type 2 diabetes, and folks with Type 3c diabetes or monogenic diabetes.

    Here are a few reasons why you may want to use an insulin pump:

    • You find it hard to reach your target blood sugar range using multiple daily injections;
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    However, these pumps might not be the best option if you have problems with manual dexterity, have low vision or blindness, or have issues keeping the equipment attached.

    Standing up for your interests and protecting your boundaries is vital. Especially when it comes to your health

    According to the author of the post, u/DiabeticBridesmaid, she has Type 1 diabetes and wears two medical devices. One is a blood sugar monitor, and the other is an insulin pump. In short, they automatically monitor and regulate her blood sugar levels.

    “This basically means I don’t have to prick my fingers to test blood sugar or give myself insulin injections, the system does that automatically and makes my life way easier.”

    Though the devices are small, the woman’s sister tried to pressure her into taking them off for her wedding, so that the photos would come out better. The author’s mom later pressured her, too. However, nobody should take off essential medical equipment without first consulting their doctor.

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    Luckily, u/DiabeticBridesmaid had other family members in her corner. Her brother and granddad backed her up. Since the latter was paying for the entire wedding in the first place, he had a lot of sway. “Grandpa apparently drove an hour into town this afternoon just to tell my mother how disappointed he was and that he must have gone wrong somewhere raising her. He told her that if they didn’t apologize and make things right, my mom should figure out how to pay for all of the outstanding wedding costs herself.”

    This led to a refreshingly positive twist. The woman’s sister and mom actually apologized to her. Instead, they decided to look for ways to dress the medical equipment up, using a corsage or shawl.

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    In this day and age, it’s also possible for wedding photographers to do some very subtle and graceful photo-editing, too, to hide these devices. Though you could also easily argue that having this equipment is nothing to be ashamed of. They reflect the reality that the bridesmaid is diabetic. It might be healthier for everyone to embrace this reality than to try to cover it up.

    What are your thoughts about the way the entire wedding drama turned out? Has anyone ever asked you to change something crucial about yourself for a big event? If you’re diabetic and have an insulin pump, how would you feel about being told to take it off for wedding photos? How does an insulin pump affect your daily life? Tell us what you think in the comments, at the bottom of this article.

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    The vast majority of internet users stood up for the bridesmaid. Here are their words of support

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    Jonas Grinevičius

    Jonas Grinevičius

    Writer, Senior Writer

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Jonas Grinevičius

    Jonas Grinevičius

    Writer, Senior Writer

    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

    What do you think ?
    Trillian
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she cares that much about a certain 'aesthetic' they can easily be edited out in special picture. But some people, jeez.

    Remi Flynne
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The YTA people!! She can wear the devices where she wants to, she doesn't have to pander to anyone's idea of what looks okay. It's a medical device! It's functional in appearance, not ugly. Why do some brides have this weird obsession with everyone looking the same or being perfect??? We're people, we're all different (cue Life Of Brian 'I'm not' quote 😄). Stop expecting others to conform to daft bride desires for something that lasts one day and is only important in their head and not in reality.

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    Crystalwitch60
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honest to god those YTA trolls are cruel and inhuman scum !! I was glad to read the update love the brother n grandfather x why should she move medical stuff for a bridezilla ! As someone else said PHOTOSHOP THEM OUT FFS build a bridge bridezilla n get over it !! this was 2 yrs ago , I’d love to know how it went on the day , NEVER BUT NEVER remove medical stuff just for a poxy photo !!! its part of real life , sister n mother are major stuck up losers !! blessed be op , x

    kissmychakram
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Normally quite sane people seem to get temporary idiocy around weddings.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially since it’s the MARRIAGE and not the wedding that matter. I got married at the courthouse 24 years ago. We’re still together and going strong. Friends of mine who had big expensive weddings—-and had the nerve to scoff at my small and simple one—-are all divorced now, some more than once. Save your money and your sanity and have a small simple wedding instead of the waste of time and money lavish one. Put that same effort, and money, into something more important and longer lasting than an overly expensive party. Put it towards building a nest egg, or starting a business together, or the down payment on a house instead. That would be the money spent on more worthwhile and lasting—-and equity-building—-pursuits, instead of thrown into the money pit of a lavish wedding and reception.

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    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The yta need a visit from brother and gigachad granpa.

    SheamusFanFrom1987
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd like to jab the YTA fuggnuts with multiple needles because I find the pincushion aesthetic nice, how about that??? I'd understand if OP's bozo bridezilla excuse of a sister was not to pleased if it was some decorative trinkets or accessories which may look gaudy or something (to a level anyway), but this is freakin' medical gear!!! What part of life-or-death doesn't bozo bridezilla and moronic mother get??? As for placing it elsewhere, I'd imagine bozo bridezilla herself wouldn't like to be uncomfortable for the whole ordeal, much less OP who has the condition. Overall, kudos to OP's little bro and grandpa for knocking the much required sense into bridezilla and mummy moronic's collective brains the hard way. Jeez people!!! >:-(

    Bertha Madott
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have THREE in-laws who DIED of diabetes problems. This post makes me sick. Wedding craziness

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's common in my family (type 2, unfortunately) and over the course of my life I've had probably ~10 family members die of diabetes-related issues, including one cousin who died at age 23 from diabetes-caused kidney failure. Some other family members have had to have amputations. I'm pretty snippy-snappy about people who are glib re: diabetes XD

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    Patrick H
    Community Member
    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I found out that my fiance was pulling that kind of shìt, especially to her own family, she would soon be my ex-fiance.

