Lady Lets Crush Use Washer, Throws Him And His Soaking Wet Clothes Out After Seeing His True Colors
Having a crush can either be the most magical experience or the worst, depending on whether the other person reciprocates. Sometimes, though, even before things have a chance to progress, folks might lose their crush, especially if they see the other individual’s true colors.
This is what happened to one woman who was willing to go to any lengths to help out her neighbor, whom she had the hots for, until she realized that he was just using her. That’s when she decided to kick him and his trash bags full of wet clothes out.
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It can be painful to learn that a crush isn’t reciprocated, and even worse to know that the other person was just using you all along
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The woman shared that she had been infatuated with her neighbor for months, and that when he mentioned his washing machine was broken, she jumped at a chance to help
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The poster spent hours deep cleaning her home, buying expensive food, and preparing everything for her crush, but he seemed disinterested when he arrived
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The man expected the poster to wash his three trash bags full of clothes while he ate her food, drank her wine, and scrolled on his phone
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When the poster found out the man’s real intentions, she kicked him and his wet clothes out, but he painted her as being “psychotic” to their other neighbors
Since the poster had been infatuated with her neighbor for almost six months, she jumped at the chance to help him when his washing machine broke down. Even though she was essentially helping him get his chores done, she saw the situation more like a date and began preparing for it in all earnest.
Although most folks might be pretty sensible in other situations, usually when they have a crush on someone else, all logic seems to go out the window. That’s exactly what experts say, and they explain that such feelings have the capacity to trigger the brain’s reward system very easily, which can result in many behavioral changes.
It’s clear that the OP was probably experiencing that, which is why she spent two hours deep cleaning her apartment and bought expensive groceries just to impress her crush. Unfortunately, when he came over, he just handed her the bags of dirty laundry, ignored her, and didn’t even appreciate any of her efforts.
According to professionals, when someone uses another person for their own personal gain or benefit, like this, it often signals that the relationship is one-sided. Even if both folks seem to have a good connection, if one individual is always making an effort for the other, without receiving anything in return, it’s usually a red flag.
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At first, the OP tried her best to brush off the man’s bad behavior and did whatever she could to make him feel welcome. Only after he ate all the food, drank her expensive wine, and joked with friends about ditching her to come to the club, did she realize that he had been using her all along.
That’s when she finally snapped and pulled out all of his wet clothes from her running washing machine and stuffed them back into his garbage bags. She then angrily handed the shocked man his stuff back and told him to get out of her house immediately.
In situations like this, where a person might have had a bad interaction with their crush or seen their true colors, it’s common for the scales to fall from their eyes. Relationship experts state that this break in their fantasy can help people see the reality for what it is and figure out if they are truly into the other person or not.
Since the woman had been so deeply hurt by her neighbor, she was glad to kick him out and lost all feelings for him. Unfortunately, he got annoyed by her behavior and tried to spread rumors in their building that she had invited him over just to trap him, and that she threw a fit for no reason.
What do you think about the woman’s actions, and do you feel she was justified in kicking the man out? We’d love to hear your opinions on this story.
Most people took the poster’s side and felt that it was good that she finally saw her crush’s true colors
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I think he was rude to the extreme - not even bothering to talk to her or thank her for the dinner and chugging the wine without asking was awful. That being said, all he "owed" her was politeness, because she didn't ask him on a date, she offered the use of her laundry facilities and dinner. He just took advantage of her offer and was a d*ck about it.
Lol. Next time he says you trashed him for no reason, just say "oh, right nothing to do with you coming over with 3 trash bags of clothing, eating all my food and drinking my wine without asking then?"...
And his reply is that she offered to make dinner. It's on her that she made the dinner a date. He just came to wash his clothes and eat. Yes he was rude by not making small talk and drinking straight from the bottle - although that could be a habit of not making more guess dirty, he finished the wine so how much was left anyway. He felt a little too much at home.
Load More Replies...I don't think this guy was deceitful - she offered to let him use her washer, he took her up on it. Yes, he was definately a jerk - she was doing him a favour, and he wasn't polite or neighbourly in his behaviour in her house. He should have been polite and appreciative. Where her behaviour comes in is: She was not honest about her expectations. She offered to let him use her laundry machines and she tried to make it into a date. She effectively "nice guyed" the man, and then got pissed because her "nice" behaviour didn't make him see her as anything other than an over-solicitous neighbour. Then, she fumed silently, instead of setting boundries "Oh, I meant one load, I wasn't planning on three entire binbags full." Or "Please don't go into my refrigerator, this isn't your mom's house." He was rude, but she was not being upfront about what she expected from him.
I think he was rude to the extreme - not even bothering to talk to her or thank her for the dinner and chugging the wine without asking was awful. That being said, all he "owed" her was politeness, because she didn't ask him on a date, she offered the use of her laundry facilities and dinner. He just took advantage of her offer and was a d*ck about it.
Lol. Next time he says you trashed him for no reason, just say "oh, right nothing to do with you coming over with 3 trash bags of clothing, eating all my food and drinking my wine without asking then?"...
And his reply is that she offered to make dinner. It's on her that she made the dinner a date. He just came to wash his clothes and eat. Yes he was rude by not making small talk and drinking straight from the bottle - although that could be a habit of not making more guess dirty, he finished the wine so how much was left anyway. He felt a little too much at home.
Load More Replies...I don't think this guy was deceitful - she offered to let him use her washer, he took her up on it. Yes, he was definately a jerk - she was doing him a favour, and he wasn't polite or neighbourly in his behaviour in her house. He should have been polite and appreciative. Where her behaviour comes in is: She was not honest about her expectations. She offered to let him use her laundry machines and she tried to make it into a date. She effectively "nice guyed" the man, and then got pissed because her "nice" behaviour didn't make him see her as anything other than an over-solicitous neighbour. Then, she fumed silently, instead of setting boundries "Oh, I meant one load, I wasn't planning on three entire binbags full." Or "Please don't go into my refrigerator, this isn't your mom's house." He was rude, but she was not being upfront about what she expected from him.































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