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Woman Becomes The Embodiment Of ‘Shocked Pikachu Face’ After Insults Make Free Babysitter Quit
Interview With ExpertGetting to babysit your nieces and nephews can be a great way to spend time with them and build close relationships. Besides, showing up and supporting family in this way isn’t difficult, especially if they live not far from each other. However, it can feel hurtful when such efforts are completely underappreciated.
When redditor Smellycatandthebat’s help got overlooked by his sister, he didn’t hesitate to retrieve his babysitting services. Without having anyone to watch her kids, she became furious, calling him all sorts of names.
Scroll down to find the full story and a conversation with parenting coach and founder of Personalised Parenting Solutions, Katherine Elizabeth, who kindly agreed to tell us more about babysitting for family.
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Getting to babysit nieces and nephews is a great opportunity to spend time and bond with them
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However, this uncle refused to babysit them anymore after his sister called him lazy 
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One of the benefits of using family for babysitting is familiarity
In a previous interview, childcare and nanny coach Shannon Parola told us that one of the benefits of using family for babysitting is familiarity. “You know these people well and often trust them very much.” In most cases, it also means that parents get lower-cost or free childcare, and families get to make memories while spending extra time together.
However, asking for such favors can negatively affect a family’s relationships. Parola says that tension often arises when parents disagree on how their relative handles certain childcare situations or doesn’t meet their expectations. Or when they unexpectedly can’t take care of the child anymore due to illness or injuries.
Conflict may also arise when the caregiver is being unappreciated and/or overworked and they finally reach their breaking point. If they start feeling like they’re being taken for granted, parenting coach and founder of Personalised Parenting Solutions, Katherine Elizabeth, recommends being honest.
“Parents in the modern day are often overwhelmed and exhausted, they may not have realized they aren’t appreciating the help enough. But the family member also needs to manage their expectations of what they see as being appreciated and communicate this clearly. Try to pick a time when the parent is as least stressed and tired as possible!”
On the other hand, Elizabeth believes that it’s not appropriate for parents to expect their family members to babysit whenever they need to. “Whilst I absolutely believe it takes a village to raise a child, and we are a species that thrives on community, parents are fully responsible for their children at all times. They should see it as a favor and be grateful—not on a huge scale, but just enough for the family member to feel valued and to let them know how helpful it is,” explains Elizabeth.
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It might be difficult to decline or speak up, but nailing down the tactic of saying ‘no’ is important
Even though it may cause inconvenience to parents, a person is allowed to say no to their babysitting request, especially if they feel that their efforts are being overlooked or it’s interfering with their relationship. Failing to inform family what one really thinks about babysitting can turn into resentment in the long run as well.
“Declining a babysitting request is a tricky one. It would depend on exactly why they wanted to decline,” says Elizabeth. “But again, it is better to be open and honest about why, and say it at a calm time, and in a calm way.”
If you’re put on the spot with the expectation that your answer will be positive, refrain from automatically agreeing to a babysitting gig. Instead of saying ‘yes’ right away, your go-to statement could be, “I know you need to make your plans but I need to think about it. Can I let you know by “x” date?” This already plants doubt in their minds that you might won’t be able to do it.
Meanwhile, Elizabeth says, “The family member shouldn’t move their decision or fight back if the parent gets agitated—hold the line calmly. The parent may need to go away and think about it, or calm down before coming back with anything constructive.”
Maintaining honesty and respect when declining is crucial. “Don’t lie, and don’t offer too many details,” licensed clinical social worker Lauren Schapiro says. “Always keep the reason about you because no one can argue with your needs and feelings, notes Lora Brawley, founder of Nanny Care Hub. Even though it might be tempting to lie to preserve the relationship, it often has the opposite effect, harming the relationship even further.
