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Bride Worried A Wheelchair Will Ruin Photo Aesthetics, Shows Her True Face To The Groom
Many brides strive for perfection when it comes to their wedding photos. ‘Candid’ poses, co-ordinated outfits, gorgeous scenery and a photographer who captures all the pretty details are all par for the course. But some really take it way too far.
A bride has left people shocked after requesting that one of the groomsmen be excluded from the photos. Her reason? His ‘clunky’ wheelchair will ruin the symmetry of the the pics. When her fiance didn’t agree with her, she lost it. It was at this point, the groom realized he might not actually truly know the woman he’s marrying.
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He’s in a wheelchair because his friend crashed the car they were traveling in
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That friend has now asked him to be a groomsman but the bride is embarrassed to have him in the photos
Image credits: Tom The Photographer /Unsplash (not the actual photo)
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Despite how far we’ve come, there are still a lot of “isms” in the world, and ableism is one of them
Access Living defines ableism as the “discrimination of and social prejudice against people with disabilities based on the belief that typical abilities are superior.” In other words, it’s when disabled people are treated differently, or less-than, because of their disability.
Ableism has many different faces, and often, it hides behind those who pretend not to discriminate.
“Nondisabled people may express explicitly favorable beliefs and feelings regarding disability while still harboring automatic, nonconscious, and decidedly negative (implicit) attitudes,” explains Dana S. Dunn, a professor and chair of psychology at Moravian University in Pennsylvania. “They remain unaware that their implicit attitudes affect their behavior toward disabled persons, overriding any positivity tied to their explicit attitudes.
Dunn says that prejudice and discrimination aimed at disabled people often comes with a patronizing desire to “cure” their disability and make them “normal.”
According to the expert, there are many factors that contribute to ableism.
One is when nondisabled people become anxious or awkward around persons with disabilities and don’t know how to act. Another is social and cultural conditioning or norms, whereby they think that people who are familiar or similar to them are good, and others aren’t. Then there the outdated and incorrect “moral” beliefs about disability. For example, that someone is in a wheelchair as punishment for their sins.
Dunn says certain people also hold hierarchical attitudes toward disability. They wrongly believe that some disabilities (e.g., physical ones) are viewed as more acceptable than others (e.g., mental or intellectual disabilities).
According to data from the Centers for Disease Control, around 1 in 4 American adults have some sort of disability.
Despite this, many are met with hurdles when trying to navigate daily life. One survey found that 60.4% of respondents with mobility disabilities struggled to, or couldn’t, enter a public building due to missing wheelchair ramps, automatic doors, or elevators.
“A wheelchair is not a convenient accessory”: people had lots to say about the bride’s behavior
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Heffalump 1 week ago
If my fiancée came to me with ableist c**p like that, I would treat it as a lucky escape. And I wouldn't keep my reasons for walking away private either: let everyone see what a nasty piece of work she is.
Kate Johnson 1 week ago
Why did he still marry the vacuous b***h? She's obviously shallow, stupid and vapid. I bet they're already divorced.
Mark Savoie 1 week ago
I was once a groomsman for a wedding. The week before, a zit on my chin (think between actual chin and lower lip) ruptured and became infected. It was monstrous! I offered to remove myself from the wedding party, but neither the groom nor the bride would allow it. And the bride fidn't even like me. But she knew right from wrong. We ended up using vouverup for the zit and an airbrush for the photos. Good times. Bride and I still don't like each other, but we do respect each other in the process of that dislike.
Marnie 1 week ago
The thing is NOBODY cares about those wedding photos except the bride and/or groom (for sure the bride in this case). As shallow as it (and that's the main problem), the other ridiculous thing is that the bride is so full of herself that she thinks other people care about these photos. Most people will look at them exactly zero or one times and never think about them again. The couple's parents might be an exception. But I didn't hear them weigh in and say they thought having Tyler in the photos would ruin it. Does she think the photos are going to be shared with the world in National Geographic or People magazine?
Ms.GB 1 week ago
How is she nor embarrassed and ashamed of herself? I can't believe ppl like this exist.
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Lee Gilliland 1 week ago
If she's gonna get this gonzo over a wheelchair at a wedding, you'd better bet of "furthered disagreements" happening.
marianne eliza 1 week ago
If you're engaged to someone who cares more about the wedding than the marriage, run.
person (i think) 1 week ago
Seems like a great litmus test. I am sad the groom was pressured to go through with the wedding.
Kathy Brooke 1 week ago
My husband's best man was clearly autistic, struggling with his sexualty , scared to bring his new bf to an event with lots of people. Also a burgeoning furry. He said it would help his confidence to wear his (brown, fluffy) tail. So Tail it was, and he looked so happy in the photos. The only thing that matters about wedding photos is how wide are the smiles. (My sister has a wedding photo where the 2 MILs look like they're about to punch each other)
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Awaits the inevitable post from the sk a n k y bride when her new husband has had enough of her cruel shenanigans asking what she should do 🙄what a horrid inhuman she is ,who the hell cares about photos oh wait entitled bridzillas do eugh I bloody hope the husband has dumped her inhuman a s s .
Mark Childers 1 week ago
Weddings seem to bring out the worst in people sometimes. No one but the couple care about the bridesmaids, grooms, decor, or anything else but witnessing people they love get married and then have a party. People might remember some memorable moments, they couldn't care less about all of the details the couple put into the wedding. People seem to lose perspective when it comes to weddings. Not the photos. Those are generally only for the family and maybe close friends.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
Didn't this bride realize that even without Tyler there would be a severely handicapped person in all the wedding photos?
