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Lily Allen’s Heartbreaking Confession Has Internet Split Over Whether David Harbour Should Be Fired
Lily Allen, 40, has finally opened up about what life is like for her post David Harbour, 50, who had allegedly been cheating on her for three years of their marriage.
The revelations come days before her new album, West End Girl, drops, the contents of which are “14 startling pop songs, alternately angry, despairing and defiant,” and all of them about Harbour’s deception.
Highlights
- Lily Allen says her marriage to David Harbour fell apart after discovering his profile on Raya.
- West End Girl features 14 tracks described as angry, despairing, and defiant — all inspired by betrayal.
- Social media remains divided, with some calling for accountability and others defending Harbour’s career.
The conversation has since spilled over onto social media, where fans are marveling at the fact that Harbour continues to get work, despite his widely documented treatment of Allen.
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A netizen posted an image of Allen and Harbour when they were still an item and wrote:
“Men will literally blow up homes and have affairs for YEARS to the point of making the women they were married to [want to take their own lives].”
“[Yet they will STILL] be booking roles in Hollywood no matter what,” the poster concluded before labelling him “disgusting.”
The image stirred up dissent among fans.
Some netizens feel that while Harbour was wrong for cheating, he should not be cancelled
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“If you don’t have the […] to leave your wife because you’re unhappy and decide to cheat you are a […] loser point blank,” wrote an Allen sympathizer.
“The moment you choose to marry is the moment you choose to be legally honest to them, if you can’t do that, legal repercussions should happen.”
Others felt that while Harbour was wrong for cheating, it should not affect his work.
“Cheating is horrendous and a coward’s thing,” wrote one person bearing the sentiment. “No excuses. But it has nothing to do with your job.”
Allen caught Harbour cheating on the same dating app they met
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Allen discovered her husband’s infidelity when she signed up on the celebrity dating app Raya under the auspices of looking for other women.
She discovered Harbour’s profile, which then led to the revelation that he had been seeing a younger colleague for three of the four years they were married.
It is worth noting that the two met on the same app before tying the knot in 2020.
Speaking to People in February 2025, a source indicated that Allen and Harbour’s marriage had “been crumbling.”
Allen admitted in February that the separation was taking a toll on her mental health
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While the Not Fair singer did not at the time divulge why she and Harbour were parting ways at the time, she admitted that it was taking a toll on her mental health.
She expanded on these admissions in an October 21 interview with Perfect Magazine, saying:
“I also think that what was going on in my life was really confusing, because I didn’t actually know what was going on in my life. I wasn’t sure what was real, and what was in my head.
Her new record West End Girl revolves around her failed marriage to David Harbour
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Allen also hinted that the songs in her new album were inspired by real life events.
“There are definitely some things that happened in my real life that are reflected on this record,” she told celeb commentator Alex Bilmes.
As a nod to this, Bilmes described the record as “alternately angry, despairing and defiant.”
“Each track opens a new chapter in a sad and sometimes sordid story, and each is delivered with Allen’s bravura combination of angelic voice, acid tongue.”
She claimed that Harbour has still not revealed the full extent of his unfaithfulness
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In the interview, Allen claimed that her husband has still not divulged the extent of his extramarital deceptions.
“So there’s a certain amount of, like, joining dots. When you are not given answers, your brain is full of lots of questions.
“And if nobody’s willing to answer those questions, then your brain starts to answer them for you. And so I think some of that maybe happened here.”
Allen admitted cheating in her previous marriage to Sam Cooper
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The furore has drawn attention to Allen’s previous marriage to Sam Cooper between 2011 and 2018.
In the year their marriage ended, Allen admitted cheating on Cooper.
“I slept with female escorts when I was on tour, cause I was lost and lonely and looking for something. I’m not proud, but I’m not ashamed. I don’t do it anymore,” she wrote on her Instagram account.
“The [Daily]Mail are gonna run with the story tomorrow ‘cause someone leaked it, and they’re bound to make it sound worse than it was. Just wanted to give you Er, the ‘heads up’!”
It appears that netizens are unclear on Allen’s interpretation of the “cheating”
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Social media has since rallied around this admission, and her later declarations to another commentator Jonathan Ross, that she did not see sleeping with escorts as cheating.
“So did he cheat on her with women? Because she just established that’s not cheating,” wrote one netizen, holding Allen to her own standards.