Elizabeth adds, “I think family members often get roped in when parents are struggling with behavior—they are overwhelmed themselves and reach out for anybody to give them a bit of respite—it’s important that parents recognize it’s not normal to feel that way, you should be able to have your children at home with you all day, and be able to get jobs done or have time to themselves, without their children constantly bouncing in demanding food or entertaining! ”
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Lost Panda 1 year ago
Maybe it is just me, but I can't understand the YTA, ESH... You insulted me while I was doing you a favor... What did you expect to happen?
Littlemiss 1 year ago
Exactly my take on it. Oh boo hoo your favorite doormat got up off the floor when you opened your trap and insulted them publicly. He owes the sister nothing.
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Melissa anderson 1 year ago
This is a life lesson for his bratty, entitled sister. Never insult the people that you rely on on for help such as being your free babysitter.
Jason Melvil 1 year ago
I never understood this mentality. We work because we have to. If one has money without working too hard - good for them.
Solandri 1 year ago
Small business owner here. There's a subset of people who think anyone who is a manager or owner is corrupt and lazy, only got their position via luck or nepotism or cheating, and doesn't deserve the money they make. This is counterbalanced by a subset of managers and owners who think all grunt workers are lazy bums who will rip you off if given the chance, so might as well abuse them and throw them away. If you don't fall into either of these categories, it's incredibly hurtful when people wrongly pigeonhole you as such. I agree with NTA. But I also agree with the criticism that OP didn't react in a mature way, even though I understand why he reacted the way he did. The world would be much nicer if everyone recognized that jerks exist in all positions, and you shouldn't use the jerk to characterize all people who hold similar positions.
Load More Replies... Woodsie 1 year ago
Jealousy is a curse, she showed her true colours. For those who said YTA, cannot understand where they get that reasoning from. For the person who thought he didn't communicate his intention not to babysit any more correctly, he communicated in the exact same way that she did. She obviously got the drift by the way she shut up immediately. What a way to shoot yourself in the foot, she really stuffed up there, good on him for sticking to what he said.
Nina 1 year ago
F**k that b***h. If she isn't grateful to the bottom of her heart, she can work a second job to pay for a babysitter for her kids. What an awful woman for trying to shame you for making better life choices than her. My parents watch my kids during the week when I'm working; I'm endlessly grateful and would never in a million years think of jeering at them cos they did so well they retired early and are able to watch our kids for free.
TribbleThinking 1 year ago
The mum's an enabler, telling him that he's put his sister in a tough spot. She should have brought up her daughter with better manners.
FlamingRed 1 year ago
Sister out herself in a tough spot. Perfect example of FAFO.
Load More Replies... Glasofruix 1 year ago
Basically my whole family is that way. I work in IT i drive around 3000km a month to various clients, i install servers and whole networks. I'm also child free, have my own house and single at the moment. Yet they think all i do all day is sit in front of a computer "just clicking on some buttons", so when i sleep in on a week-end instead of "being productive" i'm being lazy and i don't work that hard to be sleeping past 9am anyways.
Solandri 1 year ago
An engineer who designed the main production machine at a factory retired. A year later he got a frantic call saying the machine had broken down and they were losing a million dollars a day. Could he please come and help fix it? At first he tried to refuse, saying he was retired. But eventually they talked him into taking a look. They promised to pay him whatever he invoiced them. So he drove over. Spent an hour looking over every part of the machine. Then pulled out a piece of chalk, and wrote an X on the side of the machine. The workers removed the panel, and lo and behold, there was the broken part. And the factory was up and running again. When accounting got his bill for $50k, they were flabbergasted. They asked if he could at least itemize it. So he sent them an itemized bill. 1 chalk mark - $1. Knowing where to put it - $49,999. (What you describe is a common problem faced by people who sell what they know, not what they do.)
Load More Replies... FlamingRed 1 year ago (edited)
Sister's expectation is not OP's obligation. I've come to firmly believe you shouldn't do favors for people too often, especially family. After so long, most begin to believe you owe them your services, not that they owe you for your kindness.
TribbleThinking 1 year ago
I have found this to be startlingly true. I wonder why this odd script keeps playing out, and what the psychology behind it is.
