Child-Free Woman Is Picked For Dangerous Task: “I Have Never Felt So Enraged In My Life”
There’s no excuse for workplace discrimination. It is beyond frustrating to realize that your higher-ups might be biased as they give out nastier and more dangerous tasks or more work based on who may or may not have children. That’s exactly what internet user u/0_ladyknowles_0 was up against.
The author shared a rant on the ‘Childfree’ online group about how her boss tried to pressure her into taking on a riskier job involving an infectious individual. Why? Simply because she didn’t have kids like her colleagues. Scroll down for the full story. Bored Panda has reached out to the author for comment, and we’ll update the article once we hear back from her.
The unfortunate reality is that some managers discriminate against employees without kids by giving them more work
One employee revealed how her boss tried to pressure her into doing a dangerous task because she was the only person without children
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Single people and employees without kids tend to get more work dumped on them, even if they’re members of thriving communities
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The BBC reports that many single people are pressured into doing more work and pick up the slack from their colleagues who have families. One study that looked at 25,000 workers found that two-thirds of childless women, ages 28 to 40, felt that they were expected to work longer hours.
Sociology professor Eric Klinenberg, from New York University, told the BBC that there was widespread perception that single people became the workhorses in corporate offices. “I met countless workers who complained that their managers viewed them as always available for late night and weekend assignments, because they didn’t have children or spouses.”
According to Klinenberg, in a few cases, female employees revealed that they were denied raises that they deserved. The reason? “Their managers believed that they didn’t need the extra money as much as colleagues with children.”
Meanwhile, psychology professor Bella DePaulo from the University of California, Santa Barbara, coined the term ‘singlism.’ In a nutshell, the word refers to the discrimination, negative stereotyping, and stigmatization against singles, which are widespread both at work and in society.
The irony is that while many managers see single employees as “lonely and isolated,” the opposite is often true. Workers who are single are more likely to have strong relationships with their chosen families and be actively engaged with their communities.
Real, lasting, positive change at work requires acting in sync with your other colleagues
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Speaking to the BBC, business mentor David Carter said that one of the main pieces of advice he’d give single workers so they don’t damage their careers and reputations is not to whine and moan about their circumstances.
Instead, they should appeal to the crowd and drive change in company practices by allying with other people. The goal is to show off your problem-solving skills while also benefiting the entire organization as a whole.
According to Carter, one technique that companies might want to consider is a shared economy points system. Essentially, you can use a digital spreadsheet or physical items like buttons, so that employees can swap tasks or hours. You can also put a cap on credit and debit so the system is fairer.
“It’s not about what you’re going to use your time off to do—whether it’s bungee jumping, Christmas shopping, a date, or taking your children to the school play—it’s just about being able to work your 40 hours a week when it suits you,” Carter says. He adds that this system is tougher to implement in larger companies. However, every organization can improve flexibility in other ways. If they don’t, they’ll lose talented workers.
Workplace discrimination can push away some of your most talented employees
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On the one hand, good managers should be aware of their employees’ family situations and be flexible when needed. There are some family considerations that need to be taken into account.
On the other hand, preferential or discriminatory treatment is bad for team morale, pushes some talented workers away, and is bad for business as a whole. Not only that, but discrimination based on parental status may be illegal in some countries.
Claiming that someone should take on a more dangerous, potentially infectious work task because they don’t have children is warped. Even if you don’t have kids, you still have family members, friends, and a partner who may potentially be at risk of infection just like anyone else.
If you’re in a line of work that involves a great deal of risk—for example, law enforcement, firefighting, etc.—you need to prioritize tasks based on the individual’s skill set and availability.
If you start handing out tasks based just on one factor, like someone’s family situation, then someone inevitably gets more work, faces more pressure, and potentially burns out faster. You have to be as fair and impartial as possible while also leaving room for empathy and support.
Have you ever been discriminated against at work because you have or don’t have children, dear Pandas? What kinds of preferential and discriminatory behavior have you personally witnessed at your job? What does your boss do to keep things fair while also being supportive? Let us know!
The author of the post interacted with some readers and revealed a few more details about what happened
Many internet users had a lot to say about the topic. Here are their thoughts about the drama at work
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Tuberculosis? Couldn't they just provide respirators and other relevant PPE?
Frontline health workers should be vaccinated.
