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Woman Wants To Call Off Wedding After Fiancé’s Shocking Confession, Asks Internet For Help
Who doesn’t get pre-wedding jitters, right?
Usually, it’s nothing serious, but for this Redditor, it turned into something much bigger. She started noticing her fiancé acting a little too friendly around her best friend, and eventually got a confession out of him: he has a crush on her because she’s “fun and pretty.”
He insists it’s just a phase and still wants to go through with the wedding. She, on the other hand, is now wondering if she should call the whole thing off, but she’s not sure if that would be a mistake.
Read the full story below and let us know what you think.
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What counts as emotional cheating?
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For some people, a “crush” might not seem like a big deal. For others, it can feel like a major betrayal, especially if it’s your partner confessing that crush just before your wedding… and the person they’re crushing on happens to be your best friend. Yikes.
Situations like this can be difficult to process because, on the surface, nothing “technically” happened. There was no physical affair, just friendly interactions. No obvious lines were crossed. So why does it still feel so wrong?
Well, for many people, cheating isn’t just about physical contact. It can include a wide range of behaviors, like secretly following certain people on social media, sharing personal feelings with someone else, or even hiring exotic dancers for a bachelor party.
That’s where emotional cheating comes in. And it can hurt just as much, if not more, than the physical kind.
In fact, a 2015 YouGov study of 1,660 British adults found that 44% believed emotional relationships with someone outside the partnership counted as cheating.
According to Verywell Mind, emotional cheating involves forming a deep, non-sexual emotional connection with someone outside your relationship—someone who isn’t your partner.
Isn’t that just a close friendship? Not quite.
You can usually tell the difference by a few key signs: emotional cheating often includes romantic or sexual tension, secrecy, and emotional intimacy that’s stronger than what you have with your actual partner.
This type of bond might not seem threatening at first, especially if there’s no intention to act on it. But over time, it can chip away at your commitment and create emotional distance between you and your partner.
Here are some common signs that a friendship may have crossed into emotional cheating territory:
- You look forward to one-on-one time or conversations with them
- You believe they understand you better than your partner does
- You start spending less time with your partner
- You give them personal or thoughtful gifts
- You keep the relationship a secret
- You lose interest in intimacy with your partner
- You daydream or think about them often
- You confide in them instead of your partner
- You say things like “we’re just friends” when confronted
- You begin withdrawing emotionally from your relationship
The good news? Emotional distance doesn’t have to be the end of a relationship.
Healthline notes that frequent, honest communication can help rebuild trust and resolve issues before they spiral. Talking openly can address problems like lack of intimacy or unmet needs before they turn into something more serious.
But emotional cheating is still painful, and it shouldn’t be dismissed. If it changes the way you view your partner or your future together, it might be worth asking whether staying in the relationship is truly the right choice.
Many readers supported her and agreed her concerns were valid
Others, however, felt she was overreacting
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marcelo D. 6 months ago
remember that the people that go behind their friends backs and f**k their partners can also comment.
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Lupita Nyong'heaux 6 months ago
it makes me sad that she doesn't think she's pretty because she's brown... :-(
G Bono 6 months ago
Canceling was the only way to go. If she went through with it - if the groom even looks in the direction of the MOH, or if she asks him a question, any look or interaction between will fuel OP’s suspicions. That’s assuming the couple makes it to the actual wedding day, given all of the last minute planning and the celebrations. No, not wanting to lose deposits is a bad reason to get married. Poor OP, she lost her 2 best friends. Hopefully she learned a valuable lesson here: her best friend never really regained her trust and needs to be banished from OP’s life before OP gets another boyfriend
marcelo D. 6 months ago
remember that the people that go behind their friends backs and f**k their partners can also comment.
Load More Replies... Lupita Nyong'heaux 6 months ago
it makes me sad that she doesn't think she's pretty because she's brown... :-(
G Bono 6 months ago
Canceling was the only way to go. If she went through with it - if the groom even looks in the direction of the MOH, or if she asks him a question, any look or interaction between will fuel OP’s suspicions. That’s assuming the couple makes it to the actual wedding day, given all of the last minute planning and the celebrations. No, not wanting to lose deposits is a bad reason to get married. Poor OP, she lost her 2 best friends. Hopefully she learned a valuable lesson here: her best friend never really regained her trust and needs to be banished from OP’s life before OP gets another boyfriend
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