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Woman Asks If She Should Go No-Contact With Bridezilla Cousin After Disastrous Dress Drama
Your wedding is supposed to be magical. But you’re meant to be celebrating the love between you and your soulmate, instead of looking for fights to pick with your relatives.
Redditor u/just-curiou1 shared how her bridezilla of a cousin went nuclear when she saw her dressed in burgundy, one of the approved dress code colors. What started seemingly innocent enough soon turned nasty as the toxic bride flung awful and unfounded accusations. Scroll down for the full scoop, and for a reminder to be grateful you’ve (probably) never had to deal with something this bad.
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A woman shared the horrendous experience she had when her bridezilla of a cousin lashed out at her for wearing a burgundy dress. Here’s the full story, from the start
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Your well-being, health, and peace of mind should be your top priorities. Don’t let someone toxic ruin your life because of their personal issues
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Nobody should have to be in a situation like the one that u/just-curiou1 found herself in. Not only did her cousin accuse her of trying to seduce her husband and of being obsessed with him, but she also kept ratcheting up the tension every time they spoke.
Now, the right thing to do would be for the bridezilla to apologize for her deeply disgusting behavior and hope that, in time, her cousin will be able to forgive her. Maybe a bit of therapy would help her become more self-aware of her entitlement, narcissism, and conflictive personality traits.
But it’s unlikely that she’ll suddenly be the bigger person when she seems to enjoy the drama and has tried to browbeat her entire family into accepting her confabulated narrative.
While it can be painful to go no contact with someone you’ve known most of your life, if they constantly disrespect you, ignore your boundaries, make you feel awful, and behave irrationally, it’s probably the healthiest thing to do.
If someone is actively trying to ruin your life, spending less time around them is a no-brainer. It sends a clear message that you refuse to be disrespected and that their actions will have corresponding consequences.
Your physical, mental, and emotional well-being should be at the top of your priority list. And that means having the courage not only to communicate your boundaries to your social circle, but also to enforce them.
Going no-contact with someone is a pretty big step. However, you should be willing to protect your boundaries in this way if you’ve tried the alternatives
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According to clinical psychologist Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson, it can take some people years to realize how dysfunctional their relationships are because they grew up in chaotic and enmeshed families.
“Sometimes, our internal growth makes it so that we really can no longer tolerate things that we used to not be even aware of,” Gibson explained to Business Insider.
Going no-contact with someone is usually a tough, last-resort decision, once you’ve tried every other avenue. Often, people gradually distance themselves from their problematic relatives rather than cutting them out of their lives on a whim.
Some red flags to keep in mind when considering whether to go no-contact with someone include things like:
- Your bad, tense, and unhealthy experiences with them outweigh all the good interactions
- Any political disagreements between you and them aren’t handled well, and they lead to deeper issues
- Your boundaries continue to be violated
- They have been physically, psychologically, or emotionally violent toward you
- They guilt-trip you for setting basic boundaries
Gibson notes that going no-contact isn’t permanent. It can be a time-out of sorts. There are times when people simply need a break from each other and the stress they bring. “You are beginning to set this norm in the relationship that ‘I decide how much contact I want to have or how much contact is good for me,’” the psychologist told BI.
How do you protect your peace, dear Pandas? Have you ever had to go no-contact with a family member or friend before? How would you react if a relative of yours screamed at you for wearing something that matched their wedding dress code? What advice would you give the young woman who had to deal with the bridezilla’s wrath? Share your advice and hard-won wisdom in the comments below.
Many readers were shocked by how quickly the wedding drama escalated
Later, the woman shared an important update. Things with her toxic cousin got even worse than before
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Here’s how some internet users reacted to the next chapter of the story
In yet another update, the woman revealed what the fallout has been like and what she has decided to do going forward
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And here’s what the author’s loyal readers had to say next
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The Other Guest 2 months ago
::joins you on the couch with sodas for each of us::
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Dusty's mom 2 months ago
OK, so snotty bride cousin is NC'd because of her over-the-top tantrum. New hubby needs to be NC'd due to his treatment of his new gay, very sweet BIL. They're both trash.
