Recently, a man turned to the AITA community to find out whether it was wrong to refuse to go to his sister’s child-free wedding.
In a post that amassed 1.2k comments and 6.6k upvotes, Redditor Humble-Village-2053 explained that his sister is getting married next month to his best friend.
“Everything was going fine until she told me it was a child-free wedding,” he wrote. “That would be fine with my wife and I because we would just drop off my son and daughter at my wife’s parents or with their godparents,” he explained.
The problem is that the bride asked the author’s kids to be the ring bearer and the flower girl. “Apparently, they want the kids to perform their duties at the wedding but then not attend the reception.”
Read on below to find out how the whole situation unfolded and what made the author decide not to attend his sister’s big day.
Dad decides not to attend his sister’s and his best friend’s wedding because it’s a child-free wedding and he would need to leave his whole family alone in a cabin
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Later, the author shared more information in response to these comments
More people shared their reactions to the whole situation
What a great husband and father to not put up with this BS. Bride isn't the cool aunt, she just wants people to *think* she's the cool aunt. She's treating her niece and nephew like props to make her look good. Also it sounds like they asked the kids before asking the parents? That's crazy. Makes me think they knew OP would never have agreed to their conditions, so they got the kids hyped about it thinking he would cave to them. He offered reasonable compromises, bride and groom gave him no choice but to back out completely. Good for him for sticking up for his wife and not letting his kids be treated like props!
Beat me to it Rahul. I came here to post: This man/father is great. Taking his wife's side and no bs from others. Love it.
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NTA. I'm all for childfree weddings, but then it should be completely childfree. Do they expect kids to carry on their duties and then just disappear into thin air? Or leave by themselves? Or their parents should leave in the middle of ceremony to drop their kids off? That's ridiculous.
They're expecting the best man's wife, a mere in-law, to accept not being able to be there because she's busy with childcare while the best man, a REAL family member (or so their behavior suggests) focuses his entire life on THEM.
Load More Replies... What is it with these Bridezillas who think everything is about what they want and totally forget about the comfort of their guests? It's like they consider the guests to just be props in their theatrical productions.
What a great husband and father to not put up with this BS. Bride isn't the cool aunt, she just wants people to *think* she's the cool aunt. She's treating her niece and nephew like props to make her look good. Also it sounds like they asked the kids before asking the parents? That's crazy. Makes me think they knew OP would never have agreed to their conditions, so they got the kids hyped about it thinking he would cave to them. He offered reasonable compromises, bride and groom gave him no choice but to back out completely. Good for him for sticking up for his wife and not letting his kids be treated like props!
Beat me to it Rahul. I came here to post: This man/father is great. Taking his wife's side and no bs from others. Love it.
Load More Replies... NTA. I'm all for childfree weddings, but then it should be completely childfree. Do they expect kids to carry on their duties and then just disappear into thin air? Or leave by themselves? Or their parents should leave in the middle of ceremony to drop their kids off? That's ridiculous.
They're expecting the best man's wife, a mere in-law, to accept not being able to be there because she's busy with childcare while the best man, a REAL family member (or so their behavior suggests) focuses his entire life on THEM.
Load More Replies... What is it with these Bridezillas who think everything is about what they want and totally forget about the comfort of their guests? It's like they consider the guests to just be props in their theatrical productions.
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