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SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago
I'd like to insult the YTA bunch like how OP's cr*psh*t excuse of a sister insulted his job. What did she think was gonna happen after she insulted him??? Good on OP for standing his ground and I think it's time for his sh*tter-sister to stop being "lazy" and arrange proper childcare for her bunch. Sheesh!!!
Libstak 1 year ago (edited)
This is my sister toward me. Sure, compared to her compulsive cleaning and perfectionism, it's true but the tone she uses when she digs at me is like I'm some sort of scum of the earth and this means others start to think less of me to her benefit, cos she's so perfect. Yet, her life is a constant financial shambles and her kids barely tolerate her even though she acts like she has been a perfect mum to them and why are they treating her so poorly. I don't know, maybe because she calls them unfit mothers for no reason other than they are not compulsive perfectionists like her and don't cave into her constant interfering in their family lives, which are frankly pretty fantastic both financially and emotionally on every level. So yeh, I get it and would do the same except I never did because I love my nieces too much to have ever missed a chance to ensure they were properly cared for growing up. It's not just a snarky comment, it's years of attitude and unjust demeaning.
Game Guy 1 year ago
"Smart, successful" people don't have 3 kids with multiple partners over 10 years without having a plan for how those kids will be cared for on a regular basis when the smart, successful person has to be at work. Family is a great backup when an emergency happens, but should not serve as routine free childcare. And if they do sacrifice their time to do what you should be doing, you're an absolute idiot if you're anything but effusively grateful at all times.
Janelle Collard 1 year ago
This is why you never insult the people that do favors for you. Sis F'd around and found out.
Amy Elliott 1 year ago
Sounds like older sis is immature and centers her identity around being superior to her younger brother. She should have thought about how much her successful mother schtick was built on her brother's generosity before she denigrated his successes.
Dillon Sizemore 1 year ago
I can almost guarantee from the information provided that the sister could afford a sitter but has made purchases that they could only afford by having the brother do it for free whether that be a 'new' car or a house with a slightly higher price then what they realistically need. Now they 'need' him to be the sitter as they now can't afford one without changing their living style. Also at 14 the oldest child should be about old enough to babysit so I can see them making her the sitter, but if I was her I would hold out for either pay for watching my siblings as I could be doing something that benefits me instead or push for more freedom(curfew,check-ins,bedtimes,etc.) as I'm taking on more responsibilities.
LonelyLittleLeafSheep 1 year ago
Was thinking exactly that about 14 yr old daughter. Why isn't she babysitting? I was babysitting my younger siblings at 12 and they were younger than these. OP's sister is an entitled b***h, and clearly jealous that OP made better decisions than she did.
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Paulina 1 year ago (edited)
Dude, just because you don't have a 9-17 job doesn't mean you're lazy. You have a lot of free time, that's it. No need to be "productive" or "contributing" all the time - that's just capitalistic bullsh*t that keeps us believing we need to live for work, not work to live. You've got money to sit around all day and play videogames? Good for you. NTA, obviously.
notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
I detect A LOT of jealousy here! She was used to being the smart successful older sister since you were kids. She worked hard in school and now works hard as an adult. She thought she would be super successful and do really well in life and have it easy. Now she HAS to work twice as hard at her job,and has 3 kids and little to no help from 2 different fathers. Here you are,a small business owner who can pretty much do as much or as little as you choose. You can do your job but still enjoy yourself by sleeping in or playing games when not busy. During free time you have been doing her a favor and saving her the experience costs of child care. Unfortunately she got too used to the free ride and takes you for granted. She figures " but family" entitled her to a built in babysitter. She didn't stop to think before belittling you in front of relatives and showing her jealousy. She basically right there said , "f**k you" instead of " thank you". Now she expects you to sweep it under the rug and let her walk all over you like a doormat. Doesn't work that way. You don't bite the hand that feeds you. You're not obligated to babysit anyway. Sis better open her wallet since she saved so much money before in child care costs and live with the consequences of opening a big mouth. She deserves it
Abraxas59 1 year ago
id be telling her its not my fault i made better choices financially early on than you did im fr from lazy i run my own business you dont it takes time etc and your attittude stinks so pay for your baby sitting like others do im to busy most def nta she is n nope lost panda not just you i don't understand em either clearly just as entitled as she is lol
Alex Martin 1 year ago
The insult showed disrespect, a complete lack of appreciation, and that she had been taking him for granted for a very long time. We see this all the time, someone is going out of their way to support a friend or family member because the giver is just a good altruistic person. Once the taker shows disrespect or that they are unappreciative the support goes away. If you have a giver in your life, make sure they know how much they are appreciated and find some way, even if it is a small thing, to reciprocate.
