Bride’s Family Bets Fiance Will End Marriage Because She Isn’t Submissive, So She Cancels Wedding
Do you know why the ancient Romans loved gladiator fights so much? No, not because they were so bloodthirsty – at least not more than you and me. Betting is what really attracted the gambling Romans to fights, and some brave bookmakers even took bets on the emperor’s reaction to the fate of the losing fighter…
Why am I telling you all this, you may ask? Here’s why – even ancient bookmakers don’t look as cynical as the relatives of the user u/effie389, the author of our story today. The thing is that these people staged a real sweepstake about how soon the author’s marriage would end in divorce…
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The author of the post was planning a large-scale wedding with many guests, but changed her mind literally on the spot
Image credits: Kayla Renee (not the actual photo)
The reason for such a decision was that many future guests took bets on the newlyweds’ upcoming divorce
Image credits: effie389
So the woman decided she now wanted only a small courtside wedding with no guests at all
Image credits: Pavel Danilyuk (not the actual photo)
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The groom-to-be sided with his fiancee, claiming that he respects her choice
Yes, it was exactly like that – the Original Poster (OP) planned to have a large-scale wedding in a beautiful venue with the invitation of many guests both from her side and from the groom’s, but at one point her cousin let it slip that her relatives had begun to make bets about how long this marriage will actually last.
According to the relatives, the author and her fiance are a complete mismatch. The groom-to-be, as the people who know him believe, needs a ‘good little wife,’ and it’s difficult, according to the same people, to find a person less suitable for this definition than the original poster…
Well, the bride really showed her character here. Having learned about this behavior from her guests-to-be, she instantly changed her mind – no, she didn’t call off the nuptials overall, but decided to replace them with a simple courtside wedding. With a minimum of relatives, no guests at all. Only newlyweds and those closest to them.
And the OP was not ready to change her decision, even under pressure from her parents, who, as usual, were concerned about what her relatives would think of her. The same ones, by the way, making bets on when her husband would leave her! Well, as happens with any important decision, the main thing is to stand to the end and not make concessions, isn’t it?
Image credits: Jonathan Borba (not the actual photo)
“The behavior of the guests in this situation is completely inappropriate. Well, everyone is free to think whatever they want – but betting on an upcoming divorce seems the height of cynicism,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, with whom Bored Panda got in touch for a comment here. “It’s nice to smile in the faces of the newlyweds at the reception, and behind their backs to wish them a breakup? Well, that won’t do.”
“In general, taking into account this behavior, the bride’s decision seems quite reasonable. The main thing is that the groom supports her and does not ‘stand up’ for his relatives, as, alas, quite often happens… If everything is done with mutual support, then the chances of having a strong, happy marriage is really high,” Irina ponders.
By the way, according to the original poster herself in the comments, her fiance, having learned about what happened, really supported this decision, saying that he respected her choice. “He said it’s my choice and the wedding was always more for me and our families than for him,” the OP wrote in the comments. Damn, are the relatives really that sure that this guy just needs ‘a good little wife?’
Commenters also cited more than one similar story from their own experience, when ‘benevolent’ relatives vying with each other prophesied the future spouses’ parting of ways. “We said, screw them and got married at town hall without telling anyone,” some of the commenters added. “We’ve been married for 15 years.”
Well, even the very idea to elope at a distant venue, unfortunately, does not always work. The best proof is perhaps this post of ours, about the bride’s family who made a real forced march across America to break into a secret wedding at some distant resort in Colorado. By the way, have you ever witnessed anything like this at other weddings?
It turns out that such a situation isn’t that uncommon, since the commenters told more than one similar story too
Image credits: Terje Sollie (not the actual photo)
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To the comments saying what about the husband, he has a say. People learn to read. He said a number of times she discussed it with him and he said it was her choice.
Have the wedding if you want a wedding. Hire an off duty officer or other security to make sure only invited guests can attend. Let your family know that up front. Chances are that the idea of the confrontation would keep them away. Be sure to let them know that if they still come and want to make a scene, they will be directly responsible for embarrassing themselves.
