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Human beings are fascinating creatures. We’re capable of incredible kindness, breathtaking generosity, and acts of courage that can restore your faith in humanity. But if you spend enough time observing people or simply scrolling through the internet, you’ll quickly discover that we also have some less flattering tendencies that are a lot harder to talk about.
Every now and then, someone asks a question that cuts through the usual small talk and forces people to be brutally honest. When netizens were asked to share the dark truths about human behavior that are uncomfortable but consistently true, the responses were insightful, unsettling, and surprisingly relatable.
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#1
I always think of Carl Jung's observation: that which irritates you about other people can lead you to a greater understanding of yourself.
Its humbling and invites self-reflection.
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#2
Not all destructive behaviors towards others are explainable by a mental health condition. People may sincerely have bad intentions, from the smallest misdeeds to the worse crimes.
LizzieBoredom 1 day ago
I'm making extra cash at my new side hustle: "Dirty Deeds Done Dirt Cheap".
Many of the observations people make about human behavior touch on questions that psychologists and philosophers have debated for centuries. As Psychology Fanatic explains, human nature refers to the traits and tendencies people share simply by being human, but there is no single agreement on what those traits are.
Instead, the concept explores how much of our behavior is innate and how much is shaped by experience. The publication also notes that people often struggle with a gap between who they believe they are and who they actually are, creating tension when self-image, ideals, and reality fail to align.
#4
Psychopaths thrive.
Capitalism is perfect for people without empathy to thrive. The decisions you need to make to be rich (really rich) isn't possible for someone who has empathy and wants to sleep at night.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
They always talk about "market forces". Those forces will foreclose on your grandmother, sell your children h****n, and create a health care system like we have in the US.
#5
The majority of adults are just children in adult bodies.
Tabitha 1 day ago (edited)
Thing is, you can be youthful even when you’re older, and that’s a good thing because it has to do with your outlook on life—-being open to new ideas and new experiences that are outside of your comfort zone—-which is youthful but tempered by the wisdom gleaned from your life experiences. There’s a difference between youthful and immature. You can also be immature at any age, but it’s not a good thing, and is very unbecoming of someone who is old enough to know better.
#6
Humans are social beings. So I think they wouldn’t call something out if it would go against a group.
People often care more about being part of a group than being right.
That disconnect may also explain why uncomfortable truths are so difficult to accept. Branding expert and CEO Andy Stalman argues that people naturally resist information that threatens their identity, sense of belonging, or emotional security.
Because beliefs are closely tied to how we see ourselves, challenging them can feel like a personal attack rather than an opportunity to learn. Instead of changing their minds, many people reduce the discomfort of cognitive dissonance by dismissing evidence, questioning its source, or reinforcing the beliefs they already hold.
#7
Stupid people Are happiest.
#8
If you're too nice, you're asking to get burned. Empathy without boundaries attracts manipulative and toxic people, just like honey attracts bears.
That’s all I yam 1 day ago (edited)
"Boundaries are a prerequisite for compassion and empathy. We can't connect with someone unless we're clear about where we end and they begin. If there's no autonomy between people, then there's no compassion or empathy, just enmeshment." (Brene Brown, Atlas of the Heart) Brene Brown, PhD holds the Huffington Foundation Endowed Chair at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has a multiple videos on YouTube about empathy. (Brene Brown, YouTube)
#9
Most people don’t really care for you other than your loved ones. Friendships come and go. Most friendships are conditional and based on convenience.
Rick Murray 1 day ago
Yup. I got on well with a bunch of nurses, but when I moved to France, didn't hear a peep out of any of them. Out of sight, out of mind.
Even so, harsh observations often feel convincing because they appear to cut through wishful thinking. Psychology Today points out that cynicism can seem intelligent because it protects people from disappointment while projecting confidence and skepticism.
In some environments, expecting the worst is even rewarded as a sign of maturity, making pessimistic viewpoints feel more credible than hopeful ones. At the same time, they note that difficult truths can be valuable when they expose denial or encourage honest self-reflection instead of simply promoting negativity.
#10
If you don't lay down boundaries when you meet someone and develop a rapport with them, they'll always think it's okay to cross and drive u crazy.
#11
Don't put anything past anyone.
Anyone is capable of anything given the circumstances.
#12
Only around 1/3 of us carries an inner monolog or conscious.
Rick Murray 1 day ago
😯 Well, mine *never* shuts up, so maybe it is doing to work to cover the statistical two that don't have it. But, as noisy as my head is, I can't imagine a world without the constant snarky chatter.
Our tendency to embrace certain explanations also stems from the brain's desire to create order. Theoretical and integrative psychology theorist RJ Starr explains that humans are natural pattern-seekers because recognizing patterns once helped our ancestors survive in uncertain environments.
Although this instinct remains useful today, it can also cause people to find meaning in coincidences or random events that are not actually connected. The brain prefers a coherent story over ambiguity, even if that story is flawed, which is why ideas that feel deeply insightful are not always as accurate as they seem.
