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Guy Decides To Skip Only Brother’s Wedding As His Fiancée’s Kid Is Not Invited, Upsets Family
There are times when some kids are hands-down the sweetest humans alive. But parents of some children just let them go rogue and do whatever they want. This annoying behavior can ruin someone’s big day, especially a wedding if the kids run about disrupting everything.
These days child-free weddings are the new hot trend so that the important event in people’s lives is carried out smoothly. But not everyone agrees with this trend. For instance, Reddit user teweddinthr6345 was furious when his stepson wasn’t invited to his elder brother’s child-free wedding, and even refused to attend it in the end.
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The man has known his fiancée for 1.5 years, and he has a 4-year-old stepson that he adores, loves, and treats like his own
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His older brother’s wedding was coming up but he found out that it was going to be a child-free event so his stepson would not be allowed to attend
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His fiancée argued with his brother about this, but he wanted them to stick to the norm of the child-free wedding, so they both refused to attend it
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When his family found out about this, they were all upset with him for choosing his 1.5-year relationship over his only sibling’s wedding
Today, we dive into the story of the 28-year-old male poster who faced backlash from netizens due to his actions towards his family. He explained that he has been together with his fiancée for the past one and a half years and he also has a stepson whom he loves a lot and treats like his own.
Now his older brother is about to be married, a delightful occasion for the family. The original poster (OP) was of course going to attend the wedding, but then he found out that the event was specifically a child-free one. And from the bride and groom’s perspective, it does sound reasonable. After all, kids can be quite chaotic at events and ruin things for a couple.
Well, the man certainly didn’t hold this into account and that is when the problems started. Firstly, his fiancée was upset that this rule was forced even on family members. She brought up this issue to the brother and his fiancée and started arguing about it. But as their opinion was not swayed, she decided that she would not attend the wedding altogether!
An angry fiancée resulted in the man calling his brother and telling him that even he didn’t wish to attend the wedding. When the groom tried to put some sense into him, stating that his fiancée was the one who was acting unreasonable and even convincing him to miss the wedding, it didn’t go down well. The man said that he was just treating them the way they treated his family.
When his sister-in-law-to-be said that the rule was for everyone, and they didn’t owe anything to the unhappy couple, OP retorted, “Fine, then I am not coming.” Now this dispute also reached the other family ears, and guess what? They also called OP unreasonable because he was willing to miss the wedding of his only sibling for a woman whom he had known for just 1.5 years. They said that she was trying to “drive a wedge” between the poster and his family.
The family also tried to explain that if he missed the wedding, it would ruin things with his brother who had been his pillar of support and comfort and it would cause a lot of hurt and damage amongst everyone involved. But OP was mute to them as he stopped responding. The extended family complained about how the man and his fiancée were simply trying to control his brother’s wedding.
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Even the Redditors spared no sympathy for the poster. They were of the opinion that a couple has complete freedom to plan a child-free wedding if they wish to and the rule should not be defied due to any special relationship that people hold with the bride or groom.
According to an article published by The New York Times, “Of 4,000 couples with 2024 wedding dates, 79.5 percent are in favor of kid-free weddings.” This trend is catching up with people as they seek to eliminate the disturbance caused by kids during an event that’s one of the most important in their lives.
The Redditors argued that if the stepson was in his teens and if the couple opposed his attendance at the wedding, then OP and his fiancée were justified in their actions. Or even if the couple invited other kids, excluding the 4-year-old stepson, then the complaints of the two would be reasonable.
However, the situation here was completely different. The bride and groom were not purposely trying to exclude that one child from the wedding. And to be absolutely honest, even if the kid was invited against the rule, what would a single child at the whole function do the whole time? Redditors also pointed out that this stepson’s attendance was not really important and they failed to understand why OP was making a mountain out of a molehill in this situation.
Many people also called him out for his willingness to break a life-long cherished bond with someone who has been there for him. They said that it was better that the groom found out how little his brother cared for him. Peeps also had a lot to say about the entitled and manipulative fiancée, labeling her a “bridezilla”.
Psych Central states, “Hearing the word ‘no’ or sensing a loss of control may not be fun. For some people, it’s more difficult to experience than for others. So, at times, an individual may resort to covert or underhanded strategies to achieve their desired outcome—this is known as manipulation tactics.”
It seems as though the entitled fiancée is actually using manipulative tactics to “drive a wedge” between the family and poster, just as his family had stated to him. It’s honestly sad that he can’t see through it. People online were also disappointed by his and the woman’s behavior.
And what about you? If you agree or disagree with the netizens and their verdict, just let us know in the comments. Also, if you have any thoughts about the matter, don’t hesitate to tell us, as you know, we are always delighted to hear from you!
