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Child-Free Couple Wants Out Of Vacation With 4 Kids Under 5YO, Ask Netizens How To Worm Out Of It
Child-Free Couple Wants Out Of Vacation With 4 Kids Under 5YO, Ask Netizens How To Worm Out Of It

Child-Free Couple Wants Out Of Vacation With 4 Kids Under 5YO, Ask Netizens How To Worm Out Of It

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Having children is a big responsibility because they are completely dependent on their parents for every little thing. Small things, like trips with friends, can also become a big deal, as everything has to revolve around how the kids will take it. It’s no wonder that not everyone wants to take on this responsibility.

Just like Reddit user BlueCheeseFiend and her husband who are child-free and looking for a way to back out of a trip with their friends and their kids. While they have nothing against the children, the couple just wants a break—free from the drama and chaos of the kids!

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    The poster and her girlfriends have planned a trip with their husbands and kids, but she and her husband are child-free

    Child-free couple seeks advice to avoid vacationing with group including four kids under five.

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    Text image discussing a child-free couple's concerns about vacationing with kids.

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    A couple lying on a blanket outside, smiling at each other, enjoying a sunny day, symbolizing a child-free lifestyle.

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    Before the big trip, they all went for a day trip where all the kids were very chaotic, and their friends kept talking about their kids constantly

    Text describing a challenging trip for a child-free couple surrounded by young children requiring constant attention.

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    Text excerpt about a child-free couple expressing their feelings on vacation plans with kids.

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    Children playing by a lakeside tree in a sunny landscape.

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    This was a lot to take for the child-free couple as they couldn’t relate to the things they were talking about

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    Text image about a child-free couple figuring out how to decline a vacation with four kids under five.

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    This made them reconsider going on the trip with their friends and their kids, so the poster is seeking advice about how they can back out of it

    In today’s story, the original poster (OP) tells of a quagmire she and her husband are stuck in and she seeks advice. What happened is that she had planned a vacation with her girlfriends, their kids, and their husbands, and they rented an Airbnb. Initially, she backed out due to a family situation, but now that it’s resolved, she can’t cancel.

    However, before the long weekend vacation, they all went for a day trip, and a realization hit the couple like a train on the tracks. It turns out that they are the only child-free ones, and they don’t always have the best time when the kids are present.

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    For one thing, their friends’ kids are between the ages of 1 and 4, so they require a lot of attention, and things also get quite chaotic when the kids are crying, running around, or throwing tantrums. When things are not chaotic, the adults have a complaint feast where they keep talking about the kids, and the couple just can’t relate to their problems.

    While the poster and her husband have nothing against the kids, they just want a peaceful vacation and don’t want to get caught up in all the drama and chaos. Well, the OP vented online and sought advice about how they could back out of it, and Redditors came up with numerous solutions to help resolve their conundrum.

    A thoughtful woman looking out of a window, illustrating the dilemma of a child-free couple considering a vacation.

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    It has already been observed that many people are opting to be child-free to focus on their own well-being, as having kids comes with stress, challenges, and sacrifices. If that is the story with this couple, it’s obvious that they don’t want the stress of anybody else’s kids either, which is fair on their part.

    Research also states, “Children thrive on routine and predictability, so any disruption—big or small—to their routine can be unsettling. Changes to a child’s environment may leave them feeling like they’ve lost a sense of familiarity and security, which can naturally trigger anxiety and stress.”

    That just proves that there might be a lot of crying and tantrums involved when they go on vacation, so we can understand the poster’s concern, as that’s exactly what they don’t want. Some folks said that she could lie about her husband being unwell or something and skip the trip, as her friends would understand when it comes to his health.

    Many, however, suggested that the best option would be to tell them the truth—that they want a peaceful vacation and should back out—or they could still go but book a different hotel room for themselves. This way, they will not be in constant fear of having the chaotic kids around but can still be with their friends when the children have been put to bed.

    To be honest, even we think that this would be better than lying as their friends might consider things from their perspective and agree with the deal. What would you have done if you were in the poster’s shoes? Let us know in the comments!

    Some Redditors suggested that they lie, but some said that it would be better to tell them the truth— that the couple wants a peaceful getaway

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    Aaaa Bbbb
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't understand this one! If you don't want to do something, just say you can't afford it right now. You're saving for a car, home improvements, emergency fund, whatever, and you're not feeling great about your finances and aren't in the mood to splurge. It's probably true almost all the time for almost everyone.