Sunshine Sunshine 1 year ago
People who have kids feel so entitled for help with them, they are your kids! The only people who are required to look after them are the parents, anyone else who does is doing a favor, that parents should be grateful for!
Rachel Hendricks 1 year ago
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes, and his sister won the grand prize, no more free babysitter. Definitely the only Aholes are the sister, and mother, for trying to interfere on the daughter's behalf and guilt tripping him, good for him for standing his ground.
H. B. Nielsen 1 year ago (edited)
So many people feel entitled to free and unlimited child care from those closest in relation to them and it's tired. Know someone who's brother demands, not asks that their mom watch his kids nearly every day while also paying rent to live there. She is an older lady and in poor health, but has had a tough time putting her foot down. Well, her sister is well off and told her it was high time she come and live with her at no cost. Que dude absolutely losing his mind, blowing up and telling his mom that she is never allowed to come back if she needs to and is putting him in a bad situation. Funniest part is if he had not been so greedy and had just been a little more grateful she wouldn't be going anywhere. Couple all of that with him and the wife having knock down drag out fights nearly every day, not cleaning up after themselves and using her new car as their primary family vehicle/trashing it and she has no choice but to flee. I'll never understand people like this.
Christine Stewart 1 year ago
Sister insults brother (free babysitter) in public, brother responds in public that he will stop babysitting- seems like a reasonable response on the brother's part to me! Sister could have apologized profusely about her disrespectful comment, and brother could have decided if he wanted to resume free babysitting...
Gail Silva 1 year ago
Congratulations on setting up your life successfully the way you want it (not many people can say that). Sounds like your sis resents you in spite of the fact that you provided babysitting for free. Her comments were unwarranted and if you want set up of your life further by no longer babysitting, then you are entitled to do so.
CBolt 1 year ago (edited)
Don't call yourself lazy! You made some smart decisions that have resulted in your having free time to do what you want to do, even if that's lying on the floor & staring at the ceiling, or building a McLaren with Legos (that story was here on BP).If you choose to use some of that time looking after your sister's children (when it suits you & other plans you have allow it) but it's not something your sister is entitled to - what free time you have & what you do with it is your business. She has no right to comment on it, denigrate it, or to claim it for free childcare. She should be on her knees, thanking you profusely, & treating you with respect, maybe a small gift once in a while. You helped her, FREE!, & she's insulted you in return. She's in for a shock when she finds out how much childcare costs & realizes how much money you saved her. If you decide to do any sitting for her in the future, do it only on your terms & if it's convenient for you - & at a d3cent hourly rate + she provides the food for the children. She doesn't seem to have a clue how good she had it until she blew it.
Craig Reynolds 1 year ago
NTA. Entitled sis decided to cr@p on his lifestyle which just happens to enable hers by providing free childcare.
Fight Hypocrites 1 year ago
OP is justified in not babysitting anymore. The thing I think he could've done better was to tell his sister about his decision BEFORE she called in the morning needing childcare that day. He wasn't "required " to do anything for her benefit, but it would have been a higher road to take.
Steve Hall 1 year ago
It sounded like sister was being sarcastic and they both need to set some boundries.