Load More Replies...Not sure where this is, but if you are in UK, US, EU or Canada, it is illegal to treat someone differently because of their family status and OP could have a strong case against the employer. However, while I think this kind of discrimination happens all the time, this instance seems fake. Why go through all this when there was a way to do it without contact. If this is such a virulent illness, that requires this level of quarantine, why don't you have the facilities and PSI/PPE to maintain this? If in the US JCAHO or another accrediting organisation will have required a protocol for this type of incident, which I includes which staff should be in contact with the patient, pulling from other teams unless for expertise would fail your inspection. Too many holes in the story.
I can see the company wanting to save a couple bucks by having one of their own do it. When that didn’t work, they had to pony up the cash to have it done the way it was supposed to be done in the first place. F*****g skinflints.
Load More Replies...Does this mean we just ignore all people with contagious diseases? There's obviously a way for it to be dealt with - hazmat suits if necessary. All seems very odd.
I read it that a different department took over care of the patient. But I also think this isn't a real story.
Load More Replies..."Hmmm... we haven't had outbreaks of measles for a long time but I refused to vaccinate my kids and now there's a measles outbreak. I wonder if there's a correlation?" is a question these a******s will never come to.
This infuriates me. I had a friend do something similar to me just prior to my flying to visit my immunocompromised elderly parents. She never ever thought to let me know before getting together that she had just been with her grandkids who measles. She actually did this sort of thing to me twice; the second time when invited some friends over for dinner, after visiting her ill grandkids. Our friendship did not outlast covid.
If team members didn't get vaccinated because they don't believe in the disease, they shouldn't have refused to do the task.
The parents of the unvaccinated should have done the job, they already are incredibly stupid risk takers, so why does this exposure matter. Your kids will be stronger after they contract it/s
This fake story brings up some interesting points, but all healthcare facilities have strict protocols in place surrounding infectious diseases and especially TB. There’s no way any company would take such a rock-paper-scissors approach. Nice try writer. It’s truly ridiculous.
Ever been to a red state in the US? This is *exactly* how they are + their religions support them.
Load More Replies...I'm sorry... CONSUMPTION??? Someone sent this warning to the wrong century,
Still around. So is leprosy, by the way. (shudder) Seriously, both of these used to be automatically a passport to isolation, but are much more easily treatable or made non-communicable.
Load More Replies...When I was a teen I began testing positive for TB though I had no symptoms. I had what is termed "latent" TB, which means that I had the bacteria in my body, but not the disease. I was non-contagious but still had to go on a 2-year-long course of INH, the d**g still used after decades for TB treatment. And it is harsh. TB has been on the back shelf for a while but it's moving closer all the time the last few years. And it is a dangerous disease, or can be.
"I can't because my kids are vaccinated." So, these people know that vaccines work they're just refusing them because ....reasons? I would have called them about because you can't use non-vaccinations as an excuse if you're choosing not to vaccinate their kids. Ultimately these people won't learn until something bad happens to their kids. I won't weep because they need to learn their lesson and less of these idiots on the planet, either from changing or from death, is better for everyone.
The sad part is that the kids have no say in their parents' decision to leave them vulnerable to diseases that have been nearly eradicated. When their kids end up like Helen Keller, with cardiac issues, scarred lungs, or in a wheelchair, then what? They can't blame the vaccines, God, Peter Pan, or climate change. Just the fool in the mirror.
Load More Replies...I get it but it's your job. None of them should have been allowed to bow out. I was a contracted non-medical employee at a hospital and I STILL had to meet with someone who was being tested for TB. The amount of PPE I had to put on was crazy so I am calling BS somewhere in this story.
The BCG vaccine against TB is most effective in reducing the risk for the under-5s of getting miliary TB. That kills more tiny people so in TB endemic counties a BCG is given pretty much straight after the baby is born because TB is so contagious and so easily spread. The older you are the less effective the BCG becomes until having it as an adult is no longer recommended due to the low efficacy. By that stage though bigger airways and a more developed immune response you have a better chance to only end up with latent TB infection rather than active infectious pulmonary TB. The fact the poster said they were already vaccinated suggests they were potentially born in an endemic TB country. The use of proper PPE and airborne precautions and they would have been at no greater risk than any of the nurses or doctors who look after people with active infectious pulmonary TB every day in hospitals and out in the community. I should know I work in the field and have looked after many patients with TB and I have not ended up with it myself
The double standards... for ages, men wothout families have been chosen to do dangerous work; we have not been given the same pay nor vacation nor benefits that men with families have, and I've never seen anyone rising their voices or complaining, bit now that a woman tells this same atory she gets unquestioned support for her "courage to stand against tyranny..." She never said what kind of job she does, but remember COVID and the thousands of health workers who died trying to save other people from a very rare and new contagious disease? Men and women alike, by the way.
