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Mom Threatens To Take Ex-Husband To Court If He And His Mistress Won’t Leave Her Child Alone
A split in the family is hard for everyone to navigate and process, but for one person, their life across two families was put under extraordinary stress. Their father, who had an affair, left, and started a new family, tried to force them into an ethical dilemma that most of us can’t imagine facing.
College funds are a key part of many families’ plans for the future, as a higher education can unlock countless opportunities. This person’s father, however, jeopardized that college fund by asking to empty it to treat a deadly illness in the family he created after he left.
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Parents shouldn’t force their children into difficult ethical choices if they can help it
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One person’s father tried to foist responsibility for his second family’s health issues onto his first family
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Eventually, the author added an update after discussing the issue further with their mother
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Is it fair to place such a decision/responsibility on a teen’s shoulders?
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The author’s post raises interesting questions about what responsibilities parents have towards their children. Many feel that it’s more than just feeding, clothing and housing our children, but how about the emotional aspects of their lives?
As many commenters pointed out, the father exposed his child to a difficult ethical decision – one that they didn’t really need to be subjected to. The author seems to feel that they are deciding between potentially life-saving treatment and their college security, but as most commenters agree, the responsibility for the treatment lies entirely upon the father and the half-brother’s mother. An argument could be made if the author and the father’s new family shared a close relationship, but it does not seem like this is the case.
Commenters were overwhelmingly supportive, emphasizing that the father’s problem was not the child’s responsibility
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Tracy Sellars 2 years ago
The most disgusting part of this is a family has to go bankrupt because of a medical issue.
Tamra 2 years ago
I could not agree more. First and foremost, this is a sad commentary on the state of US healthcare. The fools who fight against socialized healthcare seem to forget, or don't care, that some of the ones who fall through the cracks are children.
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JesseyM 2 years ago
OP's dad got upset with OP's mom for not giving enough?!? Be gracious that she even gave you anything. What the hell
Elizabeth Basinger 2 years ago
The National Kidney Foundation has assistance available for this. There are also Medicare and medicaid programs that are designed for this. In some cases, the mom can receive Medicare payments as his caregiver. They just need to do their homework instead of guilt-triipping. Also, most hospitals have charitable organizations to help with situations like this. I worked for a large healthcare system and had to have a double-organ transplant, so I know there is help out there. It's just a matter of taking the initiative to look for and apply to them.
Madolyn Fulfhome 2 years ago
How sad this case is. I'm from the UK and so thankful that this would never happen here - the treatment would be available free at the point of care, all of it, the medications, hospital stays, the surgeries, the after care - everything. This mum sounds like an amazing woman. I do hope the little boy gets well.
Gardener of Weeden 2 years ago
usa - pay out the azz for medical care all while the rich get tax breaks. I read that if the rich were forced to pay their fair share in taxes, the social security fund would be fully balanced. Beautiful dream right? ( I am from the usa)
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the_avenging_knight 2 years ago
NTA. Your mom doesn't own him anything. I feel awful for the kid though. Could step mom get a job?
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Stepmom is still a SAHM, even though the kids are school age? F**k the homeschooling b******t. The kids can go to public school—-probably set back a grade or two because of stepmom’s homeschooling b******t—-and stepmom can get her a*s to work to help pay bills for children that are HERS too! (Why TF is it always the least educated and therefore the least qualified people who decide to “homeschool” their kids? I pity those kids when they supposedly “graduate” and try to get a job or into college, and find out just how much they were never taught and how academically far behind everyone else they are.)
Amelia Jade 2 years ago
Hahaha. Ok. Homeschooled all three of my kids until high school. Only put them in high school for the accredited diploma. Oldest scored a perfect score in her ACTs and was awarded three scholarships and invited to attend honors college. Middle kid graduated top of his class at 16. Youngest is still in school but is making straight As. But please, keep going on about a topic you know nothing about. Your ignorance is amusing. Also, how do you know this woman is uneducated an unqualified?
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Doodles1983 2 years ago
Wow. His mum matched the dads contributions as a gift. Generous woman! Also, a ten year old knows enough, with the support of a mediator/child advocate, to be able to understand and consent. In my opinion. Especially in this day and age. I feel sorry for the OP. And the kid(ney) kid. And that they live in a place without free healthcare. OP and mum reached the best compromise (returning dads donated fund money)and mum tried to exceed it and still not good enough? OP will never see money back. Or will be asked to top up income or cover debts forever, which isn’t his responsibility.
Tracy Sellars 2 years ago
The most disgusting part of this is a family has to go bankrupt because of a medical issue.
Tamra 2 years ago
I could not agree more. First and foremost, this is a sad commentary on the state of US healthcare. The fools who fight against socialized healthcare seem to forget, or don't care, that some of the ones who fall through the cracks are children.
Load More Replies... JesseyM 2 years ago
OP's dad got upset with OP's mom for not giving enough?!? Be gracious that she even gave you anything. What the hell
Elizabeth Basinger 2 years ago
The National Kidney Foundation has assistance available for this. There are also Medicare and medicaid programs that are designed for this. In some cases, the mom can receive Medicare payments as his caregiver. They just need to do their homework instead of guilt-triipping. Also, most hospitals have charitable organizations to help with situations like this. I worked for a large healthcare system and had to have a double-organ transplant, so I know there is help out there. It's just a matter of taking the initiative to look for and apply to them.
Madolyn Fulfhome 2 years ago
How sad this case is. I'm from the UK and so thankful that this would never happen here - the treatment would be available free at the point of care, all of it, the medications, hospital stays, the surgeries, the after care - everything. This mum sounds like an amazing woman. I do hope the little boy gets well.
Gardener of Weeden 2 years ago
usa - pay out the azz for medical care all while the rich get tax breaks. I read that if the rich were forced to pay their fair share in taxes, the social security fund would be fully balanced. Beautiful dream right? ( I am from the usa)
Load More Replies... the_avenging_knight 2 years ago
NTA. Your mom doesn't own him anything. I feel awful for the kid though. Could step mom get a job?
Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)
Stepmom is still a SAHM, even though the kids are school age? F**k the homeschooling b******t. The kids can go to public school—-probably set back a grade or two because of stepmom’s homeschooling b******t—-and stepmom can get her a*s to work to help pay bills for children that are HERS too! (Why TF is it always the least educated and therefore the least qualified people who decide to “homeschool” their kids? I pity those kids when they supposedly “graduate” and try to get a job or into college, and find out just how much they were never taught and how academically far behind everyone else they are.)
Amelia Jade 2 years ago
Hahaha. Ok. Homeschooled all three of my kids until high school. Only put them in high school for the accredited diploma. Oldest scored a perfect score in her ACTs and was awarded three scholarships and invited to attend honors college. Middle kid graduated top of his class at 16. Youngest is still in school but is making straight As. But please, keep going on about a topic you know nothing about. Your ignorance is amusing. Also, how do you know this woman is uneducated an unqualified?
Load More Replies... Doodles1983 2 years ago
Wow. His mum matched the dads contributions as a gift. Generous woman! Also, a ten year old knows enough, with the support of a mediator/child advocate, to be able to understand and consent. In my opinion. Especially in this day and age. I feel sorry for the OP. And the kid(ney) kid. And that they live in a place without free healthcare. OP and mum reached the best compromise (returning dads donated fund money)and mum tried to exceed it and still not good enough? OP will never see money back. Or will be asked to top up income or cover debts forever, which isn’t his responsibility.
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