Lost Panda 1 year ago
Maybe it is just me, but I can't understand the YTA, ESH... You insulted me while I was doing you a favor... What did you expect to happen?
Littlemiss 1 year ago
Exactly my take on it. Oh boo hoo your favorite doormat got up off the floor when you opened your trap and insulted them publicly. He owes the sister nothing.
Load More Replies... Melissa anderson 1 year ago
This is a life lesson for his bratty, entitled sister. Never insult the people that you rely on on for help such as being your free babysitter.
Jason Melvil 1 year ago
I never understood this mentality. We work because we have to. If one has money without working too hard - good for them.
Solandri 1 year ago
Small business owner here. There's a subset of people who think anyone who is a manager or owner is corrupt and lazy, only got their position via luck or nepotism or cheating, and doesn't deserve the money they make. This is counterbalanced by a subset of managers and owners who think all grunt workers are lazy bums who will rip you off if given the chance, so might as well abuse them and throw them away. If you don't fall into either of these categories, it's incredibly hurtful when people wrongly pigeonhole you as such. I agree with NTA. But I also agree with the criticism that OP didn't react in a mature way, even though I understand why he reacted the way he did. The world would be much nicer if everyone recognized that jerks exist in all positions, and you shouldn't use the jerk to characterize all people who hold similar positions.
Load More Replies... Woodsie 1 year ago
Jealousy is a curse, she showed her true colours. For those who said YTA, cannot understand where they get that reasoning from. For the person who thought he didn't communicate his intention not to babysit any more correctly, he communicated in the exact same way that she did. She obviously got the drift by the way she shut up immediately. What a way to shoot yourself in the foot, she really stuffed up there, good on him for sticking to what he said.
Nina 1 year ago
F**k that b***h. If she isn't grateful to the bottom of her heart, she can work a second job to pay for a babysitter for her kids. What an awful woman for trying to shame you for making better life choices than her. My parents watch my kids during the week when I'm working; I'm endlessly grateful and would never in a million years think of jeering at them cos they did so well they retired early and are able to watch our kids for free.
TribbleThinking 1 year ago
The mum's an enabler, telling him that he's put his sister in a tough spot. She should have brought up her daughter with better manners.
FlamingRed 1 year ago
Sister out herself in a tough spot. Perfect example of FAFO.
Load More Replies... Glasofruix 1 year ago
Basically my whole family is that way. I work in IT i drive around 3000km a month to various clients, i install servers and whole networks. I'm also child free, have my own house and single at the moment. Yet they think all i do all day is sit in front of a computer "just clicking on some buttons", so when i sleep in on a week-end instead of "being productive" i'm being lazy and i don't work that hard to be sleeping past 9am anyways.
Solandri 1 year ago
An engineer who designed the main production machine at a factory retired. A year later he got a frantic call saying the machine had broken down and they were losing a million dollars a day. Could he please come and help fix it? At first he tried to refuse, saying he was retired. But eventually they talked him into taking a look. They promised to pay him whatever he invoiced them. So he drove over. Spent an hour looking over every part of the machine. Then pulled out a piece of chalk, and wrote an X on the side of the machine. The workers removed the panel, and lo and behold, there was the broken part. And the factory was up and running again. When accounting got his bill for $50k, they were flabbergasted. They asked if he could at least itemize it. So he sent them an itemized bill. 1 chalk mark - $1. Knowing where to put it - $49,999. (What you describe is a common problem faced by people who sell what they know, not what they do.)
Load More Replies... FlamingRed 1 year ago (edited)
Sister's expectation is not OP's obligation. I've come to firmly believe you shouldn't do favors for people too often, especially family. After so long, most begin to believe you owe them your services, not that they owe you for your kindness.
TribbleThinking 1 year ago
I have found this to be startlingly true. I wonder why this odd script keeps playing out, and what the psychology behind it is.