He also faced backlash from Redditors for not caring about his brother’s big day and they even called out his entitled fiancée
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What do you think ?
Yu Pan 1 year ago
When I read the title, I imagined the story to be something with legitimate anger, like the brother didn't want the stepson there because it's a family affair and the kid is not considered "family", or the kid has some traits that the family deemed unworthy or unappealing. No. Instead, this is a story about a woman with reading/listening comprehension issues, a man who has a shallow understanding of "stand by your woman" and try to use that to score Internet brownie points/validation and a child who is probably happy about not being in a boring long a** wedding.
LB 1 year ago
Yeah, we've seen lots of those stories on BP. Here OP sucks for a change!
Load More Replies... notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
YTA. A big big AH!! They are not singling out your stepson. There will be NO CHILDREN ALLOWED at the wedding at all!! A lot of ppl are having child free weddings and parties these days. This avoids a lot of problems for the adults who are invited. The bride and groom want a wedding without crying and screaming kids during a long ceremony. They don't want bored children running around. They don't want parents to have to get up and leave to tend to kids. Kids are impatient. Then, there's the reception. They want the bride and groom to celebrate their day. Little kids screaming, running around and getting into everything isn't pleasant for some guests. Especially with some ppl who have inappropriate parenting styles or badly behaved children. Maybe also the newlyweds want to have a celebration with a day where the adults can have 1 whole day that has absolutely nothing to do involving their children. You can't do anything when you have to children. No drinking,do talking to other adults,no dancing,no giving your full attention to anything else or anyone else. Adults deserve a break too. The bride and groom don't want ANY KIDS there . They don't want to take any chances on something going wrong because of a disruptive child. I believe in some situations a child under a certain age should not go to a wedding. It's not appropriate and won't be a pleasant situation. It's going to be boring for them during the ceremony. They will get into mischief during the reception and you don't know what kind of parenting styles certain ppl use. Some ppl let them do whatever they want with no consequences. Imagine a little kid knocking down the cake or opening the gifts and their parents allowing it.
Granny's Thoughts 1 year ago
YTA You have been a brother a whole lot longer than you've been with this woman. She's a bit of a bully to think she can make demands of someone else's wedding. I'd think hard about marrying her.
JayWantsACat 1 year ago
I thought this was going to be about his step-kid being specifically excluded but the whole wedding being child-free and then throwing a fit because that also includes your kid is WILD.
Rickey Adams 1 year ago
Sounds like someone's a little henpecked already. Just wait until you're married. Poor Dear!!!!
Shark Lady 1 year ago
This is his reply to the first comment. He was ripped apart in the rest of the comments. Quite frankly. I think that he should be expecting that my family comes first my fiancee and my stepson but my parents disagree and think that I have my priorities all wrong because, they said I've only known her for a short time and yet I'm prioritizing her and her son over my only brother. I just don't see how this is the case.
Victoria McClain 1 year ago
YTA and so is your entitled fiancee. Your brother and his fiancee are allowed to have the wedding they want. This is not about you. For goodness sake get a babysitter for 6 hours and go support and stand up for your brother and his fiancee. Is it really worth losing a relationship with your brother and his fiancee to issue this childish ultimatum. As much as I live kids, sometimes there are occasions that should be adult only. Kids can be disruptive, disrespectful and out of control. With the new parenting trends, some parents don't create boundaries or behavioral expectations with their children and let their kids run wild. That is not pleasant for anyone. I would seriously evaluate your relationship with your fiancee and her expectations which I think are totally unreasonable.
tjh1855 1 year ago
I don't know why anyone would want to bring a child under 12 years old to a wedding anyway. It's not pleasant for the child.
Vinnie 1 year ago (edited)
It depends on the wedding. I attended one where the ceremony was quick and the reception was easy-going and partly outdoors, with a croquet set on the lawn. At another, the ceremony was looooooong - the bridesmaids were beautiful, but seeing their slow one-by-one walks down the aisle was like watching the world's slowest fashion show of dull designs. I was feeling might impatient - imagine what that would have been like for a child!
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Brenda White 1 year ago
I attended a wedding where the brides 4 y/o (flower girl) was carried out, kicking and screaming, by her uncle. The priest stopped the service and requested uncle to do so!
April Dancer 1 year ago
All that build up of excitement was too much for her, I imagine.