#13
People that tell you that they love you, also cause the deepest and most brutal hurt in you.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 day ago
Haha, yep, thanks, Mom! I'm 44 and the hurting hasn't stopped yet!
#14
We're more willing to forgive our actions because we judge the value of our intentions, but such grace is seldom extended to others.
When someone else is confronted with their bad behavior their reasoning is an excuse.
When you're confronted with your own bad behavior, your reasoning is an explanation.
#15
Only your mom and dog actually care about you. Everyone else is just vying for their own interests .
As uncomfortable as some of these observations may be, there's a reason so many people related to them. Dark truths about human behavior tend to stick with us because they often contain a grain of reality we've witnessed firsthand whether in our workplaces, friendships, families, or even in ourselves. Acknowledging these patterns doesn't mean becoming cynical, it simply means seeing people a little more clearly.
I don't think just everyone agrees on which truths are universal and which are shaped by personal experiences. Some people believe human nature is fundamentally selfish, while others argue that kindness and cooperation are just as deeply ingrained.
#16
How people will justify their poor behavior and lies. I will never understand how people can be so deceiving and manipulative and look you straight in the eyes and lie about it all.
Rick Murray 1 day ago
Bad parents. Some children learn very early on that it's safer to lie than to tell the truth. That eventually will establish as a life long pattern.
#17
If you think you're the exception, you probably arent. human behavior repeats itself and is actually more of an anomaly to change repetitive behaviors.
#18
Most people exist at the surface level of human interaction. If the truth about the dark sides human behavior surfaced for everyone at once the world would stop functioning.
Curious to see where you stand? Keep reading through these responses and decide for yourself which insights feel surprisingly accurate, and which ones you're not quite ready to accept!
#19
Your usefulness to others and how useful they are to you are the basis of relationships.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
Usefulness can be a pretty broad concept with numerous and diverse applications. So, yeah.
#20
People who humble brag and talk about their achievements too much when it’s unwarranted are deeply insecure and want to feel superior to everyone else. There’s a huge difference between confident and arrogant, and you can tell when their “kind” efforts are really just self promotion acts.
GlitterPanda 42 minutes ago
deeply insecure, yes. It isn't always about wanting to feel superior though, it can also be just a misguided attempt to feel good enough
#21
People will pull you down to their level and play the victim card in the end.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
Bold of the OP to assume that my direction towards other people's level is down.
#22
There’s no real concept of unconditional in human relationships. Everything is transactional.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
Then this statement about human relationships is not unconditionally true.
#23
Kindness and survival don’t go well together. If you want to be the fittest, you have to be the most flexible. Kindness is rigid. It’s you or the other.
#24
Some people, men and women don`t accept a "no" as an answer. They get very offended, when you don`t want to go on a date with them.
People try to force their religion on you.
People think, that you`re not a grown adult, until you have kids. Sorry, but not gonna happen.
Rick Murray 1 day ago
Well, I'm 52 and an always low-key surprised when people *do* think I'm a grown adult. I mean, we're all faking this as best we can, aren't we?
#25
Humans have not evolved as much as we think. Humans are mammals and still act like animals, because we are.
That’s all I yam 1 day ago (edited)
Copied from my response to WindySwede: For years, I taught an animal behavior course from fish through mammals. The diversity of behaviors and physiology in specific environments is fascinating. Not surprisingly, everything supports procreation and success of future generations; without this, species disappear. Evolutionary psychology studies human traits like memory and perception as evolved adaptations, often looking at what it took our early ancestors to survive and ensure future generations. As an aside, this gives me extra considerations when I read BP threads.
#26
People will hurt me if I let them. I’ve been betrayed and a****d too many times to count. How I react says everything about who I am and it’s on them to do better. I’m over doing all of the work for people who are careless and mean.
Multa Nocte (she/her/86 47) 1 day ago
If you wear a "victim" sign all the time, people will start to believe you.
#27
People act in rational self interest. Also - most of human behavior, as informed by conscious/subconscious views, is conditioned by culture.
If culturally accepted, most people are capable of most good/bad things.
#28
Most people will dig their graves, and kneel in them, waiting on a savior. Those same people stood on their porches watching the powers that should not be cart off their neighbors who spoke up.
#29
People constantly lie to themselves to justify behaviors that are selfish and instinctual.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
And then there are those who don't feel they have to justify anything - to themselves or others.
#30
95% of the population are conforming without even realizing it. Some level of conformity is actually required in order to be deemed “sane”. Just sayin.
Michael Largey 1 day ago
Common behavior is not always the result of conforming. Sometimes it's the consequence of logic and facts.
#31
If given the chance in the evening, we WILL look at you inside your house if the shades are not drawn shut, while walking by. And we hear all your s**t, too.
#32
Platonic friendships between men and women do not exist, there is always an extra interest from one side.
What do you think ?
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