Load More Replies... SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago
I'd like to insult the YTA bunch like how OP's cr*psh*t excuse of a sister insulted his job. What did she think was gonna happen after she insulted him??? Good on OP for standing his ground and I think it's time for his sh*tter-sister to stop being "lazy" and arrange proper childcare for her bunch. Sheesh!!!
Libstak 1 year ago (edited)
This is my sister toward me. Sure, compared to her compulsive cleaning and perfectionism, it's true but the tone she uses when she digs at me is like I'm some sort of scum of the earth and this means others start to think less of me to her benefit, cos she's so perfect. Yet, her life is a constant financial shambles and her kids barely tolerate her even though she acts like she has been a perfect mum to them and why are they treating her so poorly. I don't know, maybe because she calls them unfit mothers for no reason other than they are not compulsive perfectionists like her and don't cave into her constant interfering in their family lives, which are frankly pretty fantastic both financially and emotionally on every level. So yeh, I get it and would do the same except I never did because I love my nieces too much to have ever missed a chance to ensure they were properly cared for growing up. It's not just a snarky comment, it's years of attitude and unjust demeaning.
Game Guy 1 year ago
"Smart, successful" people don't have 3 kids with multiple partners over 10 years without having a plan for how those kids will be cared for on a regular basis when the smart, successful person has to be at work. Family is a great backup when an emergency happens, but should not serve as routine free childcare. And if they do sacrifice their time to do what you should be doing, you're an absolute idiot if you're anything but effusively grateful at all times.
Janelle Collard 1 year ago
This is why you never insult the people that do favors for you. Sis F'd around and found out.
Amy Elliott 1 year ago
Sounds like older sis is immature and centers her identity around being superior to her younger brother. She should have thought about how much her successful mother schtick was built on her brother's generosity before she denigrated his successes.
Dillon Sizemore 1 year ago
I can almost guarantee from the information provided that the sister could afford a sitter but has made purchases that they could only afford by having the brother do it for free whether that be a 'new' car or a house with a slightly higher price then what they realistically need. Now they 'need' him to be the sitter as they now can't afford one without changing their living style. Also at 14 the oldest child should be about old enough to babysit so I can see them making her the sitter, but if I was her I would hold out for either pay for watching my siblings as I could be doing something that benefits me instead or push for more freedom(curfew,check-ins,bedtimes,etc.) as I'm taking on more responsibilities.
LonelyLittleLeafSheep 1 year ago
Was thinking exactly that about 14 yr old daughter. Why isn't she babysitting? I was babysitting my younger siblings at 12 and they were younger than these. OP's sister is an entitled b***h, and clearly jealous that OP made better decisions than she did.
Load More Replies... Paulina 1 year ago (edited)
Dude, just because you don't have a 9-17 job doesn't mean you're lazy. You have a lot of free time, that's it. No need to be "productive" or "contributing" all the time - that's just capitalistic bullsh*t that keeps us believing we need to live for work, not work to live. You've got money to sit around all day and play videogames? Good for you. NTA, obviously.
notlikeyou1971 1 year ago
I detect A LOT of jealousy here! She was used to being the smart successful older sister since you were kids. She worked hard in school and now works hard as an adult. She thought she would be super successful and do really well in life and have it easy. Now she HAS to work twice as hard at her job,and has 3 kids and little to no help from 2 different fathers. Here you are,a small business owner who can pretty much do as much or as little as you choose. You can do your job but still enjoy yourself by sleeping in or playing games when not busy. During free time you have been doing her a favor and saving her the experience costs of child care. Unfortunately she got too used to the free ride and takes you for granted. She figures " but family" entitled her to a built in babysitter. She didn't stop to think before belittling you in front of relatives and showing her jealousy. She basically right there said , "f**k you" instead of " thank you". Now she expects you to sweep it under the rug and let her walk all over you like a doormat. Doesn't work that way. You don't bite the hand that feeds you. You're not obligated to babysit anyway. Sis better open her wallet since she saved so much money before in child care costs and live with the consequences of opening a big mouth. She deserves it
Abraxas59 1 year ago
id be telling her its not my fault i made better choices financially early on than you did im fr from lazy i run my own business you dont it takes time etc and your attittude stinks so pay for your baby sitting like others do im to busy most def nta she is n nope lost panda not just you i don't understand em either clearly just as entitled as she is lol
Alex Martin 1 year ago
The insult showed disrespect, a complete lack of appreciation, and that she had been taking him for granted for a very long time. We see this all the time, someone is going out of their way to support a friend or family member because the giver is just a good altruistic person. Once the taker shows disrespect or that they are unappreciative the support goes away. If you have a giver in your life, make sure they know how much they are appreciated and find some way, even if it is a small thing, to reciprocate.