The Other Guest 2 months ago
I've heard of red meaning "I slept with the groom" before (and even that was pretty recently), but never "I wanna sleep with the groom." What's next? Can't wear pink because it means "I wanna sleep with the bride"? No orange or purple because they both have red in them? I think most people neither care nor remember what other guests wore to weddings they've attended unless it was really egregious (crocs & cut-offs to a formal wedding, or a white dress that looks a lot like a bridal gown, for example). Heck, I don't remember what any guest wore to my own wedding, with the exception of one (1) person who wore his usual Fancy Occasion Outfit™.
Sly Schlang 2 months ago
No baby blue because it means "I just want to sleep. This wedding is boring and I'd rather be at Home with my Cats"
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The_Nicest_Misanthrope 2 months ago
I'd post that s**t on FB in a heartbeat and out her as the psycho b***h she is
Mark Stewart 2 months ago
I'm going to guess at some point they've had words about her brother which has put cousin in a frosty mood with her new husband and got her thinking about things he's done wrong in her eyes that they've fought over. OP shows up looking just like this woman they argued about years ago and in the mood she's in that's just lit her fuse and off she went. Don't think the 'happy' couple are going to last long somehow.
Beth Wheeler 2 months ago
Crazy cousin will get an honest apology when hell freezes over. Hopefully what she did has gotten around to everybody that was there and they see her for the b***h that she is. The whole extended family should wear burgundy for Thanksgiving to watch her eyes bug out and her head explode all over the house.
Vinnie 2 months ago (edited)
Got it. The secret to a happy marriage is the husband not looking at any women between puberty and menopause. And a red-ish dress at the wedding means "It doesn't matter if I'm happily married, I am about to proposition the groom and he will commit adultery on the spot by looking in my general direction."
Vinnie 2 months ago (edited)
Hmmm... I'd better check that my husband is communicating strictly by email with his fellow librarians. And none of those hussies are wearing magenta, burgundy, scarlet, brick red, crimson, maroon or any of the 50 shades of red. Or that they get paper cuts.
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The Other Guest 2 months ago
::joins you on the couch with sodas for each of us::
Load More Replies... Dusty's mom 2 months ago
OK, so snotty bride cousin is NC'd because of her over-the-top tantrum. New hubby needs to be NC'd due to his treatment of his new gay, very sweet BIL. They're both trash.
The Other Guest 2 months ago
I've heard of red meaning "I slept with the groom" before (and even that was pretty recently), but never "I wanna sleep with the groom." What's next? Can't wear pink because it means "I wanna sleep with the bride"? No orange or purple because they both have red in them? I think most people neither care nor remember what other guests wore to weddings they've attended unless it was really egregious (crocs & cut-offs to a formal wedding, or a white dress that looks a lot like a bridal gown, for example). Heck, I don't remember what any guest wore to my own wedding, with the exception of one (1) person who wore his usual Fancy Occasion Outfit™.
Sly Schlang 2 months ago
No baby blue because it means "I just want to sleep. This wedding is boring and I'd rather be at Home with my Cats"
Load More Replies... The_Nicest_Misanthrope 2 months ago
I'd post that s**t on FB in a heartbeat and out her as the psycho b***h she is
Mark Stewart 2 months ago
I'm going to guess at some point they've had words about her brother which has put cousin in a frosty mood with her new husband and got her thinking about things he's done wrong in her eyes that they've fought over. OP shows up looking just like this woman they argued about years ago and in the mood she's in that's just lit her fuse and off she went. Don't think the 'happy' couple are going to last long somehow.
Beth Wheeler 2 months ago
Crazy cousin will get an honest apology when hell freezes over. Hopefully what she did has gotten around to everybody that was there and they see her for the b***h that she is. The whole extended family should wear burgundy for Thanksgiving to watch her eyes bug out and her head explode all over the house.
Vinnie 2 months ago (edited)
Got it. The secret to a happy marriage is the husband not looking at any women between puberty and menopause. And a red-ish dress at the wedding means "It doesn't matter if I'm happily married, I am about to proposition the groom and he will commit adultery on the spot by looking in my general direction."
Vinnie 2 months ago (edited)
Hmmm... I'd better check that my husband is communicating strictly by email with his fellow librarians. And none of those hussies are wearing magenta, burgundy, scarlet, brick red, crimson, maroon or any of the 50 shades of red. Or that they get paper cuts.
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