I'm wondering if she's often stubborn and reactive, sounds like her family may be joking about this because she is this way and it also sounds like she's very reactive. Who cares what the family is joking about, do what you want to do. She must have wanted a big wedding since that's what she planned originally. She's kinda making their point for them! I don't understand why she'd let this bother her at all unless there is some really weird dynamic doing on with her and her family. But again why cancel the wedding? She's just hurting herself by letting this bother her.
This is exactly what I'm thinking. And I don't think they'll care nearly as much as she thinks and she'll end up regretting it.
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Hm... It would probably also be a giant waste of money (which marriage is anyway, IMO). That close to the date the caterers, the venue etc. won´t be giving refunds for it.
Did you notice, though, that the money aspect was mentioned, just the fact that it would be embarrassing and that the inlaws wouldn't like it. Tbh, I thought I'd wandered into one of my regency novels for a minute.
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Have whatever ceremony you want, but it's really not an uncommon discussion to have about friends or family. It's no different than discussing will they break up or marry for dating couples. Calm down. Either the family doesn't know her as well as they think, it there's something to it, but either way, it's not their decision. And they aren't trying to get her to call it off, just giving odds on it lasting. Why freak out? You won't be the only couple in the room beating the odds, just put money down and then collect at a benchmark.
Really? You do that a lot, do you? Discuss whether you think your closest family and friend's marriages will last? I don't know a single person that would have that discussion. That is revolting.
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What an absolute child. Have the wedding if you want, don't if you want. Don't do it because you're pouting...
She's not pouting or sulking. You might think it's acceptable to tell someone to their face that their marriage won't last because she's not the right person for him, but I can tell you, that you are in the minority there. My inlaws hated me, but even they wouldn't have done this.
Load More Replies... To the comments saying what about the husband, he has a say. People learn to read. He said a number of times she discussed it with him and he said it was her choice.
Have the wedding if you want a wedding. Hire an off duty officer or other security to make sure only invited guests can attend. Let your family know that up front. Chances are that the idea of the confrontation would keep them away. Be sure to let them know that if they still come and want to make a scene, they will be directly responsible for embarrassing themselves.
I'm wondering if she's often stubborn and reactive, sounds like her family may be joking about this because she is this way and it also sounds like she's very reactive. Who cares what the family is joking about, do what you want to do. She must have wanted a big wedding since that's what she planned originally. She's kinda making their point for them! I don't understand why she'd let this bother her at all unless there is some really weird dynamic doing on with her and her family. But again why cancel the wedding? She's just hurting herself by letting this bother her.
This is exactly what I'm thinking. And I don't think they'll care nearly as much as she thinks and she'll end up regretting it.
Load More Replies... Hm... It would probably also be a giant waste of money (which marriage is anyway, IMO). That close to the date the caterers, the venue etc. won´t be giving refunds for it.
Did you notice, though, that the money aspect was mentioned, just the fact that it would be embarrassing and that the inlaws wouldn't like it. Tbh, I thought I'd wandered into one of my regency novels for a minute.
Load More Replies... Have whatever ceremony you want, but it's really not an uncommon discussion to have about friends or family. It's no different than discussing will they break up or marry for dating couples. Calm down. Either the family doesn't know her as well as they think, it there's something to it, but either way, it's not their decision. And they aren't trying to get her to call it off, just giving odds on it lasting. Why freak out? You won't be the only couple in the room beating the odds, just put money down and then collect at a benchmark.
Really? You do that a lot, do you? Discuss whether you think your closest family and friend's marriages will last? I don't know a single person that would have that discussion. That is revolting.
Load More Replies... What an absolute child. Have the wedding if you want, don't if you want. Don't do it because you're pouting...
She's not pouting or sulking. You might think it's acceptable to tell someone to their face that their marriage won't last because she's not the right person for him, but I can tell you, that you are in the minority there. My inlaws hated me, but even they wouldn't have done this.
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