Sunshine Sunshine 1 year ago
People who have kids feel so entitled for help with them, they are your kids! The only people who are required to look after them are the parents, anyone else who does is doing a favor, that parents should be grateful for!
Rachel Hendricks 1 year ago
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes, and his sister won the grand prize, no more free babysitter. Definitely the only Aholes are the sister, and mother, for trying to interfere on the daughter's behalf and guilt tripping him, good for him for standing his ground.
H. B. Nielsen 1 year ago (edited)
So many people feel entitled to free and unlimited child care from those closest in relation to them and it's tired. Know someone who's brother demands, not asks that their mom watch his kids nearly every day while also paying rent to live there. She is an older lady and in poor health, but has had a tough time putting her foot down. Well, her sister is well off and told her it was high time she come and live with her at no cost. Que dude absolutely losing his mind, blowing up and telling his mom that she is never allowed to come back if she needs to and is putting him in a bad situation. Funniest part is if he had not been so greedy and had just been a little more grateful she wouldn't be going anywhere. Couple all of that with him and the wife having knock down drag out fights nearly every day, not cleaning up after themselves and using her new car as their primary family vehicle/trashing it and she has no choice but to flee. I'll never understand people like this.
Christine Stewart 1 year ago
Sister insults brother (free babysitter) in public, brother responds in public that he will stop babysitting- seems like a reasonable response on the brother's part to me! Sister could have apologized profusely about her disrespectful comment, and brother could have decided if he wanted to resume free babysitting...
Gail Silva 1 year ago
Congratulations on setting up your life successfully the way you want it (not many people can say that). Sounds like your sis resents you in spite of the fact that you provided babysitting for free. Her comments were unwarranted and if you want set up of your life further by no longer babysitting, then you are entitled to do so.
CBolt 1 year ago (edited)
Don't call yourself lazy! You made some smart decisions that have resulted in your having free time to do what you want to do, even if that's lying on the floor & staring at the ceiling, or building a McLaren with Legos (that story was here on BP).If you choose to use some of that time looking after your sister's children (when it suits you & other plans you have allow it) but it's not something your sister is entitled to - what free time you have & what you do with it is your business. She has no right to comment on it, denigrate it, or to claim it for free childcare. She should be on her knees, thanking you profusely, & treating you with respect, maybe a small gift once in a while. You helped her, FREE!, & she's insulted you in return. She's in for a shock when she finds out how much childcare costs & realizes how much money you saved her. If you decide to do any sitting for her in the future, do it only on your terms & if it's convenient for you - & at a d3cent hourly rate + she provides the food for the children. She doesn't seem to have a clue how good she had it until she blew it.
Craig Reynolds 1 year ago
NTA. Entitled sis decided to cr@p on his lifestyle which just happens to enable hers by providing free childcare.
Fight Hypocrites 1 year ago
OP is justified in not babysitting anymore. The thing I think he could've done better was to tell his sister about his decision BEFORE she called in the morning needing childcare that day. He wasn't "required " to do anything for her benefit, but it would have been a higher road to take.
Steve Hall 1 year ago
It sounded like sister was being sarcastic and they both need to set some boundries.
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