Woman Asks The Internet If She’s A Jerk For Refusing To Let Her Sister Adopt One Of Her Twins Once They’re Born

This is probably the most f**ked up post I ever read. I can't. I mean...how!!?? HOW can ANYONE possibly think this is okay, like "Yeah, we're sisters, you owe me a baby". The level of insanity and entitlement is through the roof. Aaaargh!!!!

Way too many people in that family are unashamedly okay with moving kids around like they're not actual human beings. Jesus christ. They're not cookies, "Oh I have two so you can have one". What the f**k

The sister doesn't need a baby, she needs therapy.

This is the backstory for a future kidnapping attempt. Cheezus

Get a restraining order NOW ... this is only going to escalate.

If this story is true the op needs to run far away from her family. But I honestly think this sounds like a plot to a lifetime movie

She needs to tell the police as this is a kidnap risk as soon as the babies are born if not before…

The twinsister thinks: it’s my twinsisters baby, so the kid will look like me aswell. BUT it is also Kyles kid… lmfao… like you can just exchange kids…

That sub is just unreal sometimes. Who tf in their right mind would even ask this question? "Am I the A$$hole for not giving away my baby?" Like who tf is going to say they are? How brain damaged do you have to be to think you might be? I worry for her kids if she doesn't know she doesn't have to give them away when someone demands one. "Well, gee, idk, I really don't want to give away my child, but they'll be mad at me if I don't. What to do...what to do.

As the delivery time comes closer, the hospital needs to be aware of this issue. Are you identical twins? in the chaos of the maternity ward could she pass as you?

Sister needs to go back to therapy and take some of the relatives with her.

I didn't see a single thing with what the OP said to Mia and would've said the same thing were I in her place. The adoption agencies did deem Mia unfit to adopt a child because she had neglected the two children they'd allowed her to foster. No way would I trust her to even babysit any child of mine. Adoption? No way Jose!

The sister's request to adopt one of the twins is pure psychopathy, but relatives who agree with her are even more psychopathic. Something like this could have been fine centuries ago in other contexts, but today it is unacceptable. Also, I think it's legally impossible, at least in my country.

I don't think I've ever heard anything so utterly ridiculous in my life. I don't care if you were having octuplets, no one has any business asking for one of your CHILDREN and then acting like a toddler when you say no! This woman is seriously unfit in my opinion to raise a child at the moment. She's too obsessed with it. You are definitely NTA.

Dear Freya, let this be fake. Dear Freya, let this be fake.... If it's not, I hope those people move and don't leave a forwarding address, because one of those kids will get stolen.

Is this even for real? I don't know what to believe with these posts anymore.

I can't believe this person even felt the need to ask random strangers online if she was the ah! Haha. Straight up no , you can not have one of my babies!!

How would that kid feel growing up being separated from their real mother and twin? That would be messed up.

Run! I come from a toxic family as well. I am the black sheep who has an extremely narracistic mother.

Could you imagine having cray cray sister as a mom?

Just the fact that the sister expected OP to give her one of the babies disqualifies her as a mother. Apparently she has mental problems and should seek professional help. Incidentally, the same also applies to all relatives, for whom this seems to be a completely normal idea.

OP'S best bet would be to document everything said and done by Mia. She is not to be trusted. OP and Kyle need to get security cameras and alarms, and have as little interaction with Mia as possible. Once at the hospital, the staff needs to be informed that Mia is not to be allowed anywhere near mother or child, and why. If her family continues to give her grief about not giving Mia one of her twins, OP would be better off going NC for her and her babies' safety. Better yet, move to an undisclosed location. Her family is totally wack!

Parcel them out like kittens or puppies. Geeze! Are people that unhinged? Probably. Since they've decided unborn children are just blobs of cells. Traveling a dangerous road where "parents" are merely breeding stock.

Your sister has been established as being unfit to be a mother. By her comments, your mom has established herself as being the same.

My aunt tried to do this in 1989 when my mother became Oops pregnant. I was 12 and my brother was 14. She was also on my father's side. Let's just say things didn't fly too well.

Ah, family, been there, went trough similar stuff, doesn't surprise me at all. That's just how toxic families are. While she had every right to call out her sister on that fact and you don't need to be a perfect human being. I still want to suggest: it's better to not try to reason with these people, it's especially hard when it's family, but also you know their weak points and hit them like a guided missile just like they know yours. So you want to them to understand but they can't anyway, they life in their own reality, and if you get angry then you subconciously thend to aim in on their weak points and boooom. So just a simple "no!" often is best, there is no need to explain why. They don't understand it and try to argue... tough sh*t you are not required to explain yourself. "Because I don't want to" is enough reason, they don't accept that, again that's on them. It can be good to explain your toughts with reasonable people, with toxic people in most cases you shouldn't even.

Are we near a rodeo?

What this really comes down to is is your sister a danger to you. She's your twin, do you have that bond? Can she not respect the right the twins have to each other? Could the family help her adopt or conceive? Sydney Anderson, Psychologist, Bloomington, needs to be consulted with, your best option. Her neglecting the foster chd need to be understood. This is a safety issue before it's a "sharing" issue. Your partner has a decision in this, it should have already ended the discussion, the paternal side wasn't his ppl was it? So much more to say. In beginning twins are very very difficult, they don't recognize each other until 8-10 months, they are essential one. You will need help, she could help you and be close aunt/God mother...a child can't have too much love, but the animosity factor is concerning. You must be seeing a child psychology, she will help make informed prof decision s that your family can understand.

This is ridiculous....l don't even think this is real. You cannot just give a baby away, its illegal. Who would even ask?! And her family agrees with the ask and says she's being selfish for saying no???! Whole story is suspicious and seems fake to me.

Why in the world would the OP even wonder if she's a jerk for refusing to give one of her babies to her sister!? It's clearly obvious who's in the wrong here and doesn't even need to be up for debate!!

This is, in the most polite terms i can muster, absolutely appalling! She did right by telling someone, even if they were just strangers on the internet, and I sincerely hope they’re able to have the sister committed for this.

OP isn't the AH. Time to move like someone said and in the meantime, get a restraining order.

im jumping to conclusions here but i wouldnt be too shocked if sis plans some nutjob idea to kidnap at least one of the kids

JESUS CHRIST!! No offense, but get the hell away from your family!! Move, change your name & phone number. These people are F****D UP.

Why was everyone congratulating your sister and her husband as well? And your sister staying close to you all night,sounds like she already told everyone before you got to and told everyone that she was getting one of the twins,so she not only ruined your announcement but told everyone you were giving her one of the twins and when you said you weren't going to, she made you look like you went back on you word hence why certain family members are acting the way they are,they didn't know the true story clearly, she's crazy you need to definitely go nc,she definitely needs to be put in her place and your other family members to taking her side

Not sure who your family think they are. Are they bank rolling you guys? Apparently your husband is considered a mere prop. Those kids aren’t yours alone. How about someone from your husband’s family demand for one of your twins. Would they call you selfish for not agreeing? Your mum and sis need to get checked.