Icant believe they would as an employee to put their lives in danger. Kids or no kids . What if that employee has a compromised Immune system . employers don't know their stories.
If you're joking, it's not funny. If you're not, it still isn't funny. Don't let circumstances and others define you.
Load More Replies...I'm sorry... people are contracting CONSUMPTION??!?! When did Oregon Trail become real life???
Wait, was OP in healthcare? Or in what capacity is OP/coworkes required to be working near someone with TB? Are they making a person with TB to be working (and therefore spreading it?!?!)
Can be some legal firm, and their customer contacted TB.
Load More Replies...Wait... If you catch a rare and dangerous disease it is possible that you won't get adequate care because noone wants to do it? I agree that it is BS that people without children should get the dangerous jobs, and also that it is suspicious that they found another way. But the fact that there is a possibility that a sick person can just get ignored is seriously terrifying.
No, instead of wasting time trying to sacrifice “poor childless” OP to save a dime, they should have just spent the money and gone right to the correct plan from the get-go.
Load More Replies...TB?? I thought that was a thing of the past confined to the classic writers!?
Nope. Still around but in fewer numbers. It was almost eradicated and now we have much more effective medicines as well. It's not even routinely tested for these days in (most?) developed countries.
Load More Replies...Apparently there is a vaccine for tuberculosis, but it is not widely recommended except in countries where TB is endemic. So blaming anti-vax parents in this case is irrelevant.
it's not recommended ANYMORE, cause the disease is considered almost erradicated, so you only see the side effects. I was a great vaccine when implement since tuberculosis was a rampat disease that killed a lot of people, so minor side effects were excusable in comparison
Load More Replies...The Bacillus Calmette-Guérin (BCG) vaccine innoculates against TB. Many countries it is given as standard infant/child vaccinations. US and UK don't give it as standard unless you are at particular risk because TB rates are now so low, thanks to the vaccine.
Load More Replies...Tuberculosis? Couldn't they just provide respirators and other relevant PPE?
Frontline health workers should be vaccinated.
Load More Replies...Not sure where this is, but if you are in UK, US, EU or Canada, it is illegal to treat someone differently because of their family status and OP could have a strong case against the employer. However, while I think this kind of discrimination happens all the time, this instance seems fake. Why go through all this when there was a way to do it without contact. If this is such a virulent illness, that requires this level of quarantine, why don't you have the facilities and PSI/PPE to maintain this? If in the US JCAHO or another accrediting organisation will have required a protocol for this type of incident, which I includes which staff should be in contact with the patient, pulling from other teams unless for expertise would fail your inspection. Too many holes in the story.
I can see the company wanting to save a couple bucks by having one of their own do it. When that didn’t work, they had to pony up the cash to have it done the way it was supposed to be done in the first place. F*****g skinflints.
Load More Replies...Does this mean we just ignore all people with contagious diseases? There's obviously a way for it to be dealt with - hazmat suits if necessary. All seems very odd.
I read it that a different department took over care of the patient. But I also think this isn't a real story.
Load More Replies..."Hmmm... we haven't had outbreaks of measles for a long time but I refused to vaccinate my kids and now there's a measles outbreak. I wonder if there's a correlation?" is a question these a******s will never come to.
This infuriates me. I had a friend do something similar to me just prior to my flying to visit my immunocompromised elderly parents. She never ever thought to let me know before getting together that she had just been with her grandkids who measles. She actually did this sort of thing to me twice; the second time when invited some friends over for dinner, after visiting her ill grandkids. Our friendship did not outlast covid.
If team members didn't get vaccinated because they don't believe in the disease, they shouldn't have refused to do the task.
The parents of the unvaccinated should have done the job, they already are incredibly stupid risk takers, so why does this exposure matter. Your kids will be stronger after they contract it/s
This fake story brings up some interesting points, but all healthcare facilities have strict protocols in place surrounding infectious diseases and especially TB. There’s no way any company would take such a rock-paper-scissors approach. Nice try writer. It’s truly ridiculous.
Ever been to a red state in the US? This is *exactly* how they are + their religions support them.
Load More Replies...I'm sorry... CONSUMPTION??? Someone sent this warning to the wrong century,
Still around. So is leprosy, by the way. (shudder) Seriously, both of these used to be automatically a passport to isolation, but are much more easily treatable or made non-communicable.