Ge Po 1 week ago
When do you look at wedding pictures? I mean, really look at them? Most people only display that one, beautiful, usually very staged picture of bride and groom at some wonderful scene. The rest will be tucked away in some album, only to be pulled back up/out when you get nostalgic and/or want to better remember who was there for you that day.
Purple Gurl 4 days ago
I do disagree that you never look at the photos a second time. I think I practically wore out my parent's album looking at it growing up, and now that they are getting on in years, we look at the pics and they tell my brother and I stories about the family no longer with us.
Ronja Oksanen 5 days ago
There is seriously something really wrong with the world when there's so many stories like this where some effing pictures means more than peoples feelings. And what kind of a person you are if you see only a wheelchair and not the joy of the moment and happy people around you supporting you.
Dragon Ashes 6 days ago
If my husband said anything like that anyone at the wedding he could f off, wedding cancelled. My roommates are at our wedding and two of them were blind. If someone said anything about their canes I doubt I would have spoken to them again.
Catherine Kane 1 week ago
does she not realize that her husband is the reason Tyler is in a wheelchair?
Devin Schmitt 1 week ago
I look at our wedding pictures everyday - they are on the wall in front of me. I can't believe we were so skinny 40 years ago.
Heffalump 1 week ago
If my fiancée came to me with ableist c**p like that, I would treat it as a lucky escape. And I wouldn't keep my reasons for walking away private either: let everyone see what a nasty piece of work she is.
Kate Johnson 1 week ago
Why did he still marry the vacuous b***h? She's obviously shallow, stupid and vapid. I bet they're already divorced.
Mark Savoie 1 week ago
I was once a groomsman for a wedding. The week before, a zit on my chin (think between actual chin and lower lip) ruptured and became infected. It was monstrous! I offered to remove myself from the wedding party, but neither the groom nor the bride would allow it. And the bride fidn't even like me. But she knew right from wrong. We ended up using vouverup for the zit and an airbrush for the photos. Good times. Bride and I still don't like each other, but we do respect each other in the process of that dislike.
Marnie 1 week ago
The thing is NOBODY cares about those wedding photos except the bride and/or groom (for sure the bride in this case). As shallow as it (and that's the main problem), the other ridiculous thing is that the bride is so full of herself that she thinks other people care about these photos. Most people will look at them exactly zero or one times and never think about them again. The couple's parents might be an exception. But I didn't hear them weigh in and say they thought having Tyler in the photos would ruin it. Does she think the photos are going to be shared with the world in National Geographic or People magazine?
Ms.GB 1 week ago
How is she nor embarrassed and ashamed of herself? I can't believe ppl like this exist.
Load More Replies... Lee Gilliland 1 week ago
If she's gonna get this gonzo over a wheelchair at a wedding, you'd better bet of "furthered disagreements" happening.
marianne eliza 1 week ago
If you're engaged to someone who cares more about the wedding than the marriage, run.
person (i think) 1 week ago
Seems like a great litmus test. I am sad the groom was pressured to go through with the wedding.
Kathy Brooke 1 week ago
My husband's best man was clearly autistic, struggling with his sexualty , scared to bring his new bf to an event with lots of people. Also a burgeoning furry. He said it would help his confidence to wear his (brown, fluffy) tail. So Tail it was, and he looked so happy in the photos. The only thing that matters about wedding photos is how wide are the smiles. (My sister has a wedding photo where the 2 MILs look like they're about to punch each other)
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Awaits the inevitable post from the sk a n k y bride when her new husband has had enough of her cruel shenanigans asking what she should do 🙄what a horrid inhuman she is ,who the hell cares about photos oh wait entitled bridzillas do eugh I bloody hope the husband has dumped her inhuman a s s .
Mark Childers 1 week ago
Weddings seem to bring out the worst in people sometimes. No one but the couple care about the bridesmaids, grooms, decor, or anything else but witnessing people they love get married and then have a party. People might remember some memorable moments, they couldn't care less about all of the details the couple put into the wedding. People seem to lose perspective when it comes to weddings. Not the photos. Those are generally only for the family and maybe close friends.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
Didn't this bride realize that even without Tyler there would be a severely handicapped person in all the wedding photos?
Ge Po 1 week ago
When do you look at wedding pictures? I mean, really look at them? Most people only display that one, beautiful, usually very staged picture of bride and groom at some wonderful scene. The rest will be tucked away in some album, only to be pulled back up/out when you get nostalgic and/or want to better remember who was there for you that day.
Purple Gurl 4 days ago
I do disagree that you never look at the photos a second time. I think I practically wore out my parent's album looking at it growing up, and now that they are getting on in years, we look at the pics and they tell my brother and I stories about the family no longer with us.
Ronja Oksanen 5 days ago
There is seriously something really wrong with the world when there's so many stories like this where some effing pictures means more than peoples feelings. And what kind of a person you are if you see only a wheelchair and not the joy of the moment and happy people around you supporting you.
Dragon Ashes 6 days ago
If my husband said anything like that anyone at the wedding he could f off, wedding cancelled. My roommates are at our wedding and two of them were blind. If someone said anything about their canes I doubt I would have spoken to them again.
Catherine Kane 1 week ago
does she not realize that her husband is the reason Tyler is in a wheelchair?
Devin Schmitt 1 week ago
I look at our wedding pictures everyday - they are on the wall in front of me. I can't believe we were so skinny 40 years ago.
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