Load More Replies... Mr. Jones 1 year ago
His wedding his rules. As a child, I hated going to weddings. It took up most of my summer as a child in a big family. Wedding after wedding after wedding. Weddings suck for kids. They are stuck in cheap "dressy" clothes playing like they're adults while the adults drink themselves into oblivion at the open bar. Children have no place at weddings unless the couple had kids before getting married and want them to be involved, which is beautiful. Kids have no place at a wedding reception.
Trev Fontaine 1 year ago
Yep what an a*****e just hire a baby sitter. Nobody wants a kid at a wedding
JLo 1 year ago
Exactly, your fiance cant go a few hours without her 4 year old? The child would NOT have a good time! He would be bored and cranky. Your fiance sounds like the type that believes her kid is so special, the rules don't apply to him I bet she follows the "gentle parenting" trend too! Also, he is not your stepson, not until you marry his mother.
Load More Replies... Melissa anderson 1 year ago
The wedding is child free. There’s no valid reason for his fiancé’s girlfriend’s son should be the exception. Children don’t belong everywhere. Brother is spineless and is letting his girlfriend’s self entitlement destroy his relationship with his brother.
Pro Abdullah 1 year ago
Find a sitter and you both go to the wedding. All parwnta should occasionally enjoy a kid free evening.
Noneofyourbusiness 1 year ago
But if they don't want to go and leave their child with someone else, then that would actually not be a good time for them. Just because you would like to go to a wedding without your children doesn't mean everyone wants to go to a wedding and leave their kids at home. Everyone should respect the choice that they made. The bride and groom can have their child free wedding, the brother can decide to do what's best for his family, and the rest of the family can butt out!
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DrBronxx 1 year ago (edited)
Judging from his responses to comments, he doubled down on his decision and didn't listen to anyone. To one commenter, he said his parents "said I've only known her (fiancee) for a short time and yet I'm prioritizing her and her son over my only brother. I just don't see how this is the case." To this I would say "read the AMTA post you wrote. It's plain as day how this is the case. - EDIT- he admitted that he was *maybe* wrong.
ZombieMommy 1 year ago
I was ready to defend OP because I have been the step kid that is left out but man is this guy TA. Its a child free wedding not only your child isn't invited. Those two suck. They're making up problems to have problems.
Sandra Wyman 1 year ago
NTA. I just don’t do events where my family is not welcome. It was super easy to accommodate children at my wedding, but each couple gets to do their things and has to deal with the result.
PeakyBlinder 1 year ago
WTF - it is the couples choice, if they are important to you, you will attend and survive a coupe of hours without your kids.
Load More Replies... Yu Pan 1 year ago
When I read the title, I imagined the story to be something with legitimate anger, like the brother didn't want the stepson there because it's a family affair and the kid is not considered "family", or the kid has some traits that the family deemed unworthy or unappealing. No. Instead, this is a story about a woman with reading/listening comprehension issues, a man who has a shallow understanding of "stand by your woman" and try to use that to score Internet brownie points/validation and a child who is probably happy about not being in a boring long a** wedding.
LB 1 year ago
Yeah, we've seen lots of those stories on BP. Here OP sucks for a change!
Load More Replies... notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
YTA. A big big AH!! They are not singling out your stepson. There will be NO CHILDREN ALLOWED at the wedding at all!! A lot of ppl are having child free weddings and parties these days. This avoids a lot of problems for the adults who are invited. The bride and groom want a wedding without crying and screaming kids during a long ceremony. They don't want bored children running around. They don't want parents to have to get up and leave to tend to kids. Kids are impatient. Then, there's the reception. They want the bride and groom to celebrate their day. Little kids screaming, running around and getting into everything isn't pleasant for some guests. Especially with some ppl who have inappropriate parenting styles or badly behaved children. Maybe also the newlyweds want to have a celebration with a day where the adults can have 1 whole day that has absolutely nothing to do involving their children. You can't do anything when you have to children. No drinking,do talking to other adults,no dancing,no giving your full attention to anything else or anyone else. Adults deserve a break too. The bride and groom don't want ANY KIDS there . They don't want to take any chances on something going wrong because of a disruptive child. I believe in some situations a child under a certain age should not go to a wedding. It's not appropriate and won't be a pleasant situation. It's going to be boring for them during the ceremony. They will get into mischief during the reception and you don't know what kind of parenting styles certain ppl use. Some ppl let them do whatever they want with no consequences. Imagine a little kid knocking down the cake or opening the gifts and their parents allowing it.
Granny's Thoughts 1 year ago
YTA You have been a brother a whole lot longer than you've been with this woman. She's a bit of a bully to think she can make demands of someone else's wedding. I'd think hard about marrying her.
JayWantsACat 1 year ago
I thought this was going to be about his step-kid being specifically excluded but the whole wedding being child-free and then throwing a fit because that also includes your kid is WILD.