    Mike F
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or therapy from the last time they were all together, lol. ETA: this was a very long time ago. I didn't see any update.

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    Marno C.
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "We've recently started practicing Nude Yoga on our clothing-optional weekends. Frying bacon is a bit of a challenge ATM."

    Couragetcd
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Clicking the Reddit link shows the post is from 4 years ago and based on her most recent posts, she had a baby a couple of years ago. So no update and now disappointingly anticlimactic.

    Kristen Woehlke
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, no kids for me thanks. And that's what I personally would say... But, that is me. Kids irritate me and I have no patience for them. Again, that's me. If I get down voted oh well.

    ReginaM Hicks
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why make up anything? Just say you changed your mind. You're adults for goodness sake! And if you do go,expect to babysit cause the parents WILL rope you into it.

    Hugendubel
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Adults become like Zombies when kids are arround. Plus friends will often use one as free babysitters and sneak a break in. Just flippin be honest.

    Vira
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think adults become zombies with kids, but I would worry that the child free couple would become defacto babysitters.

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    CherylTunt
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    9 months ago

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    You agreed to it - suck it up for the friendship and next time they ask say you didn’t enjoy the vacation with their kids .

    Binky Melnik
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    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sure, they could do that if they don’t wanna be friends with those people any more. People don’t much like it when you so much as imply that screaming, smelly, attention-grabbing little monsters make you tense and give you a migraine. Much better not to mention ‘em at all and use ANY other excuse. I never had to deal with this; as soon as a friend had a baby, we fell out of each others’ lives, but I *did* come up with an excuse once for a friend who I thought might be a “cool” mom and not foist her baby on entirely-disinterested me, and it was that I was totally wrong out from a tough week at work, and that I was climbing in bed with a book. Unfortunately, I ran into her husband that evening as I was entering a club and he told her he’d seen me and the friendship withered on the vine afterwards and I never had to come up with an excuse again, as my friends who had kids knew I wasn’t gonna be a doting aunt-like character for them.

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    Panda Panda Bo Banda
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    9 months ago

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    "Child-free" people creep me out

    Aaaa Bbbb
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't understand this one! If you don't want to do something, just say you can't afford it right now. You're saving for a car, home improvements, emergency fund, whatever, and you're not feeling great about your finances and aren't in the mood to splurge. It's probably true almost all the time for almost everyone.

    Mike F
    Community Member
    9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or therapy from the last time they were all together, lol. ETA: this was a very long time ago. I didn't see any update.

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    Marno C.
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "We've recently started practicing Nude Yoga on our clothing-optional weekends. Frying bacon is a bit of a challenge ATM."

    Couragetcd
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Clicking the Reddit link shows the post is from 4 years ago and based on her most recent posts, she had a baby a couple of years ago. So no update and now disappointingly anticlimactic.

    Kristen Woehlke
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, no kids for me thanks. And that's what I personally would say... But, that is me. Kids irritate me and I have no patience for them. Again, that's me. If I get down voted oh well.

    ReginaM Hicks
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why make up anything? Just say you changed your mind. You're adults for goodness sake! And if you do go,expect to babysit cause the parents WILL rope you into it.

    Hugendubel
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Adults become like Zombies when kids are arround. Plus friends will often use one as free babysitters and sneak a break in. Just flippin be honest.

    Vira
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think adults become zombies with kids, but I would worry that the child free couple would become defacto babysitters.

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    CherylTunt
    Community Member
    9 months ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    You agreed to it - suck it up for the friendship and next time they ask say you didn’t enjoy the vacation with their kids .

    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sure, they could do that if they don’t wanna be friends with those people any more. People don’t much like it when you so much as imply that screaming, smelly, attention-grabbing little monsters make you tense and give you a migraine. Much better not to mention ‘em at all and use ANY other excuse. I never had to deal with this; as soon as a friend had a baby, we fell out of each others’ lives, but I *did* come up with an excuse once for a friend who I thought might be a “cool” mom and not foist her baby on entirely-disinterested me, and it was that I was totally wrong out from a tough week at work, and that I was climbing in bed with a book. Unfortunately, I ran into her husband that evening as I was entering a club and he told her he’d seen me and the friendship withered on the vine afterwards and I never had to come up with an excuse again, as my friends who had kids knew I wasn’t gonna be a doting aunt-like character for them.

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    Panda Panda Bo Banda
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    9 months ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    "Child-free" people creep me out

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