“We’ve Spent Close To $2,000 On All The Materials”: Relatives Invoice Bride After Finding Out They Weren’t Invited To The Wedding

We had a friend make our wedding cake, and we still paid him something like $100 or $200 to cover materials and stuff (it wasn't a huge cake, but it was tiered, and nicely decorated.) He wasn't a professional baker or anything, but we insisted on paying him something!

These articles always end with “and now we are getting calls and texts from all their family and friends telling us x”. Who are these busybodies?? I’d never go around calling someone regarding an issue I wasn’t directly involved with - it’s SO odd. Also these folks are NTA, clearly.

Call the police. Not that there's anything they can do right now. But describe the background and the threatening calls, and say that you fear harassment, assault, and a possible break-in to obtain the wedding material. Give them the names of everyone involved, especially those groomsmen. If something does actually happen, the cops will come in knowing the full picture already. They tend to do more for you when that happens. And tell everyone who contacts you from then on that you have informed the police and have named names.

I would say that the OP and wife should cut those people out of their lives. Block whoever is bothering them. Life is too short for toxic people.

Even if you trim down the invite list, you make sure someone doing this kind of work makes the cut.

NTA.. How dare. We also using service from one of my wife relative on our special day. But we paying, albeit in a generous discount.

Call the groom and tell him he has a 6 hours window to stop any further threat from the family. Any threat received after, and all the material will be destroyed. Ah, and charge them full price. For their behavior after insulting them in many occasions.

NTA. This is totally on the cousin & seeing that she's willing to die on this hill displays how she really regards OP. I had a vacay rental & learned to either gift stays or charge regular price when it came ta fam & friends. The policy saved us yrs of gratuitous drama..Cuz was shortsighted, tacky, & rude- I'd keep her & her hubs @ arm's length.

Unbelievable, definitely not the a**hole but definitely they were dealing with a**holes. To expect a 2K wedding gift from family or anyone not invited to your wedding is major a**hole behavior.

I once subbed as a photographer for my little sister's wedding when the one they'd hired bailed on them at the last minute. So I took the photos, essentially abandoning my wedding date who came with me (he was gracious enough to stick around for the reception). The pictures came out nice, and the couple were appreciative...but not enough to pay me! Needless to say, the marriage fizzled out after 10 years and three daughters. The next time I did it was for a cousin of a husband of another sister. Everything came out beautifully, and the couple were happy with my work...and paid me $300 cash money!!

NTA It was very generous of you and your wife to only require or more likely expect an invitation to the wedding,it is too bad your kind hearts got the better of you. $2000.00 is a lot of money.And has far exceeded any wedding gift I have ever given. It really should have been mentioned at least to the wedding planner when yet more changes were made. As far as the groomsmen go if they want to get involved they should help pay the bill. Other than that that is not their job.

Has the wedding happened? Did they pay? You all a definitely NOT THE A*****E. Family reunions might be awkward but who cares. They did not treat you like friends OR family.

Even if someone was close family or a friend, I would offer to pay the full price. If they wanted to give me a discount, that would be great. NTA!

NTA! I hope they got paid!

Don't deliver the goods until the check clears the bank. These people tried to screw you once and will to do it again. And if you're willing to do some checking around you can probably find out when they booked the wedding venue. Odds are they had the 'downsized' space booked from get-go.

Years ago I had a friend who got her cake for free - then didn’t invite the professional bakers who made it 😡 I was the maid of honor and I begged her to invite them. They had known her all her life and it wasn’t going to affect costs so much to add in two more people. I felt so bad when the guy dropped off the cake at the reception himself, in his bakers clothing. He looked so sad…

Remember what the disgruntled Disney ArtiSt did to the caStle on tHe cOver of the LittlE Mermaid VHS tape? He made a penis in one of the castles. Put "a**holes somewhere in their invites in bold lettering spaces out, like i did here. They only considered you family when your printer was running for them. Family always screws you first and the hardest. $5 says they dont make it to 5 years.

I'd charge full material price AND LABOR, which includes extra for all the 'corrections'. Paid in CASH, BEFORE receipt of goods. PERIOD.

Just curious if they ever paid? And why weren't they expecting to pay? Was there any discussion about no cost? They definitely were never going to invite you? And are they low income and cant afford to have a bigger wedding or just being cheap?

Call the groom and tell him he has a 6 hours window to stop any further threat from the family. Any threat received after, and all the material will be destroyed. Ah, and charge them full price. For their behavior after insulting them in many occasions.

Entitled people...they have no shame nor decent moral values from what I read

Are we not gonna talk about the username 💀

I agree they used these cousins, NTA, the bride sure is the A for giving their pH number out, tell them to f off

Just tell the wedding planner or the couple everything you have contracted to provide will be at the wedding. Obviously since there is no contract, nothing will need to be delivered. When somebody wants to sign a contract for whatever y'all agree to, Then worry about delivering a product. As to people speaking of a wedding planner; I'm pretty sure there is a contract there so the couple might as well utilize the services they will be paying for.

Sounds like they didn't want the attention of your products to take away from their day. Good riddance to freebie scavengers

You were close enough relatives for them to hit you up for free services rendered, but not an invitation to their wedding, personally, if it were me, I would burn every single thing I had made for them, and just simply consider it a hard lesson learned. You are NTA

I'm planning a wedding at the moment and keeping it small, because that's what we can afford! Having a small wedding should mean you dont have to beg from and exploit friends and family.

Cousin and fiance are sleaze.

I hate when they add getting threatening calls from people they don't know to all these post, like dude if you don't know them why you even try and explain yourself just tell them to f**k off and hang up, and you are both the a******s them for thinking this was free you for not being up front that this wasn't free

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2k to cover only materials means the retail overall price would be far above 10k. You’re not paying ink and paper you’re paying labor and machines. So 10k Just for printing. That’s enormous for a classic wedding. Even more for a simple one in a family where money is obviously scarce. I find it very very hard to believe. As usual the story is probably real in some extent but terribly terribly exaggerated