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Enlee Jones 5 months ago
LOL If everyone in Hollywood got fired for cheating there would be no one left.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 months ago (edited)
Researched Lily Allen after another Panda mentioned that she'd cheated on her first husband, and found this: "Allen posted on Instagram that she had paid for sèx with female escorts in 2014 whilst married to [Sam] Cooper, and whilst on tour promoting 'Sheezus'." - "Allen said that 'I'm not proud, but I'm not ashamed' " - "Speaking on the The Jonathan Ross Show, Allen said she did not regard the sèx as 'cheating' on her then-husband Sam Cooper as the prostitutes were women." - "In 'My Thoughts Exactly', Allen writes that she had an affair with Liam Gallagher when he was married to Nicole Appleton. In mid-2015, Allen and Cooper broke up, after she told him about her acts of infidelity." Holy shiz, talk about the "pot calling the kettle black"! And "it's not cheating because I slept with women"? Wow, just wow. Not justifying Harbour's cheating (cheating is always sh!tty) but Lily Allen is a complete hypocrite! And apparently she wasn't even ASHAMED that she'd cheated!
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FreeTheUnicorn 5 months ago
I don't think infidelity is a reason to not hire someone. It's definitely a reason not to date or marry someone, but I don't think it should have an affect on professional life any more than who you date or marry should. It's s****y behaviour but not a buse, and people who treat it that way are really disrespeting what a buse is. No one's romantic/s*x life should affect their career. If there's violence, that's a crime and criminal record should definitely affect someone's career
FreeTheUnicorn 5 months ago (edited)
I suppose marriage counselor or clergy could lose their careers over infidelity, but even then, it doesn't make the counsel bad, but I think the credibility of the counsellor would be shot. Also if you're making drama at work. Like if they were both on the project and it blew up, then it would be ok to fire one.
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Tiilynn 5 months ago
So...American's are holding an ACTOR to a higher moral standard than their PRESIDENT? OK. This is getting stooopid.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 months ago
Hey, hey, now, don't lump us ALL together. A large percentage of us loathe the Orange Thing and think he's an amoral/asocial borderline psychopath. I DGAF about any actor/actress/singer/dancer cheating on their spouse in terms of "they should be fired for cheating!!" but our president? He's the head of state of our country and represents as close as we get to nobility. Our president ABSOLUTELY should be ethical and moral and follow the "rules/laws" of our societal norms. I don't care about anyone else cheating (in terms of standards; I think cheating is sh!tty and cheaters are a-holes regardless) unless they're similarly representative of our society's moral and ethical rules/laws.
Load More Replies... Enlee Jones 5 months ago
LOL If everyone in Hollywood got fired for cheating there would be no one left.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 months ago (edited)
Researched Lily Allen after another Panda mentioned that she'd cheated on her first husband, and found this: "Allen posted on Instagram that she had paid for sèx with female escorts in 2014 whilst married to [Sam] Cooper, and whilst on tour promoting 'Sheezus'." - "Allen said that 'I'm not proud, but I'm not ashamed' " - "Speaking on the The Jonathan Ross Show, Allen said she did not regard the sèx as 'cheating' on her then-husband Sam Cooper as the prostitutes were women." - "In 'My Thoughts Exactly', Allen writes that she had an affair with Liam Gallagher when he was married to Nicole Appleton. In mid-2015, Allen and Cooper broke up, after she told him about her acts of infidelity." Holy shiz, talk about the "pot calling the kettle black"! And "it's not cheating because I slept with women"? Wow, just wow. Not justifying Harbour's cheating (cheating is always sh!tty) but Lily Allen is a complete hypocrite! And apparently she wasn't even ASHAMED that she'd cheated!
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 5 months ago
I don't think infidelity is a reason to not hire someone. It's definitely a reason not to date or marry someone, but I don't think it should have an affect on professional life any more than who you date or marry should. It's s****y behaviour but not a buse, and people who treat it that way are really disrespeting what a buse is. No one's romantic/s*x life should affect their career. If there's violence, that's a crime and criminal record should definitely affect someone's career
FreeTheUnicorn 5 months ago (edited)
I suppose marriage counselor or clergy could lose their careers over infidelity, but even then, it doesn't make the counsel bad, but I think the credibility of the counsellor would be shot. Also if you're making drama at work. Like if they were both on the project and it blew up, then it would be ok to fire one.
Load More Replies... Tiilynn 5 months ago
So...American's are holding an ACTOR to a higher moral standard than their PRESIDENT? OK. This is getting stooopid.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 months ago
Hey, hey, now, don't lump us ALL together. A large percentage of us loathe the Orange Thing and think he's an amoral/asocial borderline psychopath. I DGAF about any actor/actress/singer/dancer cheating on their spouse in terms of "they should be fired for cheating!!" but our president? He's the head of state of our country and represents as close as we get to nobility. Our president ABSOLUTELY should be ethical and moral and follow the "rules/laws" of our societal norms. I don't care about anyone else cheating (in terms of standards; I think cheating is sh!tty and cheaters are a-holes regardless) unless they're similarly representative of our society's moral and ethical rules/laws.
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