Rickey Adams 1 year ago
Sounds like someone's a little henpecked already. Just wait until you're married. Poor Dear!!!!
Shark Lady 1 year ago
This is his reply to the first comment. He was ripped apart in the rest of the comments. Quite frankly. I think that he should be expecting that my family comes first my fiancee and my stepson but my parents disagree and think that I have my priorities all wrong because, they said I've only known her for a short time and yet I'm prioritizing her and her son over my only brother. I just don't see how this is the case.
Victoria McClain 1 year ago
YTA and so is your entitled fiancee. Your brother and his fiancee are allowed to have the wedding they want. This is not about you. For goodness sake get a babysitter for 6 hours and go support and stand up for your brother and his fiancee. Is it really worth losing a relationship with your brother and his fiancee to issue this childish ultimatum. As much as I live kids, sometimes there are occasions that should be adult only. Kids can be disruptive, disrespectful and out of control. With the new parenting trends, some parents don't create boundaries or behavioral expectations with their children and let their kids run wild. That is not pleasant for anyone. I would seriously evaluate your relationship with your fiancee and her expectations which I think are totally unreasonable.
tjh1855 1 year ago
I don't know why anyone would want to bring a child under 12 years old to a wedding anyway. It's not pleasant for the child.
Vinnie 1 year ago (edited)
It depends on the wedding. I attended one where the ceremony was quick and the reception was easy-going and partly outdoors, with a croquet set on the lawn. At another, the ceremony was looooooong - the bridesmaids were beautiful, but seeing their slow one-by-one walks down the aisle was like watching the world's slowest fashion show of dull designs. I was feeling might impatient - imagine what that would have been like for a child!
Load More Replies... Brenda White 1 year ago
I attended a wedding where the brides 4 y/o (flower girl) was carried out, kicking and screaming, by her uncle. The priest stopped the service and requested uncle to do so!
April Dancer 1 year ago
All that build up of excitement was too much for her, I imagine.
Load More Replies... Mr. Jones 1 year ago
His wedding his rules. As a child, I hated going to weddings. It took up most of my summer as a child in a big family. Wedding after wedding after wedding. Weddings suck for kids. They are stuck in cheap "dressy" clothes playing like they're adults while the adults drink themselves into oblivion at the open bar. Children have no place at weddings unless the couple had kids before getting married and want them to be involved, which is beautiful. Kids have no place at a wedding reception.
Trev Fontaine 1 year ago
Yep what an a*****e just hire a baby sitter. Nobody wants a kid at a wedding
JLo 1 year ago
Exactly, your fiance cant go a few hours without her 4 year old? The child would NOT have a good time! He would be bored and cranky. Your fiance sounds like the type that believes her kid is so special, the rules don't apply to him I bet she follows the "gentle parenting" trend too! Also, he is not your stepson, not until you marry his mother.
Load More Replies... Melissa anderson 1 year ago
The wedding is child free. There’s no valid reason for his fiancé’s girlfriend’s son should be the exception. Children don’t belong everywhere. Brother is spineless and is letting his girlfriend’s self entitlement destroy his relationship with his brother.
Pro Abdullah 1 year ago
Find a sitter and you both go to the wedding. All parwnta should occasionally enjoy a kid free evening.
Noneofyourbusiness 1 year ago
But if they don't want to go and leave their child with someone else, then that would actually not be a good time for them. Just because you would like to go to a wedding without your children doesn't mean everyone wants to go to a wedding and leave their kids at home. Everyone should respect the choice that they made. The bride and groom can have their child free wedding, the brother can decide to do what's best for his family, and the rest of the family can butt out!
Load More Replies... DrBronxx 1 year ago (edited)
Judging from his responses to comments, he doubled down on his decision and didn't listen to anyone. To one commenter, he said his parents "said I've only known her (fiancee) for a short time and yet I'm prioritizing her and her son over my only brother. I just don't see how this is the case." To this I would say "read the AMTA post you wrote. It's plain as day how this is the case. - EDIT- he admitted that he was *maybe* wrong.
ZombieMommy 1 year ago
I was ready to defend OP because I have been the step kid that is left out but man is this guy TA. Its a child free wedding not only your child isn't invited. Those two suck. They're making up problems to have problems.
Sandra Wyman 1 year ago
NTA. I just don’t do events where my family is not welcome. It was super easy to accommodate children at my wedding, but each couple gets to do their things and has to deal with the result.
PeakyBlinder 1 year ago
WTF - it is the couples choice, if they are important to you, you will attend and survive a coupe of hours without your kids.
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