    Sparkle
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have one eye that droops. When my sister got married guess what we did. We considered that my "bad side" all pictures they turned me slightly. No drama needed I had no clue until I was older they had done that. The family is either so stupid they didn't think to do that or the bride is so self-centered that she wouldn't make the adjustments.

    Drema Dixon
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a Type 1 diabetic and I'd tell my family to go f**k themselves if any of that was said to me.

    Beth Wheeler
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your sister and especially your mother knows that these are essential medical equipment and are being UNREASONABLE. You keep wearing them in the place that are the most comfortable for you. The photographer can edit them out of the pics if he or she is good at their job. Has your sister pulled any other bridezilla stunts? Your brother and Grandpa are the best for backing you up for this.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think we can all guess which child is mama’s favorite.

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    Trillian
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she cares that much about a certain 'aesthetic' they can easily be edited out in special picture. But some people, jeez.

    Remi Flynne
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The YTA people!! She can wear the devices where she wants to, she doesn't have to pander to anyone's idea of what looks okay. It's a medical device! It's functional in appearance, not ugly. Why do some brides have this weird obsession with everyone looking the same or being perfect??? We're people, we're all different (cue Life Of Brian 'I'm not' quote 😄). Stop expecting others to conform to daft bride desires for something that lasts one day and is only important in their head and not in reality.

    Load More Replies...
    Crystalwitch60
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honest to god those YTA trolls are cruel and inhuman scum !! I was glad to read the update love the brother n grandfather x why should she move medical stuff for a bridezilla ! As someone else said PHOTOSHOP THEM OUT FFS build a bridge bridezilla n get over it !! this was 2 yrs ago , I’d love to know how it went on the day , NEVER BUT NEVER remove medical stuff just for a poxy photo !!! its part of real life , sister n mother are major stuck up losers !! blessed be op , x

    kissmychakram
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Normally quite sane people seem to get temporary idiocy around weddings.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially since it’s the MARRIAGE and not the wedding that matter. I got married at the courthouse 24 years ago. We’re still together and going strong. Friends of mine who had big expensive weddings—-and had the nerve to scoff at my small and simple one—-are all divorced now, some more than once. Save your money and your sanity and have a small simple wedding instead of the waste of time and money lavish one. Put that same effort, and money, into something more important and longer lasting than an overly expensive party. Put it towards building a nest egg, or starting a business together, or the down payment on a house instead. That would be the money spent on more worthwhile and lasting—-and equity-building—-pursuits, instead of thrown into the money pit of a lavish wedding and reception.

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    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The yta need a visit from brother and gigachad granpa.

    SheamusFanFrom1987
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd like to jab the YTA fuggnuts with multiple needles because I find the pincushion aesthetic nice, how about that??? I'd understand if OP's bozo bridezilla excuse of a sister was not to pleased if it was some decorative trinkets or accessories which may look gaudy or something (to a level anyway), but this is freakin' medical gear!!! What part of life-or-death doesn't bozo bridezilla and moronic mother get??? As for placing it elsewhere, I'd imagine bozo bridezilla herself wouldn't like to be uncomfortable for the whole ordeal, much less OP who has the condition. Overall, kudos to OP's little bro and grandpa for knocking the much required sense into bridezilla and mummy moronic's collective brains the hard way. Jeez people!!! >:-(

    Bertha Madott
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have THREE in-laws who DIED of diabetes problems. This post makes me sick. Wedding craziness

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's common in my family (type 2, unfortunately) and over the course of my life I've had probably ~10 family members die of diabetes-related issues, including one cousin who died at age 23 from diabetes-caused kidney failure. Some other family members have had to have amputations. I'm pretty snippy-snappy about people who are glib re: diabetes XD

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    Patrick H
    Community Member
    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I found out that my fiance was pulling that kind of shìt, especially to her own family, she would soon be my ex-fiance.

    Sparkle
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have one eye that droops. When my sister got married guess what we did. We considered that my "bad side" all pictures they turned me slightly. No drama needed I had no clue until I was older they had done that. The family is either so stupid they didn't think to do that or the bride is so self-centered that she wouldn't make the adjustments.

    Drema Dixon
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a Type 1 diabetic and I'd tell my family to go f**k themselves if any of that was said to me.

    Beth Wheeler
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your sister and especially your mother knows that these are essential medical equipment and are being UNREASONABLE. You keep wearing them in the place that are the most comfortable for you. The photographer can edit them out of the pics if he or she is good at their job. Has your sister pulled any other bridezilla stunts? Your brother and Grandpa are the best for backing you up for this.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think we can all guess which child is mama’s favorite.

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