Load More Replies...When I was a teen I began testing positive for TB though I had no symptoms. I had what is termed "latent" TB, which means that I had the bacteria in my body, but not the disease. I was non-contagious but still had to go on a 2-year-long course of INH, the d**g still used after decades for TB treatment. And it is harsh. TB has been on the back shelf for a while but it's moving closer all the time the last few years. And it is a dangerous disease, or can be.
"I can't because my kids are vaccinated." So, these people know that vaccines work they're just refusing them because ....reasons? I would have called them about because you can't use non-vaccinations as an excuse if you're choosing not to vaccinate their kids. Ultimately these people won't learn until something bad happens to their kids. I won't weep because they need to learn their lesson and less of these idiots on the planet, either from changing or from death, is better for everyone.
The sad part is that the kids have no say in their parents' decision to leave them vulnerable to diseases that have been nearly eradicated. When their kids end up like Helen Keller, with cardiac issues, scarred lungs, or in a wheelchair, then what? They can't blame the vaccines, God, Peter Pan, or climate change. Just the fool in the mirror.
Load More Replies...I get it but it's your job. None of them should have been allowed to bow out. I was a contracted non-medical employee at a hospital and I STILL had to meet with someone who was being tested for TB. The amount of PPE I had to put on was crazy so I am calling BS somewhere in this story.
The BCG vaccine against TB is most effective in reducing the risk for the under-5s of getting miliary TB. That kills more tiny people so in TB endemic counties a BCG is given pretty much straight after the baby is born because TB is so contagious and so easily spread. The older you are the less effective the BCG becomes until having it as an adult is no longer recommended due to the low efficacy. By that stage though bigger airways and a more developed immune response you have a better chance to only end up with latent TB infection rather than active infectious pulmonary TB. The fact the poster said they were already vaccinated suggests they were potentially born in an endemic TB country. The use of proper PPE and airborne precautions and they would have been at no greater risk than any of the nurses or doctors who look after people with active infectious pulmonary TB every day in hospitals and out in the community. I should know I work in the field and have looked after many patients with TB and I have not ended up with it myself
The double standards... for ages, men wothout families have been chosen to do dangerous work; we have not been given the same pay nor vacation nor benefits that men with families have, and I've never seen anyone rising their voices or complaining, bit now that a woman tells this same atory she gets unquestioned support for her "courage to stand against tyranny..." She never said what kind of job she does, but remember COVID and the thousands of health workers who died trying to save other people from a very rare and new contagious disease? Men and women alike, by the way.
Icant believe they would as an employee to put their lives in danger. Kids or no kids . What if that employee has a compromised Immune system . employers don't know their stories.
If you're joking, it's not funny. If you're not, it still isn't funny. Don't let circumstances and others define you.
Load More Replies...I'm sorry... people are contracting CONSUMPTION??!?! When did Oregon Trail become real life???
Wait, was OP in healthcare? Or in what capacity is OP/coworkes required to be working near someone with TB? Are they making a person with TB to be working (and therefore spreading it?!?!)
Can be some legal firm, and their customer contacted TB.
Load More Replies...Wait... If you catch a rare and dangerous disease it is possible that you won't get adequate care because noone wants to do it? I agree that it is BS that people without children should get the dangerous jobs, and also that it is suspicious that they found another way. But the fact that there is a possibility that a sick person can just get ignored is seriously terrifying.
No, instead of wasting time trying to sacrifice “poor childless” OP to save a dime, they should have just spent the money and gone right to the correct plan from the get-go.
Load More Replies...TB?? I thought that was a thing of the past confined to the classic writers!?
Nope. Still around but in fewer numbers. It was almost eradicated and now we have much more effective medicines as well. It's not even routinely tested for these days in (most?) developed countries.
Load More Replies...Apparently there is a vaccine for tuberculosis, but it is not widely recommended except in countries where TB is endemic. So blaming anti-vax parents in this case is irrelevant.
it's not recommended ANYMORE, cause the disease is considered almost erradicated, so you only see the side effects. I was a great vaccine when implement since tuberculosis was a rampat disease that killed a lot of people, so minor side effects were excusable in comparison
Load More Replies...The Bacillus Calmette-Guérin (BCG) vaccine innoculates against TB. Many countries it is given as standard infant/child vaccinations. US and UK don't give it as standard unless you are at particular risk because TB rates are now so low, thanks to the vaccine.
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