“The Whole Table Went Silent”: Person Calls Brother’s GF A Gold Digger After She Googled The Cost Of Their Christmas Gifts
The unfortunate reality is that some people are only interested in you because of how fat your wallet is. They’re in it for the cash, not out of any genuine feelings of love or friendship. Eventually realizing this can hurt quite a bit. They’re not who you think they were—you feel betrayed. However, not everyone is quite ready for the harsh truth.
Redditor u/golddiggergoogle opened up about a particularly strange Christmas celebration at their house. They’d invited their parents, as well as their brother, along with his girlfriend of seven months. Things quickly took a bizarre turn when she started inquiring about how much everything cost. The tension rose when she actually started researching how expensive the gifts were, and commenting on it.
This prompted the redditor to call their brother’s partner out for her behavior. They called her “the world’s most diligent gold digger.” Read on for the full story. Do you think the author of the post was a jerk or did they do nothing wrong? What would you have done, dear Pandas? Be sure to share your thoughts in the comments—we’d love to hear what you think.
It’s tacky and rude to ask your hosts how much everything costs. Apparently, not everyone got the memo
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A person shared how they called out their brother’s girlfriend after she displayed some very gold digger-like behavior
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Most people would agree that the brother’s girlfriend behaved outrageously. Asking how much everything costs isn’t something you do in polite company. Especially if you’ve been invited for the holidays. In short: don’t Google how much everyone’s gifts cost; but if you do, don’t start proclaiming the total amount on Christmas Day. Just… don’t.
So, generally, many internet users definitely agree that the woman blundered across countless social and ethical boundaries. The only real question that remains is whether the OP stepped over the line with how they called her out.
Many redditors felt like the author did nothing wrong, and that they shouldn’t apologize for how forward they were during the awkward interaction. Though some internet users wondered if the term, ‘gold digger’ was the right one here, the consensus was more or less that the girlfriend acted in a rude, bizarre, and tacky way.
A major red flag that indicates someone’s in the relationship just for the money is that they never offer to pay for anything. Someone who really loves you would buy you small gifts from time to time, would offer to pay for meals or activities. If they don’t have a lot of money, the offer to go Dutch is what shows their dedication and willingness to sacrifice something for you.
On the flip side, someone who never speaks up when the bill comes along probably expects you to pay for everything. That’s not a good sign if you’re in the relationship for the long term!
The point of all of this is that financial stability is an important aspect of any relationship. And both partners ought to be on the same page about their expectations and any possible money problems. And that’s key here—honesty! If one partner isn’t being genuine with their feelings and financial intentions, there’s not much hope for a bright future.
The story got a lot of attention online. Here’s what some readers said and how the author reacted to their comments
I think she probably just grew up in a very different socioeconomic bracket. It was probably surreal to see how much money they were spending so casually. Calling her a "gold digger" was uncalled for because it wasn't gold digger behaviour. She she received a gift and scoffed at it because it was cheap, then that name would be appropriate. I do agree it's also inappropriate to be asking people the costs of such things though...
That’s what I think too. My mother does this constantly and I think it’s because she grew up poor and worrying about money and how much things cost has become deeply ingrained, we joke about her being a golddigger sometimes but she absolutely isn’t.
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Ok ... I might catch flack for this... But it didn't seem that the girlfriend's tone was judgy, just curious. I can't fault her for being curious and perhaps she just grew up in a family where they talked about this stuff openly and had no idea. If that's the case the boyfriend is an AH for not pulling her aside himself after her first comment. Curiosity is forgivable. If she was catty (which it doesn't sound like she is) then she's a golddigger
I agree with you. It sounds like innocent ignorance, like she didn’t know it wasn’t polite. It also sounds like she was surprised at how much things cost, like they were all more expensive than she thought. Maybe trust fund baby cutoff and in the real world for the first time? Maybe grew up in a lower SES and wasn’t accustomed to being around things this expensive? It sounds like there’s a reason behind it all. Gold digger doesn’t sound right, she wasn’t poor shaming it demanding more expensive things for herself. But, I also don’t understand this don’t talk about money social rule. I know it’s a thing, but it doesn’t make sense to why we can’t talk about how much we make, how much our house cost and how we’re paying it off, what we plan to save for retirement, etc. I do talk about these things openly with people. But not in a bragging or judgemental way. Just discussing how best to handle finances. Are salaried fair at work? Things like that.
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I don't know, I found the tone like someone said almost autistic, like she seemed completely unaware that it was inappropriate, and maybe even thought she was complimenting them
I agree She seams to be in the Spectrum, and we say " dumb " c**p like this every time, its not meant as an insult, its ( at least for me ) perfectly normal conversation, and unless someone Tells me not to say this or that, i don't even notice Im being a twat.
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I think she probably just grew up in a very different socioeconomic bracket. It was probably surreal to see how much money they were spending so casually. Calling her a "gold digger" was uncalled for because it wasn't gold digger behaviour. She she received a gift and scoffed at it because it was cheap, then that name would be appropriate. I do agree it's also inappropriate to be asking people the costs of such things though...
That’s what I think too. My mother does this constantly and I think it’s because she grew up poor and worrying about money and how much things cost has become deeply ingrained, we joke about her being a golddigger sometimes but she absolutely isn’t.
Load More Replies... Ok ... I might catch flack for this... But it didn't seem that the girlfriend's tone was judgy, just curious. I can't fault her for being curious and perhaps she just grew up in a family where they talked about this stuff openly and had no idea. If that's the case the boyfriend is an AH for not pulling her aside himself after her first comment. Curiosity is forgivable. If she was catty (which it doesn't sound like she is) then she's a golddigger
I agree with you. It sounds like innocent ignorance, like she didn’t know it wasn’t polite. It also sounds like she was surprised at how much things cost, like they were all more expensive than she thought. Maybe trust fund baby cutoff and in the real world for the first time? Maybe grew up in a lower SES and wasn’t accustomed to being around things this expensive? It sounds like there’s a reason behind it all. Gold digger doesn’t sound right, she wasn’t poor shaming it demanding more expensive things for herself. But, I also don’t understand this don’t talk about money social rule. I know it’s a thing, but it doesn’t make sense to why we can’t talk about how much we make, how much our house cost and how we’re paying it off, what we plan to save for retirement, etc. I do talk about these things openly with people. But not in a bragging or judgemental way. Just discussing how best to handle finances. Are salaried fair at work? Things like that.
Load More Replies... I don't know, I found the tone like someone said almost autistic, like she seemed completely unaware that it was inappropriate, and maybe even thought she was complimenting them
I agree She seams to be in the Spectrum, and we say " dumb " c**p like this every time, its not meant as an insult, its ( at least for me ) perfectly normal conversation, and unless someone Tells me not to say this or that, i don't even notice Im being a twat.
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